The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

funny masturbation quoteThis article is for anyone who’s never been taught the best way to masturbate. And considering it’s not exactly a dinner time topic, that’s probably 99.99% of all guys.

I’ll first describe the basics step by step, and then move on to some more advanced techniques for those who are looking for new and exciting ways to do it.

You’ll also find out how you can use masturbation to build an important skills when it comes to real sex: your sexual stamina.

So you can use your masturbation time to both have some fun and train yourself to be a better lover in the future. What’s not to love about that?

1. Polls

Before getting to the techniques, please help out by answering these anonymous polls:

Poll 1

How often do you masturbate?


Poll 2

What are you most interested in?


Poll 3

How do you masturbate?


2. Masturbation techniques

The basic technique – Madam Palm and her 5 lovely daughters

masturbation quote from louis c.k.The basic way to masturbate is to lightly grip your penis in one hand, with your fingers underneath and thumb on top.

You then move your hand up and down the shaft. Don’t go too hard or fast to start with – start slow and build up.

With some experimentation you’ll be able to find the finger position, speed and strength of grip that most stimulates you.

If you like, you can pull your foreskin back and include the penis head in the up and down movement.

If you find the exposed penis head is too sensitive, it helps to use lubricant. Alternatively, you can keep the foreskin in place, so it acts as a protective barrier between your hand and the penis head.

Your hand’s twin

two hands are better than oneEven if you only really enjoy using your hands to masturbate, you can still add some variety and extra pleasure.

Try not to get stuck on just using your strong hand, as there are some fun ways to include your other hand, such as:

  • Sometimes only use your other hand when masturbating.
  • Have a go at using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, lucky you and your future partner… If you can’t, try squeezing your penis between your two palms and experimenting with a stroking action.
  • Use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the penis head, for example doing a circular motion with the palm.

Don’t leave your balls hanging

illustration of a hand playing with 2 ballsRemember the last time you got hit hard in the balls, and fell to the floor with that horrible nauseous feeling?

Yep, your testicles are a truly sensitive place.

They can also be much more than simply a funny-shaped storage facility for millions of wiggly little swimmers.

They are also an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your pleasure and orgasms when masturbating.

If you’re only using one hand to masturbate, your other hand is free to explore other parts of your body. Here are a few ideas for including your balls:

  • Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
  • Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see exactly what feels good.
  • Try just holding them in a light grip with the other hand.

There’s also an important health reason to get to know how your testicles feel. If you know what they feel like normally, you’ll be quicker to spot any unusual lumps or growths, which is important to keep a check on during your life.

Find your other erogenous zones

diagram of the male and female erogenous zones

It’s a popular belief that only women have multiple erogenous zones. However, the truth is that your body is far more sensitive than you might think (just look at Robin Hood’s inability to shoot straight when Maid Marian blew in his ear).

For example, try playing with your nipples – yes, your nipples! – and experiment with different strokes, pinches, pressure and movements.

Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. And if there’s anywhere else on your body that feels good to touch, enjoy exploring the different sensations that arise.

Some guys are more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you when masturbating. There are no rules, so don’t be shy – get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.

Moving south to the perineum

The Perineum is the area between your anus and testicles. It’s a soft padded bit of skin which can be very sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your one hand you use the other to masturbate.

Experiment with different positions

Tempting as it might be to lock the bedroom door and sit in the same position every time you masturbate, it can be fun to try other positions from time to time.

Here are 4 ideas:

  • Lie on your front on the bed, with your penis in one hand underneath your body. It might be easier and more comfortable to arrange some pillows under you to take some weight off your hand. You can then move your hips to thrust into your hand.
  • Try kneeling or standing, and also then try thrusting into your hand rather than always keeping your body still and stroking with your hand.
  • Change positions during your session: kneeling, standing, sitting, swapping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.
  • Some readers have commented about how they sometimes like to put their penis between their thighs and then move their legs up and down. It’s a technique that’s probably not that common, but might be fun to explore if you can do the necessary yoga.

