The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

This article is for anyone who was never taught the best way to masturbate. So funnily enough it’s for 99.99% of all guys…

You’ll discover ways to give yourself more intense orgasms than you ever thought possible. And importantly you’ll also find out how masturbation can make you better, or worse, at the real thing.

This is important because many guys end up having problems with their sex life because of the way they masturbate. But with the right techniques, you can develop the kind of sexual stamina that will leave women lying exhausted on the bed next to you.

And even if you’re not currently sexually active, the same techniques will give you stronger orgasms than you’ve ever had before.

 

Contents:

Part A: The self-pleasure survey.

Part B: Masturbation techniques for maximum pleasure.

Part C: Sex toys and accessories to enhance the experience.

Part D: Improve your sexual stamina and orgasm intensity.

 

Part A: The self-pleasure survey

These polls are 100% anonymous, so please take a moment to help out by giving your answers. Thanks!

 

Poll 1 results

What is your preferred way to masturbate?

  • My hand with porn (62%, 236,447 Votes)
  • Just my hand(s) (21%, 82,383 Votes)
  • My hand, lubricant and porn (20%, 76,342 Votes)
  • My hand with lubricant (6%, 21,202 Votes)
  • Practicing techniques to last longer (5%, 18,927 Votes)
  • With a fake vagina (3%, 11,179 Votes)
  • With other sex toys or objects (3%, 9,852 Votes)
  • Other (2%, 7,081 Votes)

Total Voters: 383,636

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Β Poll 2 results

Which kind of porn do you use?

  • Online / videos (99%, 319,814 Votes)
  • Magazines / other printed source (1%, 3,978 Votes)

Total Voters: 323,792

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Poll 3 (open to votes)

Do you pleasure yourself every day?

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Poll 4 (open to votes)

Are you interested in improving your sexual stamina?

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Part B: Masturbation techniques for maximum pleasure

 

1) The basics – Madam Palm and her five lovely daughters

masturbation: sex with someone you loveMost people learn pretty early on that their hand is a capable friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and an enormous amount of fun.

Yet many guys still get stuck thinking that the best way to masturbate is simply as follows:

  • Switch on a movie.
  • Grip penis gently but firmly in your stronger hand.
  • Move up and down repeatedly at lightning speed.
  • Ejaculate into a tissue.
  • Return to the paused video game.

This is of course one of the oldest and most satisfying masturbation techniques known to mankind.

The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. But you can add much more variety as you’ll see in the next few tips.

 

2) Madam Palm’s twin sister: 4 ways to masturbate using your other hand

two hands are better than oneEven at this basic level, you can still spice things up by using your other hand. Here are some ideas:

  • Try only using your other hand once in a while.
  • Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. But if not, you can try holding your penis in-between both palms pressed together.
  • You can use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.
  • Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!

 

3) Don’t leave your balls hanging

2 ballsYour balls are more than just an odd-shaped storage facility. They’re an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.

It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:

  • Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
  • Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
  • Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.

There’s another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.

 

4) It’s not just women that have multiple erogenous zones

diagram of the male and female erogenous zonesIf you think the best way to masturbate is all about your penis, and maybe your balls, then think again.

It’s a popular belief that only women are blessed with multiple erogenous zones. However, the truth is that your body is far more sensitive than you might think.

For example, try touching your nipples in the way that you would a woman’s. Experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.

Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you’re sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.

Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.

 

5) Moving south: the perineum

The Perineum is the area in-between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand.

 

6) The holy grail of the male G-spot

diagram showing the man's g-spotSome cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place.

But there’s no doubt that there are parts inside the anus which respond well to self-stimulation.

For more open-minded and less squeamish guys, one of the best ways to masturbate is to include the anus. For others it’s strictly a one-way street.

If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-increasing treat. Here are some ideas for you:

  • Don’t forget to wash before you start.
  • Check that your chosen nail (yes – one finger will do) is short and not sharp. File it down if necessary.
  • Add plenty of lubricant on your finger (proper lubricant is better so you don’t accidentally stick something in there which can burn)
  • Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
  • Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
  • You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
  • The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter. This is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.

Stimulating the G-Spot is known in the tantric sex world as a prostate massage, and is an effective way of enhancing orgasm. The key though with all these ideas is to be gentle and soft.

 

7) Experiment with different positions

If you just sit in your favorite chair or lie on your bed, you’re not going to get anywhere near simulating sex.

And as you’ll find out in part 3, simulating sex is one of the most important masturbation techniques for men.Β Here are 3 ways you can use your body more effectively:

  • Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.
  • Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand. The idea is to keep your hand still and use your body to move.
  • Change positions from time to time: kneeling, standing, sitting, swopping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.
  • And in case you’re wondering, unless you’re a yoga master, have a missing rib or could enter the Guinness book of records for your length, it’s extremely unlikely you’ll be able to do the necessary gymnastics to use your own mouth.

 

Part C: Sex toys and accessories to enhance the experience

 

8) The best way to masturbate without doubt is with a realistic vagina

A realistic vaginaI shouldn’t need to point out the obvious difference between your hand and a real vagina.

As I said earlier, masturbation isn’t just about personal pleasure. It’s also an investment in your ability to maximize both you and your partner’s pleasure during sex.

That’s why simulating sex as closely as possible is an excellent way to prepare yourself for the real deal.

It’s also way more fun and intense than just using your hand. Anyway, we all know that many women use sex toys, so why can’t guys too?

Find out more about the Fleshlight realistic vagina >>

 

9) The slippery joys of lubricant

lubricantFor the same reasons that you would use a simulated vagina, lubricant is also an awesome addition to the repertoire of self-pleasure techniques.

Whether you’re using a toy or just your hands, lubricant will get you another important step closer to the real thing.

A real vagina is wet and slippery, so a dry palm is a poor imitation of that amazing experience.

Lubricant also makes it easier to stimulate the head of your penis, and of course explore your anus if you so desire.

 

10) The double-edged sword of online movies

Movies can be great if used the right way; they can also be damaging if used without any thought.

As you’ll find out in part 3, rushing masturbation can be a killer of your future sexual performance. And one thing which is sure to increase your arousal is your favorite movie.

If you just switch it on, get yourself as excited as possible and rush to climax, you’re unfortunately training yourself to be a future ‘one minute man’.

However, if you use it as a tool when learning how to masturbate in a controlled way, then it’s a great way to test your ability to keep relaxed and calm.

 

11) Sex toys Santa won’t deliver

vibrating cock ring for masturbationThere are loads of great sex toys you can use in combination with the masturbation techniques in this article, for example:

  • Cock rings, and vibrating cock rings, add extra pleasure and also test your control.
  • You can try out a realistic anus or mouth sleeve.
  • Blow-up dolls still exist, believe it or not. So do sheep if you’re that way inclined.
  • There are toys designed to stimulate your G-spot. I’m sure you can imagine what they might look like.
  • If you’re into any clothing fetish, then don’t be afraid to have fun with it. It’s your life!

 

Part D: Improve your sexual stamina and orgasm intensity

with masturbation techniques you can train yourself to be a stud in the bedroomBetween 20 and 30% of men will suffer from premature ejaculation at some point in their lives.

One of the main reasons guys end up having this problem is because of accidentally training themselves to climax very quickly when masturbating.

But to give most woman an orgasm, on average you need to last for between 10 and 20 minutes during sex.

So you also need to be able to last that long, and preferably longer, when masturbating. These next few sections will explain how you can achieve that.

Please note though that if you already last for ages during sex, or when masturbating, there’s no need to practice these.

But even though there’s no need, some of these techniques can result in you having way more intense and powerful orgasms.

This is for the simple reason that by forcing yourself to delay orgasm, it’s usually more powerful when you finally can’t hold back any longer.

 

12) The human traffic light: the start and stop method

In terms of techniques, the start and stop method is a really good way to masturbate. The simple version is that you set yourself a time, for example 30 minutes, and you don’t allow yourself to ejaculate until that time is up.

Sound painful?

Well it can be, but not as much as the pain of the embarrassment of coming within 2 minutes every time you have sex.

 

13) Kegels – relaxation and the last line of defense

Kegels are a secret weapon you can develop in the safety of your bedroom. They can be used as a last line of defense to stop yourself ejaculating.

But as well as strengthening the muscles for holding back ejaculation, they also teach you which body parts to keep relaxed during sex.

In addition they’re often used to get bigger and harder erections. They can also give you better bladder control when you’ve had too many beers. What’s not to love about that?

 

14) Breathe and relax

This is more of a side dish to the main course of masturbation techniques. And again it’s on the theme of learning self-control.

Breathing slowly and deeply whilst keeping your body relaxed is a useful skill to learn when masturbating.

The reason being that tension and over-excitement will extinguish your sexual performance faster than a fireman’s hose on a wooden match.

 

Final thoughts

By now you’ve probably realized that finding the best way to masturbate will depend on how much you’re willing to experiment. The key is to be open-minded and have some fun along the way!

There are two ideas in this article that I would recommend above all others. And they both stem from my belief that masturbation should be used to train yourself to become a master in the bedroom.

The first is to get yourself a sex toy as mentioned in part C. A realistic vagina will make a huge difference to both your pleasure and ability to last longer.

The second is to learn the techniques discussed in part D. There are some great books written about this with detailed instructions teaching you how to understand your body and develop self-control.

I highly recommend taking a look at the one which I personally used, and which gave me the ability to last more than long enough to fully satisfy my partner in bed:

Check out the Ejaculation Trainer review for more techniques >>

 


1,137 Responses to “The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Hi Ethan,
    I have a smaller size penis and I don’t know how to hold it to pleasure myself. Can you help me with this?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Just experiment until you find a grip which feels comfortable and you can move your hand, or as many fingers as possible, up and down the shaft. You’ll work it out with a little imagination!
      Ethan

  2. andy says:

    Hi there
    I am 17 and i hardly masturbated 4 or 5 times…
    When i sleep i will get my pants wet by morning due to ejaculation during sleep sometimes……is it due to lack of proper masturbation……..how to stop it….
    ..my pants are getting dirty….

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Andy
      It’s very common to have ‘wet dreams’ as some call it. I think it might happen more often if you don’t masturbate during the day. So maybe try doing that and see if they stop.
      Your pants can be cleaned!
      Ethan

  3. Matt says:

    Hi. I am having issues when I jerk I am 16 years and I have never ejaculated . Everytime I have tried to masturbate my dick gets red and balls become hard and I can see the transparent sperm but no matter how long I jerk I never end up eculatin. I need help and advice .

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Matt
      The transparent sperm is ejaculation, unless it’s just a tiny amount which kind of leaks or covers the penis head. The average amount is only a teaspoon, so don’t worry if not much comes out.
      Maybe you’re masturbating too hard. Hold it more gently and go slower, and that might stop the redness. But it is common for it to get a bit red if you masturbate, and the balls do sometimes become hard.
      Ethan

  4. 50XXX says:

    Are vibrating ring’s for masturbating or for getting a hard on?

  5. jack says:

    Hi ethan
    normally when i masturbate i have my fellow men images in my mind and i fantasise with their dicks…
    how do you respond to this…does it mean i am gay?..kindly reply

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jack
      Not necessarily. Maybe it means you’re hetro and just experimenting mentally through your fantasy world. Maybe it means your bi or gay. Only you will really know in time when you decide whether you want to be with men, women or both.
      Ethan

  6. hobbs says:

    Hi, I had sex with my girlfriend and as we climax she orgasmed and tensed up and as we were having sex, she farted during the middle of her climax. Why is this??

    Thanks Hobbs

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Hobbs
      That just happens sometimes. Whatever you do, never make her feel embarrassed by it! Some women will happily laugh about it, and that’s probably the best thing to do. But don’t laugh first;-)
      Ethan

  7. Ani says:

    Hey Ethan,
    I want to confess that I am 15 years old …going to be 16 this May… but still had never masturbated untill today. It was embarrassing. My flaccid size is 5.7″ and erect MAYBE around 6.4″. Is it too big according to my age? Your steps were the guide through it. Thanking you, I also have some complications to tell you of:
    1. It took me about 1.5 to 2 hrs to spit it out (maybe because it’s my first time, but earlier in October I tried once for 4hrs without any success)
    2. After getting it out, the tip of dickhead pains a bit (I still don’t know how itwill feel to pee)
    3. After getting it out, my dick has become flaccid and is not erecting for the next hour (weird, huh? Never happened before) and it is feeling really really weird.. need help here.
    I’m still a newbie, so I really am waiting for your reply. Thanks again, Ethan.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ani
      The size is within the normal range, don’t worry about it.
      It can take some guys a very long time to ejaculate. If you keep practicing, and it always takes you an extremely long time, then maybe look that up on the internet in the future. But for now, don’t worry about it. The reason it’s a bit sore might be because of the very long time you were doing it for. It will probably be fine the next day. But if it keeps being sore after a couple of days, maybe speak to your doctor.
      And it’s normal to take an hour to be able to get erect again, especially if you were using it for a long time. So again, don’t worry about that.
      Ethan

  8. Powerhus says:

    Hi I’m 12 and at school whenever I look at girls at all I get a Boner

    2. My penis is only 5.4 inches long will it get any bigger

    3. My ejaculation time is 7-8 mins and only like half a teaspoon of seamen comes out

    Is all this normal?

    Also nice site :)

  9. John Doe says:

    Heyo,

    I’m 15, and just wanted to say thanks for writing this article, o guru of jacking off. You’re contributing a lot for the next generation, you know!

    One question though. I managed to get my hands on cotton panties (don’t ask me how, and before you ask, no, they’re not my mother’s or any of my relatives’, that would be extremely wrong and awkward), and I was wondering if it’s safe to wrap them around my wang and… ehm, season the meat?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi John
      Glad you liked the article. I don’t imagine it will be a problem if you do it from time to time. But the constant friction with material, even if it soft, might eventually cause some irritation. Personally, I’d stick with flesh as much as possible.
      Ethan

  10. davido says:

    hello,ethan
    thanks for creating this site ,coz it was really helpful for me .

  11. Mar says:

    I like your page…I’m a Filipino and like others I also like masturbating..so thank you for the knowledge

  12. jake says:

    Hi, Ethan
    I am 13,
    I really appreciate your site.
    I would like to masturbate more, but every time I do, I worry that it is going to damage my body so that I will not be able to reproduce when i’m older.
    Can you reassure me that it will not?
    Also, I ejaculate very quickly, so I will use your techniques to go longer and fix that. But if I have already ejaculated during a masturbating session, is it OK to keep going?
    Thank You so much! I love your article!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jake
      No problem, glad you found it useful. No, it won’t damage your ability to reproduce. And yes, it’s fine to keep going if you’re able to.
      Ethan

  13. lawrence says:

    My head of penis is going red nowadays and the flesh around it is going white like my dick head is having a covering of white substance .

    Which I think is semen is it normal I touch it my muscles contracs and it hurts ????

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Lawrence
      At first I was thinking that maybe you just need to give it a good clean – sometimes white coverings happen, and they can be dealt with by regularly washing your penis head properly. But the hurting thing doesn’t sound right. I would speak to your doctor if I were you, just to be on the safe side. If you have a local infection, they can probably fix it quite easily. But my advice is always to see a doctor if there is any pain in the groin, and sooner rather than later.
      Ethan

  14. Anonymous says:

    I use petroleum jelly when i masturbate. Does it matter what you use to make you penis wet and slippery because when i put this on i ejaculate really quickly.should i use something else? I wanna last as long as possible and ejaculate as much as possible.
    Any suggestions

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      petroleum jelly is a quite a popular lubricant. And you ejaculate quicker because it feels a lot nicer! Just put less on if you cant handle it at the moment, and then build up your stamina again little by little.
      Ethan

  15. Curiosity says:

    Hi Ethan,

    your article was very helpful and the replays definitely were helpful. I’m 13, I just started to hit puberty and I’m worried about my penis size. Before I hit puberty I had a 2 3/4 inch penis soft and a 3 7/8 penis hard. and it hasn’t grown much if any, Is this normal for the beginning of puberty? I talked to my mom about it and she said my dad had a small penis, it was only like 4 inches according to her. Does this mean mine will be small? I’ve noticed hair around my penis but no facial or armpit hair.. Is this normal as well? When I masturbate my cum isn’t like milky white, it looks more like spit is this normal? Please reply soon thanks!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      I’m glad you found the article and replied helpful.
      Basically, everything you said seems perfectly normal at this stage. Puberty takes a long time for most guys, and your penis can grow up until 21 years, so you have a long time before you’ll know your full size. And no, just because your dad was that size, it doesn’t mean you will too. You have half your mum’s side’s genetics too!
      Relax and don’t stress.
      Ethan

  16. ayandg27 says:

    Hi, I am 24 and still a virgin. I masturbate in a missionary position by rubbing my penis against a pillow. I find it difficult to masturbate using my hand. How to get over this?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      This is actually quite common. I think you just need to turn round, lie on your back and start using your hand. You’ll get used to it and enjoy it in time.
      Ethan

  17. that guy says:

    would spit from a blowjob work as well as a lubricant or would a lubricant be better?

  18. Squall Leonhart says:

    I tried several of the tips including playing with my nipples and the wringing technique (yes I’m that well endowed and proud) and I also tried the male g spot… I lasted almost 45 minutes and when I finally did cum, it felt like the first time I ever ejaculated when I was 14. I’m 22 yrs old now.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Squall
      I guess that’s a good thing then! Glad you enjoyed the tips and they worked out well for you.
      Enjoy!
      Ethan

  19. $ Rockz says:

    Hello Sir.
    I think this is the best open minded site I ever found on the internet. So first of all I m 15. I’m a huge sex addict. Now is it normal for a guy like me to be a sex addict?
    I masturbate like 2 times a day and it may increase if I’m too much horny. Again is this ok?
    Thanks for helping all of us out and I’ll be expecting your reply soon..
    :-)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Thanks for your comment, and I’m very pleased you like the website! That’s great.
      Personally I don’t think you would be classed as a sex addict. That sounds very normal for your age.
      So relax and don’t be so quick to give yourself a negative title!
      Ethan

  20. athambidurau says:

    is incest with my sister good

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      I’m guessing that considering you’re aware of the word incest, you probably already know it’s not good! Leave her alone.
      Ethan

  21. Wilson says:

    When I masterbate while using soap after my tip starts to hurt and it also hurts when I pee. I don’t know whats wrong?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Wilson
      Don’t use soap. It contains a lot of chemicals usually, and can dry out your penis, leading to irritation. In fact, if you look online about penis hygiene, you’ll find most medical advice says not to use soap on the exposed penis head, but just water. I would stop putting soap, or any other product on your penis for a few days and see if it stops hurting. If it continues being a problem, speak to your doctor.
      Ethan

  22. Jacob says:

    Hey, so I was wondering if its normal to have a 5’4 penis, at the age of 15, I guess i just feel in-superior to the guys at my school. Ive seen some of them in the locker rooms and they are bigger than mine, well the ones that choose to show off. And my girlfriend and i have had sex, and she claims that Im the perfect size for her, and that im really thick but i think shes just saying that to make me feel better. Whats your opinion?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jacob
      Yes, it’s a perfectly normal size for your age. Don’t worry about other guys – we all grow at our own rate, and it doesn’t mean you don’t, or won’t, have the biggest penis.
      One more thing I would say, as I always say to guys of your age on this site, is that you need to think carefully about having sex at your age, depending on your country. If I were you, I’d wait until you’re both at the legal age of consent.
      Ethan

  23. Ron says:

    I am 16 yrs old and i have never did masturbate. Is this OK. Reply soon.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ron
      Not everyone masturbates, though normally most guys do by your age. I guess it depends on why you don’t do it.
      Ethan

  24. Jacob says:

    Hi Ethan
    I’m 13, I cum when I masturbate but haven’t experienced a wet dream ever. Is this normal? Also I have not found a good way to clean myself up, when I masturbate, I’m kinda unprepared and when I cum It comes out in a tiny squirt and will not cooperate. When I’m done ejaculating usually a little cum is still in their and ends up on my legs and gets sticky and dries on my legs.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jacob
      Not everyone experiences wet dreams. Try ejaculating into a tissue or toilet paper and just kind of ‘milk’ the penis until it all comes out. Have a wash afterwards in the shower.
      Ethan

  25. shank says:

    Hey i am 19 yrs old i have been masturbating for past few year and since last one year practicing mutual masturbation with my girlfriend. the problem is i ejaculate most of time really quickly and dats embarrassing. that i can say lasts for 1 to 2 min only. plz give me any possible advice

  26. Unnamed says:

    I am 12 and masturbate 1-2 times a day, but in porn the cum shoots out and with me it just gently flows out. I have researched and it said it could be caused by smoking. I smoke tobacco on a daily basis. But when I took a 2 week smoking break it did not change at all. Then I took a 2 day masturbating break while not smoking and it just made me cum more but still didn’t shoot. Is this normal for my age or weird?

  27. Eric says:

    Hey, Im 15, and have started to become sexual with my gf. Not sex or anything, but just touching her and her touching me. Is that normal? Also, She says my penis is a good size, but I think shes lying. Its only like 5 or 5.5 inches.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Erik
      It’s a difficult question to answer. It depends what you mean by touching. Whilst most people know that many teens do engage in various sexual activities, the law is actually very strict in many countries. If you have sex for example, and she is under 16, it will be considered rape in countries like the UK and US. And in fact, even oral sex, mutual masturbation and fondling such as 3rd base is considered illegal too. Have a look at this website for more info. about it: http://www.ageofconsent.us/
      Ethan

  28. no one says:

    this is a nice site and u are a nice person are u in fb can i get ur acc to send req

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Thanks for the compliment. No I’m not on Facebook. I keep my interaction with readers to a very basic level of comment + response and no more.
      Ethan

  29. Matthew says:

    Hey Ethan I’m 17 and it takes me 20-25 minutes to ejaculate is that normal

  30. Bojo says:

    Hi Ethan
    1:I’m 13 my dick is about 3cm floppy and 7cm erect is this normal
    2:I’ve been masturbating since about 7 or 8 and when I started I just thought I was experimenting with stuff and I didn’t even know what I was doing but I’ve been doing it since then about once a day to much??
    3: when I masturbate o go for 1-3 mins and don’t ejaculate but I get the feeling my mates describe when they do ejaculate is there summit wrong??
    4: I’m really confused I masturbate over basically every porn but if u asked me am I gay straight or bi I would say straight like I wank over my (male) mate but also over his girlfriend (I would never tell them) but like I said I can get hard over transgender porn,gay porn, straight porn but not only that I have no specific preference like oral/anal/vaginal/masturbation but I do like porn vids with cum in is this weird or am I really wrong???
    Bojo
    Get back asap thanks

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Bojo
      Let’s see if I can give you some answers – and remember these are just my thoughts!

      1. Don’t worry – it will grow over the next few years. It takes until around 21 to stop growing.
      2. What you describe is within the normal realms of behavior!
      3. Again, this will change in time. Don’t worry.
      4. Most teens experiment at times with the things that they find attractive. Try not to stress about it – it’s quite normal to question your own sexuality and experiment with different things. With the modern age of the internet etc it’s even easier for people to try out new stuff in their own fantasy world. I imagine in the coming years you will find out more about what your true desires are.
      Don’t stress basically!
      Ethan

  31. Mark says:

    Hi there, great post. Few things i wanted to ask. 1.Im uncircumcised and when it comes to sex does my forskin need to be peeled all the way back. Same witn putting a condom on. Do i need to peel the forskin before putting it on.
    2. Also I think i have a foot fettish, i like seeing feet while watching porn. Is this normal?
    3. Im a bit concerned with the size of my penis and testicles. My penis is 5.8 inches is that normal for a 19 year old. Also my testicles or ball sack isint that big. When i put boxers on, there isint much showing if you get me. When i see other boys wearing boxers there groin area is much larger. Is it normal to not have such a big package??

    Thank you.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Mark,
      I’m glad you liked the post.
      1. Usually the foreskin is peeled back to expose the head before putting on a condom.
      2. Lots of people have a foot fettish. I don’t personally, but lots of guys do. Don’t worry about it. One day if you’re lucky you’ll meet a woman who loves guys who love her feet (yes, they exist!)
      3. Yes, don’t worry about it. The size of testicles varies a lot. It doesn’t mean they won’t be just as effective as any other guy. You’ll be fine!
      Ethan

  32. Tyler says:

    I have a long lasting time already, but would it be harmful to use the time lengthening techniques?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Tyler
      No, it wouldn’t be harmful. But it’s probably unnecessary unless you want to use them to increase your orgasm intensity..
      Ethan

  33. R2D2 says:

    Hey Ethan.
    One question I’ve had for a really long time. Does masturbation and the frequency of which you do it have any affect on penis size. I’m 19 and I’m not much bigger than I was 3 to 4 years ago, which is right around 5.5 inches. Thanks for any input

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there R2D2!
      Technically no, I don’t think so. However, I do sometimes wonder about it because some of the classic techniques for increasing penis size naturally do seem to be based around actions which might be considered masturbation. So I wonder if perhaps some guys might be doing those techniques naturally without even knowing it. But I think basic, everyday masturbation probably doesn’t. At least not to my knowledge. Your size is in the normal average range anyway, so relax!
      Ethan

  34. adam says:

    while masturbating, i ejaculate right after 2 to 3 minutes. what is the normal ejaculation time and how do i extend my ejaculation time

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Adam
      There is no normal ejaculation time really. I think it’s good if you can try and learn to last longer, so follow the tips in this article and on this website. There’s lots of good info. for you to get started with!
      Ethan

  35. Sam says:

    MY name is Sam. I’m 20 yrs old. My problem is that I can’t ejaculate. Can u help me out

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Sam
      Some guys do find it very difficult to ejaculate. Sometimes known as ‘delayed ejaculation’ to be honest it’s the exact opposite of what this website is about! Whilst I might talk about it in the future, for now the best advice I can give you is to google “delayed ejaculation”. And if you can’t find any advice which helps, then you might need to talk to your doctor to check there isn’t a physical cause which needs addressing.
      Ethan

    • John says:

      Hi Sam,

      I’m 27, struggled with delayed ejaculation for a LONG time. I’ve finally gotten over it and finally was able to orgasm during sex using a condom, which was quite an accomplishment. I found what worked best for me was to a) stop using porn to masturbate b) take a break from masturbating (I mean like a week at least!) you are basically retraining your penis to what feels good. When you masturbate, make sure to use lube everytime and a light touch. Don’t squeeze hard, just a natural easy grip. It’s ok if you don’t achieve orgasm the first time using this, just stop when you start to become frustrated and try again later or another day. Your body will naturally reboot and eventually it will work. Continue doing this until you have consistent results. The key is to be patient! It took me a better part of 3 weeks before I started to have consistent orgasms using lube. Hopefully one of these or all of these can help you out! Good luck!

