The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

image showing an explosionThis article is for anyone who’s never been taught the best way to masturbate. And considering it’s not exactly a dinner time topic, that’s probably everyone.

In this article you’ll discover new and exciting ways to give yourself intense orgasms, and hopefully have a lot of fun along the way.

You’ll also find out how you can use masturbation to train yourself to be great when it comes to real sex.

With the right techniques, you can develop the kind of sexual endurance that will leave your lover lying exhausted on the bed and staring at you in amazement. What’s not to love about that?

1) Getting started – the basic technique

image of a man holding a banana in his handMost people learn early on that their hand is the perfect friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and a lot of fun.

The most basic technique is simply to grip your penis in your stronger hand with your fingers underneath and thumb on top.

You then move your hand up and down the shaft, not too hard and not too fast. With some experimentation you should be able to find just the right pressure, finger position and speed to stimulate you.

If you like you can lightly rub the head of the penis too, though without lubricant you might find it’s a bit too sensitive and dry. In which case it’s fine just to rub the shaft.

This is probably the oldest and most satisfying hands-only masturbation technique. The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. However, with a little creativity and variety, you can take it to a whole new level as you’ll soon see.

2) Your hand’s twin

two hands are better than oneEven at this basic level you can still spice things up nicely by using your other hand. Here are some ideas for you to try out:

  • Try using only your other hand.
  • Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. If not, you can try holding your penis in between both palms pressed together.
  • Use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.
  • Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!

3) Don’t leave your balls hanging

2 ballsYour balls are more than just an odd-shaped storage facility. They’re an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.

It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:

  • Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
  • Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
  • Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.

There’s another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.

4) It’s not just women that have multiple erogenous zones

diagram of the male and female erogenous zonesEven though the majority of masturbation techniques are centered on the penis and balls, there are other parts of your body that respond well to a little attention.

It’s a popular belief that only women have multiple erogenous zones. However, the truth is that your body is far more sensitive than you might think.

For example, try touching your nipples and experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.

Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you’re sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.

Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.

5) Moving south: the perineum

The Perineum is the area in between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand. Again, be creative and see what kind of stimulation, if any, gets you going.

6) Experiment with different positions

Here are 3 ways you can use different positions to mix things up from time to time:

  • Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.
  • Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand.
  • Change positions during your session: kneeling, standing, sitting, swapping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.

7) The holy grail of the male G-spot

male g spot diagramSome cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place. Others claim that we are in fact blessed with 2 G-spots.

The first is the area on and around the frenulum – the string-like piece of flesh connecting the head of the penis with the shaft. You’ll probably find it’s a particularly sensitive area to rub.

The second G-spot might not appeal to everyone, but some guys like to include their anus when masturbating. For others, it’s strictly a one-way street.

If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-heightening treat. Here’s how to find it:

  • Wash your anus and hands before starting.
  • Put some lubricant on your finger.
  • Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
  • Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
  • You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
  • The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter, which is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.

8) The best way to masturbate is with a realistic vagina

fleshlight male masturbatorOf all the ideas in this article, this one has the most potential to change the way you masturbate forever.

If you’re interested in techniques to maximize your pleasure and have stronger orgasms, this is the one for you.

Using a realistic vagina provides the perfect combination of intense stimulation and a challenge to your sexual stamina.

There are lots of companies that make male sex toys, but the one I recommend is Fleshlight. Their realistic vaginas are made from a high-quality, silky-soft material with a contoured interior that feels amazing.

If you’re interested in trying one, you can find some great deals on the official Fleshlight website.

9) The slippery joys of lubricant

lubricantFor the same reasons that you’d use a simulated vagina, lubricant is also an awesome addition to the repertoire of self-pleasure techniques.

Whether you’re using a toy or just your hands, lubricant will get you another important step closer to the real thing.

A real vagina is wet and slippery, so a dry palm is a poor imitation of that amazing experience. Lubricant also makes it easier to stimulate the head of your penis, and of course explore your anus if you so desire.

