The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

This article is for anyone who was never taught the best way to masturbate. So funnily enough it’s for 99.99% of all guys…

You’ll discover ways to give yourself more intense orgasms than you ever thought possible. And importantly you’ll also find out how masturbation can make you better, or worse, at the real thing.

This is important because many guys end up having problems because of the way they masturbate. But with the right techniques, you can develop the kind of sexual stamina that will leave women lying exhausted on the bed next to you.

And even if you’re not currently sexually active, the same techniques will give you stronger orgasms than you’ve ever had before.

 

Contents:

Part A: The self-pleasure survey.

Part B: Masturbation techniques for maximum pleasure.

Part C: Sex toys and accessories to enhance the experience.

Part D: Improve your sexual stamina and orgasm intensity.

 

Part A: The self-pleasure survey

These polls are 100% anonymous. Please take a moment to help out by giving your answers. Thanks!

Poll 1

What is your preferred way to masturbate?

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 Poll 2

Which kind of porn do you use?

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Part B: Masturbation techniques for maximum pleasure

 

1) The basics – Madam Palm and her five lovely daughters

masturbation: sex with someone you loveMost people learn pretty early on that their hand is a capable friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and whole lot of fun.

Yet many guys still get stuck thinking that the best way to masturbate is simply as follows:

  • Switch on a movie.
  • Grip penis gently but firmly in your strong hand.
  • Move up and down repeatedly at lightning speed.
  • Ejaculate into a tissue.
  • Return to the paused video game.

This is of course one of the most satisfying masturbation techniques known to mankind.

The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. But you can add much more variety as you’ll see in the next few tips.

 

2) Don’t forget Madam Palm’s twin sister: 4 ways to masturbate using your other hand

two hands are better than oneEven at this basic level, you can still spice things up by using your other hand. Here are some ideas:

  • Try only using your other hand.
  • Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. But if not, you can try placing the penis in between both palms pressed together.
  • You can use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.
  • Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!

 

3) Don’t leave your balls hanging

2 ballsYour balls are more than just an odd shaped storage facility. They are an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.

It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:

  • Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
  • Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
  • Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.

There is another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.

 

4) It’s not just women that have multiple erogenous zones

diagram of the male and female erogenous zonesIf you think the best way to masturbate is all about your penis, and maybe your balls, then think again.

It’s a popular belief that only women are blessed with multiple erogenous zones. But the truth is that men are more sensitive than you might think.

For example try touching your nipples in the way that you would a woman’s. Experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.

Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you are sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.

Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.

 

5) Moving south: the perineum

The Perineum is the area in-between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand.

 

6) The holy grail of the male G-spot

diagram showing the man's g-spotSome cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place.

But there’s no doubt that there are parts inside the anus which respond well to self-stimulation.

For more open-minded and less squeamish guys, one of the best ways to masturbate is to include the anus. For others it’s strictly a one-way street.

If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-increasing treat. Here are some ideas for you:

  • Don’t forget to wash before you start.
  • Check that your chosen nail (yes – one finger will do) is short and not sharp. File it down if necessary.
  • Add plenty of lubricant on your finger (proper lubricant is better so you don’t accidentally stick something in there which can burn)
  • Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
  • Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
  • You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
  • The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter. This is actually the outside of the prostrate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.

Stimulating the G-Spot is known in the tantric sex world as a prostrate massage, and is an effective way of enhancing orgasm. The key though with all these ideas is to be gentle and soft.

 

7) Experiment with different positions

If you just sit in your favorite chair or lie on your bed, you’re not going to get anywhere near simulating sex.

And as you’ll find out in part 3, simulating sex is one of the most important masturbation techniques for men.¬†Here are 3 ways you can use your body more effectively:

  • Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.
  • Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand. The idea is to keep your hand still and use your body to move.
  • Change positions from time to time: kneeling, standing, sitting, swopping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.
  • And in case you’re wondering, unless you’re a yoga master, have a missing rib or could enter the Guinness book of records for your length, it’s extremely unlikely you’ll be able to do the necessary gymnastics to use your own mouth.

 

Part C: Sex toys and accessories to enhance the experience

 

8) The best way to masturbate without doubt is with a realistic vagina

A realistic vaginaI shouldn’t need to point out the obvious difference between your hand and a real vagina.