  36. Anonymous says:

    Hello, I’m 14. I was circumcised at the age of 7 because my foreskin wouldn’t pull back properly. I’ve been masturbating about once a day for almost 2 years now, but it feels very unsatisfactory to me. I have no pleasure up until the point where I cum, and even then it’s not all that great… Is this normal? Also, I have a few small scars on my penis, do you think that my circumcision might have damaged some of the nerve endings, making things less pleasurable?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      It may just be because of your age. The pleasure is also partly mental as well as physical, and also depends on hormones. I would wait a couple of years before worrying too much about the lack of pleasure. In terms of the nerve endings and circumcision, I really don’t know. That’s something you would need to discuss with your doctor. But there are articles which discuss the argument about this. Some people say it can reduce sensitivity, others say it doesn’t. Here is a good article in the well-respected website psychology today.

  37. Igor says:

    I’m currently 13 and about to turn 14 and every time I mastrubate with porn and 2 fist that I switch i get a feeling that sperm is about to come out. But it does not. Only a bit comes out and that is it. Do I have a problem?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Igor,
      It’s normal at your age. Don’t worry – over the next few years the volume will probably increase.
      Ethan

  38. Anonymous says:

    Hey Ethan I’m thirteen and whenever I masturbate it takes me about 50 mins to an hour to cum. Is this normal?

  39. Someone 123 says:

    Hi Ethan!
    Its a really informative website. I appreciate your work.
    I am a 14 year old boy. I masturbate 4-5 times a week.
    Here is the question :
    I have a small lump of flesh on the tip of my penis. All of the skin of my penis moves up and down while masturbating.
    If I move the hand too down, the internal of my penis appears. I thought about it a lot.
    I know I can’t make love with a girl because its going to hurt my penis.. I have also sometimes heard my parents about a surgery to remove that lump of flesh. Its very embarrassing but I know that the surgery will be for my own good. Please I request you to reply this. It will be so good of you if you replied. Have you ever heard something like this? I will keep coming back to see the reply. Please reply fast.
    One more thing,
    like the other men, my sperm (that white thick liquid)
    doesn’t fly upwards due to that lump of flesh but simply comes out like urine. Otherwise I don’t have any problem in masturbating. Please reply fast

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Sorry to hear you’re been worrying about this. I don’t know exactly what the lump of flesh is. But presumably if you’ve been to the doctor with your parents, and the doctor has recommended it as the right thing to do, then I guess you’ll just have to make the decision along with your family. I know it can be stressful and embarrassing to have to talk about things like this with family and doctors, but if it’s the right thing for your future, then hopefully they’ll be able to deal with it quickly and you can stop worrying about it.
      As for the second point, don’t worry about it – it’s normal at your age.
      Ethan

  40. troy says:

    hi I m troy
    I masturbate a lot sometimes twice a day.
    is it harmful??
    should I leave it???
    I liked ur article
    thanks.
    reply me pls

  41. jerry says:

    hi i got a couple questions.
    my penis hasn’t been the same from the beginning. it was normal at first, then a red spot appeared on the head of it and it used to produce kinda some thick skin on top of it that would disappear over time or have me waste a long time on removing it by hand. the thick skin stopped growing some years ago but the red spot is still there half disappeared. and when i touch it somehow my anus muscle reflexes at the same time. the skin of the head has been dark forever but the part around the red spot has gone lighter. i’ve been to doctor but he said it wasn’t an infection but i’m still concerned. is this chain of changes normal?
    the other thing is that i’ve heard playing with orgasm’s climax by getting close to ejaculation and relaxing then repeating it would damage the prostate is that true?
    i always get some regret feeling after cumming which makes me forget masturbating for the next 3-4 days which makes me do this once or twice a week. is this anyway to get rid of this feeling?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jerry
      I’m not a doctor, so can’t really tell you much about the first problem. My advice would be to ask a different doctor for a second opinion to put your mind at ease.
      I have never heard of the prostate being damaged by that kind of activity.
      Hmmm, well it might just be the sudden change of arousal when you orgasm. Try relaxing and enjoying the sensations for a while after you orgasm. Just take some time to try and enjoy the feelings in your body. And remind yourself that it’s perfectly natural, and pretty much the entire world does, or did, it at some point.
      Ethan

  42. Jellal says:

    Hi Ethan,

    I know this is not related to the topic but i want to ask you because you are kind responding to questions even if it is not related in your article.

    1. Until what age does the penis will stop growing?

    2. Is the size of the penis is genetic or pills, pump can help? (i know pills is not a good idea but how about pumps)

    3. How should i measure my penis( from the top, side or bottom? ), i have 4.5inches(erected) and i’m 18 years old. (I’m Asian(sorry))

    I already google my questions but i want your opinion, btw thank you for writing this article it helped me/us a lot.

    More Power!
    Jellal

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jellal
      No problem!
      1. It will probably reach it’s max size somewhere around 21 years old.
      2. Genetic. But there are various techniques for getting a bit more size out of it. But it’s not something I deal with here at the moment. I would use natural techniques if I was going to do anything.
      3. From the way that makes you feel best about it! I think the top is probably the usual way.
      Ethan

  43. niro says:

    pls am 24 and i enjoy self sex than with a girl. is that normal? i have tried to change different girls but no change.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Niro
      Well, you’re not the only one who doesn’t find they get turned on by women. What does turn you on? Maybe you just haven’t found what works for you yet.
      Ethan

  44. leroy jenkins says:

    hey so i’m 14 and i have a weird bit o flesh that’s attached to my foreskin and my penis head. what is it it mean i cant properly pull my foreskin all the way down even though i have ejaculated before

    • Ethan Green says:

      It’s called the frenulum, and is perfectly normal. The foreskin only peels back beyond the head of the penis.

  45. Barney says:

    Hi , i am 19 male . I have always masturbate 5 times a week more or less . I’ve have masturbated for almost 5 years .
    The problem the younger me mindset was to get a fast ejaculation .
    Nowadays , I’ve realized the better way which is to have longer and delay ejaculation . However i can’t keep that long.
    My average was like 2-4 minutes and im quite dissatisfied with this outcome . Any advice ?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Barney
      That’s a very common problem with younger guys. To extend the time, follow the tips in the article and on other pages on this website. There’s plenty of info. for you to find!
      Ethan

  46. Toby says:

    So im 11 and in class i almost always get an erection (The majority is boys in my class) AND my penis is larger than the others. But why?

    Toby.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Toby
      Hormones and Genetics! It’s quite normal to have trouble controlling your erections when you start hitting puberty. And the size is just based on genetics and, well, luck.
      Ethan

    • RandomKid says:

      Hey kid don’t worry bout it, like Ethan said it’s natural at the start if puberty, and I have the same problem, it’s hard to walk around the classroom sometimes! Lol also if yours is bigger then your friends then that’s not a bad thing, be proud in fact

  47. Fulip says:

    Hello, I am 13 and I have a 6 in uncircumcised penis is this average and will the uncircumcision affect my future sex life ?

  48. Aron105 says:

    Hey Ethan I’m 13 but I have a 4-6 incher and everyone i know has like a 2-4 and i feel like because I masturbate a lot I’m growing too fast is it OK that I’m longer or should I stop masturbating?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Aron
      I think it’s absolutely fine. Don’t worry about it – masturbating is unlikely to be the reason for your size.
      Ethan

  49. Behzad says:

    Thank You. It was very helpful.

  50. anthony says:

    Hey ethan i have a problem i masterbate about two times a day and ive been having a horrible pain when i “you know what” after masterbating can you help?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Anthony
      I think if it’s resulting in pain, then you need to speak to your doctor about it. Try not to worry about embarrassment – they get questions like this all the time.
      Ethan

      • Mclovin says:

        Hi Ethan, I’ve been masturbating for quit some time now and just tried some of the new techniques you’ve suggested and they feel great. But I often find after I masturbate the skin on my penis hurts because I don’t really have a lubricant. And I’m 16 and can’t ask or get lube myself, is there anything else I can use that replaces lube but still feels great and has the same slippery moist effect? Also I have a larger than normal penis and one hand isn’t cutting it, is there another 2 hand technique?

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Mclovin
          Never thought I’d get a comment from a star from Superbad!
          It might also hurt because you’re going a bit too fast or hard. Try relaxing off a little bit. If you read through all the comments, you’ll see lot of discussion about lubricants you can use instead of ones you’d need to get online.
          Ethan

  51. Shawn lowery says:

    Hi Ethan, I have a problem i and i hope to find some advice or help okay, well i have a kinda active love life and well I seem to have a problem it seems to me like my penis has lost interest in sex like it dont have any good feeling any more and i wandering if you could help me and this problem

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Shawn
      Do you mean you can’t get an erection at the moment, whereas you could in the past? If this is the case, you might find it useful to search for ‘erectile dysfunction’ online.
      Ethan

  52. Anonymous says:

    I have this which I think is a really bad habit. When I masturbate.. in order to not make a mess, I cross my legs during climax and clench up really hard which causes me to orgasm but no ejaculate. I can feel the.. “spurting” spasms and everything, but nothing (or if I relax too soon just a bit) comes out.

    I have no problems ejaculating otherwise and have quite some force to it.

    The only negative parts is that sometimes, quite seldom, it causes my penis to start iching and I feel that I need to pee. Usually lasts maybe 20 minutes, but is really really uncomfortable, especially if it occurs just as you plan to sleep and go for a quick session before.

    Positive aspects though is that usually it enables me to keep going almost instantly afterwards. It feels just as good as an orgasm and there’s no clean up needed.

    Do you have any thoughts about this? I’ve had a hard time finding info about it.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      What you’ve managed to do is basically train yourself to have what some call the MMO – Male Multiple Orgasm. I think you’re probably doing a strong kegel hold which results in an orgasm without ejaculation. The reason it’s itching is probably because the semen has already started part one of the two parts to ejaculation. And so the gun has been loaded, speaking metaphorically, but you’re not pulling the trigger. Some guys also use this process as part of tantric sex, which again can involve building up the sexual arousal, but avoiding ejaculation and then keeping the energy built up inside the body. So really it’s up to you – you can try perhaps to stop a little earlier, which may or may not result in orgasm, but may prevent the uncomfortable feeling. Or just find a way to do it which is easy to clean – such as into some tissue paper.
      Ethan

  53. Ron says:

    Hello, ethan. Thank you for all your help. I find it very helpful to have somebody to ask about things i feel shy to ask my friends.

  54. Harry says:

    hi ethan.
    i am harry.15 years.i am doing masturbation from last two years.regularly.Is it safe or i should stop doing it.

  55. ish says:

    hey ethan, I been wondering if masterbating/hormones affects anything to do with growing beard?
    Like if I masterbate but I don’t ejaculate, just let it be. will it increase my testosterone level?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi ish
      I don’t think it will, no. If you want to increase your testosterone levels, google it and you’ll find lots of good ideas.
      Ethan

  56. Anonymous says:

    Dear Ethan,
    is the size of a penis determined by length of the erection or is it determined the length when not erected.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      There are measurements for both. Most guys talk about the erect length though as that’s what they are interested in!
      Ethan

  57. Naughty says:

    My ball sack shrinks and grows at random times. Is that normal.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Yes it is. It can be due to several factors such as temperature, stress, tiredness, clothes you’re wearing and much more.

  58. king says:

    Hi I was wondering is it gay that I enjoy sucking my own penis and cum in my mouth and prefer gay porn vs straight

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi King
      Not necessarily. Do you find you’re attracted in real life to guys only and not girls as well? That might be a more helpful way to look at it. But really, it’s up to you to decide, not me!
      Ethan

  59. ace says:

    love this site…keep it up ethan

  60. Joe says:

    Ethan I know you probably think I do not need one right now but I really want one! How do I get a sex toy without my parents finding out? I am 14 years old by the way

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Joe
      You’re right in that that’s what I think, because at your age you can’t buy one legally. Sorry!
      Ethan

  61. Mathaew says:

    I am a 21 year old, have been masturbating almost everyday since 2010.
    My face is full of pimples and acne and dark spots.
    Also have some spots on my back.
    Is masturbation the reason?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Mathaew
      No, it’s definitely no the reason. If you google acne you’ll find lots of good websites about it, none of which say masturbation is the reason.
      Ethan

  62. Lou says:

    Hi I been masturbating siting down, but the last three years I’ve been doing it laying on my back is this normal for a straight man like myself to do..I’m thinking of switching back to sitting less of a mess to clean up on my body and hands. Once you wash semen sperm off your hands body with soap and water is it gone for good?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Lou
      Yes it’s perfectly normal. Why don’t you try catching it in some toiler paper or tissue? And yes, it’s very gone.
      Ethan

  63. thomas says:

    To all males, masturbate as much as you like. Once a day is good . I have been doing this for years. As you get older take your time and enjoy your body. It is normal to enjoy your body it releases tension and stress. Do not be shy and schedule your time for a masturbation session as you see fit, daily if possibe. thinks of good thoughts as you go through the process, think about you wife, girlfriend and another man. I masturbate daily and I enjoy it very much. It is part of my routine, on the weekends i enjoy it more and give myself a longer period of time.
    Take care and always be safe.

  64. Brad says:

    I’m 48 and never have had sex. I masturbate a few times a week. I used to do it more than that but cut back because it just never felt good. I started when I was in grade 10. I don’t ejaculate much and I always feel exhausted after. It’s a chore and is not pleasurable. It doesn’t matter who or what I am thinking about, what kind of pictures I am looking at, or which hand I use. I’ve tried lubricants. Nothing makes any difference. I just feel like I’ve exerted a lot of energy for nothing. I feel attracted to women but they have never been attracted to me. I’ve never had a real date. I know something is wrong but I don’t know what it is. I was hit pretty hard in the balls in grade 9 by a large book that someone threw at me. It was sore for two days. Could that have done permanent damage?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Brad
      I’m not sure what it could be to be honest. Have you ever spoken to your doctor about it? Perhaps you have a lower testosterone level for example, something which they can test. I think most guys get hit in the balls when they are younger at some point or other though, so the chances are you recovered. But if you’re worried, there’s no harm in getting checked out. Perhaps though it’s just the way you are; some guys just don’t find sexual activity as stimulating as others. When you say it doesn’t feel good, do you mean physically, psychologically or both?
      Ethan

  65. Annon says:

    Hi Ethan
    When I get an erection it goes straight up, as in points towards my head.

  66. Cam says:

    Im a 15 year old virgin & I masterbuate usually 4 or 5 times a week is that normal or too much ? Another thing is when I masterbuate & I have an orgasm if I wait like 5 seconds I can just go right back to doing it & sometimes I don’t have to even wait 5 seconds sometimes I dont have to wait at all, what does that mean because I thought after an orgasm you can’t keep going anymore.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Cam
      That’s a normal amount, don’t worry. Well, some guys are able to keep going and it will probably be a useful skill if it stays that was when you’re older. But you might find that the time reduces as you get older, as that’s generally what happens. But for now, it’s nothing to worry about.
      Ethan

      • rick says:

        im 13 and thinking about having sex soon is that ok?
        or too early?

        • Ethan Green says:

          Too early rick.
          Do a google search like this: “legal age of consent in _____” and put your country in the space. That will tell you what age you can legally have sex.
          Ethan

          • Zack says:

            Hi Ethan-

            I enjoy masturbating very much, but I don’t do it too often because afterwards, my arm and legs are very sore. Is this normal?

            • Ethan Green says:

              Hi Zack
              That seems a little unusual. Are you tensing your muscles a lot when you do it? Try to relax and see if that helps.
              Ethan

      • Scott says:

        Hi Ethan
        I’m 17 and I masturbate about 2-3 times a day…
        i want to ask that does it causes pimples or acne????

      • Anonymous says:

        Hey ethan i have been having a lot of trouble with masturbaiting btw im 13 and also i speak bad engish because im icelandic

        1. When erect my penis goes to about 4 inches, When not erect it shrinks to like 1.7 so i can only see my fore skin is that normal having a penis that changes in size so fast in a short time

        2. I can only get erections that last when i am naked or moving around the floor on my hands and legs (Sry for getting weird)

        3. I cant fap to porn, only pictures is that. normal

        4. When i ejaculate i cant see white only weird slime

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi
          Don’t worry – your English is very good!
          1. Yes it’s normal for your age, and yes it’s normal that it can change size so quickly.
          2. Whatever works for you…
          3. Again, if that’s what you like.
          4. Well, a weird slime is probably a good description of semen to be honest!
          So, don’t worry.
          Ethan
          3.

      • plz answer this question says:

        I am probably sutupid but dont start laughing. I couldn’t figure out how to ask a question so I just hit reply to your first comment…

        My question is not completely on topic, but…

        Im 13yo and I’m wondering how I should first ask a girl out. And I mean from first meeting her. Also I was wondering if I am too young to ask a girl out, and last but not least how should I go about telling my parents that I want to ask her out.

        My life is not very social for a few reasons…

        1. I am homeschooled.
        2. I am introverted.
        3.I am not very interested in making new friends

        The girl I want to ask out is on my summer swim team so getting to know her well won’t be a problem.

        I am not sure how f she likes me or not but that does not really matter because (after many hours of reasearch)I found out that a relationship with a girl is rarely automatic,you have to build it all up from the ground. Which at first seemed bad but after a while I realized that I was not limited to girls who already like me,but includes any girl that I can spend a good amount of time with.

        Thanks for listening to me ramble on and on about a topic that you are not an expert in. I just couldn’t find another place with someone who would actually answer me.

        Again, thanks
        Your thoughtful friend Jack

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Jack
          Don’t worry about the comment placement, or the question or the rambling. It’s no problem at all!
          There are lots of different ways you can ask her out, but I think if you’re a bit shy, then there are two things you could do which take the pressure off having to say something like “will you go out with me?”:

          1. You just spend lots of time with her, and see how well you get on and how much she seems to enjoy spending time with you. At your age, it’s quite common to sort of end up being close without putting a name on it until maybe later. And you’re right in that she doesn’t have to like you straight away. You can get to know her, and let her gt to know you, and then just see how things go naturally, slowly and comfortably.

          2. You spend time with her, as above, but at some point you ask her to do something with you which is outside your normal realm, i.e. the swimming. And it doesn’t really matter what it is – you’re still young, so you don’t have to think of some amazing date idea. Just anything where the two of you can hang out, talk and have a laugh together which isn’t the swimming. You’ll probably be nervous, and she’ll probably see that, and so will know that you’re asking her out rather than to hang out as a friend. Girls are good with that kind of intuition! That way you don’t need to ask her to go out with you, you just ask her to do something with you.
          Those are just two ideas for you.
          Good luck and I hope it works out for you!
          Ethan

  67. Olly says:

    Hi Ethan, wonder if you can give me some advice.

    I am 23 years old, did have an active sex life, but now, just masturbate due to being single. I do use a realistic vagina, but when i either use that or my hand, i feel as though im going to cum a lot, i even get the feeling in my penis, but on ejaculation, i only get a small amount. I was wanking daily 2-4 times a day, esp when horny, but realised that may be why.

    So in the past few months, have only wanked off every other day and am still only getting a tiny amount of semen come out. I know it isnt related, but it is the same problem when i need a wee. I can be on the brink of not making it to the loo, and when i get my penis out, instead of having a consistant stream, i just dribble on and off. Its making me feel less of a man to be perfectly honest.

    Feel like ive asked to much now, but would like to know 1 last thing, my voice isnt as deep as my best mate’s. He has a very masculine voice, i dont. Although in an ironic twist, i have a quite hairy chest, he only has very few hairs in the middle and around his nipples.

    Can you give me any advice please? And sorry for making a long list. Thanks.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Olly,

      I would have said that the ejaculation issue was quite normal. The amount you produce can change dramatically according to how regularly you ejaculate. However, only dribbling when you pee might be a sign that a trip to the doctor is in order. They can give you some advice about that.
      In terms of comparing you and your mate, everyone is different. That’s just life! You’re very unlikely to ever have exactly the same tone of voice as he, just as he is unlikely to have the same hair count as you. Don’t worry about that. Just be proud of who you are and don’t compare yourself to others:-)
      Ethan

      • Manny says:

        Hi Olly, like Ethan said, the ejaculation would be normal, but the urination sounds like you need to be checked.

        I am a medical student, so i would not give you any proper advice, but you really need to see a doctor, as soon as you can just to be sure everything is fine.

    • GCF says:

      I had the same problem for a few days, but It went back to normal pretty fast.

  68. Ezra says:

    Hi so my problem is that when I masturbate the stuff that comes out is not sperm it is clear not white but it is sticky like snot any ways not whole lot comes out when I didn’t masturbate for 3 days and then masturbated a lot came out. Is this stuff because i Masturbate to much or is it bc I haven’t gone through puberty and am just starting to?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ezra
      That sounds normal to me, especially when you haven’t gone through puberty yet. Don’t worry about it.
      Ethan

  69. James Bond says:

    I’m 23 & i always have the urge to masturbate …
    It has been 8 years since i masturbate …
    I have been suffering from arithiritis..some where i read Masturbation causes Bone Illness..Does it???
    I cant control Mastubation..
    3-4 A week is it ok ???
    whats the problem in masturbating that causes Reproductive problems in men???
    Please Reply Soon
    Thanks..
    Your Well-wisher…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi 007,
      I don’t think masturbation causes bone illness, no. I do think it’s a healthy thing to do, just not in excess perhaps. 3 -4 times a week is absolutely fine. It’s difficult to control because it’s natural to do it!
      Ethan

  70. Prem says:

    hai Ethan

    i searched for fleshlights yesterday. i found so many varieties of fleshlights. different internal structures.some of them have vibrators.

    Ethan which one is more like a real vagina? if u have image pls give me a link to it. and what about vibrators. is it good?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there

      Ok, so you’re right – there are loads of different options, to the point where you can design your own online. The one I reccommded in my review is the stamina training unit because it comes with instructions for how to use it to last longer. But really, any of them will do the trick. I can’t tell you which is the most realistic because I haven’t tried all of them. But I would say that they’re probably all as good as each other, with a little variety here and there. So I would just choose the one which you most like the look of. And yes, the vibrator additions are amazing. I didn’t talk about them because I don’t want to try and promote something which is quite expensive if it’s not absolutely necessary. But if you want to maximize the pleasure, then by all means get the extra accessories.
      Ethan

  71. Boyofwords says:

    I am 13 i have a 6.5 inch penis other people say they are 2 to 4 inches am I normal

    • Ethan Green says:

      You have larger than average, but that’s probably a good thing so don’t worry about it!

    • Damian says:

      Hi Boyword
      Its normal to have a 6.5 inch penis so dont worry about it.one of my friends have a 3 to 4 inch while i have 6.4 and hes like 3 months apart from my age.

  72. Mr DJ says:

    Hi E I’m 19 and have a question about i’m uncircumcised and I read a article on Facebook about a guy that was uncircumcised and never had his fore skin role back of the head of this penis and had sex for the first time and had really bad pain and it was sensitive. I guess what I’m getting at is it norm to not have my fore skin to no roll back of the head when I try to roll it back the skin hurts like there not a Big enough opening if you know what I mean???? Please help as when I have sex for the first time I want to in joy it!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Mr DJ

      I think that by the age of 19 if your foreskin is still not peeling back over the top of the head of the penis, then it’s a good idea to talk to a doctor about it. I know it can seem embarrassing, but believe me they will have dealt with many, many similar cases. It’s important to get it checked out though at your age.
      Ethan

    • Shaun Kennedy says:

      Mr DJ. I’ve just had a circumcision 3 weeks ago and I got it done because I had the same problem as you. You will need to go to the doctor because you will have sex problems.

  73. balls deep says:

    Is is possible to make your hand feel like a real vagina?

  74. Parker says:

    Another way to masturbate (this is how I discovered it) is to turn your shower head onto a very powerful jet. Then get on your hands and feet, spreading you legs, with your belly facing the roof and have your erect penis flop forwards towards your belly button. Have the water hit the underside of your penis. It feels great and if you keep at it, giving your penis a squeeze every now and then, you will get an amazing ejaculation.

  75. JFK says:

    I’m 14 and I still can’t ejaculate is something wrong ???!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Some guys take longer than others to reach that stage of puberty. Give it time and it will happen.
      Ethan

    • Damian says:

      Hi
      nothings wrong but you probably didnt hit puberty yet just dont worry about it some get it later or earlier along age. i hit puberty when i was 10

  76. Godwin says:

    Is it normal if my penis is slightly curved. Is it normal if I used my left hand in masturbation?

  77. Prem says:

    Hai
    i’m prem. i real all your response. its great ethan. i have lots of doubts ethan

    1.is their any goodness or badness in stopping masturbation?(i mean reducing length or loss erection level anything)

    2.is masturbation cause memory loss?

    3.is masturbation by watching porn is good?(is porn cause any brain memory loss i read somewhere is that right?)

    4.any technique for ejaculation after long time of teasing?

    5. i’m 27 year old my penis is 5.6inc is it normal?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Prem

      1. I would say it’s better to masturbate than never. If you have regular sex, then it’s not so necessary, but many guys still do anyway.
      2. No!
      3. No it doesn’t cause memory loss! If you enjoy it, then it’s good.
      4. Yes, have a look around this website and you’ll see lots of advice about that.
      5. Yes it’s normal.
      Ethan

  78. Anonymous says:

    I’m 12 I have no arm pit hair but I have tons of hair on my pubes. Is that normal ? This year so many people have told me my voice has gotten a lot deeper from last year, but again not a trace of armpit hair. Also I masturbate and watch porn everyday so is it normal to have no armpit hair??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Guys go through puberty at different stages, and somtimes it takes longer for some things to develop than others. I wouldn’t worry about it for now. If you don’t have any armpit hair in a few years time, maybe question why. But I imagine it will pop up at some point in the next few years.
      Ethan

    • Jonathon says:

      It’s perfectly normal. I’m 14 and have lots of hair everywhere-armpits, groin, face, navel, nipples and legs. My brother, who is 16, has hardly any hair. You, being 12, have only just started puberty. You’re fine, so don’t worry.

    • Aries says:

      It’s okay, my armpit hair started to grow when i was 18.

