The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

This article is for anyone who was never taught the best way to masturbate. So funnily enough it’s for 99.99% of all guys…

You’ll discover ways to give yourself more intense orgasms than you ever thought possible. And importantly you’ll also find out how masturbation can make you better, or worse, at the real thing.

This is important because many guys end up having problems because of the way they masturbate. But with the right techniques, you can develop the kind of sexual stamina that will leave women lying exhausted on the bed next to you.

And even if you’re not currently sexually active, the same techniques will give you stronger orgasms than you’ve ever had before.



Part A: The self-pleasure survey.

Part B: Masturbation techniques for maximum pleasure.

Part C: Sex toys and accessories to enhance the experience.

Part D: Improve your sexual stamina and orgasm intensity.


Part A: The self-pleasure survey

These polls are 100% anonymous. Please take a moment to help out by giving your answers. Thanks!

Poll 1

What is your preferred way to masturbate?

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 Poll 2

Which kind of porn do you use?

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Part B: Masturbation techniques for maximum pleasure


1) The basics – Madam Palm and her five lovely daughters

masturbation: sex with someone you loveMost people learn pretty early on that their hand is a capable friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and whole lot of fun.

Yet many guys still get stuck thinking that the best way to masturbate is simply as follows:

  • Switch on a movie.
  • Grip penis gently but firmly in your strong hand.
  • Move up and down repeatedly at lightning speed.
  • Ejaculate into a tissue.
  • Return to the paused video game.

This is of course one of the most satisfying masturbation techniques known to mankind.

The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. But you can add much more variety as you’ll see in the next few tips.


2) Don’t forget Madam Palm’s twin sister: 4 ways to masturbate using your other hand

two hands are better than oneEven at this basic level, you can still spice things up by using your other hand. Here are some ideas:

  • Try only using your other hand.
  • Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. But if not, you can try placing the penis in between both palms pressed together.
  • You can use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.
  • Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!


3) Don’t leave your balls hanging

2 ballsYour balls are more than just an odd shaped storage facility. They are an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.

It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:

  • Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
  • Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
  • Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.

There is another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.


4) It’s not just women that have multiple erogenous zones

diagram of the male and female erogenous zonesIf you think the best way to masturbate is all about your penis, and maybe your balls, then think again.

It’s a popular belief that only women are blessed with multiple erogenous zones. But the truth is that men are more sensitive than you might think.

For example try touching your nipples in the way that you would a woman’s. Experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.

Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you are sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.

Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.


5) Moving south: the perineum

The Perineum is the area in-between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand.


6) The holy grail of the male G-spot

diagram showing the man's g-spotSome cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place.

But there’s no doubt that there are parts inside the anus which respond well to self-stimulation.

For more open-minded and less squeamish guys, one of the best ways to masturbate is to include the anus. For others it’s strictly a one-way street.

If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-increasing treat. Here are some ideas for you:

  • Don’t forget to wash before you start.
  • Check that your chosen nail (yes – one finger will do) is short and not sharp. File it down if necessary.
  • Add plenty of lubricant on your finger (proper lubricant is better so you don’t accidentally stick something in there which can burn)
  • Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
  • Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
  • You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
  • The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter. This is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.

Stimulating the G-Spot is known in the tantric sex world as a prostate massage, and is an effective way of enhancing orgasm. The key though with all these ideas is to be gentle and soft.


7) Experiment with different positions

If you just sit in your favorite chair or lie on your bed, you’re not going to get anywhere near simulating sex.

And as you’ll find out in part 3, simulating sex is one of the most important masturbation techniques for men. Here are 3 ways you can use your body more effectively:

  • Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.
  • Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand. The idea is to keep your hand still and use your body to move.
  • Change positions from time to time: kneeling, standing, sitting, swopping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.
  • And in case you’re wondering, unless you’re a yoga master, have a missing rib or could enter the Guinness book of records for your length, it’s extremely unlikely you’ll be able to do the necessary gymnastics to use your own mouth.


Part C: Sex toys and accessories to enhance the experience


8) The best way to masturbate without doubt is with a realistic vagina

A realistic vaginaI shouldn’t need to point out the obvious difference between your hand and a real vagina.