As I said earlier, masturbation isn’t just about personal pleasure. It’s also an investment in your ability to maximize both you and your partner’s pleasure during sex.

That’s why simulating sex as closely as possible is an excellent way to prepare yourself for the real deal.

It’s also way more fun and intense than just using your hand. Anyway, we all know that many women use sex toys, so why can’t guys too?

Find out more about the Fleshlight realistic vagina >>

 

9) The slippery joys of lubricant

lubricantFor the same reasons that you would use a simulated vagina, lubricant is also an awesome addition to the repertoire of self-pleasure techniques.

Whether you’re using a toy or just your hands, lubricant will get you another important step closer to the real thing.

A real vagina is wet and slippery, so a dry palm is a poor imitation of that amazing experience.

Lubricant also makes it easier to stimulate the head of your penis, and of course explore your anus if you so desire.

 

10) The double-edged sword of online movies

Movies can be great if used the right way; they can also be damaging if used without any thought.

As you’ll find out in part 3, rushing masturbation can be a killer of your future sexual performance. And one thing which is sure to increase your arousal is your favorite movie.

If you just switch it on, get yourself as excited as possible and rush to climax, you’re unfortunately training yourself to be a future ‘one minute man’.

But if you use it as a tool when learning how to masturbate in a controlled way, then it’s a great way to test your ability to keep relaxed and calm.

 

11) Sex toys Santa won’t deliver

vibrating cock ring for masturbationThere are loads of great sex toys you can use in combination with the masturbation techniques in this article, for example:

  • Cock rings, and vibrating cock rings, add extra pleasure and also test your control.
  • You can try out a realistic anus or mouth sleeve.
  • Blow-up dolls still exist, believe it or not. So do sheep if you’re that way inclined.
  • There are toys designed to stimulate your G-spot. I’m sure you can imagine what they might look like.
  • If you’re into any clothing fetish, then don’t be afraid to have fun with it. It’s your life!

 

Part D: Improve your sexual stamina and orgasm intensity

with masturbation techniques you can train yourself to be a stud in the bedroomBetween 20 and 30% of men will suffer from premature ejaculation at some point in their lives.

One of the main reasons guys end up having this problem is because of accidentally training themselves to climax very quickly when masturbating.

But to give most woman an orgasm, on average you need to last for between 10 and 20 minutes during sex.

So you also need to be able to last that long, and preferably longer, when masturbating. These next few sections will explain how you can achieve that.

Please note though that if you already last for ages during sex, or when masturbating, there’s no need to practice these.

But even though there is no need, some of these techniques can result in you having much more intense and powerful orgasms.

This is for the simple reason that by forcing yourself to delay orgasm, it’s usually more powerful when you do get there.

 

12) The human traffic light: the start and stop method

In terms of techniques, the start and stop method is a really good way to masturbate. The simple version is that you set yourself a time, for example 30 minutes, and you don’t allow yourself to ejaculate until that time is up.

Sound painful?

Well it can be, but not as much as the pain of the embarrassment of coming within 2 minutes every time you have sex.

 

13) Kegels – relaxation and the last line of defense

Kegels are a secret weapon you can develop in the safety of your bedroom. They can be used as a last line of defense to stop yourself ejaculating.

But as well as strengthening the muscles for holding back ejaculation, they also teach you which body parts to keep relaxed during sex.

In addition they’re often used to get bigger and harder erections. And give you better bladder control when you’ve had too many beers. What’s not to love about that?

 

14) Breathe and relax

This is more of a side dish to the main course of masturbation techniques. And again it’s on the theme of learning self-control.

Breathing slowly and deeply and keeping your body relaxed is a useful skill to learn when masturbating.

The reason being that tension and over-excitement will extinguish your sexual performance faster than a fireman’s hose on a wooden match.

 

Final thoughts

By now you’ve probably realized that finding the best way to masturbate will depend on how much you’re willing to experiment. The key is to be open-minded and have some fun along the way!

There are two ideas in this article that I would recommend above all others. And they both stem from my belief that masturbation should be used to train yourself to become a master in the bedroom.

The first is to get yourself a sex toy as mentioned in part C. A realistic vagina will make a huge difference to both your pleasure and ability to last longer.

The second is to learn the techniques discussed in part D. There are some great books written about this with detailed instructions teaching you how to understand your body and develop self-control.