  79. Nobody says:

    Hi Ethan
    Loved the article
    I’ve recently started letting water pour on my penis and i have learned that it works just like masturbation and I’m wondering if it will cause any harm in the future and if I should stop.
    Thanks

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Glad you liked the article! I can’t think of any reason why it would cause harm. Unless it’s extremely hot or cold water. But then I imagine you wouldn’t find it so enjoyable.
      Ethan

  80. ishan parmar says:

    mr.ethan,
    i am 17 years boy. i masturbate daily while i am bathing and have tried sex wid my partner many a times. is it safe to masturbate daily? and my partner sucks my cock constantly till i cum in her mouth. please help me out

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi ishan
      Yes it’s safe to masturbate daily. And oral sex which finished in an orgasm like that is perfectly normal. And to be honest, many guys would be very jealous because not all women are happy to do that!
      Ethan

  81. daniel says:

    sir iam masturbating since almost 8 years i am 20 now and i do this thing almost once a day sometimes twice or thrice but i dont know how to get rid of this habit as now im fed up. everything is OK the ejaculations e.t.c but it seems to me my dick size is slightly smaller please if you can help me control my habit.
    THANK YOU.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Daniel
      Sorry you feel that way about it and want to stop. To be honest, I’m not an expert in stopping it. I would say that it’s a matter of mind over matter, or rather mind over nature. If you think you’re doing it too much, then you have to take the decision to do it less, and then try to find the mental strength to stick with it when your body might be telling you otherwise. If you’re really concerned, there are websites which deal with sex addiction etc, but it’s not a topic I cover here. My personal opinion is that once or twice is perfectly normal, so not something which needs to be worried about. But if you don’t feel comfortable, then look online for some sites which deal with that.
      Ethan

  82. Yui says:

    Hello Ethan,
    I was wondering if it is normal to feel horny and turned on a lot in class I go to an ALL boys school but sometimes I just get an erection all of a sudden. I also enjoy wearing my sisters panties now and then, or trying on a bra. I know am straight but I can’t explain why I feel this way. I decided to ask you knowing that you are someone of experience.

    Thank you I hope to receive your reply soon.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Yui
      Yes it’s normal to feel horny in school in your teenage years, even in an all boys school. It’s just your hormones being very active during those years. It’s not a reflection of the sex of the people around you.
      I think that the other stuff is something quite a lot of teenagers end up experimenting with whilst they explore their developing sexuality. However, I would advise against using your family member’s underwear. It’s not really appropriate, and if she catches you it’s going to be very awkward! So try to stay away from doing that with her clothes.
      Ethan

  83. someone says:

    I’ve been masturbating since I was 12, and now I’m 15. When I was 12 I could ejaculate. And my pubic hair kicked in too. Is it normal to go through puberty this fast?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Guys go through it at different speeds. What you describe doesn’t sound unusual at all. Don’t worry about it.
      Ethan

  84. Depressed and misunderstood says:

    As stupid as it may sound, is there a way to masturbate where you won’t have the urge to do it for a long time? I want to quit (but I don’t)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Sorry to hear you feel that way about it. To be honest, I’m not sure I have any advice for this question! I don’t know of any particular techniques which will reduce the urge more than others. My question for you would be why do you find it so bad and want to quit?
      Ethan

  85. aries says:

    hi,
    I found this site very interesting.
    I’m 25 years old, i have been masturbating when i was 17 year old. I have premature ejaculation and i ejaculate less than 2 minutes, when engaging in sex or while masturbating. I ejaculate within 1-2 minutes while engaging in sex with my girlfriend. I feel embarrassed all the time when i have sex and afraid to have sex and find a new girl friend, after my breakup.
    I even stop masturbating due to this.
    please help me!!!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi aries
      I’m glad you found the site helpful. I can understand why you feel embarrassed, but the main thing is that you have recognized there’s a problem with your lasting time. That’s the most important step to take, and one which many guys ignore their whole lives.
      My advice is always to think about the natural techniques preferably. You can also use a desensitizing spray if you’re really in need of something to help immediately. But really, to deal with the problem on a permanent basis, you need to train yourself to last longer rather than use delay products every time. So my advice would be to invest in one of the good premature ejaculation books, read it and get started practicing the methods it suggests as soon as possible.
      Ethan

      • aries says:

        hello Ethan,

        Thanks Ethan,i need a permanent solution for PE, so i have purchased “The Ejaculation Trainer”(*shipment yet to be delivered). I have 2-3 year before my marriage. so i need to cure PE before my marriage.Can you help in:

        1.How to practice the technique using the book?
        2.which technique is good, better and easily practiced?
        3.How long these methods take to cure PE?

        For immediate action, ill use desensitizing spray. By using these spray,

        4.Does this have any side effect in long term use?
        5.Does it cause any problems using spray while practicing the methods?

        While masturbating consecutively , i ejaculate getting hard erection on 1st attempt and on 2nd attempt i ejaculate without a hard erection.

        6.so is it normal?
        7.or is it a problem?
        8.if problem, how do i over come it?

        9.If i have any sexual issues, what kind a doctor i have to consult, for medical attention?

        Thank you I hope to receive your reply soon.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi aries

          Wow, that’s a lot of questions! Ok, let’s see what I can do to help.

          Firstly, well done for choosing The Ejaculation Trainer – it’s a great book and helped me a huge amount. But to answer your first two questions, you only need to read the book. It will tell you everything very clearly you need to know. In terms of how long it will take, that’s impossible to say. But just stick with it, and hopefully you’ll see results quickly. But true mastery can take longer!

          For the sprays, I wouldn’t use them long term. It’s expensive and a pain to be honest. You can combine the spray and the methods in the book, yes. But lots of the methods are done alone, so you don’t need a spray.

          It’s normal to be harder when you masturbate the first time. If you wait longer in between times, it will be harder the second time too. It’s not a problem in itself, no.

          I would consult your normal doctor if you have any serious issues.

          Best of luck
          Ethan

          • Matthew porter says:

            Aries.
            If you haven’t already…its extremely normal to not please your new wife/gf the first time.
            Or maybe even the first three times.

  86. Tom says:

    Hi,

    I am male,26.
    Will the orgasm lead to blood clots in brain or some other part of body?
    I feel like the clots have formed after masturbation.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Tom
      I’ve never heard of that happening before!
      Ethan

      • Anonymous says:

        Hi..i found this side is very helpful for youth..i would like to know how many times can we do masturbate in a day, week or month..?? Whenever I do that i feel very weak..is there anything wrong?? please help..

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi
          Glad you found it helpful! Really, you can do it as often as you like. If you’re spending a lot of time each day, then perhaps it’s too much. But usually, just follow your instincts within reason.
          Ethan

  87. Annonymous says:

    Okay so this is awkward but this site actually answers 13 year olds. So yeah I’m 13.

    1)When my penis is erect its around 6 inches. Is this right?

    2)When I am not erect its only about 2 1/2. Is this right?

    3)And if you could, can you explain gay sex? As I am gay and to be honest don’t know anything about it apart from anal. Would be good to know

    Thanks :p

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there

      Don’t worry about it. I know these things can be awkward, but I answer anyone because I think it’s helpful!

      1) Yes it’s right.
      2) Yes again.
      3) That’s not really the topic of this website, and not something I think needs to be explained here. When you’re old enough to have sex, it will probably be similar to most people’s first experiences, whether it’s with a man or a woman – a journey of exploration, excitement, awkwardness and all sorts of other emotions and experiences. You just need to let nature take its course and your instinct will take care of it.

      Ethan

    • Anonymous says:

      I’m 13 and gay too!

    • Ryan says:

      I’m 13 and gay too!

  88. Andre says:

    Hey, I am 17 years old, I am about 5 feet and 5 inches tall but I am slim and my penis is about 6.6 inches when erect and girth about 4.6 inches. I masturbate about 2-3 times a week. I want to know if my penis will get any bigger as I grow older.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Andre
      It might get a little bigger, but I can’t tell you for definite. Anyway, that’s a perfectly good size, so don’t worry.
      Ethan

    • tom says:

      If u have a debit card and go on amazon u can easily get one make sure it’s delivered to the post office not ur house trust me u don’t want ur mom or dad knowing about that

  89. jack says:

    Hey Ethan I’m 14 with a 6.5 inch penis and i jerk off 1-2 times a day do you think I’m healthy?

  90. hateit says:

    hello editor, i am form India. I have been masturbating since i was 13 and now i am 20. due to masturbating i have become physically weak and my muscles are thin. I can not do any work of heavy weight. What should i do to be a normal man?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi hateit
      Sorry to hear you’ve had some physical problems. I find it unlikely that it’s due to masturbation. My advice would be to go to a doctor and get a check-up based purely on the fact that you’ve become physically weak. There may be something they can do to help. You don’t need to mention the masturbation.
      Ethan

  91. Thomas says:

    Hey, I am 13 and I Jack off 1-2 times a day and I wanna know if that is normal. Also, I get erections all the time in school when I look at other men (I’m sure I am gay) but in gym I have to think about other things to not get a hard on. Is there any ways i could try to prevent this? Also, i have found a good way for me at least to masturbate :
    1) Obviously, get hard
    2) Start slowly moving toward and back when laying on your stomach on your bed. Try and think about ejaculating ( I try to finish off in ~30min)
    3) After 5-10 minutes i use my right hand and go really fast, then switch to left but go slow and do more sensitive movements.
    4) Repeat till your done, but use the ejaculation as kinda a lube to get probably the best feeling on earth.
    5) Clean up
    Hope you get back to me soon,
    Thomas

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Thomas,

      Yes, that’s a normal amount of times to masturbate. As for your technique, if that’s what works for you then that’s fine.

      As for the gym issue, I guess it’s going to be a bit tricky whilst your hormones are so active, which they start to be at your age. Most teenagers find it difficult at times to control those spontaneous erections which happen at inconvenient times. I guess really you just have to keep trying to find something which helps distract you. Other than that, all I can think of is to make sure you masturbate before you have to be in those situations, i.e. in the morning. And try not to look at other guys in the gym. Even grown men have to keep their minds occupied when they’re in the gym sometimes! And try taking some slow deep breaths if it all gets too much.
      Regards
      Ethan

    • ? says:

      Tuck your erections in your wastband of the gym shorts and wear a longer baggier shirt to cover up the bulge.

  92. ?????????????? says:

    At what age do you recommend people to start masturbating?

    • Ethan Green says:

      It’s not really up to me to recommend an age. I also don’t think it’s necessary because it’s driven by natural instinct, not rules!

  93. Ryan says:

    Hi Ethan I’m 12 and I have a 5 inch penis is this normal 2.I jerk off about once a day is this enough 3.other guys at school touch each others penises sometimes on purpose should I do it to 4.other guys say they have 6 inch penises and that they can have sex any day is that right?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ryan
      1) Yes, that’s normal – don’t worry.
      2) That’s normal too.
      3) I think you’re too young. If you like guys, then it’s fine but not at your age.
      4) It might be right, but I assume they are several years older than you.
      Ethan

  94. loki says:

    Hi ethan,

    I’m 19 , and I masterbate 5 times everyday.
    Will it Show any affect in the long run ?
    If so how to control ?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Loki
      Personally I don’t think it will have any great effect. But it depends what you’re doing. I would spend longer each time and perhaps less frequently each day. But it’s a personal choice really – you’re not the only one doing it that many times.
      Ethan

  95. I says:

    hi ethan
    i think i have a sex/masturbation addiction. Is there something i can do?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi

      There are websites which deal with such worries. If you do a search online, you’ll find some. Just take them with a pinch of salt as some of them are a bit over the top in how bad they portray it, and I think unnecessarily so.
      Regards
      Ethan

  96. Sean says:

    I’m 29 & happily married, although I love making love to my wife, I’m extremely turned on by shemale porn. I’m very much heterosexual, but love watching and masturbating to it. I still jack off even though me and my wife had sex the night before. Our sex life is amazing, but I still love to masturbate while watching Transgender porn. Do you think this is wrong? I would never cheat on my wife but I feel bad watching this category of porn.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Sean

      Thanks for your comment, and it raised an interesting point. It’s not for me to tell you whether it’s wrong or not to watch. I guess ultimately it boils down to whether you enjoy it and feel comfortable with it. It’s not illegal, so it’s not wrong in that sense. I think the truth is that the vast majority of people have fantasies which are way beyond what they are likely to do with their partner. You could get into a whole philosophical discussion about the effects of denying yourself the things which some part of your body and mind desire.
      My view would be that if it’s something you enjoy and it’s not causing any harm to you, the people who made it, or your relationship then it’s not inherently wrong.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • flyingbuddha says:

        Hey man, i’m 15 and i just wanna know if it’s normal to masturbate for my age? Will it stunt my growth? Because now i’m pretty short man.Will it have any side effects? I’m worrying about this now….

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi flyingbuddha

          Great name by the way! Yes it’s perfectly normal, and no it won’t stunt your growth at all. And as long as you don’t do it too hard too often, there shouldn’t be any side effects.
          Ethan

      • Ben says:

        Hey Ethan,
        So my penis has been slightly bent for a while now and though it’s embarrassing I would like to know….
        1. How did this happen
        2. Will it affect my sexual behavior in any way
        3. How do I fix this
        please reply soon. THANK YOU!

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Ben
          Don’t worry about it – it’s normal to have a slightly curved or bent penis. Very few guys have them as straight as an arrow. It probably happened by just being your natural shape with no particular thing causing it. No it shouldn’t affect your sexual behavior as long as it’s not bent at a large angle.
          Ethan

    • Chris says:

      Hey Sean not to seem weird but I do too and I have no clue why it turns me on. don’t feel alone I’m 32 been married for 11 years, 3 sons never touched them or any other off the wall shit. I am relived to hear that I am not the only one who does that. I think this has been going on for like 5 or 6 years. I guess the raunchiest porn from my past just wasn’t enough. At least now I know that if my viewing pleasures escalates to something worse then ill start seeking psychological help.

  97. alson says:

    hey,
    I’m 18 but i had sex once this year, but i took more than 30 minutes without anything and my gf was sad with this, my friends said it was because i drunk beer, so i wanted to know if there is any relationship between beer intake and the length of ejaculation. please help!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi alson

      Yes, alcohol can have a big impact on your sexual performance. It’s a tricky one though, because just the right amount can help some guys last longer. But too much and it can reduce the quality of your erection.
      Why was she sad about 30 minutes?
      Ethan

      • Anonymous says:

        Lol i think he meant 30 seconds!!! πŸ˜‚

        • Ethan Green says:

          Maybe, but I think he did mean 30 mins and for some reason his girlfriend thought it was too long.

          • Matthew porter says:

            I’m 31, my wife and I have been together since I was 16. If it takes her longer than 10 minutes to please me, she feels bad. Like, she’s not good enough, wet enough, hot enough, tight enough.
            If it takes me longer than 8 minutes to please her, I’m upset wondering why she decided to have sex if she wasn’t already horny. Js.

            • Ethan Green says:

              Hi Matthew
              I don’t think you should be upset if it takes longer than 8 minutes to please her. Most women need longer than 8 minutes to reach orgasm, so it’s perfectly normal. And feeling horny doesn’t mean you’ll finish quickly – feeling horny can be a mental thing, a physical thing which can take time to then get to the point of climax, or generally both physical and mental. Neither of you need to worry in my opinion.
              Ethan

  98. josh says:

    hey ethan,
    im 14 and i get hard all throughout the day will this ever stop?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Josh
      Yes, it probably will stop, but it might take a while yet! It’s very normal for adolescents to get spontaneous erections at times when they might not want them. Don’t stress about it, it’s a natural part of growing up, even if it can be inconvenient at times.
      Ethan

      • jaykey says:

        hey Ethan..

        Im 17, my penis is so sensitive when touched or bump on surfaces or seeing some sexy scenes on tv or imagining people around me (feels like I’m an addict).
        It takes a long time for me to stop erecting even if I tried controlling myself. I don’t know what to do when I’m in public but to control myself. Do u have some other idea for this ?

        I masturbate 2-3 a week .. it takes me less/more than 1 min to cum. and I feel like i’m going to pee after it.

        I read your article about on how to last longer. find it very helpful and pleasurable.

        thank you hoping for your reply.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Jaykey

          Lots of guys have trouble with spontaneous erections, especially in teenage years. Your body has a mind of its own it seems and it can be embarrassing to be suddenly stuck in public waiting for it to calm down. The best advice really is to think about something which is not exciting at all, and also do some slow, deep breathing.

          I’m glad you’ve found some useful advice about lasting longer, keep practicing the techniques and things should improve.

          Ethan

  99. Erik says:

    Hey, i’m 13, and I masturbate once a day with lotion, but I never ejaculate. Is this because I haven’t gone through the stage where the sperm starts forming and if I am should I stop masturbating until I start having wet dreams? Thanks.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Erik
      It’s probably due to where you’re at in the puberty journey, yes. But I don’t think you need to stop until then.
      Ethan

      • Erik says:

        Thanks, but I think that I actually have stopped myself and surprisingly enough, school helped. I have a weird thing where I feel like masturbating at 3:00 PM but i’m in school, and by the time I get home I don’t really feel like doing it anymore, but thanks anyways. πŸ˜€

  100. rocky says:

    HI Ethan.
    Im 16 years old and already tried having sex. Do you think its just fine although im younger than the her but we both enjoyed?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Rocky
      It really depends on where you are. My advice is always to check the age of consent in your country and/or state. The legal age changes from country to country, and if you’re in the US different states have different laws. If you google it, you’ll find out. And if she’s a lot older than you, that also a factor to take into account. How old is she?
      Regards
      Ethan

  101. Stan says:

    Hey man so I’m 14, I masturbate around once or twice every few days, but I have never ejaculated. I’m hoping that this is just because I have not hit puberty yet or something as I am still pretty short, but I’m getting a bit worried. Should I be?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Stan

      Puberty is a process which can take a long time, not just an overnight thing. So at your age I’d say there’s no need to worry at the moment. It will probably happen in due time.
      Regards
      Ethan

  102. jhunnie says:

    hi ethan…
    Im 16.
    i just want to know what is the proper time of having a masturbation..thank you in advance…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi jhunnie
      Well, the best answer I can think of is to do it when you feel the desire, and are unlikely to be disturbed!
      Regards
      Ethan

  103. Anonymous says:

    when i have sex my penis does not erect properly can u tell why

  104. Liam says:

    Hey guys. I wanted to know if any of you have done step number 6.

    • Jonny says:

      Ummm, yeah πŸ˜‰ I have used the handle of an extra large screwdriver while in the shower. If I rock back and forth on it, I can almost cum using that alone. It makes for a long shower though.

    • eric says:

      yes liam i have and its not pleasant

    • Anonymous says:

      It takes a pretty good amount of slow practice, as well as depth and pressure evaluations for it to just become a fluent technique of pleasure.

      I suggest staging in the shower the first few times, as you’re going to want to vacate your bowels prior. *TIP- in my experience, using the restroom obviously clears the majority, but almost never cleans out entirely. Being in the shower gives immediate rinsing without ruining what progress you might have made up to that point. ***read up about a light\non-irritating anal douche. I started with lukewarm tap water, and it wasn’t very agitating unless too much water was induced before flushing.

      The tips for this go on & on ad it’s a pretty cautious area to explore for most men. Good luck

  105. Anonymous says:

    Hey I’m 16 and I masturbate on a regular basis. I saw in one of the comments about frenulum, and was wondering if it affects anything because I tore/ripped it when I was pretty young as I started at a very young age.
    Plz reply

  106. Samuel says:

    Hi Ethan, I’m 15 and I like to masturbate with my toothbrush (the handle) is it normal to like this?

    2. I was wondering what lube to use I accidentally used conditioner once and is it harmful?

    3. I know there are not any real ways to make your penis bigger but what are some of the ways to last longer

    4. Are there any ways to make a fake vagina? And if so could you tell me that would be awesome.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Samuel

      1) It depends what you do with the toothbrush! I don’t think you’re the only one to use it. I’d get a new one for dental hygiene though!

      2) If you read through the comments you’ll see lots of ideas. The accidental use of conditioner is unlikely to cause any harm.

      3) Have a look around this site. It’s full of information about lasting longer.

      4) There are, but I don’t talk about them on this site because I think if a job’s worth doing, it’s worth doing properly. And no fake one gets close to the feel of a properly made one.

      Regards
      Ethan

  107. Ken says:

    Get a woman to whack that bad boy. While you rub her shoulders, titty Fuck her for a while then peterslap her, then whack it and give her the ol’ pearl necklace. Film it. It’s all good ?

  108. Prem says:

    Hi ethan
    what will be the normal time for a girl to attain orgasm?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Prem

      There is no normal time. Some women don’t take long, most take a good amount of time and probably need a good amount of foreplay and for you to do the right movements in the right way in the right position.
      It’s not something which can be predicted. The best advice I think you can ever get on this topic is to talk to the woman you’re with and ask her what she needs to have orgasms. She’s the only one who can tell you.
      Communication is key for a good sex life for both partners.
      Ethan

  109. anonymous says:

    Hey Ethan,

    I’m 16 and i was wondering how long you think i should that i know the article said 20 to 30 but idk if i’ll last that long. Does the stop and go method work quickly or is it more long term process?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Don’t worry if it’s too long at the moment. You can slowly increase your time until you last longer. The method takes time to help you, but is very effective.
      Ethan

  110. chasbuck says:

    Hi Ethan,

    Interesting and honest site. Great.

    I am slim and can easily bend my body and found several years back that I could suck my own penis which I enjoy doing. I have a girlfriend and we enjoy safe sex and recently she asked me if I wanted her to give me head. I agreed and it was fine but not as good as when I do it to myself as I can control it and it is difficult telling her how to do it without revealing I suck myself off occasionally.

    Realise not all guys are that flexible they can do it to themselves but it is a good reason to lose weight as the joys of self sucking are worth the effort.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi chasbuck

      That’s actually a really interesting concept. I think it’s similar with hand-jobs – it’s not easy for a woman to do it the way guys like it because they don’t know what it feels like, and of course we are serious experts. But you can still educate them, and in fact they like to be taught how to do it well. You don’t need to reveal where your inside knowledge comes from. Just tell her what feels good when she does it, and what doesn’t. Tell her in the moment what works and what doesn’t. You don’t need to sit her down for a chat based on your fantastic 4 super power!
      Ethan

      • chasbuck says:

        Thanks Nathan a good tip.

        I can see my self as a sex Master training her!

        ” Oh darling that’s wonderful, have always dreamed of having that done to me, your the best”

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Chasbuck

          If you hear those words one day from a woman, then you’ll be a lucky man – and make sure you hang on to her!

          Ethan

  111. A anymore says:

    Hi ethan
    I’m 13 and have a few questions since no other site responds to 13 year olds. For starters just it normal to have a four inch penis or is it something I need to worry about? Also when I masturbate I feel bad like it’s not normal is that right? Finally I’d like to know if using water as lube is ok. Pls respond Thx for the tips!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Your penis will probably keeping growing over the next few years. Lots of adolescents feel bad when they start. It’s not bad though, and very normal. But that’s for you to come to terms with in your own time. Water is fine, but isn’t going to work that well.
      Ethan

      • Me says:

        is 7inch for 13 y/o big or small?

        • Ethan Green says:

          Big

          • PickleBoy says:

            Hey I’m 15 and I’m 3 inches is this bad?

            • Ethan Green says:

              If unerect, that’s quite normal. If you mean when erect, then it would be considered short, but you may still grow in the coming years.
              Ethan

          • Alex says:

            Is I’m 14 and my penis is 8 inches I’m getting worried it won’t stop growing. Can I stop it ?

            • Ethan Green says:

              Hi Alex
              No you can’t stop it, but don’t worry it will definitely stop on its own. Anyway, there are women who will be very happy to be with a guy with that size penis, so when you’re old enough to have sex you’ll be fine. Don’t worry about it!
              Ethan

          • Ell says:

            Hi Im 13 and masturbate 5 times a week i have developed small lumps / a rash looking thing on my undershaft and balls, will this affect my future sexual performance? or anything like that – and if i need to see a doctor how will i tell my parents?? p.s i dont masturbate with lube.

            • Ethan Green says:

              Hi Ell
              I don’t want to worry you, but my personal opinion is that if you have any kinds of lumps in your groin, then you should definitely see a doctor. Even if it’s nothing serious and can be easily treated, it’ll be good for your own mind to know that you’re ok.
              In terms of telling your parents, well I guess you have 2 options. You could just tell them you have a problem down there and want to get seen, but don’t want to be specific about it. Or you could tell them it’s something else in your body, then ask to see the doctor on your own and tell them what it really is when you see them. I know it can be embarrassing to tell your parents about stuff like this, but trust me, no matter how serious they might seem, they will know and understand how important it is to feel ok where these things are concerned. I would just tell them I have a rash downstairs and want to see the doctor on my own.
              Ethan

              • Matthew porter says:

                I see all these concerns about size. The best answer I ever got to my concerns was. “Is it big enough to give you pleasure?” My answer was obviously yes.
                Then told, “then $Β£%& her!”
                Then an award silence while I tried to figure out if they meant literally, or metaphorically.
                Learned that it didn’t matter. lol
                Most women climax from clit stimulation anyway.
                If they can please themselves, without ever going inside. Then why care what size you are at all???
                “&%*$ ‘er”!:-)

          • Me says:

            Sweeet, Thanks

            • Ethan Green says:

              no problem!

              • B says:

                Hi Ethan!
                I’m very very insecure about the size of my penis. I’m 19 years old, 5’6″ tall and my penis is barely 5 inches erect. I rarely masturbate due to my insecurity. Is this very short? And will my penis grow or is it done growing due to my age?

                • Ethan Green says:

                  Hi B
                  It’s not that short at all. It may grow a bit more in the next couple of years, so don’t worry about it. Anyway, you should feel proud of who you are and your body. Try not to worry about it, and enjoy yourself!
                  Ethan

    • chasbuck says:

      Having a small penis is not detrimental to your future sexuality with women. Giving a women satisfaction comes about when you ensure you arouse her with foreplay only then do you usually enter her and have sex. I have a small penis and it has never stood in my way and my partners/wife and I always enjoy sex to the full and I have never had any complaints. Of course a big penis is probably OK if you want to show it off in say a communal shower, never been my aim and in any event there is a true saying “from small acorns big Oak trees grow”. Do not worry about it and enjoy masturbation.

    • Anonymous says:

      Yes it is ok to use water

  112. Anonymous says:

    Depending on your sense of humour this will either be really funny or really weird: I have a half-amputated finger and I’ve found that putting a condom over it and putting it in the bus while going at it is not a bad feeling.

    Also, sometimes I here off into soft smooth blankets and it feels 100 times better than just the hand.

    PS. Great article

  113. dfm says:

    Hey, great article, i masturbate a lot (every day) and i want to stop, how can i stop?; also i’m cumming faster than before, how can i stay longer?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi dfm
      With self-control. You’re the only person who decided how often to or not, though your hormones and natural drive can make it tricky to resist when growing up. In terms of lasting longer, I believe you just need to read this site in more depth.
      Ethan

  114. Athlete says:

    Hi
    Is it true that people with short penis run faster ?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Er…only if compared with someone with a penis which is so ridiculously big the extra weight makes it hard for them to run fast. Oh, and that doesn’t exist haha

  115. Newkidguy says:

    Hi,

    I have been enjoying my masturbates lately, I have gained a little weight and my stomach bloats/feeling fat. Is this because I am sexually satisfied?