As I said earlier, masturbation isn’t just about personal pleasure. It’s also an investment in your ability to maximize both you and your partner’s pleasure during sex.

That’s why simulating sex as closely as possible is an excellent way to prepare yourself for the real deal.

It’s also way more fun and intense than just using your hand. Anyway, we all know that many women use sex toys, so why can’t guys too?

Find out more about the Fleshlight realistic vagina >>


9) The slippery joys of lubricant

lubricantFor the same reasons that you would use a simulated vagina, lubricant is also an awesome addition to the repertoire of self-pleasure techniques.

Whether you’re using a toy or just your hands, lubricant will get you another important step closer to the real thing.

A real vagina is wet and slippery, so a dry palm is a poor imitation of that amazing experience.

Lubricant also makes it easier to stimulate the head of your penis, and of course explore your anus if you so desire.


10) The double-edged sword of online movies

Movies can be great if used the right way; they can also be damaging if used without any thought.

As you’ll find out in part 3, rushing masturbation can be a killer of your future sexual performance. And one thing which is sure to increase your arousal is your favorite movie.

If you just switch it on, get yourself as excited as possible and rush to climax, you’re unfortunately training yourself to be a future ‘one minute man’.

But if you use it as a tool when learning how to masturbate in a controlled way, then it’s a great way to test your ability to keep relaxed and calm.


11) Sex toys Santa won’t deliver

vibrating cock ring for masturbationThere are loads of great sex toys you can use in combination with the masturbation techniques in this article, for example:

  • Cock rings, and vibrating cock rings, add extra pleasure and also test your control.
  • You can try out a realistic anus or mouth sleeve.
  • Blow-up dolls still exist, believe it or not. So do sheep if you’re that way inclined.
  • There are toys designed to stimulate your G-spot. I’m sure you can imagine what they might look like.
  • If you’re into any clothing fetish, then don’t be afraid to have fun with it. It’s your life!


Part D: Improve your sexual stamina and orgasm intensity

with masturbation techniques you can train yourself to be a stud in the bedroomBetween 20 and 30% of men will suffer from premature ejaculation at some point in their lives.

One of the main reasons guys end up having this problem is because of accidentally training themselves to climax very quickly when masturbating.

But to give most woman an orgasm, on average you need to last for between 10 and 20 minutes during sex.

So you also need to be able to last that long, and preferably longer, when masturbating. These next few sections will explain how you can achieve that.

Please note though that if you already last for ages during sex, or when masturbating, there’s no need to practice these.

But even though there is no need, some of these techniques can result in you having much more intense and powerful orgasms.

This is for the simple reason that by forcing yourself to delay orgasm, it’s usually more powerful when you do get there.


12) The human traffic light: the start and stop method

In terms of techniques, the start and stop method is a really good way to masturbate. The simple version is that you set yourself a time, for example 30 minutes, and you don’t allow yourself to ejaculate until that time is up.

Sound painful?

Well it can be, but not as much as the pain of the embarrassment of coming within 2 minutes every time you have sex.


13) Kegels – relaxation and the last line of defense

Kegels are a secret weapon you can develop in the safety of your bedroom. They can be used as a last line of defense to stop yourself ejaculating.

But as well as strengthening the muscles for holding back ejaculation, they also teach you which body parts to keep relaxed during sex.

In addition they’re often used to get bigger and harder erections. And give you better bladder control when you’ve had too many beers. What’s not to love about that?


14) Breathe and relax

This is more of a side dish to the main course of masturbation techniques. And again it’s on the theme of learning self-control.

Breathing slowly and deeply and keeping your body relaxed is a useful skill to learn when masturbating.

The reason being that tension and over-excitement will extinguish your sexual performance faster than a fireman’s hose on a wooden match.


Final thoughts

By now you’ve probably realized that finding the best way to masturbate will depend on how much you’re willing to experiment. The key is to be open-minded and have some fun along the way!

There are two ideas in this article that I would recommend above all others. And they both stem from my belief that masturbation should be used to train yourself to become a master in the bedroom.