I highly recommend taking a look at the one which I personally used and which gave me the ability to fully satisfy my partner in bed:

Check out the Ejaculation Trainer review for more techniques >>

 


71 Responses to “The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know”

  1. Basha says:

    These are all good techniques, and I have tried them. They only increase my time from 3 to 5 or 6.

    Well you could say I have doubled my staying time.

    • Ethan Green says:

      That’s great Basha! I’m glad you managed to improve your staying time. Good on you for doing something which is not at all easy:-)

  2. james says:

    I decided to read this when looking at the rest of your site and have to admit I thought it was a joke, at least to start with. And although it’s hard to tell how serious you really are at first I was pleasantly surprised to see that you actually go on to give away some key ways to deal with PE.

    I dont know how many people will be looking for that information in an article like this, but you give away some real gems and I fully agree that guys can use this precious ‘self-love’ time to improve their stamina. Amazing isn’t it how some basic masturbation techniques could influence your future sexual prowess! My dad certainly never told me that…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi James

      Thanks for your comment – it’s much appreciated that you took the time to do so:-)

      Well yes, the article is strange, I’ll be first to admit that. I wrote it because I knew that many guys are actually searching for this kind of information. But it was also in the hope that even those who don’t know how important the way you masturbate can be would go on to take the second part seriously.

      I have no doubt that there will be many people who discover this article and think ‘are you for real – does this really need to be written?!’. But there is a serious side to it, and as you rightly point out, the masturbation techniques I discuss are literally all of the key ways to deal with premature ejaculation that are known.

      Let’s hope that people have fun with the article, but also recognize the side of it which isn’t quite as jokey:-)

      Thanks once again for taking the time to leave your thoughts.

  3. Spartacus says:

    Thanks for this article! Not only did I have a laugh at some of the masturbation techniques, I think as you say there are some really useful tips here. I had no idea how much more there was to it than just knocking one out for the fun of it…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Spartacus

      Glad you had a laugh and found something useful at the same time. That was the idea really. There is a serious, or maybe practical is a better word, side to masturbation, so I’m glad people are finding that out.

      Ethan

  4. Owemi says:

    Thank you my friend. This was a really useful thing to read. I had no intention to find out the techniques you describe later, I was reading this just for fun to start with. But now you have kind of educated me and I think I will take your advice about masturbating more slowly especially. No way I want to end up with big problems in the bedroom!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Owemi

      That’s great to hear. I bet it was a surprise then if you weren’t expecting those techniques to exist. They could potentially make a big difference to your future sex life so I’m glad you’ve discovered that:-)

  5. Burton says:

    I agree it’s a shame that nobody talks about masturbation techniques like you do in this article. If so many guys end up with problems because of the way they do it, it would make sense if there was a way of educating guys about masturbation when they are growing up. But I don’t think it will ever happen.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks Burton. Glad I’m not alone in that theory. And yes, you’re probably right that it won’t happen. I can’t imagine fathers talking about it individually, nor anyone deciding on an awareness campaign. Both would be considered unnecessary and inappropriate by most people, as masturbation is something you work out naturally by yourself usually. And since it’s a taboo topic, only people who end up with problems because of it, or the most open-minded, would ever feel any need to talk about it.

  6. Oda says:

    This is a great article, really funny and informative at the same time! I also like the idea of using a realistic vagina. It’s got to be good…

  7. Lee says:

    Good article – and yeah these are good techniques to do. I was trying kegels for a long time and it helped me get bigger erections as well which is cool.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks Lee, very happy you like the article. Kegels can have quite a few surprise benefits, which are either useful or interesting, for want of a better word!

  8. Andrew says:

    Thanks for the article dude, it’s very cool and very well written! The poll results are interesting. I wonder what it would look like if it was only women answering it…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks for the compliments Andrew:-)

      Yes, it would be interesting, but I’m sure you can find one on a women’s website somewhere. I wonder if the sex toy answer would be further up the list; men are definitely playing catch-up with women when it comes to using sex toys for masturbation!

  9. Brax boy says:

    Thank you, but I would like it if you could email me about some more ways too, I would really like to know. So just email me if you want and thank you again.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Brax boy – really? There isn’t enough here for you! Now you’ve got me wondering what I could have possibly missed out. Well, I guess something you could do is to go online to a good sex toy seller and look at what they have. I know I talk about the Fleshlight, but there are other great toys made for guys. I imagine you could have fun investigating them.