    Coz normally i see that married men have their stomach coming out.

  116. John says:

    Hey Ethan I was wondering your opinion on something.
    I’m 13 and some mate from my high school & I created a chat (2 girls 2 guys) to ask about anything we would like to know sexually. We also play a question game where we ask questions to each other in a order and answer truthfully sometimes they’re dirtier questions eg. “Would you rather Oral or Anal” other times they’re informative “What would you like your man to dress in first date”. We’re very open and it has made us better friends in my opinion. That was until one of the girls parents went through her phone and found it and she got in trouble. What’s your opinion thanks John (ps all participants are 13/14)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi John

      Ahhh the perils of modern technology! I very much doubt you’re the only kids doing this, and that she’s the only one who has had an awkward conversation with her parents.
      To be honest, it’s not really my place to advise you on this kind of thing. It’s going into territory which is pretty far from the topic of this website.
      However, what I would say is that I think it’s normal for adolescents to talk about sex. And if you’re learning from it in a harmless way, then that would seem OK to me. Where the danger lies is in if things actually happen in real life, when you’re all under-age. So my advice would be to be prepared to say no if any of your friends ask you to do stuff for real until you reach the legal age of consent.
      Ethan

    • Drake says:

      Hey, I’m 16 and started masturbating a few weeks ago.
      I rarely last long even after trying, could you give me some tips keeping in mind that i dont get much free time.
      Further, ever since I started masturbating, my penis head get exposed too quickly and it is too sensitive down there, is that natural? Either way how do i control it?
      Are there any day to day objects that can be used as a lube? I generally use moisturizer, is it okay to use?

      Good article, thanks for the help.

      • Ethan Green says:

        Hi Drake

        I’m glad you enjoyed the article. There are plenty of tips on this website for lasting longer – you just need to look around. It’s normal for the penis head to feel sensitive. If it’s painful, then try touching it more softly. But if it’s literally painful to touch, then maybe talk to your doctor about it. Moisturizer can be ok, just don’t get it on the head because it can react badly to the chemicals.
        Ethan

  117. Anonymous says:

    Is it weird to like feet?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Not really. If you google ‘foot fetish’ you’ll see about millions of webpages mention it.

    • AKSHAT says:

      Hi Ethan !
      Really looking loved your article…
      I wanted to know that does masturbating decreases your stamina…
      My friend told me that a guy masturbated 42 times a day and died… Is this possible? Also is it good to masturbate everyday at my age(14)…
      Thnx!

      • Ethan Green says:

        Hi Akshat

        Glad you liked the article. I think it can only decrease you sexual stamina if you do it too quickly all the time. You learn to ejaculate quickly if you don’t take your time.
        I think the only way you would die would either be from not having time to eat or from boredom. I think your friend was messing with you.
        It’s normal to masturbate every day.
        Ethan

  118. Anonymous says:

    I am 18 and I just started to get rid of erections. I get hard over 13 times a day and since I started masturbating I feel so sensitive down there. I have a lot of female friends and they love to hug me, is it normal to feel scared of cumming when they hug me?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      I think it’s a fear many guys have, especially if they are quite sensitive or tend to suffer from premature ejaculation. Try not to worry about it too much though. If it’s not happening already when they hug you, then it probably won’t happen.
      Ethan

  119. Raghava says:

    Hi Ethan Green,

    Im 25 (guy), I masturbate once in 2-3 days after watching porn.
    My question here is :-
    1. I use hand to masturbate, sometimes i cum after 10-15 min, sometimes i do a quickie for just 1-2 min. Is it good to do a quickie coz i believe when i am having real sex i need to sustain long enough. Sometimes i feel if i do a quickie i feel the practice for 10-15 min will go waste.

    2. I mostly watch lesbian porn, is it normal ? Secondly, here is the most interesting pointer that i got from lesbian porns -> “I see that the woman used only fingers and mouth for other woman’s orgasm”. Which means that she does not need penis for orgasm alone. So, if we make her cum 2-3 times with finger and mouth and once with penis then she will not feel that my penis is not lasting long because she should be able to cum more with use of my fingers. Whats your comment on this ?

    3. Frankly speaking i have been a very good, traditional and well mannered boy without any bad habits. Lately, since 3 months i find all the girls attractive. But i fear about the mistake i may do i.e , someday i will go to a girl rip her cloths apart and have sex with her. Up till today i am able to control, since my sexual desires are growing more and more day by day i feel i may make the inevitable mistake which i mentioned. Please let me know what is happening with me and what i should do now?

    Looking forward for reply to the 3 queries.
    Again sorry for the trouble, i had to draft lengthy questions.

    Thanks in advance.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Raghava,

      Ok, here are my thoughts on your points:

      1) I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a quickie from time to time. But it’s better to try and last longer when you masturbate I think.

      2) Many guys like lesbian videos and there’s nothing wrong with that. And of course they generally use fingers and mouth, though of course sometimes use toys. But I don’t think it’s possible to plan to make a woman orgasm 2-3 times during foreplay before sex. They either might not find it so easy to orgasm that way or might simply just want to have sex rather than spending so long on foreplay. And in any case, you need to let things take their natural course without planning so much.

      3) Er…I truly hope you don’t mean just go up to a random girl and do that! If you have a partner, and you’re already sexually active, then she might like it if you rip her clothes off in a passionate moment. But anyone else is likely to kick you in the balls and try to scratch your eyeballs out if you try and do that to them.
      What’s happening to you is probably just feeling very horny a lot of the time. But you need to learn to control that, and just date girls like normal – assuming you can in your culture.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • Raghava says:

        Hi Ethan,

        I’m amazed that you reply to all the queries. Great article!!! One more question :-

        Do girls watch porn ? Do they masturbate daily in reality ?
        If they do so, then why they never take initiative during/for sex ?

        Regards
        Raghava

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi
          Thanks! Yes they do, though not all. Like men, the frequency of masturbation varies from woman to woman. And some do take the initiative. You obviously just haven’t met any yet!
          Ethan

  120. Jakob says:

    Hi I’m 13 and I don’t know am I to young to masturbate or what does it make me a bad person? I also don’t really know what a orgasm feels like and I don’t think I am getting one plz help!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jakob

      It’s a very normal age to start masturbating, and totally natural. No, it doesn’t make you a bad person. And when you have an orgasm, you will know about it!
      Ethan

      • Liam scott says:

        Hey ethan i still have my foreskin and its hard to masturbate what do i do

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Liam

          In what way is it hard to do exactly? Can you be more specific? Having a foreskin or not in itself isn’t important in being able to masturbate.
          Ethan

  121. Anonymous says:

    Hi I’m 19 and want to have sex with someone whom I like but she is older and I don’t know whether she will accept my request. How Should I ask her and express my view ? And BTW your article was great and very useful too! Ty Ethan!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      I’m glad you liked the article. Have you even kissed this girl yet? Are you dating, or have you had any contact at all? What you do depends very much on what stage you’re at.
      Ethan

  122. anon says:

    Yo, is it normal for my cum to have different textures??? For example. When I masterbate for 3 times in a row the first time it comes out stringy and jelly like. The second and third time it comes out as a total liquid

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Yes, that can happen, so don’t worry about it. Look it up on some medical websites if you’re really worried about it and you’ll get more clarification.
      Ethan

  123. Harrison says:

    Hi Ethan,
    Can you give your your opinion on which time is the perfect time to masturbate and how many times can I do it in a day ?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Harrison,

      Here’s an equation for you:

      Perfect time = the time you feel like it + the time nobody is going to walk in on you doing it

      As for how many time – well, anything from 0 to 3 is quite common depending on your age. Upwards of that and maybe it’s getting excessive.

      Ethan

  124. Michelangelo says:

    Hi Ethan, can I know what is the maximum times to masturbate in a day ? Cause people told me that if we masturbate too much can cause me to be barren and I don’t want it to happen. So what is your opinion?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Michelangelo,
      No, masturbation can’t make you barren. Obviously if you ejaculate several times a day, the sperm count will likely be less each time. But it recovers quickly and there is no known long-term harm.
      Ethan

  125. thekman says:

    I quit porn a few weeks ago. I am trying to masturbate without it and it doesn’t work (not feeling pleasure until orgasm). I cum a lot when i orgasm and stay hard for another 5 minutes or so before i get soft again, and i don’t touch it during this time. Is this normal? When i watched porn i ejaculated a lot faster and took a lot of pleasure in the 15 mins or so i stayed hard. Do you think I should start my porn back up?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi thekman

      Some guys do stay hard longer even after they orgasm, especially when younger. My personal opinion is that it’s good to be able to stimulate yourself using just your imagination as well. I think it’s important not to become dependent on videos etc, as real life doesn’t always reflect the stuff you watch. So it’s good to be able to do both I think.

      Ethan

  126. German man says:

    Amazing article.
    I’m 15 and have recently not been able to cum.
    What I mean is when I’m masturbating, I’m watching porn. I use lotion. I get an erection and I feel a sensation and suddenly go limp. Am I okay? should I see a doctor? (I have been able to successfully masturbate before. this just recently started happening.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Thanks, I’m glad you enjoyed it.
      Some guys do have dry orgasms from time to time. But if you’re not ejaculating at all, having been able to do so, then I think perhaps it’s a good idea to talk to your doctor, just to be one the safe side.
      Regards
      Ethan

  127. BleepBlop says:

    Hi Ethan. Im 15 and have 6 inch penis. im pretty worried that someone is going to think it is small or something like that. In just wondering, is that average size or smaller?

  128. jhonny says:

    I am 31 years old and today is my suhaag raat . what shall i do to get my wife interested in becoming fully nude and touching my penis

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi jhonny
      To be honest I don’t know a lot about Hindu marriage customs, so can’t really comment on what may or may not happen. But hopefully she won’t need to be made to be interested, and will be happy to go on that important and intimate journey with you. My advice would be the same as any couple who first have sex – take it slowly, make sure you’re both comfortable with what’s happening, and allow things to take their natural course as the connection between you hopefully does the work.
      Good luck and enjoy!
      Ethan

      • lil master says:

        Hi Ethan
        My friends say that masturbating decreases your stamina….. Is this true… And are there any harms of masturbating….
        Thank you !

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Lil
          What are they referring to? Stamina when running, or stamina when having sex? And no, there are no harmful effects unless you become addicted to it and it interferes with your normal life because of the time you spend doing it.
          Ethan

      • zach says:

        hi I’m Zach how come every time I ejaculate I have to wait before starting to masturbate before doing it again or it will like burn?

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Zach

          It’s called the refractory period and it’s normal to have to wait in between orgasms. The time usually gets longer as you get older, unfortunately!
          Ethan

  129. 12Geckos says:

    I’m 14 And I would like to stop masturbating because it makes me feel bad for some reason like I’m dirty and shouldn’t be doing it, but I find its too hard to try to just stop for like as long as I can go without ( which is like a week )

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi 12Geckos
      I don’t think you’re alone in feeling bad when masturbating. That happens to many adolescents, and more so if your culture has a strong opinion about doing it or not. The problem is though, it’s very natural and driven by basic human needs and desires. So resisting it is tricky. There are some websites which offer to help stop doing it. If you look online you’ll find them. But personally I think that’s unnecessary unless you have a serious addiction to it and it’s interfering with your normal life.
      You have to find your own way and do what you’re comfortably doing. Maybe if you search online for information about the biology of masturbation and why we do it, you’ll find other articles which can help you come to terms with it being normal.
      Regards
      Ethan

  130. ashwin says:

    Does masturbation leads to muscle loss? because that when i masturbate after I cum I feel my hands somewhat weaker.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ashwin
      No it doesn’t. It can lead to either tiredness or relaxation, or both though. That’s probably what you’re experiencing. That and the effects of the release of chemicals in your brain in response to climax.
      Ethan

  131. sam says:

    Hi ethan…i started masturbating with 2 hands and doing it ever since..but i cant come with masturbating with one hand..is it normal?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi sam
      I think most guys can probably do it with one hand. But if that’s what you’re used to and enjoy, then there’s nothing wrong with it. Maybe if you practice with one hand you’ll get it eventually.
      Ethan

  132. kartik says:

    Hey…ethan….i am 16 and i have a problem that my penis’s foreskin dont reveal completely…it reveals a little only…is it a matter to concern??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Kartik
      It really depends what you mean by reveal a little. It’s only supposed to go back to the base of the penis head, no further! If it still doesn’t do that, then I would ask your doctor to check it for you.
      Ethan

  133. gavrau says:

    Hi
    How can I make make my dick longer in one week I had got challenge from one my friend plzzz help with out pills with hands plzz help.

  134. Anonymous says:

    Hi ethan i can put my dick in my mouth and then suck it little more than half and enjoy it as any girl is sucking it …i am 17 yrs old and starting masturbating from 12 yrs…so is it exceptional or normal

    • Ethan Green says:

      It’s definitely exceptional. I’m sure there will be many readers who see your comment and wish they could do the same!

      • Anonymous says:

        Hello Ethan! Great article, first time reading through I thought this was extremely well put forward along with the techniques and advice you gave. My name is Dominic, and I am currently 15 years old. I’ve got a small problem (both literally and figuratively, in my mind, haha) I currently have a 2.5 inch penis when non erect and about a 3.5 to 4 inch penis when erect. Just wondering if this is normal or not because you seem to know what your talking about, and I have heard a lot of different answers from different people and they haven’t been very convincing at all. I masturbate about 3 to 4 times a week, and have gotten myself to last about 8 to 10 minutes on a good day, but not all the time. Haven’t tried these techniques yet, and I definitely will because they seem like they will work after looking at some of the feedback that has been posted. Also I am worried about my size because I have worries that I will be a disappointment to a girl I meet later in my life that wants to have sex, and as you might know, in this world at this time people can be pretty judgemental. Don’t have the best self confidence when it comes to my sex life and size, so reassurance is always pretty much needed for me haha. Thank you for a reply and again, absolutely amazing article you put forward. Best regards, Dominic

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Dominic
          Thanks for your comment and for the compliments – I’m glad you enjoyed the article.
          I understand your worries about the future, and I think it’s normal for a lot of guys to worry about these things. Concerning your size, it’s unlikely that you’ve reached the max yet, so really again I wouldn’t worry about it for another couple of years. You just need to wait and see what happens as you keep growing naturally.
          As they say, keep calm and carry on:-)
          Regards
          Ethan

  135. Ulysses Vasquez says:

    Hi, I have 2 questions. I’ve been masturbrating for about 2 years now. I’m 15 almost 16 and I’m not circumcised yet. Is that normal? And is it okay to have sex or get blow jobs even though I’m not circumcised?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Not everyone gets circumcised! Depending on your culture, religion and health, it may never be necessary. And yes, many men have sex and aren’t circumcised. The only problem in your case is the legal age of consent depending on your country.
      Ethan

  136. John says:

    Hey Ethan-
    Thanks for this guide, it’s amazing. I can now last about 20-30 minutes, compared to previous 2-3. Thank you..

  137. savage says:

    Hi, I’m 17 and I masturbate daily, my penis size is 4 inches with a girth of 3 and a half, is this normal? Does my penis size correlate to how often I masturbate? Also, is there any advice or links you can share on new masturbation techniques?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi savage
      4 inches is a bit shorter than normal when erect, but you may find it’s still growing. It doesn’t correlate to masturbation, no. You can masturbate as often as you like. Just maybe don’t spend hours a day doing it. No, sorry. You’ll have to search yourself!
      Ethan

  138. Y2J Fan says:

    Is it ok to use vaseline as lube when masturbating

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Lots of guys do use vaseline. I just wouldn’t get too much on your penis head if you’re going to use it. And don’t use it all time time either. Try without lube sometimes.
      Ethan

  139. jj boy says:

    I ) using of soap to masturbate is it a bad thing
    2) can u use cream also to masturbate and is it a bad thing
    3) i am also sixteen years of age has my penis stopped growing or will it continue

    • Ethan Green says:

      1) Not necessarily, but I wouldn’t use it on the penis head at least
      2) Depends on the cream
      3) There’s no way of knowing until more time has passed.

    • Anonymous says:

      Soap can temporarily damage your penis skin as it will make your skin dry and non-elastic

  140. umywasmycommentremoved says:

    Right, so I posted a comment before and idk what happened but its not here anymore, well anyway is there any way I can contact you, Ethan?

    • Ethan Green says:

      I don’t publish every comment posted here. If I think it’s excessively disturbing, of which there are many on a weekly basis, I don’t post it. And if it’s repetition of something several people have commented about in a row, I might not post it either.
      You can use the contact me page.
      Ethan

  141. vardans says:

    Hi Ethan . thing is i want to grow my penis longer any solutions right now its 6 inch longer i want still long my girlfriend want longer one plz help me

  142. jakky says:

    I’m suffering from premature ejaculation. How can i increase my ejaculation time?

  143. john brad says:

    Hi Ethan, thanks for the great article.
    Can I use oil as a lubricant [like hair oil( mostly coconut oil)]. I tried for twice which felt much better than normal bare hands. But are there any problems with it?
    Thanks you.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi John
      Thanks, glad you enjoyed it. My line is always that it’s best to avoid things full of chemicals as it can cause a reaction in you penis head. And hair oil probably isn’t the best choice of lubricant.
      Ethan

    • Anonymous says:

      I had tried hair oil and edible oil. No problem at all.

  144. Answer says:

    im 15 years old when i masturbate i fell lazy the next day and when i try to run my stamina is deducted by half. After 2 days i feel fine and my stamina comes back , is it because of masturbation ? I used to do it every day since i was 12 but 3 months ago i saw its harm full effect and now i do it 2-3 times a week.How often should i masturbate ? will it effect my health if done in excessive amount ? will it effect my height growth ? should i stop doing it ? my height is 5.11 (feet.inches)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      I’m not sure that you’ve drawn the right conclusion here. As far as I know, masturbation doesn’t effect your energy levels the next day. Sure, if you feel horny a lot, and you masturbate, you might feel less of a ‘buzz’ in your body. But that’s not the same as it reducing your stamina. And no, it won’t effect your height or your health. Just do it in moderation, like everything else in life.
      Ethan

  145. Zoras says:

    Hey, just wanted to say I found this article very informative and I will definitely be using this knowledge to my advantage in the future.
    Currently I just use my hand and some porn and finally decided it’s time to try things a little differently for a change. I’ve been experimenting with different types of porn recently and I thought I should change up my technique to match haha.

  146. John says:

    Hi
    I’m 21.. If i pull my penis skin backward i am not able to masturbate… If the skin fully covers my penis it is easy to masturbate….so when i pull back ..i’m not getting any mood and i’m not able to masturbate…so if i have sex with someone.. Whether the sperm will come out? Or not?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi John
      Without lubricant it can feel a bit tight and uncomfortable with the skin pulled back. Many guys masturbate with the skin forward, so don’t worry about it. It’s totally normal! And yes, sperm will come out when you have sex.
      Ethan

  147. shubham kumar says:

    I’m 18. Yrs old I masturbate 4-5 times a week, but what I noticed the effect of masturbation on my face is that the pimples come out on my cheeks in a couple of days which after 3-4 days results in coming out of dirty blood and watery like substance.
    These all results in acne and black spots on my face .
    Plz suggest me the cure of this.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Shubham
      I don’t think your acne problem has any connection to masturbation. You need to look online for acne treatment.
      Ethan

  148. goobypls says:

    Hey Ethan! I really liked your post but I have a few problems
    1. I can’t last longer then 5 minutes, I’ve tried the start and stop method for about 6 months, it has helped but not enough!
    2. I dont think I have a long enough penis at all for sex…
    About me: I’m 13 years old (Just turned 13 in june), And I’ve been masturbating alot, I came across the Start and stop when I was about 12 and a half or so. But I only last 5 minutes whilst jerking off! Please help, And I think my penis isnt long enough at all, it’s a little bit longer then my middle finger when erect, I’d say JUST less then an inch! Which is very small, I feel ashamed, I come from an Asian background which I hate, since we have small penises ;-; Any natural foods to help me?
    I really hope you read this, also can I get your skype or something I can contact you for regarding things like this?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi goobypls

      I can understand your concerns, but there’s something very important to remember: you’re only 13! So it’s likely that your penis will still grow some more, up until the point when you finish going through puberty. I would wait a few years before deciding it’s not big enough. And you’re too young to have sex anyway, so it doesn’t matter at the moment. Give it time to see what level of development you reach is my advice.
      About the time, 5 minutes is a reasonable time. Just keep practicing and using the start-stop technique. You’ll probably develop more control over time.
      And for you and any other readers, I never talk with people by skype, email or any other form of contact. The only line of communication I have with readers is via these comments.
      Ethan

  149. Don't matter says:

    Hey I’m a 16 hear old boy and I think my penis is around 5 or 6 inches and it feels kinda small I still haven’t had sex but my gf has seen it and says it looks normal size but I think it’s small will it get any bigger?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      It normally stops growing around the time of puberty. So if you’re still going through puberty, it might grow a little more. But you may have already reached max size. It’s within the normal range, so I would accept it and be proud of your body.
      Ethan

    • Beeguy. yhea im a bee. says:

      dude i dont want to sound rude but your girlfriend has seen other well you now “Penis”?
      but its not about that but ethan is right it will grow if not max yet just wait
      and also Ethan your awesome nobody in other pages answer normally so i’m very thankful of that.

  150. Gregor says:

    Hey ethan! I need an advice. My moms cousin (her aunts daughter) is only 21 and ive never seen her before till this year (seen her once when i was 5). She is super hot and beautiful but im not sure if i should seduce her or not. She looks like she is 16-18 and im 17 (age does not really matter when seducing women). My question is that is it fine to have sex with her? Seducing her is easy for me but im not sure if its fine to have sex with your moms cousin or not. But ive never seen her before (so what kind of relative is she?) and she is literally the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen in my life. Whats your opinion?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Gregor
      Wow, tricky question. It’s not my area of expertise though really. I know there’s a lot of fuss about sexual relations between family members, but that fades the further you go from your direct family members or your own cousins for example. Then again, in some cultures it’s totally normal. If I were you I’d do some research into your own country and culture and what’s acceptable or not.
      My own personal choice would be to stay away from any family member, not matter how remote they might be. I think it just saves potential hassle, and there are many beautiful women out there. If you ignore my advice, I’d also check her age and make sure you can both legally have sex.
      Ethan

  151. Jack says:

    Hi
    I’m jack and I have two question when I start to cum how do I keep my penis hard after I cum?,when I cum my penis start to go limp and I wanna keep jerking off but I can’t cuz it goes limp after I cum.second question is it ok to use your own sperm to masturbate?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jack,
      It’s normal for the penis to go limp. It is possible to keep it hard, but it’s extremely difficult and takes a lot of practice. Most guys just have to wait for it to get hard again. That can be a short time when you’re younger, and much longer when you’re older – on average. Basically, it’s normal so don’t worry about it.
      Ethan

  152. greyson chance says:

    I have urinary track infection but i still masturbate. Is that ok?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      I’m not an expert in that, and I’m not a doctor. The best thing is to ask your doctor if you can engage in any sexual activity.
      Ethan

  153. bala says:

    What should I do to grow my penis
    I am 18 but I have only 5
    plz don’t ignore this

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Bala
      I don’t deal with penis enlargement on this website. If you search online you’ll find some websites which claim to help. But my advice would be to treat them all with skepticism. It’s not such an easy thing to achieve. 5 inches is within the normal range anyway, and as they say, it’s not the size but what you do with it that counts.
      Ethan

  154. Anonymous says:

    Hi Ethan, I have a small problem and I need your help.
    Im 19 year old and my personal bends downwards when erect, could it be something wrong I do while Masturbating? When I was younger I used to lie on my stomach and rub my Penis against the bed, but now I do it while lying on my back, what can I do about that? I’m a bit worried :/ is there any way to straighten it? Thanks in advance.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Lots of guys have a penis which doesn’t go straight as an arrow. It doesn’t mean there’s necessarily anything wrong with it. At the end of the day as long as you can still have sex – which you should still be able to – and can go the toilet ok, then it might just be the way you are. But, if you’re worried about it, you can ask your doctor for their advice.
      Ethan

  155. Chelsea fan says:

    Thank you so much this helped me beyond belief

  156. Lee says:

    Hey great article, but i can masturbate without lube my hand sticks to my penis and is uncomfortable what do i do? Also is baby oil and cocoa butter lotion okay?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Lee,
      What do you mean by your hand sticks to your penis? Anything which is uncomfortable probably isn’t quite right. Baby oil is probably better than cocoa butter lotion.
      Ethan

  157. Ty says:

    Hi,
    I cant seem to keep my self from ejaculating prematurely during masturbation. When i try to stop i grip but my penis pulsates and i come. i am a virgin but i fear that i will not last very long on my first time. got any advice?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi TY
      Stopping yourself by gripping the penis at the moment of ejaculation, or just before, is actually really difficult. It’s also not the best way to learn to last longer. There’s plenty of advice on this website regarding things you can do – just take a look around!
      Ethan

      • Frank says:

        Right around the time that you feel an orgasm coming on, say out loud or in your head “watermelon” Don’t know why, but it works. Also works when you are about to sneeze, but don’t want to. Hopefully it works for you. Say it multiple times if you have to.

        Best,
        Frank

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Frank

          Don’t take this as an insult, but sometimes I read a comment and it literally makes me laugh out loud on my own in front of the computer. Your idea had me in stiches! I can just imagine the looks on a woman’s face as I shout “watermelon” several times in the throes of passionate sex. Priceless…thanks for bringing a smile to my day:-)
          Ethan

  158. wedgie says:

    Hey I’m 20 and I’m not sure if my penis is above or below average. It’s 7.5-8 inches and about an inch thick. If you could give your opinion it would be awesome. Also my previous partners have gotten too exhausted while having sex and I have only climaxed a handful of those times and I find it a bit frustrating do you have any tips on how I can make that better?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,
      The size is bigger than average, though that depends somewhat on your background. Are they exhausted because of the size or the length of time you go for, or both? Maybe try taking it slower and easier. Not all women like it if you turn into a human jack-hammer on them. It’s all about variation and style. Not speed and power marathons. Try asking them what they actually like or enjoy during sex with you. You might be surprised by the answer.
      Ethan

  159. Joey says:

    Hi, I’m 15 and have a seven inch penis is that bad? I also have a gf that wants to give me a bj am I too young?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Joey,
      The size is quite large. You need to check the law for your country for that question. Search online for legal age of consent (country) and you’ll find more information.
      Ethan

  160. ... says:

    Hello Ethan! Loved the tips. I’m currently 14, started masturbating when I was 12.