The first is to get yourself a sex toy as mentioned in part C. A realistic vagina will make a huge difference to both your pleasure and ability to last longer.

The second is to learn the techniques discussed in part D. There are some great books written about this with detailed instructions teaching you how to understand your body and develop self-control.

I highly recommend taking a look at the one which I personally used and which gave me the ability to fully satisfy my partner in bed:

Check out the Ejaculation Trainer review for more techniques >>


307 Responses to “The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know”

  1. Basha says:

    These are all good techniques, and I have tried them. They only increase my time from 3 to 5 or 6.

    Well you could say I have doubled my staying time.

    • Ethan Green says:

      That’s great Basha! I’m glad you managed to improve your staying time. Good on you for doing something which is not at all easy:-)

      • adi says:

        i am not being able to remove the foreskin (upper skin) of my penus, suggest some ways..

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Adi,

          my first suggestion would be to try with warm water and soap.
          But assuming you’ve already tried that, it’s probably something you need to talk to a doctor about. And you should talk about it as it’s important for hygienic purposes and general sexual health to be able to peel back you foreskin. Don’t be embarrassed about it – it happens to lots of guys. But do go and talk to a doctor.
          All the best

        • Anonymous says:

          Same thing happened to me. I got fed up with it and slowly ripped the foreskin from the glans. It hurt but there was no damage.

          • Ethan Green says:

            The word ‘ripped’ sends a bit of a shiver down my spine, I have to say! Perhaps gently peeling it using some warm water and gentle soap might be a better way to see if you can pull it back yourself…

        • Anonymous says:

          Slowly peel back as far, but not to pain, as you can, over time you can eventually peel it back all the way.

      • Hi15 says:

        Hi I have been masturbating for 3 years now I’m 15 and love it I masturbate 3 times a day usually and have had sex before I just want to ask if rubbing Ur g spot alone would make u orgasm or do you need to do both ??

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi HI15
          I think that will vary massively from person to person. But yes, it is possible as far as I’m aware. But if both feels more pleasurable anyway, then why not do both?

    • Anonymous says:

      I don’t mean to be that guy but I’ve actually already been doing a lot of this stuff and I’m only 14, but I was curious if stroking the head of the penis without lube is bad for it and it’s sensitivity?

      • Ethan Green says:

        Hi there,
        As long as you don’t over-do it, you should be fine. If it feels sore or gets too red, then probably best to relax a bit.

        • TheCurious14YearOld says:

          Hi there,
          I am only 14 as well and I am curious when it comes to “toys” I am only 14 and have no way of getting a hold of any type of sex toy. I am wondering if there is any positions that would bring more excitement to masturbation and if there is any type of makeshift flesh light you could make out of basic household materials.

          • Ethan Green says:

            Hi there,
            There are ways to make things out of household items, but they are pretty rubbish to be honest. I’d just stick with lube and your hand until you’re old enough to buy toys.

            • Anonymous says:

              Try This get an empty toilet roll tube put a sock over it and turn back the top add a washing up glove and do the same add lubricant and away you go.

              • Ethan Green says:

                Hi there,

                Thanks for your comment. There are several techniques for making fake vaginas from household items, such as loo rolls and washing up gloves. But they are all pretty rubbish to be honest! If you can get a real one, it’s much, much better.

            • Jake says:

              I was wondering, Im fifteen and I dont want to just go and ask my parents for lube. Is there any way to make lube out of lets say bathroom materials?

              • Ethan Green says:

                Hi Jake,

                Yeah, that probably wouldn’t go down very well with them! You can use some handcreams, if they are mild. But the problem is you don’t want to be putting creams on your penis regularly as they can cause irritation to the glans, resulting in uncomfortable red spots. If you’re not old enough to get lube, I would say the safest thing is to not bother with it for now. It’s not essential, so don’t worry about it.