Please note that depending on your age, you might not be able to get hold of a realistic vagina or sex lubricant. In which case, don’t stress about it. Yes, they’re a lot of fun, but they aren’t absolutely necessary.

10) The double-edged sword of online movies

Adult movies can be great if used the right way, but they can also be problematic if watched without any thought.

As you’ll find out in part 3, rushing masturbation isn’t the best way to go about things. And one thing which is sure to increase your arousal is your favorite movie.

If you just switch it on, get yourself as excited as possible and rush to climax, you may be accidentally training yourself to ejaculate quickly during sex too.

However, if you use it as a tool when learning how to masturbate in a controlled way, it’s a good way to test your ability to keep relaxed and calm.

11) Sex toys Santa won’t deliver

vibrating cock ring for masturbationThere are loads of great sex toys you can use in combination with the masturbation techniques in this article, for example:

  • Cock rings and vibrating cock rings add extra pleasure and also test your control.
  • You can try out a realistic vagina mouth sleeve.
  • There are toys designed to stimulate your G-spot.
  • If you’re into any clothing fetish, then don’t be afraid to have fun with it!

Improve your sexual stamina

with masturbation techniques you can train yourself to be a stud in the bedroom

Many guys, especially during their teenage years, masturbate as quickly as possible. This is understandable because a) you don’t want anyone walking in on you, and b) it just kind of feels better going faster.

However, what I’m about to tell you is probably the most important point in this article:

Take your time!

I don’t want to worry you, but some guys end up ejaculating very quickly during sex, which is obviously not great. And it’s thought that one of the main reasons this happens is because of masturbating as fast as possible when younger.

But since you’re reading this, hopefully that’s never going to happen to you. And instead you can use your masturbation time to train yourself to become a stud in the bedroom.

Read on to find out a bit more about the right way to go about things.

12) The human traffic light: the start and stop method

start and stop imageIn terms of techniques, the start and stop method is a great way to masturbate. The simple version is that you set yourself a time – 20 minutes is good – and you don’t allow yourself to ejaculate until that time is up.

Every time you feel yourself getting close to the point of ejaculating, stop and take a breather for 30 seconds and then carry on. It might sound a bit frustrating, but it’s an effective way to develop your endurance.

You may also find that by holding back for so long, when you finally let go, your orgasm will be even more powerful.

13) Kegels – relaxation and the last line of defense

do not disturb while masturbating signKegels are a secret weapon you can develop in the safety of your bedroom. They can be used as a last line of defense to stop yourself ejaculating.

But as well as strengthening the muscles for holding back ejaculation, they also teach you which body parts to keep relaxed during sex.

In addition, they’re often used to get bigger and harder erections. They can also give you better bladder control when you’ve had too many beers. What’s not to love about that?

14) Breathe and relax

Breathing slowly and deeply whilst keeping your body relaxed is a useful skill to learn when masturbating. The reason being that tension will extinguish your sexual performance faster than a fireman’s hose on a wooden match.

So the next time you’re enjoying some solo time, remember to slow down and breathe.

Final word

By now you’ve probably worked out that the key to great masturbation is to experiment and find out what really works for you. Try to be open-minded, but if there are things that just don’t appeal or do it for you, don’t worry about it!

There are two ideas in this article that I recommend above all others. Firstly, take your time when masturbating and don’t rush it. If you need to improve your stamina, do the start and stop technique and you should see improvements pretty soon.

Secondly, whether it’s purely for pleasure or for working on your stamina, it’s worth thinking about trying out a realistic vagina. It’s a great way to improve your stamina and so much more fun than your hand.

Concerned about your penis size?

Many guys have left comments asking about their penis size, asking me if their size is normal and how they can increase it. My advice is not to worry about this until you’re at least 21 years old as your penis may keep growing until then.

If you do want an effective way to increase your penis size, my recommended approach is called the penis enlargement remedy.