    However, whenever I masturbate, even from when I just started, the process itself never really felt much good. It just felt like I was rubbing on any other part of my body. Of course, the orgasm does feel good but still, I can’t help but wonder is this normal?

    I have a girlfriend (yeah I’m young but I somehow have one) and we don’t have sex because we are both underaged, but once she touched me by accident and it felt rather pleasurable, and on another instance she grabbed me there in an attempt to both tease and piss me off and once again, it felt a lot better than when I was touching myself. I guess this is normal but I feel I should be asking you just in case. What do you think?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      It’s a tricky question to answer because I can’t really help you decide on whether the pleasure you feel or not is the ‘right’ or ‘normal’ amount. I guess that because you’re still developing, it might just be that it’s going to be a while longer before your body hits its maximum arousal level. But if you feel good when your partner touched you, then that’s probably a sign that everything is ok. I really wouldn’t worry about it for now. Over the next couple of years you’ll probably find that it becomes more pleasurable. Everyone develops at their own pace.
      Ethan

  161. Sean Smith says:

    Hi, my name is sean. It was nice reading this article and the techniques worked like a charm!

    But I have a few questions regarding the g-spot.

    1) Is there an easier way to hit the g-spot? I sat there for nearly an hour trying to find if.

    2) Is it bad to get poo on your finger after trying to hit the g-spot? I took a dump before hand but… It didn’t seem to help.

    3) I couldn’t help but keep clenching my butt cheeks when trying to hit the g-spot. Is there a way to stop this?

    Thankyou for taking the time to read this (if you do) and I hope you can reply :))

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Sean,

      All valid questions which I’m sure lots of people have thought about. Here are my answers, but bear in mind they are my personal opinion and not facts!

      1) I don’t know about better, but there may be other articles online with descriptions which help you more than mine. So the best thing is to look around online as I’m not going to write a more detailed article about it here at the moment.

      2) This is probably one of the main reasons lots of people stay away from the anus full stop. You can clean yourself beforehand with a bidet or shower etc if you like. Especially if you just had a poo!

      3) Try doing it in different positions where you can relax more. Or do some deep breathing to help your body relax before you try.

      Ethan

  162. john says:

    This is John and I’m 20. I have never done sex with my partner because I have a problem that my masturbating stamina is very less. When I do sex with hand I’m done in mostly 1 or 2 minutes what is the problem behind it ? Is this happen because of masturbate, if yes! then mention solutions, and causes

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi John
      It might be because of masturbating, but it might not. There are plenty of solutions already on this website. You just need to look around and find them!
      Ethan

  163. Casey says:

    hi Ethan i am 10 years old and have sex a week ago. i am worried she is pregnant but they say you have to cum to get someone pregnant. people dont believe me when i say i can cum, i am 10 and i cum a lot. could she be pregnant? i’m scared. i dont want to be a daddy

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Casey
      It is possible, though unlikely. You may be producing semen, but there might not be sperm yet. And if she is young like you, she might not be able to get pregnant yet either. But unfortunately you might just have to wait and see.
      It’s not for me to judge, but you’re very young to be having sex and both of you are probably below the legal age to have sex. That should also be something which makes you think about whether or not it’s a good idea to have sex.
      If you do do it again though, I strongly recommend finding a way to get some form of contraception like condoms.
      Ethan

  164. Amari says:

    First of all, great article. This will for sure help a lot of young men and adults to manifest their righteousness. Anyways I’m 14 and I’ve been masturbating for over 5 years but that’s besides the point. The question I had in mind was, to perform the start and stop in actual sex, do you just pull out until you’re ready? Thanks a bunch and you’re awesome for helping all of these kids and adults.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Amari
      Thanks for the compliment – always much appreciated. With the stop-start you can either just stay inside without moving, or pull out and do something else while waiting for your arousal level to reduce.
      Ethan

  165. Em says:

    Hi Ethan,

    First of all I should mention that I live in a country that can find a girlfriend but not a place to have sex with, therefor I started masturbating since I was 10 I couldn’t find anyone to have sex with so I started playing with my penis…I had a complete fine erection till 18 but later on I realized that I dont have any erection now and my penis got curved downwards because I was pulling down all the time. I get horny everyday and I do masturbation but with a soft shaped and not erected penis. It kills me all the time because now I can find place and partner to have sex but I am afraid of ejaculating in just a minute and having no hard erections. Can it be cured or I am gone? :(

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Em,

      I think that maybe it would be a good idea to speak to your doctor about this. If you can’t get an erection, then they might be able to check if there is a physical cause for it. You can also search online for ‘erectile dysfunction’ and you will find lots of websites talking specifically about that problem.
      Ethan

  166. stranger06 says:

    hi ethan
    i am 21 years old but my penis is 4-5 inch long when erect. i have a fear whether i ll be able have a good sex life. when i masturbate i reach to orgasm within 3-4 minutes. Suggest some help…

    • Ethan Green says:

      As they say, it’s not the size, it’s what you do with it that counts! Don’t stress about it too much as many guys have exactly the same size. As for the time, there is plenty of help here on this website. Have a look at the homepage and go from there.
      Ethan

  167. i wonder says:

    Hey sir! I’m like 16 with a 17cm penis and i masturbate daily with shampoo is it okay or not…and the article is just amazing

  168. abcdef says:

    hey i have two questions!
    firstly I’m 16 and i masturbate daily! is it okay?
    and secondly are there any disadvantages of masturbating? if yes,please mention them.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      I think it’s normal to masturbate daily. And despite the silly things that some people say, no, ther aren’t any disadvantages to masturbation. Maybe if you develop an addiction and spend hours every day, then it could be a problem. But otherwise it’s a normal, healthy thing to do.
      Ethan

      • abcdef says:

        hey thanks for your reply!
        and it is amazing that you still reply to everybody unlike other pages! great going sir.

        • Ethan Green says:

          You’re welcome. And thanks – I believe it’s useful to reply to people. There are a lot of people with a lot of questions, so I try my best to help out:-)
          Ethan

      • Anonymous says:

        Hi Ethan, I’m 13 and I watch porn sometimes, I also masturbate to it usually, not always will I watch it, but is it a bad habit to watch it?

        • Ethan Green says:

          That’s a difficult question to answer, not because of the habit aspect but because of your age. Technically in many countries you need to be 18 to watch it. So despite running a website like this which is obviously very open about sexuality, the responsible answer would be that no, it’s not a bad habit unless you do it too much or watch stuff which in itself is bad. But you need to think about the fact that you’re not supposed to be watching it! I know many people would laugh and say that’s ridiculous, and everyone does it. But it’s still something to think about and make a personal decision about.
          Ethan

      • rohan says:

        hi ethan i’m 19 and i masturbate daily, but when i see rough sex porn videos i cum in only 5 min and now my penis dont react to normal porn videos is it normal or i have to do something

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Rohan
          It could be that you’ve found the thing which turns you on. If you’re worried about it, then lay off the rough stuff for a couple of weeks and see if you can get turned on by softer stuff after a while.
          Ethan

      • Mavric says:

        I agree with you. Masturbation is natural and healthy in my opinion. However, I found myself not able to masturbate without porn. The porn addiction is what can get out of control for me. I learned to separate the two and got out of the never-ending porn cycle. Taking my time and learned a lot about myself. Even learned to multi-orgasm, anal-play and even sounding. Good luck to you all.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Mavric
          That’s a fair point. It can be very addictive, and I think it’s also healthy to be able to become aroused using just your imagination.
          Ethan

      • Lion says:

        Hi Ethan,
        Although I’ve masturbated a few times, I have never ejaculated. I have a 4 and a half incher, is it normal to not be able to ejaculate?
        Also is there any other way for me to masturbate? I usually just use both hands to pump it up and down and I want a more pleasurable way. It doesn’t feel as good as others say.
        Thanks so much!

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Lion,
          You might just need to wait until you’re a bit older. If you’re still only doing that technique, I’m not sure you read the article properly! There are lots of things to try…
          Ethan

          • Batman says:

            Hey Ethan,
            I’m 12 almost 13 I have just started to masturbate but I’m happy with everything I’m just wondering what’s the best way to masturbate from your experience.
            Thanks for this site people should make more helpful things like this.
            Cheers.

            • Ethan Green says:

              Hi Batman
              I think everything you need to know for now is in the article and all the comments, which also have lots of useful info.
              I’m glad you found the site helpful too – thanks for saying so!
              Ethan

      • Cosmic phantom says:

        Hello there

        I’m wondering if you have a better orgasm if you watch your preferred category of porn for instance I watch a tone of hentai (anime)
        Also I have no loob I tried saliva before and its not good also is it bad to get a heat rash after and during masturbation.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi
          I guess that’s only a question which you can answer! But I would imagine yes, it might be stronger if your mind is more stimulated by it.
          If saliva doesn’t do it for you, then don’t worry about it. Loob isn’t essential. Where are you getting the rash? Are you sure it’s not just your penis being a bit red, which is normal?
          Ethan

    • Doot says:

      no not really you can’t really run out of spit or sperm so you niether can you have too much of it though breaks between masterbation helps and it is perfectly normal

  169. Carter says:

    Hey, is saliva a safe lube? I figured it was a good one because many people have oral.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Carter
      It’s not my personal preference, but many guys do use saliva. As far as I’m aware, there aren’t any safety concerns with using it.
      Ethan

      • Anonymous says:

        Hey Ethen
        Thanks for the article, I believe it has the potential to help a lot. My question is, I’m only twelve. I obviously don’t have access to lubricant, so I just use Vaseline and that seems to help. I’ve only successfully masturbated twice. I was wondering, at what point should I begin implementing these techniques instead of the simple hand + lube? Also, I’m from an Indian family living in the U.S., And they are HIGHLY against me performing any sexual activity. I’ve already had a close call and I don’t know if I should keep it a secret or tell them and risk losing that pleasure. What should I do (for both)
        Thanks,
        Anonymous

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi there,
          You’re welcome – I’m glad you enjoyed the article. Don’t worry about lubricant – it’s not essential. Vaseline is pretty messy, so I guess it’s up to you how much fuss you want to create for yourself. There is no rule about the techniques to be honest. Just do what you feel like doing. I wouldn’t talk to your family about masturbation. It’s a natural thing to do, and just about everyone does it – at least when they’re younger. It’s not something to chat to your family about though as it would probably just cause embarrassment for you and them, and nothing would be gained from it. My view is that it’s a personal thing and a personal choice, driven heavily by our hormones and natural desire to reproduce. Just be careful when and where you do it if you think being caught will be so terrible.
          Ethan

  170. BC says:

    Hi Ethan I am 12 with a 5 incher and do it about 3 times a week is the size and masturbation normal?

  171. nitish says:

    hello sir!
    i am 16 years old. Since i am skinny, people say it is because i regularly masturbate. so is it true?
    And by the way this article was amazing! *applause*

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi nitish

      That is completely false, and people are either ignorant or just teasing you.
      Unless you’re masturbating whilst jogging, which seems unlikely, it has no connection to your body shape.
      And I’m glad you enjoyed the article. Thanks for the compliment!
      Ethan

  172. Justin says:

    Hi Ethan this really helped me but I have 2 problems.

    1. I don’t know what to use as lube? and
    2. my erection stays long after I’m finished and sometimes it just pops up is this normal?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Justine

      1. You don’t necessarily have to use lube. It’s a nice extra, but not essential so don’t worry about it if you can’t work it out.

      2. Yes both of those things can be normal. Some guys go limp quickly after climax, some stay hard for longer. And it’s normal to get erections randomly and uncontrollably, especially when younger.

      Ethan

      • Joseph says:

        Is it a bad thing to use a fake dick to reach the g spot even if u arent gay

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Joseph
          Some guys do enjoy using sex toys. You can get things like prostrate simulators though for example which don’t look like a penis but are designed for guys to use. Maybe if you’re worried, have a look for those online.
          Ethan

  173. Anonymous says:

    I started masturbating recently and it’s great, but what are people talking about when they mention peeling their foreskin back?

    • Ethan Green says:

      The head of the penis has skin which can pull back a little and then expose the head. That’s what they mean. Not that they can peel all the skin of the entire penis.

      • MrThickDick says:

        Is it OK to use lotion as a lube? Also my penis is 6.5 inches long, but I’m only 13, is that above average or below?

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi
          You need to be careful rubbing lotion into your penis, especially the penis head. If it has a long list of chemicals, I wouldn’t use it. Maybe once in a while for fun, but not regularly. And avoid rubbing it onto the exposed head.
          That’s above the average size, so don’t worry about it.
          Ethan

      • Mr. No Name says:

        I’m 14 and have a 6 incher. I like to go a few times a week. Is that size and rate normal? Also thanks for the article great by the way.

  174. The ANKENER says:

    Hi I am a male that masturbates by leg pressure laying on my left side, left leg bent, right leg straighter with penis tight in between I move my right leg up and down with pressure on the penis base it feels great, my wife watches and plays with my balls to assist a big quick cum, we call it ANKENING. it is a very sexy way to masturbate I have been doing it for 24 years we still have plenty of regular sex as well. Have you heard of this method and is it common?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      I’ve never heard of that method, no. I know some other readers have said in the past that they enjoy masturbating by holding their penis between their legs. But I’ve not heard of anyone doing it with their partner’s assistance. At the end of the day though it doesn’t matter. If it works for you and your partner has fun getting involved, that’s the important thing.
      Ethan

  175. Bulldog says:

    Ethan, I’m 14 and love to masturbate. I am much of a pervert since I have a 21 year old sister that when she takes a shower when me and my dad are asleep she undresses in her room and walks down the hall to the bathroom. I always stay awake when she comes up. I have also seen her fully naked in her room when changing. I feel like a creep. But for some reason I think she is horny and like me. Loves to masturbate. Would it be a good idea to talk to her privately and see if so. I feel like I should tell her but I mostly don’t.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Bulldog,

      The simple answer is no, you should never talk to her about that.

      It’s quite common for guys to have moments of being attracted to the girls/women who they see on a regular basis, but it doesn’t mean you should do something about it. I highly recommend you forget about ever talking to her about this, stop watching her in any kind of sexual way, and find other women to fantasize about.

      Ethan

  176. Jim potter says:

    I’m 18 yrs old..I’ve masturbated since I was 16 yrs old..is there any problem that my sperm count gets reduced in the future?

  177. Ethan Green says:

    Hi Ray
    The age of consent varies enormously around the world. You need to check what the age is in your own country. I suggest searching online, as well as reading up on the various laws associated with it.
    Ethan

  178. jonhnny says:

    is 6 inches big for 15

  179. theman says:

    Hi ethan,

    It’s ok if I masturbate 3 times a day ?

  180. ... says:

    Is it legal for a 12 year old to masturbate?

  181. Aren't says:

    I’m uncircumcised is it better to pull the foreskin back when masturbating?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      I don’t think it really matters when you’re masturbating. If you don’t use lubricant, it can feel a bit uncomfortable rubbing the exposed head. But I would say do whatever feels right.
      Ethan

  182. Anonymous says:

    Is it ok to use a bar of soap as lube and what I mean is rub the soap on my hands and use that to masturbate

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      I think it’s probably fine. Just be careful not to rub the soap into the exposed head. It’s very sensitive to chemicals and can react with red spots etc if you continually rub soaps etc into it.
      Ethan

      • Xavinto says:

        Hi Ethan,
        My mom likes having me have sex with her, but I’m only 12. I like the feel but I dunno if its legal

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Xavinto,
          It’s definitely not legal, and it’s not right of your mum to be doing this with you. I strongly suggest you talk to an adult in your family who you can trust about it and ask them for help.
          Ethan

  183. Anonymous says:

    When I’m in the shower masturbating if I sit on the floor and stretch a little bit I can lick the tip of my penis is that normal?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      I wouldn’t say it’s normal. But that doesn’t mean it’s bad. I think many guys would be glad to be able to do that!
      Ethan

  184. Anonymous says:

    Is it ok to ejaculate in the shower and let it go down the drain

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      I think lots of people probably do the same. If you share the shower with other people, you might want to make sure it definitely washes away properly otherwise it’s an unpleasant thing to find.

      • Hentai Master says:

        What kind of tissues should I use? Sometimes it stays on my penis and I take a long time to remove it.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Yes. that can happen. Don’t use those really soft nose-blowing tissues. Toilet paper is better, or just wash it after.
          Ethan

  185. Some man says:

    I can’t find my g-spot could I get a better description on how to find it

  186. Jake says:

    What happens when my penis become red. Or have red spots here and there. Is it a sign that im masturbating too much?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jake

      It could be a sign of over-doing it, yes. But if you have red spots it could also be an infection of some kind. How bad are the spots? Can you describe them in more detail?
      If you stop for a few days, you might find the redness goes away. If it doesn’t, and the spots stay or get worse, then I’d speak to your doctor about it just to be on the safe side.
      Ethan

  187. A person says:

    Hi, how would I know if I’m actually masturbating in the correct way

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi

      There is no one correct way. But I guess if the following things happen, you’re probably doing it at least in a way which works:
      1) You get an erection
      2) Whatever you’re doing feels physically and probably mentally very pleasurable
      3) You orgasm and/or ejaculate

      If you’re really not sure, then just rub your hand up and down the penis and experiment with different grips, speeds, rhythms etc.

      Ethan

  188. xyz says:

    can I have sex with my step mom..?
    she always comes to my room window and watches me from there. Once when I was taking shower, she suddenly came and wanted to ask something but didn’t told and gone without telling anything. She done this 3 times. I’m not understanding what to do .
    suggest me she is 25 and I’m 20.
    reply as soon as possible

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi xyz
      I don’t know what’s going on there with your step-mum. But my advice would be not to do anything with her. There’s a whole world of potentially very unpleasant problems waiting for you if you do, not to mention the lack of respect for your father. There are many women on the planet and I’m sure you can find one who isn’t a family member. It’s just not worth the risk of damaging your relationship with your family.
      Ethan

  189. Bruh says:

    Is it gay if a straight guy puts his finger in his anus to reach the g spot???

  190. browney2345 says:

    hey Ethan, when i masturbate my lower body all freezes up and goes stiff…. What do you reckon this is?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Browney2345
      Does it happen during the whole time, or only when you climax? If it’s only then, then it could just be a part of what happens to your particular body when you climax.
      Ethan

  191. acted out says:

    Hi I’m 12 and feel embarrassed to say this but I don’t know if I have reached puberty and I feel like I’m the only one in my class that hasn’t. I feel also like I dont have a large enough penis to have sex I can not get any lube to use when masturbating and I must use my hand. but I have other fears i am made fun of and am called gay all the time at school and Lately I feel like I might be for instance I sometimes get hard when seeing a male’s penis but I want to be with a female and have kids but I am afraid that if I am gay I will be hated and forgotten and even bullied I’m sorry for dumping stuff like this on you ethan but I feel like you are someone I can trust with info like this… Please reply as soon as possible plz

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there

      Thanks for your comment. Don’t worry about asking these questions. It’s not exactly my area of expertise, and it’s not the topic of the article, but I’m still happy to offer some advice. But please be aware that it’s not professional advice, it’s just advice from one person. I also think your questions are important ones, which many other boys will relate to, so it’s useful even if they weren’t expecting it when reading these comments.

      So, let’s look at each point in turn:

      1) Don’t worry about reaching puberty or not. You’re only 12, so if it hasn’t started yet, that’s normal. It’s probably going to happen in the next couple of years, and there’s nothing you can do to speed it up. Even if many of the others have started, it’s a process which takes time, so it’s not like they’ve all finished and you haven’t started. Just relax about that and let nature take its course.

      2) Your penis probably hasn’t reached its maximum size yet, so again don’t worry about that. You’re also too young to have sex, so again just give that time to develop.

      3) Don’t worry about lube. It’s a nice extra, but not essential. I wrote that with older guys in mind anyway who can easily buy that kind of thing.

      4) It’s totally normal to go through periods of time feeling attracted to the same sex when growing up. Whether that means you’re straight, gay or bisexual isn’t something which is necessarily decided yet. I don’t know which country you’re in, but the UK national health service has an excellent article about youth sexuality that which I recommend you read. It also has links to useful information about bullying. And if you think you’ll be forgotten if you are gay or bisexual, google something like ‘famous gay men’ and you’ll see that’s not necessarily the future that awaits you:-)

      So, my advice is to try to relax and not panic about all this stuff. You’re young, you’re growing up and hitting a period of your life where it’s normal to have all kinds of thoughts, feelings and desires.

      Regards
      Ethan

      • found says:

        I found out I was bisexual when I was 18 I’m married and love my wife we have great sex but I still like to play with a guys penis and him play with mine

  192. Giovonny M. says:

    Hi I am 13 and I masturbate 2-3 times a day and every time I come only clear watery stuff comes out I was wondering if both these things were normal

  193. Anonymous says:

    what is the best male sex toy for the penis

  194. Amani Joyce says:

    My penis is curved a little to the left. Is there anything to be afraid of?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Amani
      They come in all shapes and sizes, so a little curve to the left is probably quite normal. If it’s very curved, then perhaps it might be a bit unusual. But they aren’t generally totally straight.
      Ethan

      • Gagababa says:

        It’s curved probably because of the way you’re using your hand to masturbate. It’s not a problem but will look more attractive if you keep your hand going straight forward when masturbating.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Possibly, but I think really most people just have a slightly curved penis! It’s not that common for a guy to have a totally straight one1

    • Anonymous says:

      Lol mine too

  195. Anon111000 says:

    wow your still commenting on people’s questions. That’s dedication. Thanks for all the advice! :)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      I think the comments are a valuable resource for readers, even if some of them are pretty crazy. So I enjoy keeping them open:-)
      Its nice of you to appreciate it though – thanks!
      Ethan

  196. Yeet01 says:

    When I have sex i can last a while but when I’m jerking it can take me less than a minute

  197. praphul says:

    hi
    I used to masturbate 4 times a day ..now I am 20 years old…will I have any problem in my married life?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Praphul
      I think if you continue to masturbate 4 times a day whilst married, then it’s not going to be ideal. Hopefully your wife will keep you happy enough sexually to not feel the need. But if you mean, will your history of masturbation cause you future problems, I don’t think so unless you have taught yourself to masturbate and climax in a very short period of time.
      Ethan

  198. smack it says:

    I masturbate with the bed is it okay??????

  199. Ko Thaw says:

    Hi Ethan I masturbated over my aunt. I masturbated over my Grade 9 teachers. They are beautiful ladies. I masturbated over my Chemistry teacher. My teachers are my masturbated models. Is it usually for boys of my age?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ko Thaw
      I think it’s normal for people to fantasize about real people in their lives. However, I think it’s probably better not to think about family members. There are plenty of beautiful women you can think about instead.
      Ethan

  200. Mike says:

    I don’t know why but I have only once been aroused in my life and that was 12 years ago. I am 24 now and find that I cannot even begin the masturbation process. Doctors say I am perfectly healthy and there is no reason I shouldn’t be able to masturbate. I have tried almost everything. What should I do?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Mike
      Do you get an erection though? If you never even get an erection, I would suggest finding another doctor and asking for a second opinion.
      Ethan

  201. Grateful Yet Frustrated says:

    Ethan Green,

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for this article! It’s helped me a lot in only TWO WEEKS! Patient as I am, that’s nothing. I’m 14 years old, started masturbating at 12 years and have always been a minute man unfortunately (such a young age to be one, honestly) but thanks to your tips, I’m now up to 30-40 minute sessions, and that’s just the first time around (I tend to have a go multiple times a day. Orgasm is always heavenly).

    But the thing is, the method I’ve gotten for lengthening my times is working less and less, which is to be expected.

    I’ve only been using cocoa butter (good for the skin, and feels lovely. Used it since I turned 13, only effects I’ve gotten is healthier looking skin and better orgasms so I’m sticking with it) and one hand (since I go multiple times, I switch hands. Fairly good with both) so I’ve got loads of room for new things.

    So, I was mainly wondering, how can I get past my squeamish attitude when it comes to my anus? Once, while using my pinky (long fingers, heh) to rub my testicles as I was going, my finger went into my anus and I immediately orgasmed, was humongous and couldn’t go for the rest of the day, my penis was so sensitive. Certain I hit my g-spot or whatever straight on.

    Since, I’ve been trying to do it, but I can’t bring myself to :( Which really sucks, cause it felt soooooo good.

    Any tips to get past this would be hugely appreciated!

    -Grateful Yet Frustrated

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Thanks for your comment and I’m glad you found the article and website useful. To answer your question, if it doesn’t feel good mentally as well as physically, then perhaps it’s just not for you right now. Don’t worry about it.
      Regards
      Ethan

  202. hiya says:

    I can’t figure out why when I’m in the shower jerking off it takes me a good 30 min to orgasm but if I’m in my bed I can cum in like 5 min if there’s some good porn btw i’ve tried watching porn in the shower and it didn’t help and suggestions?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi,
      I don’t know why this is happening, but I really wouldn’t worry about it. I think it’s very normal to ejaculate faster in certain positions and environments.
      Ethan

    • DaveTheRave says:

      Because in bed, you seem safer than in the shower. And you have got a lower chance of getting caught.

      P.S : Most Phones Aren’t waterproof.

  203. jhonjhon says:

    great article bravo

  204. Mohamed says:

    Thanx Ethan

  205. Anonymous says:

    Ethan, I normally use lotion as lube, is that an ok thing to do?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hiyah
      It depends on how much of a chemical lotion it is. It’s not really up to me to say, but my general rule of thumb is that if it’s got a lot of chemicals in it, and which aren’t designed to be used as a lube, I avoid it.
      Ethan

      • That guy says:

        Hey…when I masturbate I usually pee afterwards. ..sometimes it gets really sore….is that a bad thing?

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi
          I think it’s quite normal to feel the need to pee afterwards. When you say sore, do you mean when peeing? Or when masturbating? If it’s when peeing you might have an infection, in which case talk to your doctor. If it’s when masturbating, you might just be doing it too vigorously. Ease off for a few days, see if it gets better, then masturbate more slowly and softly in future.
          Ethan

  206. Anonymous says:

    This is awesome thank you so much I have been so bored with the same old masturbation techniques. Thanks Ethan!!