          • Anonymous says:

            Just take something from your parents

      • Anonymous says:

        Im 14 too and have tried everything except toys and a fake vagina

    • Anonymous says:

      Ya what if you don’t have sex toys but you want to use some thing like a vibrating cocktail ring any suggestions

      • Ethan Green says:

        Hi there
        You can find them on all good online sex toy suppliers. Try lovehoney for example.
        All the best

  2. james says:

    I decided to read this when looking at the rest of your site and have to admit I thought it was a joke, at least to start with. And although it’s hard to tell how serious you really are at first I was pleasantly surprised to see that you actually go on to give away some key ways to deal with PE.

    I dont know how many people will be looking for that information in an article like this, but you give away some real gems and I fully agree that guys can use this precious ‘self-love’ time to improve their stamina. Amazing isn’t it how some basic masturbation techniques could influence your future sexual prowess! My dad certainly never told me that…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi James

      Thanks for your comment – it’s much appreciated that you took the time to do so:-)

      Well yes, the article is strange, I’ll be first to admit that. I wrote it because I knew that many guys are actually searching for this kind of information. But it was also in the hope that even those who don’t know how important the way you masturbate can be would go on to take the second part seriously.

      I have no doubt that there will be many people who discover this article and think ‘are you for real – does this really need to be written?!’. But there is a serious side to it, and as you rightly point out, the masturbation techniques I discuss are literally all of the key ways to deal with premature ejaculation that are known.

      Let’s hope that people have fun with the article, but also recognize the side of it which isn’t quite as jokey:-)

      Thanks once again for taking the time to leave your thoughts.

    • Anonymous says:

      Yo I just did the pull your balls and it worked like a charm

  3. Spartacus says:

    Thanks for this article! Not only did I have a laugh at some of the masturbation techniques, I think as you say there are some really useful tips here. I had no idea how much more there was to it than just knocking one out for the fun of it…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Spartacus

      Glad you had a laugh and found something useful at the same time. That was the idea really. There is a serious, or maybe practical is a better word, side to masturbation, so I’m glad people are finding that out.


  4. Owemi says:

    Thank you my friend. This was a really useful thing to read. I had no intention to find out the techniques you describe later, I was reading this just for fun to start with. But now you have kind of educated me and I think I will take your advice about masturbating more slowly especially. No way I want to end up with big problems in the bedroom!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Owemi

      That’s great to hear. I bet it was a surprise then if you weren’t expecting those techniques to exist. They could potentially make a big difference to your future sex life so I’m glad you’ve discovered that:-)

  5. Burton says:

    I agree it’s a shame that nobody talks about masturbation techniques like you do in this article. If so many guys end up with problems because of the way they do it, it would make sense if there was a way of educating guys about masturbation when they are growing up. But I don’t think it will ever happen.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks Burton. Glad I’m not alone in that theory. And yes, you’re probably right that it won’t happen. I can’t imagine fathers talking about it individually, nor anyone deciding on an awareness campaign. Both would be considered unnecessary and inappropriate by most people, as masturbation is something you work out naturally by yourself usually. And since it’s a taboo topic, only people who end up with problems because of it, or the most open-minded, would ever feel any need to talk about it.

  6. Oda says:

    This is a great article, really funny and informative at the same time! I also like the idea of using a realistic vagina. It’s got to be good…

  7. Lee says:

    Good article – and yeah these are good techniques to do. I was trying kegels for a long time and it helped me get bigger erections as well which is cool.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks Lee, very happy you like the article. Kegels can have quite a few surprise benefits, which are either useful or interesting, for want of a better word!

  8. Andrew says:

    Thanks for the article dude, it’s very cool and very well written! The poll results are interesting. I wonder what it would look like if it was only women answering it…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Thanks for the compliments Andrew:-)

      Yes, it would be interesting, but I’m sure you can find one on a women’s website somewhere. I wonder if the sex toy answer would be further up the list; men are definitely playing catch-up with women when it comes to using sex toys for masturbation!

  9. Brax boy says:

    Thank you, but I would like it if you could email me about some more ways too, I would really like to know. So just email me if you want and thank you again.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Brax boy – really? There isn’t enough here for you! Now you’ve got me wondering what I could have possibly missed out. Well, I guess something you could do is to go online to a good sex toy seller and look at what they have. I know I talk about the Fleshlight, but there are other great toys made for guys. I imagine you could have fun investigating them.