The male G-spot(s)

image showing an explosionSome say the male G-Spot is like the lost city of Atlantis, and never existed in the first place; others claim that guys are in fact blessed with 2 different G-spots.

Whether they are officially G-spots or not, many guys find these areas particularly sensitive, and that they can increase the intensity of their orgasms enormously.

The first is the area on and around the frenulum – that weird string-like fleshy bit that connects the penis head to the shaft and you always wondered what it did.

If you play with it gently with your spare hand, you’ll probably find it’s the most sensitive part of your penis.

The second G-spot might not appeal to everyone, but some guys like to include their anus when masturbating.

If you’re willing to explore this area, you might find it adds an extra dimension to your masturbation and gives you super strength orgasms. Here’s how to find it:

  • Wash your anus and hands before starting.
  • Put some lubricant on your finger.
  • Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
  • Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
  • You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out.
  • The G-Spot is supposedly a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter, which is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it.

3. Masturbation toys

Treat yourself to a Fleshlight

fleshlight male masturbatorThere’s a whole world of wonderfully lifelike sex toys for guys who want to recreate the real deal in the privacy of their bedroom.

Arguably the best of all is the world famous Fleshlight male masturbator, with its carefully recreated vagina discreetly hidden inside a sturdy case.

It’s made from a silky soft silicon material, with contours and ribs that stimulate you in all the right ways.

As well as the wide range of different shaped vagina models, you can can also find mouth and butt sleeves, and some modeled on real porn stars.

And for the truly adventurous, there are some cool extras like the hands free shower attachment, vibrating versions and even virtual real sex videos to add some naughty interactivity.

If you feel like expanding your repertoire of self-pleasure techniques, you might just find that this truly is the best way to masturbate.


lubricantFor the same reason you might use a realistic vagina for masturbation, lubricant can also boost the pleasure factor and help get you one step closer to real sex.

Whether you’re using a masturbation toy or just your hands, lubricant adds an extra element of pleasure, and also helps prevent friction – especially on the more sensitive penis head.

You can find lubricant in most pharmacies, supermarkets, sex shops and online stores. If you can’t, it’s ok to use a non-chemical, gentle moisturizer, baby oil or even your own saliva if you have no other options.

Cock rings

vibrating cock ring for masturbationThere are many great sex toys that guys can use, either alone or in combination with the techniques in this article. And cock rings are perhaps one of the simplest to try out, yet can can be surprisingly effective.

You can find simple rings that sit around the base of your penis, some with a double ring that fits around your penis and balls. And there are vibrating versions which will literally give you an added buzz during masturbation.

4. Increase your sexual stamina

Many guys get into the habit of rushing masturbation, especially when they’re younger. It’s understandable because doing it quickly feels good, and it reduces the chance of someone walking in on you.

The problem is though, that if you always do it as quickly as possible, there’s the possibility that you’ll train yourself to finish quickly when you have sex too, which obviously isn’t ideal .

So it’s a good idea to take it slowly and don’t rush it. Here are some ways you can use masturbation to work on your sexual stamina.

The stop and start method

start and stop image

A technique which was developed to help guys develop control is the stop and start method. You can practice this if you regularly ejaculate in under 3 minutes, or even if you last longer but want to increase your time.

The simple version is that you set yourself a time – 20 minutes is good – and you don’t allow yourself to ejaculate until that time is up.

Every time you feel yourself getting close to the point of ejaculating, stop and relax for one minute and then carry on. It might sound a bit frustrating, but after a few weeks you should notice you last longer.

You might also find that by holding back for so long, when you finally let go, your orgasm will be even more powerful.

Learn to recognize your arousal levels

Continuing with the theme of developing your sexual stamina, you can learn to identify your arousal levels during sexual activity, and then keep yourself under control.

Imagine a scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being not aroused at all, and 10 being ejaculation and orgasm. When you masturbate, if you focus on your whole body you’ll see changes that happen when you’re reaching the higher numbers.