  207. Kinghtly says:

    Hello, I feel like I dont have a big enough penis to have sex and worried it won’t get any bigger when erected its about 3- 4 inches
    Im 15 and almost 16
    what shouId I do?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Kinghtly,
      I wouldn’t worry about it for now. Your penis continues growing until the end of puberty, which can take up to a few years longer yet. If you reach 20 and it’s still that size, then maybe look for help again. But for the next few years, I would just relax and see how much bigger it gets.
      Regards
      Ethan

  208. greyhound says:

    I just started masturbating so I was wondering What if I use soap instead of lubricants? They are the same right?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Greyhound
      I don’t think they are the same. If you rub too much soap into your penis head you can irritate it. I would avoid using soap for masturbation personally.
      Regards
      Ethan

    • Bulldog says:

      Hello. I have thought of that too. I did it once before and it sucked. It felt good but after it stung like a bee was inside your penis. It was horrible and I never want to do it again

  209. Azad says:

    I’m 22 years old. I did’t know what is masturbating before. I watch porn from 15 years old but did not care about masturbating in that porn movies. I’ve enjoy the porn movie only and never did’t feel to to masturbate after watching the porn,

    A few month ago I’ve learned that something is available called “Masturbate” in the world to enjoy with myself when I don’t have any girlfriend or I’m not married.

    About 2 month ago I’ve done my first Masturbating and regularly I’m doing it 2/3 days later.

    My problem is, I feel so exited while I start masturbate and Ejaculate around two minutes and doesn’t feel so much enjoy. I’m too much worried about myself and also about my after married life.

    Sometimes I think myself, I’m not normal like as other man! Is it normal? What should I do? I use shampoo as I don’t have lubricant , is it harmful for masturbating?

    Sorry for my bad English. Waiting for your valuable suggestion.

    Thanks!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Azad,
      Thanks for your comment. There’s no rules about when you should or shouldn’t start masturbating. Everyone is different, and it is driven by both our biology, the culture we live in and what we’re influenced by. So don’t worry about that.

      In terms of the time you last, well I think you could try and last longer while masturbating. Have a look around this site and you’ll find tips for techniques to try.

      Personally I wouldn’t use shampoo. It’s normally got quite strong chemicals in it and you can cause a reaction to your penis head.

      Regards
      Ethan

  210. another anon says:

    Hi, I’m 15, and I’ve been wondering… How the heck have teens gotten lube? A 12 year old in one of these comments said he had some, which I find kinda weird. It would be weird to go up to a parent and say “hey dad, when you’re at the store, can you pick up some lubricant?” I know that other household products could be used as lube, but I feel like that wouldn’t go too well. I could also resort to spit, but that’s… uh…. never mind.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hiyah
      To be honest I ask myself that same question from time to time. Who knows how they get it? Maybe they borrow it, maybe they have ways to order online. Maybe they just buy it themselves by looking older than they are and hoping they don’t get asked questions. Maybe in some countries it doesn’t matter how old you are, and it’s easy to get hold of because it’s stocked in so many normal shops.

      As I’ve said to other readers, it’s good but not essential. So I wouldn’t worry about it until the day comes when you realise that you have a way to get it and you still feel like getting it.
      Regards
      Ethan

  211. Definitelynotnick says:

    Hey Ethan, could you be a little more descriptive on the “human traffic light?” Interested in trying this to last longer

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hiyah
      Have a look at the article I wrote about the start and stop method. That’s what it refers to: start = green light and stop = red light. It’s not an official term, I just made it up to describe the start stop method, which is an official term:-)
      Regards
      Ethan

  212. James says:

    I’m masturbrating for nearly 4yrs. But still i can’t last long for more than a minute. Is it normal.?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi James
      It’s normal in that many guys will probably have the same thing happening. But I think it’s a good idea to try and make it last longer. Have a look at the links in the article to check out some techniques for doing so.
      Ethan

  213. TheRealDeal says:

    Hello people!

    I can’t pull down the foreskin while i have a boner but i’m able to pull it down when i don’t have a boner. But the thing is that I’m too scared to try because i’ve heard that if the foreskin gets stuck under the head it can get problematic!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Sometimes that can happen, especially if you have a tight foreskin, or things are a bit dry. Try using some lubricant and see if that helps to gently glide it back. If not, you can speak to your doctor about it if you like.
      Regards
      Ethan

  214. Bob says:

    hey ethan im 13 and i don’t know how to get lube or sex toys without my parents noticing what do i do :[

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Bob
      I wouldn’t do anything. They aren’t essential and there are plenty of ways to enjoy yourself without that stuff. So don’t worry about it.
      Ethan

    • Bojo says:

      Hey I’m 13 and I find baby oil works really well as lube also if you really want a sex to look on the Internet on how to make one I found a site (can’t remember the name) and said how to make one in several different ways
      Bojo

  215. Jeff says:

    I’m 14 and have tried to masturbate. My penis becomes hard but I can’t come even though I do it for like 20 minutes

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jeff
      Don’t worry about it. It will happen soon enough I imagine. If it continues to be a problem in a few months, then you can ask your doctor about it if you’re worried.
      Ethan

  216. Rudfa says:

    My upper skin is also still attached I think that’s why my penis is not increasing

    • Ethan Green says:

      If you mean the little string piece that is underneath, then that’s the frenulum, and is meant to be there. It will always be there.

  217. Rudfa says:

    I’m 19 years old and i’m masturbating since I was 14 and i’m a virgin and my penis size is not increasing its only 4 inches and I think i’m become a one minute man…. What should I do?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Rudfa
      Do you mean 4 inches when soft or when fully erect? If that’s your size when erect, then perhaps it will grow more in time. But you may just have to accept it for what it is. There are some websites which cover ways to increase size a bit, but I don’t talk about it here. I would go with a skeptical mind though as there are a lot of scams out there offering increases which are unrealistic. In terms of your lasting time, there’s plenty of advice around this website. You could have a look at this article about choosing the best premature ejaculation solutions.
      Regards
      Ethan

  218. Anonymous says:

    Hey Ethan, loved the article. When is it okay to masturbate back to back? I did it twice in a row but the second time less cum came out, but I lasted longer. Also, recommended curious guys to put a finger up there butt seems a lot like homosexuality. But it is my body so will it be just an experiment?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      I’m glad you loved the article. I think that it’s fine to masturbate as soon as you’re able to again after the first time, if you feel the need to do it again so soon. I just wouldn’t go doing it several times back to back as it’s probably a bit much. It’ normal to have less come out the second time. Don’t worry about that.
      As for the finger up the butt thing, I really don’t think it’s classed as gay what you do to yourself. And my personal opinion anyway would be “so what?”
      Regards
      Ethan

  219. Anonymous says:

    Is it okay to stick things in my penis hole for masturbation??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi
      Personally I wouldn’t do that. It’s a pretty sensitive area and you don’t want to cause yourself any permanent problems.
      Ethan

  220. Haha says:

    Im 14, i’ve been masturbating since I was 11. I find the most pleasure with lotion, or spit. When i do it i stretch my legs out and point my toes. Like I tighten my legs and it gives me amazing pleasure.

  221. Anonymous says:

    Hey, i can peel my foreskin of my penis and im 11 but there is some extra foreskin sticked permanently on the left side of the inside of my penis. What should i do?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      If it’s kind of like a bit of string attaching the foreskin to the penis, it’s called the frenulum and is normal. Don’t try to snap it!
      Regards
      Ethan

  222. aryan says:

    I found my penis very short without erection.
    However with erection it seems normal..
    Any suggestions..
    I am 21 yeara old.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Aryan
      It’s probably quite normal. As some women like to say, “some men are grow-ers, some are show-ers”. If you search average penis sizes on google, you’ll find sites which tell you by age, country and race etc.
      Regards
      Ethan

  223. Braedan says:

    Hi I have been masturbating for about a year now I am 13 and my penis has not yet grown and girls want to have sex with me but I cant because my penis is to small and has not grown at all
    Regards
    Braedan

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Braedan
      You’re still very young so I wouldn’t worry about it too much right now. It will no doubt continue to grow in the next few years. You should have sex when you feel ready and you want to. And probably not for a few years yet would be my advice.
      Take it easy and don’t stress about it.
      Regards
      Ethan

  224. blake says:

    Im having some trouble because im a
    “two minute man”. Im 24 and with this age, is it still possible to last longer?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Blake
      It’s definitely possible! I don’t think your age really makes a difference. The exercises you can do to improve your time work at pretty much any age.
      Regards
      Ethan

  225. Ben says:

    Hey Ethan

    You mention using toys to enhance the masturbation experience, but where do you buy the toys

  226. Kooli says:

    Yeah i just ordered a vagina and butt, full body realistic vibrator and how do i use the penis pump what is it for?

  227. rocky L says:

    how many times should I masturbate in a week? Nowadays I do it daily; Is it good for health ?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Rocky
      There are no rules about how often you should do it. Daily is pretty normal I think. As for health, some medical sources will say it can help prevent some illnesses. Personally I think it’s more important to think about the fact that it’s just a normal thing to do!
      Regards
      Ethan

  228. me says:

    nice article

  229. Chella says:

    Hi Ethan, how are you?
    I have masturbated weekly once, using only my hands, can i use baby oil for lubrication? Is there any problem with that?

  230. John says:

    When I masturbate late at night, the following morning my back aches a lot. My eyes are swollen even dark circles are there, visibility is too distorted and i get too lazy. Is all this somewhere related to lower production of testosterone in my body. Need to know.
    Thanks and regards
    John

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi John
      To be honest, I really don’t know what is happening there! When you say late at night, are you awake for a long time late into the night? Maybe lack of sleep would explain the swollen eyes rather than masturbation. Unless you’re doing some unusual techniques…
      Regards
      Ethan

  231. Russell says:

    I tried to pull my balls and it worked thank you

  232. Reid says:

    I am 14 and tried a few of these and they worked great!!!, though I am too young to get toys or lube which would help a lot

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Reid
      Don’t worry about the other stuff – it’s not essential at your age. You’ve got plenty of time to experiment in the next few years!
      Ethan

  233. The-tourist says:

    So i’m 15 my dick is 16 cm long (erection) is this long average of small? (I’m not worried just curius)

  234. A Kid says:

    Hi, I’m 12 and I discovered this holy grail in the bath tub. All I want to know is how can I keep myself going long enough for orgasm? I always end up giving up when the stimulation gets too intense for me. Please reply!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hiyah
      Well, practice is probably the best answer to that question. New sexual things are always most intense at the beginning. once we get used to it, it becomes easier to last longer. Theoretically…
      Regards
      Ethan

  235. Anonymous says:

    I’m only 13, so it’s kind of hard to buy a sexy toy without my parents noticing. Any ideas?
    Please, please help

    • Ethan Green says:

      I wouldn’t worry about it, and would wait until you’re older. There’s plenty you can do to entertain yourself using just your hands until then!
      Ethan

  236. Shepard Brandy says:

    Hi, I’m Shepard. I’m 17 yrs old and I’ve been masturbating for quite a while. My question is, that after I lost one of my testicles in a sport, my cum isn’t as much. Is this because I’ve been going at it too much or it it just because of the missing man-berry

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Shepard
      It could be a combination of the two. Generally the other testicle works harder if we lose one, so you should still be able to produce a good amount of semen. However, if you masturbate a couple of times every day, potentially you won’t have as much as if you do it less. Try waiting 3 days without masturbating, and then see how much you produce. That might answer your questions.
      Regards
      Ethan

  237. FeelsGood says:

    What is a good age to start masterbating? I’m 12 and have done it about 10 times.How often should I do this? I usually do it once a day but have done it 2 times in one day.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      That all sounds perfectly normal to me. Just do what feels natural and you’ll be fine.
      Ethan

  238. Parth says:

    Hi my problem is that I am 17 now an I have not yet masturbated even once
    What do I do?
    How does it feel the first time ??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Parth

      Some people just take a little longer to start exploring their bodies sexually, so it’s nothing to panic about. And some people feel it’s not right, either due to cultural, religious or societal norms or rules. If you feel the urge to touch yourself, then just explore different movements etc. Follow the first couple of tips in the article and see where that takes you.
      Regards
      Ethan

  239. andre says:

    I am 18 and have a girlfriend I am around 8.5 inches long and I cannot fully penetrate her because she says it hurts. She seem to be very satisfied but I am always left wanting more out of sex I love her I do not want to leave her. So recently I have begun masturbating but that has left me wanting more as well how can I enhance my masturbation experience.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Andre

      First of all have you tried investing in a good lubricant? Maybe that would help, especially at the start if she is not so open.
      In terms of the masturbation, if you haven’t got enough here in the original article to entertain you, then you’re going to have to use your imagination! But my suggestion would be to work with your girlfriend rather than getting further into masturbation styles. Why not get a good sex book and explore different positions? Maybe you can find a position which allows her to relax and take you deeper? And perhaps also be careful with the speed. If you are going further inside, do it slowly. Then when you don’t completely enter you can try to be faster.
      Hope that helps a bit!
      Ethan

  240. crizzy says:

    I’m chris, am 17 years old but a have a small penis i ejaculate quickly like about 5 to 10mins……..i dont like it…..pls can you help me with that

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi crizzy
      In terms of how long you last, 5 to 10 minutes isn’t bad at all. If you want to train to last longer, just follow the tips in this page and others on the website.
      Regards
      Ethan

  241. Anonymous says:

    cant last 13 seconds

    rip

  242. pawan says:

    hello Ethan,
    I felt a lot of pain when I touch the pink coloured portion of my penis .
    how can I avoid it?
    please reply me

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Pawan

      I don’t know why that is the case. But it doesn’t sound healthy. My advice would be to talk to your doctor asap.
      Ethan

  243. Jordanator says:

    Hi Ethan,
    Nice article! So I’m 20 and I’ve been sexually active since I was around 13 and I’ve always varied with how long I last in the sack. Sometimes it’ll be super quick, then it will be around 10 minutes or more. I recently bought a fleshlight (superb) and it’s as if I can’t last longer than 3 minutes when I use it!

    I’ve heard porn stars used to use elastic bands to prevent them from coming, does this work?
    Cheers.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jordanator

      I’m glad you enjoyed the article. Yes, I think what you describe is probably the normal pattern for most guys. Sometimes you last longer, and sometimes it’s over before it’s really getting started. It depends a lot on your arousal and the moment. Glad you like fleshlight too….they are amazing, so it’s no surprise that you can’t last long with it!
      I’m not sure about the elastic band trick. My finger turns blue if I wrap an elastic band around it. I don’t want the same thing happening to my penis…
      Ethan

  244. Henry says:

    Hi ethan, your article is really very good, and now I am able to resist it for almost 7-9 minutes…
    But ethan, I have penis size of 5inch, so I cannot grab it with both my hands, is there any natural solution to increase the length.
    I will be highly grateful.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Henry
      I’m glad you found the article helpful and that it has increased your lasting time. Don’t worry if you can’t use both hands. As they say, it’s not the size, it’s what you do with it…and the rest of your body.
      At the moment, I don’t have any articles about increasing penis size, so I’m afraid to say you’ll have to look online for it. In the future I do plan on writing about it, so you can always check back.
      Ethan

  245. pierce says:

    Hi, I’m still a teen, I just wanted to ask why is it that during the first time I orgasmed it was longer than any other times that I ejaculated?
    I was just curious about it

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi pierce
      Perhaps it just seemed longer because it was the first time. Or perhaps it really was longer. To be perfectly honest, I’m not sure why it was longer. I wouldn’t worry about it though.
      Ethan

    • Ezra says:

      Hi I agree first time felt the best and definitely felt like it lasted long I think it is because you Have never experienced it before

  246. NZ says:

    If you live in a rural place, I’ve actually found that simple spit is a great lube.

  247. Anonymous says:

    So I recently tried a sex toy aka “the dildo” and shoved it up as far as I could up my ass and now I can’t stop. What should I do?

    • Ethan Green says:

      I’m really not sure how to answer that question to be honest. If you don’t enjoy, then just don’t do it any more. You have to take control of your sex life. It’s as simple as that.
      Ethan

  248. Anon says:

    I’m 12 and i admit that i masturbate. My foreskin can already go all the way back, is this good or bad?

  249. Liam says:

    Ok, so is it true that masturbating will make you live longer? I have heard this but I wanna know… if it does, I’ll live forever!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Liam

      I’m not sure to be honest.

      On another note, you might just win the funniest comment ever award;-)

      Regards
      Ethan

  250. ryan says:

    Being circumcised I have a time of around 10 minutes regardless of how hard I try so it isn’t particularly a problem to hold back – thanks for the tips though ethan!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ryan
      No problem. Yeah, I heard that’s a side-effect of circumcision for some guys!
      Regards
      Ethan

  251. sam says:

    wow nice article
    especially the anus thing was like heaven..I tried it.

  252. Steve says:

    One thing I love that took me quite by surprise is something I read in an article on tantric sex. Try rubbing your tailbone!! It does work on girls, that I know for sure, but it also is a sensitive spot on a guy; and certainly helps during masturbation.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Steve
      Thanks for that idea. I haven’t tried it before, nor heard of it. Tantric sex has a lot to offer!
      Regards
      Ethan

  253. Dallas says:

    This is a very impressive and informative article, keep up the great work. Just wish everyone had serious comments but i guess its to be expected.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Dallas,

      Thank you for your comment, and I’m glad you enjoyed the article. It’s good of you to say so! To be honest, I could just not publish a lot of the comments, but some of them I think are quite funny, so I let them be. And believe me, for every comment I publish, there are probably another 2 I don’t because they are just too silly or messed up…
      Regards
      Ethan

  254. Link says:

    I’m kind of new to the whole masturbating thing but I was wondering how do I know when I’m going to ejaculate?? I try to masturbate when I go for a shower and I’m standing there for a good 10 minutes and nothing happens :/

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi link
      To be honest, you just kind of know it’s going to happen. It may be that your body hasn’t developed enough yet to ejaculate. Don’t worry about it, it will happen in time.
      Regards
      Ethan

    • Jordanator says:

      Hi Link,
      I was around 11/12 when I started masturbating and believe it or not it felt really nice, I used to get this tingling feeling and then I’d stop because it felt like I was going to pee… Then when I turned 13/14 I reached that tingling feeling and carried on but did it in the bathroom in case it was pee and walaaaaa!

  255. Marc says:

    My friend says that he humps his bed and it ends up feeling better than using his hand. Would this stimulate having sex? And would it feel better than the generic way of just using your hand?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Marc,

      Well, personally I think a hand is better because it’s warm and organic – closer to a vagina than fabric. But I think it is a common technique to hump pillows etc. Personally I think you can get more variety from using your hand. But it’s your choice!
      Regards
      Ethan

  256. Unknown says:

    Can anyone suggest me some tips how to stop masturbating? Please

    • Ethan Green says:

      Why do you feel the need to stop?

      • Anonymous says:

        I am guessing maybe college (dorms or something) i would say do as a quitting smoker or alcoholic would do, only once in a while because quitting straight up could lead to just straight up random (and very very very awkward boners) cut it back to an amount that is not too much nor too little and over time start to decrease the amount.

  257. Anonymous says:

    I have a question to ask, if it doesn’t give any pleasure what does that mean?
    Am I not doing it hard enough?
    Please help.
    Regards.
    Jeff

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jeff

      I’m not sure to be honest! If you’re young, it may be that you’re just not ready for it yet. If you’re in your teens or an adult, then maybe you just haven’t found the right way for you. But if you’re concerned, you can also ask a doctor about it. If you can get an erection, but masturbation isn’t pleasurable, there may be a physical cause.
      Regards
      Ethan

  258. john says:

    I am 20 and i masturbate every day, some times twice. will it effect my married sexual life in any manner like erection problem or any thing in future???

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi John.
      I very much doubt it will have a negative effect. If anything, by using it to practice lasting longer, it will probably help your married life.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • John says:

        Should someone stop masturbating on a regular basis in the fear of its negative effect or continue it everyday fearlessly?? So that he does not suffer in future..

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi John

          Well, it depends how much that person is doing it. But masturbation is normal and healthy, so I don’t think it’s something most people need to worry about.

          Ethan

  259. Richard says:

    I’ve just finished reading this article and i must say impressive. i am about to try some of these methods as we speak.

    I am wondering if there are any particular positions that will enhance the experience as can become tired of the one or two positions i use?

    also wondering, i ca be a fanatic at times.i will just sit and watch porn for 3 hours then i’d be masturbating for 4 to 5 times. Is something wrong with me? because sometimes when my girlfriend and i get started i’m not as horny as i would like to be. Anyone ‘s assistance is needed urgently

    regards,
    Richard

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Richard

      Thanks for the comment, and I’m glad you found the article enjoyable. I think you are only limited by your own imagination when it comes to positions…

      It’s not my place to judge or dictate how much porn anyone should or shouldn’t watch. But if you want my honest opinion, 3 hours a day sounds like quite a lot, especially if you’re having problems feeling horny with your girlfriend. If you masturbate 4 or 5 times a day, then it’s not surprising you don’t get so turned on by her. Why don’t you do an experiment, not watch any porn for a week, and perhaps only masturbate once or twice a day max. Then see what happens next when you’re with her…
      All the best
      Ethan

  260. vj says:

    hi…. these techniques are just the way pleasurable…… i have tried many and improved my stamina…..

  261. MrDx5 says:

    Nice atticle! Ethan

  262. Anonymous says:

    Ok Im 14 and I last a bit too long for comfort sometimes 50-70 mins any tips

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there

      It’s normal when you first start to not ejaculate at all. It will probably get quicker in time, so don’t worry about it for now.
      Regards
      Ethan

  263. SomeKid says:

    Hello ethan,

    I was wondering, I am new to this masturbating stuff so could you give be advice on how to do it without my parents knowing? I don’t want to have wet dreams πŸ˜›

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      To be honest, that’s something we all have to work out individually as we grow up. Getting caught by your parents isn’t the end of the world, but it would probably be very embarrassing and I think many guys can remember their mum walking in on them!
      There’s no secret to avoiding it really. Just try to do it at the time when you think they are least likely, or even better completely unlikely to walk into the room you’re in.
      Ethan

  264. im cool says:

    Thx for this. First time i tried advice it worked well. I might not say back, because I didn’t put notify email option. I will use this advice wisely. :)

  265. Anonymous says:

    one 12-20oz cup. two sponges inside the cup. one latex glove in between the sponges with the opening of the glove stretched around the lip of the cup. lube up and it makes an awesome fake vagina. you can place the cup in between your mattress and box springs and use it hands free. change the glove when your done and it’s ready for next time.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Another interesting technique, which I have heard of before. Still doesn’t beat a properly manufactured one though!
      Regards
      Ethan

  266. MR. Jack says:

    Hi um I was wondering if you had any more techniques for me or more ways to feel realistic. And also do YOU sell any sex toys because I cant find any good stores or sites. This article gave me so many ideas for doing this I think this is the best article in the world u did so good on making this article. Thank u for making this because now people can have more ideas and have better experience w/ real sex. Please reply

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Mr. Jack

      Thanks for the compliment, I’m glad you found the article helpful. For now this article covers what I wanted to share. Though in the future I imagine I will add more. For now we don’t sell anything, sorry. We only provide reviews. Keep looking – there must be somewhere you can buy from.
      Regards
      Ethan

  267. Eli Thee Great says:

    Umm..What is the average size?!?!?!? My wife is telling me it is fine, but I think otherwise. This is a little ebarassing it is 5.2in. Please help Ethan

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Eli
      The average penis size changes according to your genetic background. Just google something like (country name) average penis size.
      Regards
      Ethan

  268. kisco king says:

    hey guys thanks for the tricks i am going to try them tonight I’m 39yrs old

  269. stuart says:

    Hi,

    I’ve been applying many of the techniques already mentioned. I was wondering if there is any online store where I can buy sex toys. Also, I want something bigger to stimulate my g-spot, any recommendations?

    -Thanks

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Stuart

      There are lots of online stores, you just need to search in your country. I don’t recommend anything in particular – there’s so much choice, so it’s up to you to decide what you think will suit you.
      Regards
      Ethan

  270. john says:

    Hey I am 15 and I have been masturbating for a while but I just don’t ejaculate much any ideas?

  271. willie says:

    Hi there…I like masturbating I’ve been doing it for the last 3yrs am 17yrs and I wanna learn more techniques on how to do it n also make it more sweet.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi willie

      I would recommend using your imagination and seeing where you can take yourself…what do you mean by sweet?
      Regards
      Ethan

  272. Tjs says:

    I masturbate 3 times a day is this to much? If I masturbate less like once a day, does that make it more pleasurable upon climax?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Tjs

      I think 3 times a day is within the ‘normal’ range, especially if you’re youngish. But some might consider it to be quite a lot. As for the level of pleasure, well you need to experiment to discover that! Try not doing it for a week some time, and then seeing how it feels…

      Regards
      Ethan

  273. Wolfy says:

    Hey, Ethan, I just wanted to say thank you for helping me and everybody who reads this article out. You’re a nice guy. Thanks again.
    -Wolfy

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Wolfy,

      What a great comment – thank you so much for saying that, and you’re very welcome:-)
      Regards
      Ethan

  274. Nabil Meer says:

    Hi this Nabil357, and I am 27. I remember I was at the age of 17 when I first started doing masturbation as one of my college friend suggested me the way to perform it. From that day I am doing it on daily basis. Even I have slept with my friend and he also did to me but my question is, I do it 3-5 times a day and my average time is about 5 times…. will this act effect my marriage life in future?
    At the end want to thanks you for such an informative and amazing article you made. Thanks once again.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Nabil

      I’m glad you enjoyed the article – thank you for saying so. I think if you continue to do it 5 times a day once you’re married, it might have some effect! But no, masturbation when you’re single shouldn’t negatively affect your later married life. So don’t worry about it. Do remember to follow my advice and use it as a training method for the benefit of your future partner. That will it will affect your marriage, but hopefully in the best way possible!

      Regards
      Ethan

  275. Anonymous says:

    I have used both speed variation and breathing techniques that you talked about. They have helped me so much that my time has increased from only about 4 minutes to around 14 minutes! An am very thankful for what you have done. Much Thanks.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      Thanks for your comment, and I’m glad you’ve had success from the advice I provide. Well done for taking the advice on board and taking the time to practice those techniques.
      Regards
      Ethan

  276. function says:

    Hexbug nano inbetween your leg and base of penis

  277. Anonymous says:

    Sorry, I meant I blast water at my anus/penis.

  278. Emmajoh says:

    I am 27yr, please help me, my girlfriend always complains whenever we are having sex that my penis is too big even after 30 minutes of foreplay. Please help me i don’t want to lord her.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi emmajoh

      You cold try using a sex lubricant if it is the width that is too big for her. If it is too long, then you might just have to do shorter strokes rather than penetrating deeply.
      Regards
      Ethan

  279. thabrez says:

    I am 17 years old. I will masturbate daily and In 30 secs I will complete my masturbation … why I can’t do for a long time?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Thabrez

      It could be for various reasons. I recommend looking into the techniques for lasting longer I talk about and training yourself to take longer. It sometimes takes a bit of practice to be able to hold back!
      Regards
      Ethan

  280. Big boi says:

    U think baby oil is a god lube?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi big boi

      I’m not sure if it’s a god lube, but it will probably do the trick. I wouldn’t use it that often though.