  10. Leonard says:

    Hi

    Thanks for the advice every time I use every technique on here it helps me prepare for when penny wants to have sex. I have been called a beast.

  11. Matthew says:

    A fleshlight would be great, but I have no means of getting one. I’m too embarrassed to ask my parents to buy me one. The old hand is getting kind of boring and I’ve tried a lot of techniques, but they aren’t doing much for me. Any tips on getting a fleshlight without anyone knowing? Also, great article

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Matthew

      Yeah, I definitely wouldn’t ask your parents to get you one. You might just have to miss out on that if you can’t order one online. Cheers for the compliment!

  12. Jay says:

    The longer you take, the more satisfying the orgasm is, either when you are masturbating or having sex. The most mind shattering, toe curling orgasms I have ever had, were with girlfriends after long sessions of intercourse which followed some liberal amounts of foreplay. I never would have had the stamina I had as an adult if I had not masturbated as a younger man. Don’t go overboard with it, but masturbation is like practice.

    • Ethan Green says:

      That’s exactly it Jay! Thank you for confirming what I’ve been saying in the article; it’s good to hear from a reader as well how much you can benefit from the right kind of masturbation – and sex, as you rightly point out.

      All the best
      Ethan

  13. Josh jake joe says:

    Hey I read this and thought the fleshlight thing would be great but I can’t get one so I looked up how to make one using cloth and fabric do you have any suggestions on any other types of sexual toys

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hey Josh

      Yeah there are plenty of ways to make one yourself, though unfortunately none of them are anywhere near as good as a properly manufactured one. The best way is probably the rubber glove inside a rolled up towel trick. Otherwise you’ll just have to do some more searching online as I haven’t covered any more sex toys on this site up until this point. I’m sure you can find more ideas though if you put your mind to it!

      Ethan

  14. Kevtherev says:

    I hit the ceiling with the g spot

  15. john dickenson says:

    would you have an idea how long a guy can last on average after using the extention techniques?

  16. john dickenson says:

    ps you could add some techniques to lengthen a guys penis

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi again John

      Sorry – that’s kind of out of my remit at the moment! Maybe in the future I’ll write about that, but for now you’ll have to do an online search. There are some good sites out there about that.

      Ethan

  17. Freddie says:

    I just want to mention I enjoyed this article a lot…you’ve given me some great new ideas which Im looking forward to trying.

  18. shaun says:

    Very interesting article. I tried some of these techniques before, but some are new. It’s cool that what you say can help you be better at sex can also give you better orgasms anyway. Double bonus!!

  19. Terry says:

    good ideas here and really well written! thanks for providing all this information i think its going to help me hopefully for many years to come no pun intended haha

    • Ethan Green says:

      Terry
      Glad you found it helpful. It’s amazing that this comment thread isn’t full of more puns like that:-)
      Ethan

  20. Lewis says:

    I get exactly what you mean about the rushed masturbation thing and wish I’d known about it sooner. I used to fire on all cylinders just so nobody would catch me. Now I don’t have to worry about people catching me, so I can take my time and enjoy it more. Anyone reading this and living with other people should get a lock for their room – even if you live with a girlfriend lol you don’t want her catching you. Or maybe you do – some girls like that sort of thing;-)

  21. Bill Me says:

    Thanks for the ideas Ethan – I’ve heard about the Fleshlight before, but not really thought much about getting one until reading this. Now I think maybe I will.

  22. Timmy O. T. says:

    Hey Ethan, so I have a concern that I think may be able to be resolved with things in this article but I don’t know. Basically the head of my penis is just really sensitive, as in I always come really quickly when its stimulated – getting head lasts like 15 seconds, n when i masturbate that area its much faster too. Normal sex isn’t the issue so much, usually. Any help is appreciated.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Timmy

      If you have a very sensitive penis, then you might find it helpful to try one of the desensitizing products. The techniques in the second half of this article might help you, but can take some time to pay off, especially if physical sensitivity is an issue. Have a look at this article about delay sprays and you’ll get an idea of what different kinds you can use, and which ones work with oral sex or not.

