Have you recently bought a delay spray or are thinking of trying one? If so, you might be wondering exactly how to apply and use it to the best effect.
This is probably one of the most common topics readers ask me about, so in this post I’ll hopefully cover all of the the most important questions about using these sprays.
And if you’ve arrived at this article looking for general information, you might prefer to read an overview of delay sprays or my article about the pros and cons of desensitizing sprays.
Not all sprays are the same
Since this is an article about using delay sprays in general, it’s important to start off by saying that they don’t all work the same way.
That’s why it’s important to check the instructions they come with, and the manufacturer’s website. There is, of course, a small problem with that in some cases: not all sprays have a dedicated website with instructions.
Unfortunately, you’ll find lots of generic lidocaine sprays for sale online that have limited instructions. That’s why in my opinion it’s better to stick with the brands which have a dedicated team behind them, rather than a generic product with a cool name, but no support.
A standard way to apply a delay spray
If the spray you’ve bought doesn’t have clear instructions, you have three choices: either try and find instructions, leave it and find a different product, or experiment by following the standard instructions other products give.
You’ll see below that I’ve tied to answer the key questions based on both my personal experience, combined with the information provided by four of the biggest delay spray companies – Promescent, Stud 100, Super dragon 6000 and Adam & Eve.
Most lidocaine and benzocaine sprays will work in a similar ways to the four I’ll refer to in this article. However, it’s important to stress that if you follow these instructions for a different product, or one with different ingredients altogether, you do so at your own risk.
1. Start slow
My preference is to start with just 1 spray, so you can check if your skin will tolerate the ingredients. Most people tolerate them fine, but in my opinion if you’re going to spray your penis, it’s worth being cautious.
And if you find that just one or two sprays works for you, the product will last longer and you’ll save money.
This is the advice the four companies give about the quantity of sprays:
- Promescent: apply 3 sprays or more, but no more than 10.
- Stud 100: apply 3 to 5 sprays.
- Super dragon: apply 2 sprays.
- Adam & Eve: apply 2 to 5 sprays.
Ideally, you should be able to find the minimum number of sprays that works best for you, and then repeat that number when you next need to. Some guys may need 1, others 5 – you just won’t know until you try the product.
2. Target the right area
You can get conflicting advice on where exactly to spray. I think the best thing is to experiment and spray on the most sensitive parts of your penis, not to just cover it all. If you do, there’s a higher chance you’ll numb yourself too much. That can result in erection loss, or just not enjoying the sex as much.
Here’s what the main companies say:
- Promescent: the underside of the penis head, and some on the underside of the shaft.
- Stud 100: the head and shaft of the penis.
- Super dragon: the head.
- Adam & Eve: the head and shaft.
Once you’ve sprayed it, gently rub it in until it appears to be absorbed. This shouldn’t take more than 10-20 seconds to achieve, though maybe longer if you rub it into the shaft as well as the head.
And again, with some experimentation, you should be able to find which part of your penis needs targeting, and which you can leave alone.
3. Flaccid or erect?
It doesn’t matter if you apply it when flaccid or erect. It will work equally well, so it’s up to you to decide what works best for you and your partner.
4. How long before sex to spray?
Again, different sprays have different timings. None of them allow you to have sex immediately after spraying though. There’s always a waiting time to make sure it’s absorbed and is working, and also so it doesn’t transfer to your partner.
- Promescent: 5-10 minutes.
- Stud 100: 5-10 minutes.
- Super dragon: 5 minutes.
- Adam & Eve: 5 minutes.
So you can see that 5-10 minutes is a pretty safe bet if you’re using a lidocaine or benzocaine spray.
5. Do I need to wash it off before sex?
This is probably one of the main areas of confusion, since the companies rarely tell you exactly what they mean by wash off the excess. With a cloth, water, soapy water, straight away, just before sex?
Promescent is unique in that the spray has an absorption technology meaning you don’t need to wipe it off before sex. However, they do recommend wiping it off with a damp cloth before oral sex.
For all the others, here’s what you need to do:
- Spray and rub it in.
- Wait for the time the instructions recommend. It’s a good time to give your partner some attention while you leave your penis alone for a while.
- Wipe off any excess with a soft, damp cloth just before you have oral or penetrative sex. Even if you can’t see any excess, you might want to give it a wipe anyway.
- Wash your hands.
- Wash again after sex.
6. Wash your hands
Very few companies mention this, but those that do say it’s important. You should wash your hands after applying it to make sure you don’t transfer it to your partner, or get it in other sensitive areas such as the eyes.
7. How long will the delay spray last?
This very much depends on the person and the spray. But in my experience, most of them keep you numb for at least an hour.
8. Can you use a condom?
This again depends on the spray, so it’s important to check with the manufacturer.
- Promescent: yes.
- Stud 100: yes, with latex condoms.
- Super dragon: yes.
- Adam & Eve: yes, latex.
9. Can you have oral sex?
Once again, some say yes and others that it’s best to avoid it. The reasons usually being a bad taste or the risk of transference to your partner.
- Promescent: yes, as long as you wash it off before.
- Stud 100: yes, but wait up to 15 minutes first.
- Super dragon: no.
- Adam & Eve: don’t know.
10. Can you use it if you’re trying to get pregnant, or already are pregnant?
Most sprays advise against using them if you’re trying to get pregnant, or if your partner already is pregnant. Here’s a helpful quote from the Promescent website:
lidocaine has not been proven to be safe to use in pregnancy. We recommend to err on the side of caution
As for those that don’t state if you can or not, I would avoid using them.
11. Preventing wastage of the spray
A clever trick I got from a reader is to first spray into a small glass. Then you can dip your finger into the liquid formed and rub it into the area you want to on your penis. This can help prevent wastage by the spray missing some of the penis.
The alternative is of course to spray from close up – 3 to 3 cm away should be fine.
12. What about delay creams?
Although sprays are the most common form of desensitizing product, there are some in cream form. Personally, I’m not a fan of creams, as you can never be sure if you’re using the same amount each time. However, with creams you can follow the same standard guidelines above.
Your thoughts & questions
Do you have any experience with using delay sprays or creams, and have any advice to offer other readers about the best way to use them? Or do you have any questions I haven’t answered here?
And if you found the article helpful, I’d really appreciate a quick comment to let me know.