      Regards
      Ethan

  281. Webster says:

    Finding the g spot scares me.

  282. Anonymous says:

    An easy tactic I like is point a blast of water from my shower head. But I noticed that the hand technique didn’t work, is this common?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      That’s something which I think lots of guys do experiment with. To be honest I’m not sure how common it is to not find the hand enjoyable. I don’t imagine you’re the only one who needs something different though.
      Regards
      Ethan

  283. Tima says:

    I’m a patient of sickle-cell and Hepatitis B. Is it harmful for me? I have done many times..but weakness and fatigue as a result..

  284. Anonymous says:

    Glad all these work for me thanks

  285. samboqwerty says:

    hi..i gave a reading to the article..it was very good..i am 24 yrs and as much i can say the day i realised what my “gun” could actually do other than just urinating i have been masturbating since then.(its been a long time)..i tried the techniques mentioned but the thing is after trying the start and stop method to delay the ejaculation i feel pain in my balls and its causing a bit of a problem. i think i delayed it too much and i think i got what they say a “blueball” maybe.. can you please help me out about this.and how to cure the pain..it would be nice.. thank you..

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi samboqwerty

      Thanks for your comment. Did you allow yourself to ejaculate eventually? That’s an important thing to do! If not, perhaps you are masturbating too hard, or too often. My advice would be to rest for a couple of days, then return to it slowly.
      Regards
      Ethan

  286. Anonymous says:

    Gladly im blessed with being able to give myself pleasure with my mouth. Not very much but just enough to be proud of it lol. Thanks for the post Ethan its very informative.

  287. Jords says:

    Hello. I wanted to ask. I am 14 and was wondering, Would my index finger be long enough to reach my G-Spot? And how deep shall I go?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jords

      As long as your finger is 2-4 inches long, you should be able to reach it. You need to play around and experiment!
      Regards
      Ethan

  288. cr111 says:

    Hi I’m 15 yrs old i want to experience more in masturbation any tips pls???
    i masturbate 1 a day. will it cost any trouble in the future

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi cr111

      It’s all there in the article to read! And no, it shouldn’t cause any problems.
      Regards
      Ethan

  289. Chris says:

    Why does my penis burn when i masterbate in the shower or i use lotion/bodywash as a type of lube-like material

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Chris

      Possibly because it is a little sensitive and the hot water irritates it. Also, you need to be careful what lotion you put on your glans. It can cause a nasty red rash! If it hurts, I would stop doing it in the shower.
      Regards
      Ethan

  290. zayn says:

    Hi there..I masturbate often when i’m watching pornography (2-3 times a day)..Will it affect me???
    Another thing is. I find it difficult to hold my orgasm too long especially when i am horny…

    Thanks by the way for the tips..Help me a lot. ^_^

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Zayn

      My advice would be to also masturbate when not watching pornography, and try to take longer over it. And also when you watch porn, try not to ejaculate too soon. Look around this website for more on this!
      Regards
      Ethan

  291. kiyt says:

    i masturbates 10-20 minutes but nothing comes out, what shall i do???

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Kiyt
      If you are younger than 13-14 it’s normal not to ejaculate yet. But if you are older than 13, then perhaps you just need longer. If not, I would speak to a doctor about it to be on the safe side.
      Regards
      Ethan

  292. josef calub says:

    thank you it helped alot

  293. Mega Cummer says:

    Is it normal to cum so much that it can fill two cups

  294. Bob the Builder says:

    It worked so well thanks alot!

  295. Frank says:

    I love this stuff I was going for 20 mins now like 45

  296. Grayson says:

    When i read the ways for masturbation i was exited to do it. and in fact i was really happy it works. thank you man. but if my dick is getting red it is bad???

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi again

      It depends how red! Sometimes it’s normal for the glans to be a bit read after masturbation. But if it is sore, or very red, or continually red, then that’s not a good thing and you should take some time out and perhaps go easier the next time.

      Ethan

      • Ethan Thomas says:

        Hi

        i’m 13 i know i know kinda young for a homemade pocket vagina but when i use it my penis head gets a little red not mink but red, i’m wondering if its the reflection of the light off the lube. my penis head is pink when i use my hands.

        :/

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Ethan
          It’s normal for the penis head to go a bit pink/red when masturbating. If you’re using a homemade vagina, it could be that there’s too much friction, or the surface isn’t soft enough and it’s irritating your skin. As long as the skin colour returns to normal pretty soon after playing around it’s probably ok. But if it stays red, then you might want to stop using whatever it is you’re using.
          Regards
          Ethan

  297. Grayson says:

    I did these these steps and ways for masturbation. really i was happy to see that they work. thank you man πŸ˜€

  298. Paulie D. Blart says:

    Hey your website was very helpful thank you! I really like the ones where u thrust on the g-spot and it helps make my orgasm far better thank you! :-) Paulie D. Blart

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Paulie

      Thanks for your comment and I’m glad you found the article helpful. Enjoy your new techniques!
      Regards
      Ethan

  299. shivi says:

    when i am masturbating it is done only in 1 minute. what should i done for at least 5 minute masturbation? help me out from this i want to be longer when i am masturbating.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Shivi,

      My advice would be to look around this website, and perhaps think about one of the training books I talk about in the article. They are full of tips for how to masturbate in a way which will help you last longer!
      Regards
      Ethan

  300. Harish says:

    That’s great information about masturbation…
    I need to know how to strengthen my penis…plz say that… I’m suffering from small one

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Harish

      I’m glad you found the article helpful. I don’t cover penis size on this website. You would have to search online for more on that. Sorry I can’t help more.
      Regards
      Ethan

  301. Anonymous says:

    I can only get the foreskin down to about the edge of the “head” of my penis were it is attached there’s this flap connected to the forehead is that normal?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Yes it is! It’s called the Frenulum. It’s very normal. If you google medical diagrams of the penis you will be able to find out more. So don’t worry!
      Regards

      Ethan

  302. bigspurt says:

    I am a big fan of the Tenga Egg. I have about 7 or 8. Discovered them about two years ago. They wash up easily and I have only thrown two away.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Bigspurt,
      Thanks for the comment, and yes the Tenga can be quite fun too. Still prefer the fleshlight though!
      Regards
      Ethan

  303. jeff says:

    i slipped and landed in my bath it was a position in which i could orally stimulate myself best day ever

  304. Anon says:

    I masturbate by rubbing the part just below the head on the front of the penis left to right and have been doing so for about a year. Unfortunately, this desensitized my penis in a way that the normal stroking method doesn’t work as well. I will get hard, but I won’t stay hard. I suppose this is probably because I’ve just been masturbating too much and should lay off. Also, rubbing the head with lube feels strange.. Not necessarily pleasurable. It’s like the feeling you get when a girl keeps giving you head after you finish, but it’s like this before I actually do so. Any tips?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      It might be that you’ve just overdone it a little by focusing on that one area. As you said yourself, probably best to lay off it for a while, and try a different technique which incorporates the whole penis, not just a specific area. And if lube doesn’t do it for you, that’s fine. Not every technique will be equally pleasurable for all guys. It really doesn’t matter at all!
      Regards
      Ethan

  305. Persian boy says:

    Hello and thanks for your article.
    I have a question. After masturbation I really regret. I really want to know the answer.
    Answer my question if possible.
    Thank you very much and good luck.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Persian boy,

      Thanks for the comment and you’re welcome.
      What do you regret exactly? The fact that you masturbated? Have you been told that masturbation is bad for you, or something you shouldn’t do? If so, that’s something probably you need to make a decision about yourself.
      In my opinion there’s nothing wrong with it and it’s natural, and nothing to regret at all!
      Regards
      Ethan

  306. XxilluminatixX says:

    Hey thanks. This article helped a lot. I have now begun to take it slow and have realized how much more pleasurable it can be.

  307. priya says:

    I tried masturbating my boyfriend….
    But i could never reach his ejaculation…
    Its embarrassing ..
    Feels like I’m not hot n sexy enough for him..
    Can u guys please help me…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Priya

      Thanks for your comment. I imagine it has nothing to do with you being sexy enough. It’s probably technique! In my experience, most women don’t really know how to masturbate a guy very well. And those that do are those who take the time to understand how each guy likes it, as we are often quite different. Some like a soft and gentle grip, whereas others like you to grip much harder than you think would be enjoyable for example. My advice would be to ask him if he’s enjoying the way you do it, and get him to put his hand around yours and show your the exact strength of grip and speed he likes.
      But don’t worry about it. I can’t remember the last time a woman managed to get me to ejaculate through manual stimulation only, and I can tell you for certain that I have found several of my ex partners extremely hot and sexy!
      If all else fails, oral sex and real sex will undoubtedly do the trick for him…
      All the best
      Ethan

  308. 3/4 says:

    I am 14, love the article btw. But i have a really small penis. It is 3/4 of an inch. Is there any ways to stimulate a tiny penis? Besides anal. I do anal a lot.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,
      Is it that size when it is erect though? Have you started having erections yet? Many guys have much, much smaller penises when they are soft, but they then grow a lot bigger when erect.
      Regards
      Ethan

  309. Michael says:

    Hey im 14. And i masturbate with my legs! It might sound weird but for me, squeezing the tip of my penis between my leg give me and unlimited amount of pleasure. The problem is i had sex with my girlfriend the other day and she was waiting for me to ejaculate, but i couldnt because the technique i was using to ejaculate on her face (jacking off), i wasn’t used to. I just want to masturbate normally. I’ve tried but it never works. Can anyone help me with this?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Michael,

      That’s an interesting technique! I think if you stop doing the legs thing, and just keep trying the ‘normal’ way, then eventually it will work for you. Sometimes it takes a while to adjust to a new style of doing things sexually. So don’t panic about it.
      Regards
      Ethan

  310. jizzar says:

    Im 14 and i know how to masturbate but i dont know how to shoot cum anyone want to help me

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi j
      It might be that your body just isn’t ready yet. Once it is, you will know about it so don’t worry!
      Ethan

  311. All the time says:

    Some great tips, my favorite not mentioned, although i dont have a toy… That would be fun until its discovered, then embarrassing!

    I mix it up but when there is no discovery risk I have one thats just like sex.

    Erect, put on condom. I have plenty of ‘self lube’ so let that build up or put a little lube in tip of condom prior to putting it on. Once lubed unroll extra so its 2-3 inches hanging off yourself, then tuck into rolled/folded blanket, or between two pillows. Pump away like its real sex. Feels great and makes cleanup easy as you cane come into pillow since condom is on. Treat pillow like missionary or from behind. In bed is best. Nothing else compares other than sex. Buy lots of condoms though! (No lube outside of condom should be dry. Even wipe off packaging lube. You want to slide inside the condom.)

    Enjoy and thanks for the great article!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi All the time,

      Thanks for the comment, and the compliment about the article. I think there are various ways of using condoms and household items, and only your creativity limits the possibilities! But personally, I think if you’re into that kind of thing, then getting a fleshlight for example will blow your blanket idea out of the water…believe me!
      All the best
      Ethan

  312. Master Bates says:

    Hi Ethan,
    Thanx for the straightforward & valuable advice! I have this thing that I cant put my masturbation endurance levels in the real thing. Maybe coz I prolong or shorten my orgasms thru fantasy. When I masturbate my drabbest fantasy gives me a good 20 mins. While a top rated high end one brings me off in 4-5 mins. Which gives me good reason to believe I have enough control. But things are different for me during a real scene. We start off with some foreplay & when we r ready, I start off with my dampest fantasy like even driving a steamroller or something. But I guess my 5 senses dont care what my mind thinks. They just lock on to Junior and tell him ‘hey kid, times up. Shoot!’ & Thats it. Finito
    kaput. All in 4 minutes flat.
    So guess I’ll find some help here surely. Ethan sorry for the long story. U r probably why this guy couldnt just say “I have control when I masturbate and I cant while lovemaking” p.s. if u do answer, u can edit the longer stuff show the 11 liner. Thanx again.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi M B

      Thanks for your comment, and don’t worry about the length. I enjoy reading people’s comments and helping out where I can.
      What you describe is very normal. That’s why I advise guys to practice masturbation for 20 minutes or more before they allow themselves to orgasm, as it helps build stamina when it comes to the real thing. Maybe your goal should be to hold out for 20 minutes with your favourite fantasy as it seems that’s more likely to help you in the long run.
      And yes, have a look round the site and you’ll find some more tips here and there.
      All the best
      Ethan

  313. Random Dude says:

    LoL it was really fun, reading things that i’ve already had researched on… still pretty educating for “non-researchers”, good job on that πŸ˜‰

  314. kenwyneftw says:

    hey again ethan, i am wondering if my friend is okay, he is 17 and his foreskin hasn’t retracted! i know cause he started crying…. is it normal???? :/

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Kenwyneftw

      It is normal for adolescents to have difficulty retracting their foreskin. Often doctors keep an eye on them to help make sure it happens. If it’s still an issue at his age, it’s probably a good idea to speak to a doctor to make sure everything is ok.
      Regards
      Ethan

  315. Anonymous says:

    Lol, is it wrong to look this up even though I have a gf. Im just tring to build up stamina. :/

    • Ethan Green says:

      Not at all. In my mind, all guys should at all times be thinking about how they can improve their sex life for both them and their partner. So if it’s about improving your stamina, then you’re doing both of you a favor!
      Regards
      Ethan

  316. Anonymous says:

    how can I get rid of this masturbation?

  317. Anonymous says:

    nice

  318. Ad93 says:

    Hi is there any way to masturbate by rubbing my penis head fast or slow with spit

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ad93
      Yes, you can use spit as a lubricant and then masturbate any way you like. But personally I think it’s better to use other lubricants which feel better!
      Regards
      Ethan

  319. mr khan says:

    when I was masturbating sperm comes out with in 2 min…after that my penis is not in the mood…. what to do…??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi mr khan

      I think then you would definitely benefit from following all the advice on this website about practicing techniques to last longer! Have a look round and you’ll get lots of good ideas.
      And it’s normal to not be in the mood for a while after orgasm. It’s called the refractory period, and varies from man to man, and changes with age and other factors.
      Regards
      Ethan

  320. Himan says:

    Hey I am a younger man. I am a little embarrassed about my age. When I masturbate I use spit is that ok? So far I have not jizzed it felt like it very close but I think it was just a organism. Please respond.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Himan,

      Thanks for your comment. I think lots of guys use spit, though personally I don’t like it. You can find moisturizing lotions and creams which would do a better job if you can’t buy actual lubricant.
      And just so you know, an organism is a living thing. An orgasm is the pleasurable feeling of climax!
      All the best
      Ethan

  321. Caleb says:

    Im 12 and i was wondering if i should be masturbating at my age

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Caleb,

      There is no real answer to that question. My personal opinion is go with whatever feels natural for you to do. If you feel the urge, then do it. But don’t do it just because you think you’re supposed to. You’ll know once the hormones kick in and you are driven to experiment. Just don’t worry about it:-)
      All the best
      Ethan

  322. Lol says:

    Does it mean your gay if you watch gay porn while masturbating?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Wow, I really don’t know what to say to that! Er…not necessarily is my best answer. Is it the only thing you watch, or do you just watch it from time to time? Maybe you’re bisexual, maybe you’re gay, maybe you’re experimenting and testing the boundaries of what turns you on. Only you can answer that question really…
      Regards
      Ethan

  323. Big-dick man says:

    I like masturbating and this will definitely help me out to for those nights when my friend doesn’t want anal so this will be something we can definitely use on and for each other and also my partner had bought me the flashlight vagina OMeffinG it is so realistic that u will be using 24/7 day and night! But like I said for me and my gay friend this will be awesome!!!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi b-d-m

      Thanks for your comment. I’m glad you found the article helpful, and yes fleshlights are pretty awesome. Thanks for adding your views on that one!
      Regards
      Ethan

  324. Chaitanya Bachaav says:

    Thanks for the advice but sometimes while masturbrating someome ( generaly mom) knocks the door of my bedroom i have no option other than opening the door so i have to stop in between.

    Is it good or bad to leave in middle??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Chaitanya,

      It’s not bad at all, so don’t worry about that. But if your mum keeps disturbing you, then perhaps wait for a better time of the day when she is not going to bother you so you can relax!
      Regards
      Ethan

    • Anonymous says:

      Do it at night or maybe in the shower I use lotion in the shower

  325. jacob says:

    I have porn mags and videos…but all of it is getting boring, what should I do

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jacob,

      Perhaps put them away, close you eyes and use your imagination. Focus on the physical side of self-pleasure instead of the mental stimulus of mags and vids.
      And get creative!
      Regards
      Ethan

  326. ken in miami says:

    being gay I don’t worry about lasting for a woman and when I do masturbate I last from 1 to 2 hours non stop Just relax your body By using a thumb placed right where your penis meets your groin you can feel the semen flow into your erection so you can tell how well you are doing with your other hand I feel sorry for those guys in the 10 to 15 minute range

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ken,

      That sounds like an incredible long time! Don’t you get bored or suffer from chafing?
      Take care of yourself;-)
      Ethan

  327. Six&a-half says:

    Its so true, masturbating does help last longer… I mean, I last up to at least 10 minutes with my girl, she cums pretty quick so I please her, and I can still keep going! That anus one tho… I’ll stick to a slippery hand cuz it felt weird lol… But how can I do kegles? What is that?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,
      Glad to hear you’re able to satisfy your girlfriend. And yes, that technique isn’t for everyone! You can find out about kegels by following the links in the article and to the right of the page…
      Regards
      Ethan

  328. ananamys says:

    I know I misspelled anonomys bt does anything like ltion work as lube

  329. GlennSkie says:

    And.. During my first sexual intercourse with a girl, what should i do for a protection? please give some advices :) I really need those

  330. GlennSkie says:

    Hi! Mr. Ethan, first of all, i wanna greet you a good day. Thanks for these wonderful and useful tips. I cum fast. That’s why i searched how to make it longer to cum. But i have a question or you, What is the normal ejaculating time during masturbation? I’m 15!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi glennskie,

      I’m glad you found the article helpful. To be honest I have no idea how long the average time is! I don’t think there has ever been a survey done on that. Something tells me it probably isn’t much longer than the average time during sex, which is 5-6 minutes. But who knows…some guys have probably worked out the best way to do it and ejaculate very fast, whilst others enjoy taking their time. So I don’t think there is a ‘normal’ time. It’s all down to personal preference.
      Regards
      Ethan

  331. POPS WITH A PRE TEEN says:

    Ethan,
    I have been really avoiding the ol “bird’s & the bee’s” talk with my son, and I am actually glad to have stumbled across this article! I grew up in a very strict southern Baptist home and the word sex much less Masterbate didn’t ever come up. I had to learn about this type of things from sneaking my best friends older brothers porn magazine or from friends. I know very well that kid’s are learning things way earlier than us parents want to admit, and I am glad that at least the information contained herein is very informative and not instantly hard core slapping chicks UFC ring sex. It’s great to see young people have a place to go to get some answers to the questions they have, without the embarrassing conversation with a parent! As my boy would say! “EPIC”

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      Thank you very much for your comment. It’s great to hear from someone with your perspective. To be honest, I do sometimes wonder what different cross sections of society would think of this article. I like to think that most people will see it for the important educational points that lie underneath the fun aspect. So it’s good to hear your point of view confirming that. Thank you.
      All the best
      Ethan

  332. It was strange says:

    I tried the g-spot thing and it was weird cause I could get my finger that far up my ass, (it was stretching it) I don’t know how girls can do that with a penis, I don’t recommend this unless you have small hands with a big but-hole

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      Well, it’s not a technique that every guy will enjoy! So if it’s not for you, not to worry. There’s plenty more you can do.
      Regards
      Ethan

  333. vampiz says:

    hi ethan,
    it was great your all tips were fabulous my gf will never forget last night. thanks to u

  334. J says:

    Thank you so much. I’ve been masturbating about once a day. My GF lives in another state. It’s been getting old just using my hand and almost not satisfying. I tried some of the techniques and it helped a lot! Thank you!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi J
      I’m glad you found the tips useful. I hope it keeps you satisfied while waiting to see your girlfriend!
      Regards
      Ethan

  335. WolfAddictionzz says:

    A good tip is to use 3 fingers and use the top and middle to masturbate

  336. Anounymus says:

    Hi I find this article very helpful. I’m the usual guy that just master bates in 2 minutes by rubbing it up and down really fast . I didn’t know men have g spots . I want to try and find it but it’s hard . I have tried it before but doesn’t seem to feel pleasurable . Maybe I’m not going far enough . Also I want to experiment with playing with my balls too . Thanks for the tips !

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      I’m glad you enjoyed the article! I get the feeling that not all guys will enjoy that kind of stimulation equally. Even if you do find the right area, it could just be that you don’t enjoy it that much. I wouldn’t worry about it too much…
      Regards
      Ethan

  337. manish says:

    my penis foreskin swells sometimes after masturbating.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi manish
      That doesn’t sound very good at all. Either you’re doing it too hard, too much or you’re very sensitive. Try giving it a break for a while, then do it more gently the next time. If it still happens, I would speak to a doctor if I were you.
      Regards
      Ethan

  338. Robbie says:

    Love the finger to the anus and the pulling down your balls a bit thanks for the tips

  339. david7 says:

    I masturbate while watching porn ….. Is it healthy to do so… Or should i try to masturbate without porn ??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi David,

      Personally I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. But I do think it’s good not to become reliant on it, to mix things up and also to use just your imagination, or watch erotic films instead of the stuff you find online these days.
      Regards
      Ethan

  340. jeremicp3 says:

    my gf had a great night last night thanx to your tips

  341. dudes says:

    that helped alot ,my gf was stunned at my performance in the bed:-) thanks for those techniques

  342. tpi6 says:

    Great article. It was informative, and didn’t know there were so many ways to do it. Thanks for writing it.

  343. Bolvla says:

    Thanks for putting this on here it helped me soo much since the only thing I was doing was the old fashioned way.

  344. Wolfy says:

    Hey,
    I read this and tried everything, do you have any other suggestions?
    -Wolfy

    • Ethan Green says:

      Wow! Well, my best suggestion would be to do more of what you like the most, and use your imagination to see if you can make that even better!

  345. Patrick says:

    Thank you Ethan for the help just one question. I find that it can hurt to rub my penis even if I do it very gently the only method that works is a very gentle tap on the tip of the head. Is there a problem with me or am I just really sensitive?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Patrick,

      You’re welcome. That does sounds like you might be unusually sensitive. It shouldn’t hurt to rub your penis gently. I would recommend talking to a doctor about it. Try not to be embarrassed, and remember they are used to talking about men’s anatomy!
      Regards
      Ethan

  346. Hughy says:

    I hope that my email does not appear Ethan from above

  347. Hornygoldy says:

    Hey ethan!First of all Thanks a lot!!that was really very helpful….to be honest i was addicted to masturbation for the past 6 years and used to masturbate way over the limit and spent my years in exaustion but since the start of 2015 i am trying to cut down my fapping frequency to once a week and practice masturbation with towel and plastic glove vagina once a week for more pleasurable expierience…any more suggestions for me from you would be great! Again thnx:)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi hornygoldy

      Thanks for your comment, and I’m glad you found the site useful. I think masturbation is perfectly natural, but if you think you’ve been doing it too much, then that’s all that matters. I hope you find a way to control it to the extent that you’re happy with. As for now, my suggestions are all in the article above! I’m sure a bit of creative thinking wouldn’t go amiss from yourself though!
      All the best
      Ethan

  348. watsupex says:

    Dude I am 32 never masturbated and had 11 threesomes and once a 4some fffm

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi watsupex,
      What made you decide to read this article then?
      Ethan

      • Hughy says:

        What I love to do is this–I just love 60’s babydoll chiffon nighties/peignoirs with long nylon ribbons to the hem, and sexy bows. I get a real buzz with wearing these sexy gear’s and playing with myself in them. I know its probably a bit unusual but I love it. I love to play with ribbons as I turn myself on, and get the ribbons and chiffon around my cock and balls, it feels really fantastic. I have this babydoll sissy nightie with lots of frills around the hem and puffy sleeves. it has a big bow in the front and two either side all with long ribbons [over a meter] so playing with 10 long nylon ribbons is heaven.
        I’d love to know your comment.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Hughy

          Thanks for your comment. In a planet of billions of people, there are I’m sure many people with equally and even more unusual ways to entertain themselves! If it works for you, that’s all that matters. I did unfortunately feel the need to edit out the last 2 sentences of your comment as they were pretty graphic even by this website’s standards…something which isn’t easy to achieve!
          Anyway, that’s my comment. Enjoy your ribbons;-)
          Ethan

  349. George says:

    This article is amazing and managed roger my staying time up to 40 minutes!! My girlfriend is amazed at my stamina and my orgasms are always much stronger now.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi George,
      Fantastic news! I’m really pleased that the article helped you, and your girlfriend, to have a better sex life.
      Long may it continue!
      Ethan

  350. Andy says:

    See, my issue is that I need to reduce my stamina. I can never seem to orgasm from sex but I can ejaculate with my hand in between 15 and 30 minutes, and I normally last over an hour during sex sometimes, to orgasm from sex I have to exhaust myself to the point of cramping, light-headedness, frustration, and overall fatigue. I’m not sure what the problem is.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Andy,

      Thanks for your comment, and sorry to hear you’re having difficulties. Though to be honest it’s the complete opposite of what this website focuses on. If you want to find out more, than the term you should search online for is ‘delayed ejaculation’.
      I hope that helps and that you find a way to deal with it.
      Regards
      Ethan

  351. Will says:

    hey the article was very informative and looking forward to trying out a few of the techniques you mentioned. I’m sure this has helped out a lot of guys as it has helped me. Thanks alot

    -Will

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi will,

      Thanks for the comment and the compliment. It’s always nice to hear that it helped someone.
      All the best
      Ethan

  352. erwam lawrence says:

    I really liked the article and thanks for that, but then I really need some advice. I really feel ma penis is not as strong big and long as I would want it to be and then how can I really have a longer satisfying sex period with my girl friend.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Erwam,

      Thanks for the comment and I’m glad you enjoyed the article. I don’t really give advice on penis size issues. And for lasting longer, well you just need to follow the advice in this article, and look around this website for ideas!
      All the best
      Ethan

  353. Jackeroffer says:

    You helped me beat my record! I went from 3 to 12 minutes!

  354. David says:

    I and others have been playing with my dick for over 50 years and just yesterday I discovered a new masturbation technique. It helps if your aroused penis makes a lot of precum, like mine does. If not, use your favorite lube.