      All the best
      Ethan

  23. Last Time says:

    as a last week fun adventure in self pleasure i wanted to try something new, i did try the g-spot which was 100% enjoyable, but let me say you can’t just use a finger as you need something like a dildo. as i have from this point ended my 2 years of self pleasure, I wish you good luck in you adventure. ps. don’t think of doing it for the rest of your life :) As much as it’s fun, it can change a man and make him less. just think about it. good luck and peace out. from LAST_TIME

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi ‘Last Time’

      Thanks for your interesting thoughts. Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with masturbation, and it is a normal, healthy thing to do. If you feel less of a man, then that’s your choice to avoid it. But I don’t think it makes you any more or less of a man. It’s just something we do.

  24. Cameron says:

    Hey I have a REALLY good way to orgasm. Just take your penis with your hand (either hand is fine, I just prefer left because it’s stronger) and rub it on the side of your leg. In about 20 secs, it will feel like heaven. But I as well have a question. When I move my penis up and down, it doesn’t feel like anything? Why is that??? Thanks.

  25. Gabor says:

    thanks for the ideas about kegels. I heard about them before but didn’t really understand them. I’m definitely going to try out some of these techniques.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Gabor

      No worries – I hope you understand them better after reading the articles about them here.
      Ethan

  26. John says:

    Over musturbation leads to lose weight ?what should be the frequency of musturbation as I’m very slim. .?

    • Ethan Green says:

      I’ve never heard that John, unless you’re doing exercise at the same time, which would be very weird…
      Seriously though, where did you hear that it can lead to weight loss? If that were the case, it would be the most amazing dieting plan ever thought of!

      • John says:

        what should be the frequency of musturbation for me as I am 20 years old.

        • Ethan Green says:

          There are no rules about it John and everyone has a different level of need/desire. Just do what feels natural and you should be fine.

  27. Vickey says:

    I am 23 yrs i started masturbating after 5 to 6 mins i ejaculate. my penis size is only 1 to 2 inch. please help me for the long sex play

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Vickey

      Follow through to the pages I recommend in the second half of this article and you will find lots of useful advice:-)
      Regards
      Ethan

  28. Smith says:

    I loved your article. Really Cool.

  29. lasting too long says:

    I never ejaculate without masturbation. I think I have overdone it. Now I masturbate 1-3 times a day. If I can manage to skip a day I I go crazy with it the next. How long will it take to be able to ejaculate with my partner. She is extremely sexy, so no issue with staying aroused. I can stay hard easily for an hour.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Lasting too long,

      Hmmm that’s a difficult question to answer. Perhaps there is something about the way you have sex which is just not doing it for you. Maybe you need to try some new things together.
      Also perhaps the amount you are ejaculating through masturbation is affecting your sex life. You might need to just put a bit more effort into trying not to for a few days, and then see it you can with your partner!
      And if you are watching films etc when alone, you may be altering what your mind likes to reach an orgasm. If that’s the case, try removing that element from your solo time.
      All the best
      Ethan

  30. Smith's Biggie says:

    Hey , thank you very much for the information . I used to last 15 minutes now I can last as long as my hands die out :) It’s really amazing …

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there SM

      You’re welcome, glad you found it helpful. 15 mins wasn’t a bad time by the way. But if you have total control, then great!

      Regards
      Ethan

  31. Good Time Master says:

    over multiple days i have tried these techniques and its been a great success my buddy feels great lasts longer used to be around 3 min now about 10 loved the article great info and well written i’m looking into a toy but am to young to buy one yet anything you can help me out with getting one? before 19 that would be great thanks! :)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Good Time Master

      Glad to hear you found the article helpful, and that you’ve had success with the techniques. As for the toy, we can’t help there I’m afraid. You’ll have to wait!

      Regards
      Ethan

  32. Wanking Warrior says:

    I’ve been manning the gun for years but your techniques have taken me to a new level.

  33. vimal says:

    Please give me a trick to make a vagina from home made stuff. And can I use coconut oil as lubricant ? Please Answer as fast as possible.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Vimal,

      If you find a lubricant in the shops which contains coconut oil and is sold as a sex lubricant, then yes. But personally I wouldn’t use normal coconut oil.
      As for the fake vagina, I don’t recommend making one at home because they are nowhere near as good as buying one!
      Regards
      Ethan

  34. c84Oxba says:

    I’m actually capable of sucking myself, but it depends on the day, that I am flexible or not. I am kind of fat and don’t know why I can do this…

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