Maybe you’ll breathe deeper, tense your legs or stomach, feel hotter or feel hornier mentally. Over time if you can work out what happens at number 8 and 9, you’ll know that ejaculation will soon follow.

And that means you can control your arousal by stopping for a while, changing position or doing the breathing technique below.

Breathe and relax

image of a note reminding self to breathe during masturbationBreathing slowly and deeply while keeping your body relaxed is a useful skill to learn when masturbating.

The reason being that when you have sex with a partner, breathing quickly and shallow manner is a sign that you’re very aroused. And the more aroused you are, the quicker you’ll ejaculate.

So the next time you masturbate, try to focus on your breathing at least some of the time, keeping it slow and steady.

Breathe in slowly for the count of 4, hold it for 2 seconds, then breathe out for 4 seconds. Then keep repeating this rhythm

The final word

As they say, variety is the spice of life. And when it comes to your solo sex time, this is absolutely true.

Sure, it feels great to switch on your favorite porno and jerk away at lightning speed. And even if you still do it that way from time to time, it’s a good idea to try other techniques at least occasionally.

And of all the ideas in this article, there are two that I recommend above all others. The first is to practice the start and stop method if you usually ejaculate very quickly.

The second is to take your pleasure and orgasm to the next level with a quality male sex toy. So I highly recommend trying out a fleshlight.

You might also like

If you have a problem with ejaculating too quickly and it’s worrying you, you might like to check out one of my recommended sexual stamina guides for more advanced techniques you can try.

And lots of readers have left comments asking about their penis size. If this is something you worry about, I recommend checking out my article about penis size and enlargement techniques.

2,941 CommentsLeave a comment

  • Hey, My problem is that im 14 and my dick is half an inch, it goes to 1 1/2 when i get hard but when i cum i only get out a few drops? is that normal or is it true that my friend said thats just pre cum.

    • Hi
      It doesn’t stunt it. I don’t think it will increase it either. Maybe some people will disagree, especially those who are fans of natural stretching exercises, but there’s no evidence it will.

  • Hey Ethan. Very nice article .
    I need to ask something.
    I am married having outstanding sex relation with my wife.
    Yet i am obsessed to masturbate sometime. Or when she visit her mom house for few days. I always hook up to porn and masturbate.
    Is it normal or what.

    • Hi Dave
      There’s nothing wrong with masturbating even if you’re married. Where it becomes a problem is if you prefer to do that than have sex, or if you feel bad about doing it too much. But in theory, there’s nothing wrong with it.

    • Hi Trevor
      There are ways to make some, but I don’t discuss them on this site because I don’t rate them very highly and the proper sex toys are way better! But if you search online, you can find other sites talking about making them using various things in the house.

        • Ah, yes I guess that makes sense – thanks! Well, the answer is definitely yes. If you can continue after ejaculating, that’s great! There’s a whole world of possibilities about male multiple orgasms to explore if you’re able to stay hard. But the tricky thing is staying hard after you ejaculate as you’re almost guaranteed to lose the erection unless you have either amazing pelvic floor muscle control or a seriously high libido.

  • Hi is there a certain age that is too young to masterbate? And is there a certain age where you start ejaculating? When is it safe to start?

    • Hi Meyer
      Well, that’s a tricky question really. I think it’s natural to touch yourself from an early age, and there’s no real rules about when it’s too young – it depends on your natural urges. Guys start ejaculating when they go through puberty – usually in their early teenage years.

    • Hi Dev
      It’s a personal choice. But if you can do it using just your imagination, many people would say that’s much healthier.

  • I’m pretty glad that I can usually last from thirty minutes to an hour masturbating with porn using the breathing control technique, however, I’m afraid that having sex in real life will cause me to ejaculate more quicker and I’ll disappoint the girl, is the feeling of real sex much better than masturbation or….?

    • Hi Mike
      Well, yes, sex is very different from masturbation and much more stimulating and intense. But if you have that level of control when masturbating, I don’t think you have anything to worry about at all! I’m sure you’ll also have great control during sex.

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