    Put your hand on your balls (I use my right hand). Grab your balls over and over while pressing your taint with your middle finger. At the same time, rub your thumb up and down the underside of your hardon which is wet with precum or lube. I do this all with the same hand.

    If you do this many times over, stopping just before cumming (edging), when you do cum the orgasm is fantastically intense. At least it is for me!

    I’d like to know if this works for anyone else and if it works for both cut and uncut dicks (I’m cut).

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi David,

      Thanks for sharing what sounds like an interesting technique! But I’m a bit confused as to what a ‘taint’ is?
      Regards
      Ethan

    • Jonathan says:

      Hi I’ve found it extremely useful to masturbate before a date so then u don’t get any erections on the date and it helps you last in bed longer although I find to have a slightly large but narrow penis it has a length of 8 inches and a circumstance of 4 and a half but I wanted to know if their was a way to enlarged the thickness of ur dick and I like to masturbate by going really fast climaxing and then keep masturbating or thrusting in my hand after I enjoy it extremely along with stroking my balls but I usually start out by rubbing my leg or watch porn

      • Ethan Green says:

        Hi Jonathan

        Yes, that’s a tried and tested technique for lasting longer. It’s a useful extra thing you can do along with all the other techniques to last longer.
        I don’t think you need to worry about the size of your penis though. You are way above average. Unless you are talking about cm instead of inches!
        Regards
        Ethan

  355. Arsenically poisonous says:

    Wow! This was good! Actually I last for about 7-10 minutes already, so is that enough?
    Moreover, thanks for the lubrication tip. Actually I have an occasional method which I practice when nobody is at home – I remove the shower head in my bathroom and let the water stream flow directly to my penis. This might sound painful, but controlling the speed of water gives the right amount of orgasm. Also, this stimulates me little by little and I get the peak orgasms of my life by this technique. Also, in this technique, I usually come after 20 minutes, so the orgasm is highly intense, even more than any lubricants (I can’t use a sex toy as my parents might discover it and the rest would be history! :P).

    Thanks dude, for this useful info and telling what actually girls want!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Arsenically poisonous,

      Thanks for the comment, I’m glad you enjoyed the article. 7 – 10 minutes is a good amount of time if you can do that during sex. But it of course depends on your partner as well, and their needs..not just the number!
      And I get your shower technique, it’s a fun technique and I imagine there are a lot of guys out there experimenting in similar ways!
      All the best
      Ethan

  356. raiden says:

    Thanks man the article was informative enough.humorous and well explained.some of the techniques were completely new to me and I am raring to have go…..!!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Raiden,

      You’re very welcome, and I’m pleased you enjoyed the article – it’s always good to get feedback like that. Have fun with the new techniques!
      Regards
      Ethan

  357. This is not my real name says:

    So I wanted to further improve my self in masturbating, and this popped up. So I read the whole thing. I was actually shocked! I already do most of the stuff in this paragraph, I also have found my g-spot thanks to this, I wasn’t going far enough. Thanks dude for this awesome information!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hello this isn’t anyone’s real name,

      Glad to hear you found the article helpful and have made a new discovery of your body. I hope it brings you fun!
      All the best
      Ethan

      • Ilikecheese says:

        I feel like it just sounds weird to stick your finger up your hole! Not saying I’m disagreeing with you because your stuff has worked fine but it just gives me de chills. Do you know why?

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi ilikecheese
          Don’t worry about it. For some people it’s a one way street, and there’s no point driving down the street if it doesn’t feel right.
          Regards
          Ethan

  358. Flufdun says:

    I get erection all the time even in public is there ways to stop this because it’s really embarrassing -thanks

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Flufdun,

      Depending on your age, it could just be some very active hormones, in which case you’re probably not the only one that has that problem. If it’s really out of control, then maybe talk to your doctor and get some advice from them. Otherwise, you might have to find ways to deal with it, such as wearing clothes wear you can hide it easily. And try distraction and breathing techniques, such as thinking about something which definitely doesn’t get you excited. And at the same time focus on your breath, counting in and out for 4 seconds each. That might help calm you down and take your mind off it. But it’s not an easy one to deal with I’m afraid, especially if you’re young.
      All the best
      Ethan

  359. krull says:

    its awesome. i’ve been having heavenly pleasure with my partner. thanks ethan

  360. nathan swift says:

    your techniques dude truly worked I found my penis erected so big that I didn’t experience from the days that passed.

    thanks a lot

  361. nathan swift says:

    o dude !!!! is this for real (βŠ™oβŠ™).. finally I found a site that will help me because I’m so tired doing again the techniques that I know since I’m 12 .thanks a lot.∩__∩

  362. Tristan says:

    I tried these techniques, they were pretty helpful, so thanks Ethan G

    Tristan

  363. curtis says:

    I find the article as good advice,I am used to lasting for 1 min..i’ll use the advice

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Curtis,

      I’m glad you found it useful. Yes, if 1 minute is your usual lasting time, then I highly recommend putting some work in to extending that time.
      All the best
      Ethan

  364. Gray10 says:

    This is genius. i really like all the options and my gf really like the new skills i learned from u.Big thanx

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Gray10

      Thanks, I’m very happy both you and your girlfriend have benefited from the article. Long may it last!
      Regards
      Ethan

  365. murari says:

    I did a good job by the print of your article. It’s very helpful to my friends also. sex toys also we are willing to use them… but if those toys may caught by our parents we will be expell from our homes… rest of the things I am enjoing nicely.. does usage of thyronorm effects PE?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Murari,

      Thanks for your comment and I’m glad you and your friends found the article helpful. I think you need to balance what you do in life with the possible consequences. So it’s probably good to stay away from the toys. Being thrown out of home far outweighs the pleasure of using a toy! And anyway, there are many more ways to have fun which don’t need toys.
      As for the thyronorm, I really don’t know. I had a look online for you, but can’t find anything which specifically indicates it could effect PE.
      All the best
      Ethan

  366. mister v says:

    I have a problem. I Last too long. I’m a man and i have difficulty reaching climax when masturbating or intercourse. I have difficulty keeping an erection because after about 10 minutes I lose sensitivity. I use lube but it still getting harder to get an orgasm.
    can you help me

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi mister v,

      Sorry to hear that, though in some ways you’re not really in the best place to be getting help for that because this website is mainly to help guys who don’t last long enough! But I would suggest you perhaps reduce how much you masturbate for. That way, when you do have sex, you’ll be less used to the physical stimulation and perhaps orgasm more easily.
      All the best
      Ethan

  367. bob (totally my real name) says:

    also could you recommend the best technique it would be very useful.

  368. bob (totally my real name) says:

    i can only last for about 2 min while masturbating ive been using those techniques but which one do you think would help me the most?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Bob,

      Well done for starting to use the techniques for lasting longer – hopefully it will help a lot in the long run! To be honest it’s hard to say which is the best, because in my opinion the best thing to do is learn all of them, then find a combination which works well for you. That’s one of the reasons I recommend looking at getting a book on the topic so you can learn everything there is to learn about it, rather than just reading about one technique and then doing that over and over. Have a look at our homepage, and that’s a good way to understand the main choices you can make.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • anonymous says:

        Hello Ethan,

        Am 17 and just recently managed to peel my penis properly.I used to masturbate without peeling and everything was normal but now that i actually can,i tried to masturbate (using only my hand ) but it vain.I realised that it takes longer for me to get a full erection with a peeled penis and worse i did not manage to ejaculate with a peeled penis!Also,it was during a sexual intercourse that a girl decided to peel my penis for the first time and on that very same day did not manage to ejaculate.I didnt pay too much attention until now!

        I was wondering if this was an issue to be taken into consideration and if is it neccesary to peel my penis before sexual intercourse!?

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi there
          I think it’s not necessary to masturbate with the foreskin peeled back or forwards. It’s a personal preference thing.
          As with sex, some guys find it more natural to get an erection without the skin peeled back. Then when they are erect, to peel it back to have sex, or put a condom on. But usually, even if you don’t peel it back, it will naturally happpen when you have sex anyway. I’m not sure why you didn’t ejaculate. But it could be that if you have only started to be able to peel it back at 17, it’s taken a little longer than average to happen. So it could be that it’s too tight. I would wait and see what happens the next couple of times you have sex. Use lubricant and see if it all works normally. If not, you could ask your doctor’s advice just to check it’s not too tight.
          Ethan

  369. Arya says:

    Well this article; those who needs to play regular with optimum immersive influences at masturbation would all find much informative and useful for their practical stuff if to be considered so! Ethan bro, that’s to receive a hearty thank of on what information you’ve provided man! Good on to see there are many other buddies like me who masturbate, now realized there is a huge company for me. Instead one day we better open up and organize the ‘Masturbation Club For Playas’!!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Arya,

      Thanks for the comment, and you’re very welcome for the article and information. I’m not sure how popular your club would be though!! As is usually the case with this activity, you might find you’re the only one who turns up…
      Regards
      Ethan

  370. jackson says:

    Thanks this helped a lot I’ve been looking for this kinda info and this is perfect I practiced a lot of the realistic using my body and it helped me a lot thanks.

  371. Patrick says:

    Hey Ethan, So i just read this and to be honest, thoroughly enjoyed it. Bravo on the article. Definitely have an issue with the throwing on my favorite movie and getting to it, I’m single right now so not very worried about the bedroom preformance. And this will sound strange but you’re THE Ethan Green right? If so then i love what you and your brother do. Funny if i meet you on sex article comment, right? Anyway thanks for the article man :)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Patrick,

      Thanks for the comment, and I’m glad you found the article helpful. I think being single is the perfect time to practice the skills for lasting longer! Personally, I would take the opportunity of the time and privacy you have to explore how well you can learn to control yourself.
      Not sure who you mean by THE Ethan Green though, and I don’t have a brother! But I’d be very interested to know who you though I was:-)
      All the best
      Ethan

  372. Jojo says:

    Can’t pushing the perineum cause infertility?

  373. Josh says:

    Really don’t know which techniques to use any suggestions on which helped?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Josh,

      They all help! If you’re unsure where to start, I recommend going to our homepage and reading from there. It’s designed to help you take the first steps and understand your options.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • Josh says:

        My Penis has reached its maximum potential I feel after using these suggested techniques, I stay hard for longer periods of time without cuming & also the pleasure is amazing.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Josh,

          That’s great to hear – I’m always very happy to hear that readers have benefited from the articles. It make the hard work creating them all worth it:-)
          Thanks for your feedback – it’s much appreciated.
          Enjoy your new potential!
          Ethan

  374. sam says:

    Thank you very much for the tips it was a very educational article.

  375. ak 9 says:

    boss help me for improving the orgasm time.
    and how many times the masturbation is possible in one week without any harm

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi ak 9

      Have a look at our homepage, and read the recommended articles from there. There is tons of information on this site, and also reviews of the best training programs and products. Just have a look around:-)
      As for your second question, I think only you can know the answer to that. Technically you should be able to do it as much as you like, but if it starts getting sore in any way, then it’s probably time for a rest and the next week do a little less. Everyone is different!
      Hope that helps
      Ethan

  376. baker says:

    Would it be okay if I asked what the size of your penis is I want to know if mine is average

    • Ethan Green says:

      I think the best way to do that is to google ‘average penis size’ and also specifically for your country or ethnic background as there are differences. Comparing it against mine is just a bit weird…

  377. Raj says:

    Hi Ethan…
    I don’t wank very often, but when i do, i cum within a minute. Please advise me on how i can keep going for a much longer time. Thanks

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Raj,

      I suggest reading the article again, particularly the parts about lasting longer! And you can just go to our home page and read that. It’s a good starting point if you need to improve your lasting time.
      Regards
      Ethan

  378. Bob says:

    Can’t wait to see if it payed off

  379. Bob says:

    This will help “BIG TIME”

  380. jacf says:

    How would you stop the flow of cum

  381. Mason says:

    I loved the article my gf does not want to have sex yet so I practice masterbating.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Mason,
      If you practice the techniques for lasting longer, then hopefully when she’s ready, you’ll be able to do your part in having an awesome sex life!
      Ethan

  382. frog says:

    thanks so much! this article helped a lot. but i have a good or what i think is a good question: so i was talking to my gf and i asked if she thought i have a large penis, she said yes so i tried to get my mind off it. so i measured my penis and its 7 in when hard, 5 when soft. my gf is satisfied with my size but im not and advice to make it longer or advice in general?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Frog,
      Your size is definitely above average, so I wouldn’t be worried about it. And if your partner is happy too, then you’re in a good place!!
      Regards
      Ethan

  383. annon123 says:

    sorry for the spelling errors… basically the summary is : make us ask you for more, then pretty much you are the total master… yup The god of sex really

    • Ethan Green says:

      No problem – I corrected most of them!
      Good summary…it just needs guys to be able to hold out long enough for you to ask for more!!

  384. annon123 says:

    hi guys
    I am sorry .. i am a woman. I was just trying to to figure out this mystery and perhaps to learn something new. Thanks because it does help to know things.

    I will give you some insight that actually is not in magazines and online to help you back.

    We lie. Its sad but the truth is we dont really like it after 20 minutes because yes it hurts. The key to women is simply this. Take your time with the foreplay. Make us wonder why you are not trying to race to the actual sex part. If a guy takes an hour with us and spends time pleasing our senses it make us have to ask for the sex part… thats quite hot. At that point pretty much women dont care if you go for 5 minute or 10 but we will hate you and probably not call you again if you take more than 20 minutes because it hurts or we get bored.
    Thats the truth. be gentle with our touching but definitely do touch us down there…..It makes us feel really special if you take the time with the foreplay and if we have to actually ask or say.. I’m ready for you… it makes us really adore you for respecting us so much. all women I know will do anything for a man like this. This is what we dream of from being young teenage girls….

    hope that helps you back guys…. xoxoxo

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      No need to apologise at all, it’s always great to hear from a woman in the comments of any articles here.

      It’s interesting what you say, and I think you’re absolutely right about the foreplay. It’s good advice for any guys to try and make sure he can control himself long enough to wait until his partner is ready for him.

      And in terms of lasting 20 mins or longer. Well, I think according to surveys that’s correct for many women. But there are of course women who do like, want and need guys to last longer.

      Guys will only know by observing their partner’s reaction and asking them. And hoping that if they have an open and trusting relationship, their partner will tell them exactly what they want and not lie!

      Thanks again
      Ethan

      • Anonymous says:

        Am ready 4 U baby just call me now

        • Ethan Green says:

          Normally I delete such useless comments, but this one is so incomprehensibly pointless, I thought I’d publish it for any future readers to share the joke!
          What kind of person writes a comment like that, but with an anonymous name, no email and no phone number!?!?
          Answers on a postcard…

  385. Jimmy Recard says:

    Thanks! Came here looking for techniques but glad you included that training information. Never considered tht!

  386. rouge says:

    this article was very helpful thaks so much! i’ve already increased my time to 2 hours. also my gf would like me to say thanks for her and that you’ve helped a lot.

  387. kenwyneftw says:

    Awesome advice dude…. thx

  388. hbc says:

    OMG the black man finally gets a half-decent wank…thanks dude!

  389. c84Oxba says:

    I’m actually capable of sucking myself, but it depends on the day, that I am flexible or not. I am kind of fat and don’t know why I can do this…

  390. vimal says:

    Please give me a trick to make a vagina from home made stuff. And can I use coconut oil as lubricant ? Please Answer as fast as possible.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Vimal,

      If you find a lubricant in the shops which contains coconut oil and is sold as a sex lubricant, then yes. But personally I wouldn’t use normal coconut oil.
      As for the fake vagina, I don’t recommend making one at home because they are nowhere near as good as buying one!
      Regards
      Ethan

  391. Wanking Warrior says:

    I’ve been manning the gun for years but your techniques have taken me to a new level.

  392. Good Time Master says:

    over multiple days i have tried these techniques and its been a great success my buddy feels great lasts longer used to be around 3 min now about 10 loved the article great info and well written i’m looking into a toy but am to young to buy one yet anything you can help me out with getting one? before 19 that would be great thanks! :)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Good Time Master

      Glad to hear you found the article helpful, and that you’ve had success with the techniques. As for the toy, we can’t help there I’m afraid. You’ll have to wait!

      Regards
      Ethan

  393. Smith's Biggie says:

    Hey , thank you very much for the information . I used to last 15 minutes now I can last as long as my hands die out :) It’s really amazing …

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there SM

      You’re welcome, glad you found it helpful. 15 mins wasn’t a bad time by the way. But if you have total control, then great!

      Regards
      Ethan

  394. lasting too long says:

    I never ejaculate without masturbation. I think I have overdone it. Now I masturbate 1-3 times a day. If I can manage to skip a day I I go crazy with it the next. How long will it take to be able to ejaculate with my partner. She is extremely sexy, so no issue with staying aroused. I can stay hard easily for an hour.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Lasting too long,

      Hmmm that’s a difficult question to answer. Perhaps there is something about the way you have sex which is just not doing it for you. Maybe you need to try some new things together.
      Also perhaps the amount you are ejaculating through masturbation is affecting your sex life. You might need to just put a bit more effort into trying not to for a few days, and then see it you can with your partner!
      And if you are watching films etc when alone, you may be altering what your mind likes to reach an orgasm. If that’s the case, try removing that element from your solo time.
      All the best
      Ethan

  395. Smith says:

    I loved your article. Really Cool.

  396. Vickey says:

    I am 23 yrs i started masturbating after 5 to 6 mins i ejaculate. my penis size is only 1 to 2 inch. please help me for the long sex play

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Vickey

      Follow through to the pages I recommend in the second half of this article and you will find lots of useful advice:-)
      Regards
      Ethan

  397. John says:

    Over musturbation leads to lose weight ?what should be the frequency of musturbation as I’m very slim. .?

    • Ethan Green says:

      I’ve never heard that John, unless you’re doing exercise at the same time, which would be very weird…
      Seriously though, where did you hear that it can lead to weight loss? If that were the case, it would be the most amazing dieting plan ever thought of!

      • John says:

        what should be the frequency of musturbation for me as I am 20 years old.

        • Ethan Green says:

          There are no rules about it John and everyone has a different level of need/desire. Just do what feels natural and you should be fine.

        • Unknown says:

          Hey Ethan,
          Thank you for sharing Ur great ideas.
          I ejaculate very soon, like in 20 seconds while masturbating ..and bcz of my early ejaculating problems I never had sex with any one and I’m getting married within a year.. I’m so worried about my sex life I am 24 now.. Please help

          • Ethan Green says:

            Hi there
            First of all congratulations and I hope you have a happy marriage:-)
            I think that a year is a good amount of time to do something about it. You have plenty of time to practice natural techniques, and to maybe test out some delay products while masturbating. I would also get a fake vagina and practise the techniques with one of those. Have a look around this site, and put your mind to the task:-)
            Regards
            Ethan

  398. Gabor says:

    thanks for the ideas about kegels. I heard about them before but didn’t really understand them. I’m definitely going to try out some of these techniques.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Gabor

      No worries – I hope you understand them better after reading the articles about them here.
      Ethan

  399. Cameron says:

    Hey I have a REALLY good way to orgasm. Just take your penis with your hand (either hand is fine, I just prefer left because it’s stronger) and rub it on the side of your leg. In about 20 secs, it will feel like heaven. But I as well have a question. When I move my penis up and down, it doesn’t feel like anything? Why is that??? Thanks.

  400. Last Time says:

    as a last week fun adventure in self pleasure i wanted to try something new, i did try the g-spot which was 100% enjoyable, but let me say you can’t just use a finger as you need something like a dildo. as i have from this point ended my 2 years of self pleasure, I wish you good luck in you adventure. ps. don’t think of doing it for the rest of your life :) As much as it’s fun, it can change a man and make him less. just think about it. good luck and peace out. from LAST_TIME

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi ‘Last Time’

      Thanks for your interesting thoughts. Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with masturbation, and it is a normal, healthy thing to do. If you feel less of a man, then that’s your choice to avoid it. But I don’t think it makes you any more or less of a man. It’s just something we do.

  401. Timmy O. T. says:

    Hey Ethan, so I have a concern that I think may be able to be resolved with things in this article but I don’t know. Basically the head of my penis is just really sensitive, as in I always come really quickly when its stimulated – getting head lasts like 15 seconds, n when i masturbate that area its much faster too. Normal sex isn’t the issue so much, usually. Any help is appreciated.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Timmy

      If you have a very sensitive penis, then you might find it helpful to try one of the desensitizing products. The techniques in the second half of this article might help you, but can take some time to pay off, especially if physical sensitivity is an issue. Have a look at this article about delay sprays and you’ll get an idea of what different kinds you can use, and which ones work with oral sex or not.

      All the best
      Ethan

  402. Bill Me says:

    Thanks for the ideas Ethan – I’ve heard about the Fleshlight before, but not really thought much about getting one until reading this. Now I think maybe I will.

  403. Lewis says:

    I get exactly what you mean about the rushed masturbation thing and wish I’d known about it sooner. I used to fire on all cylinders just so nobody would catch me. Now I don’t have to worry about people catching me, so I can take my time and enjoy it more. Anyone reading this and living with other people should get a lock for their room – even if you live with a girlfriend lol you don’t want her catching you. Or maybe you do – some girls like that sort of thing;-)

  404. Terry says:

    good ideas here and really well written! thanks for providing all this information i think its going to help me hopefully for many years to come no pun intended haha

    • Ethan Green says:

      Terry
      Glad you found it helpful. It’s amazing that this comment thread isn’t full of more puns like that:-)
      Ethan

  405. shaun says:

    Very interesting article. I tried some of these techniques before, but some are new. It’s cool that what you say can help you be better at sex can also give you better orgasms anyway. Double bonus!!

  406. Freddie says:

    I just want to mention I enjoyed this article a lot…you’ve given me some great new ideas which Im looking forward to trying.

  407. john dickenson says:

    ps you could add some techniques to lengthen a guys penis

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi again John

      Sorry – that’s kind of out of my remit at the moment! Maybe in the future I’ll write about that, but for now you’ll have to do an online search. There are some good sites out there about that.

      Ethan

  408. john dickenson says:

    would you have an idea how long a guy can last on average after using the extention techniques?

  409. Kevtherev says:

    I hit the ceiling with the g spot

  410. Josh jake joe says:

    Hey I read this and thought the fleshlight thing would be great but I can’t get one so I looked up how to make one using cloth and fabric do you have any suggestions on any other types of sexual toys

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hey Josh

      Yeah there are plenty of ways to make one yourself, though unfortunately none of them are anywhere near as good as a properly manufactured one. The best way is probably the rubber glove inside a rolled up towel trick. Otherwise you’ll just have to do some more searching online as I haven’t covered any more sex toys on this site up until this point. I’m sure you can find more ideas though if you put your mind to it!

      Ethan

  411. Jay says:

    The longer you take, the more satisfying the orgasm is, either when you are masturbating or having sex. The most mind shattering, toe curling orgasms I have ever had, were with girlfriends after long sessions of intercourse which followed some liberal amounts of foreplay. I never would have had the stamina I had as an adult if I had not masturbated as a younger man. Don’t go overboard with it, but masturbation is like practice.

    • Ethan Green says:

      That’s exactly it Jay! Thank you for confirming what I’ve been saying in the article; it’s good to hear from a reader as well how much you can benefit from the right kind of masturbation – and sex, as you rightly point out.

      All the best
      Ethan

  412. Matthew says:

    A fleshlight would be great, but I have no means of getting one. I’m too embarrassed to ask my parents to buy me one. The old hand is getting kind of boring and I’ve tried a lot of techniques, but they aren’t doing much for me. Any tips on getting a fleshlight without anyone knowing? Also, great article

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Matthew

      Yeah, I definitely wouldn’t ask your parents to get you one. You might just have to miss out on that if you can’t order one online. Cheers for the compliment!

    • Nobody must know says:

      My best friend jacks off all the time, maybe ask your best friend if he has any! (Make sure to wash them, ALOT!)

  413. Leonard says:

    Hi

    Thanks for the advice every time I use every technique on here it helps me prepare for when penny wants to have sex. I have been called a beast.

  414. Brax boy says:

    Thank you, but I would like it if you could email me about some more ways too, I would really like to know. So just email me if you want and thank you again.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Brax boy – really? There isn’t enough here for you! Now you’ve got me wondering what I could have possibly missed out. Well, I guess something you could do is to go online to a good sex toy seller and look at what they have. I know I talk about the Fleshlight, but there are other great toys made for guys. I imagine you could have fun investigating them.

  415. Andrew says:

    Thanks for the article dude, it’s very cool and very well written! The poll results are interesting. I wonder what it would look like if it was only women answering it…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks for the compliments Andrew:-)

      Yes, it would be interesting, but I’m sure you can find one on a women’s website somewhere. I wonder if the sex toy answer would be further up the list; men are definitely playing catch-up with women when it comes to using sex toys for masturbation!

  416. Lee says:

    Good article – and yeah these are good techniques to do. I was trying kegels for a long time and it helped me get bigger erections as well which is cool.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks Lee, very happy you like the article. Kegels can have quite a few surprise benefits, which are either useful or interesting, for want of a better word!

  417. Oda says:

    This is a great article, really funny and informative at the same time! I also like the idea of using a realistic vagina. It’s got to be good…

  418. Burton says:

    I agree it’s a shame that nobody talks about masturbation techniques like you do in this article. If so many guys end up with problems because of the way they do it, it would make sense if there was a way of educating guys about masturbation when they are growing up. But I don’t think it will ever happen.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks Burton. Glad I’m not alone in that theory. And yes, you’re probably right that it won’t happen. I can’t imagine fathers talking about it individually, nor anyone deciding on an awareness campaign. Both would be considered unnecessary and inappropriate by most people, as masturbation is something you work out naturally by yourself usually. And since it’s a taboo topic, only people who end up with problems because of it, or the most open-minded, would ever feel any need to talk about it.

    • kyle15 says:

      dude that felt amazing thx ethan

  419. Owemi says:

    Thank you my friend. This was a really useful thing to read. I had no intention to find out the techniques you describe later, I was reading this just for fun to start with. But now you have kind of educated me and I think I will take your advice about masturbating more slowly especially. No way I want to end up with big problems in the bedroom!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Owemi

      That’s great to hear. I bet it was a surprise then if you weren’t expecting those techniques to exist. They could potentially make a big difference to your future sex life so I’m glad you’ve discovered that:-)

      • Anonymous says:

        hiii ethan

        Ethan is it good to have sex with mom?

        she is 35 and you cant imagine how sexy she is….i daily observe her in night dress jeans tshirt and i saw her in bedroom while changing cloths…

        i cant