Find out more about the penis enlargement remedy >>

2,475 CommentsLeave a comment

  • hi, i am athlete and it requires a lot of working in gym, so my question is: could it be dangerous for my future sex life? i am lifting a lot of weights pls answer

  • My boyfriend is 16 years old and has never masterbated in his life. It takes him 2 mins tops to finish when we have sex, if he starts masterbating will it make him last longer?

    • Hi Mia
      If he practices the techniques I mentioned, it should help. It’s also quite common for guys his age to not last very long. The best thing is to go for a second round when he recovers!

  • I hear that touching your balls while masturbating as well as the G-spot actually makes you come faster. And this isn’t a very good thing… Is it true that we should isolate the two during masturbation?

    • Hi there
      Well, I guess it depends what you want to do. If trying to last longer, then don’t do things that are too stimulating; but if trying to gain maximum pleasure, it could be good to do.

    • Hi Austin
      There’s no rule about it. Most people would say that the age you feel an inner urge to do it is the correct age. It’s a normal, biological process goverened by your body, not rules!

  • I never tried putting a thumb over my tip and it works so well! Also using the method above I turned my 2 minutes into 15 minutes! Thanks!

  • Hey there, i have a gf and when she is giving me a blowjob she gets really worried about swallowing my cum, is there any dangers to your gf swallowing cum, and is blowjobs normal? Thanks ✌

    • Hi there
      Blowjobs are totally normal! There are no dangers to swallowing it, but some girls just don’t really like doing it very much. If she prefers to spit it out, just let her!

  • Hi Ethane. Thanks alot for this article. I’m 19, my friends told me that they get wet when they watch porn but when I watch I do not. Some of them told me that they even cum when they just watch a girl in a tight dress. Pls do I have any problem? I’ve started masturbating about 2 yrs back but it took me long time before I cum.

    • Hi Al’amen
      No, you don’t have a problem just because of that. If it takes you longer to ejaculate, that’s fine. It only becomes an issue if you feel it takes too long.

  • hey im 17.. i have an 8 inch dick and i can masturbate for a reasonable time and believe i can last long… these days me and my girlfriend are thinking abt having sex… would she be scared if i whoop out my 8 inch dick and since that would be my first time can someone give me tips on how to please her

    • Hi Deji
      Well, hopefully she won’t be scared, but it might concern her if she’s inexperienced with large sizes. The best thing is to use lubricant and take it very slowly. You need to watch for signs it’s uncomfortable, and don’t go so deep if she reacts that way. And of course, just talk to her and get her to tell you if it’s too much. And if you’re not sure, just let her be on top – that way she has control of how deep and fast she wants it.

    • Hi there
      You might find the size appears smaller if you have a bit of a waistline there covering it. If you’re 100kg of muscle, then perhaps not. But if you do have some padding there, losing some weight might reveal more size.

    • Hi Kyle
      There’s no evidence that there’s a connection, so I think it’s a myth based on guys who seem to think it causes it.

    • Hi Javier
      It depends on many factors – if you’re still in your teenage years, it will probably improve. Otherwise, the best thing is to be healthy, eat well and exercise regularly.

  • Hello Ethan,
    Actually my problem is that my friend always suggests me to hold my penis 30° away from my head but I like to hold it slightly towards me while masturbating….
    Plz suggest at what angle should I hold it….

    • Hi ABHI
      It doesn’t really matter which angle you hold it at, and it’s fun to change the angle as well as you’ll get different sensations.

  • Hi,I really like your tips and find them useful. I just wanted to ask you something. When I am erect and masturbate, my penis skin don’t slide down the head itself.And when I try to do it manually its tight around the head and slightly pains.What should I do?

    • Hi AleX
      You don’t have to pull the foreskin back when you masturbate. But if you do and it’s painful, perhaps ask your doctor about it.

    • Hi Marc
      I’m not totally sure, as there is conflicting advice. I think if you do it every day, it might not be great. But once every 2 or 3 days if you don’t have sex regularly can help keep the sperm quality at its best from what I can gather. If you have sex every day though, perhaps stop masturbating.

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