  10. Leonard says:


    Thanks for the advice every time I use every technique on here it helps me prepare for when penny wants to have sex. I have been called a beast.

  11. Matthew says:

    A fleshlight would be great, but I have no means of getting one. I’m too embarrassed to ask my parents to buy me one. The old hand is getting kind of boring and I’ve tried a lot of techniques, but they aren’t doing much for me. Any tips on getting a fleshlight without anyone knowing? Also, great article

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Matthew

      Yeah, I definitely wouldn’t ask your parents to get you one. You might just have to miss out on that if you can’t order one online. Cheers for the compliment!

  12. Jay says:

    The longer you take, the more satisfying the orgasm is, either when you are masturbating or having sex. The most mind shattering, toe curling orgasms I have ever had, were with girlfriends after long sessions of intercourse which followed some liberal amounts of foreplay. I never would have had the stamina I had as an adult if I had not masturbated as a younger man. Don’t go overboard with it, but masturbation is like practice.

    • Ethan Green says:

      That’s exactly it Jay! Thank you for confirming what I’ve been saying in the article; it’s good to hear from a reader as well how much you can benefit from the right kind of masturbation – and sex, as you rightly point out.

      All the best

  13. Josh jake joe says:

    Hey I read this and thought the fleshlight thing would be great but I can’t get one so I looked up how to make one using cloth and fabric do you have any suggestions on any other types of sexual toys

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hey Josh

      Yeah there are plenty of ways to make one yourself, though unfortunately none of them are anywhere near as good as a properly manufactured one. The best way is probably the rubber glove inside a rolled up towel trick. Otherwise you’ll just have to do some more searching online as I haven’t covered any more sex toys on this site up until this point. I’m sure you can find more ideas though if you put your mind to it!


  14. Kevtherev says:

    I hit the ceiling with the g spot

  15. john dickenson says:

    would you have an idea how long a guy can last on average after using the extention techniques?

  16. john dickenson says:

    ps you could add some techniques to lengthen a guys penis

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi again John

      Sorry – that’s kind of out of my remit at the moment! Maybe in the future I’ll write about that, but for now you’ll have to do an online search. There are some good sites out there about that.


  17. Freddie says:

    I just want to mention I enjoyed this article a lot…you’ve given me some great new ideas which Im looking forward to trying.

  18. shaun says:

    Very interesting article. I tried some of these techniques before, but some are new. It’s cool that what you say can help you be better at sex can also give you better orgasms anyway. Double bonus!!

  19. Terry says:

    good ideas here and really well written! thanks for providing all this information i think its going to help me hopefully for many years to come no pun intended haha

    • Ethan Green says:

      Glad you found it helpful. It’s amazing that this comment thread isn’t full of more puns like that:-)

  20. Lewis says:

    I get exactly what you mean about the rushed masturbation thing and wish I’d known about it sooner. I used to fire on all cylinders just so nobody would catch me. Now I don’t have to worry about people catching me, so I can take my time and enjoy it more. Anyone reading this and living with other people should get a lock for their room – even if you live with a girlfriend lol you don’t want her catching you. Or maybe you do – some girls like that sort of thing;-)

  21. Bill Me says:

    Thanks for the ideas Ethan – I’ve heard about the Fleshlight before, but not really thought much about getting one until reading this. Now I think maybe I will.

  22. Timmy O. T. says:

    Hey Ethan, so I have a concern that I think may be able to be resolved with things in this article but I don’t know. Basically the head of my penis is just really sensitive, as in I always come really quickly when its stimulated – getting head lasts like 15 seconds, n when i masturbate that area its much faster too. Normal sex isn’t the issue so much, usually. Any help is appreciated.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Timmy

      If you have a very sensitive penis, then you might find it helpful to try one of the desensitizing products. The techniques in the second half of this article might help you, but can take some time to pay off, especially if physical sensitivity is an issue. Have a look at this article about delay sprays and you’ll get an idea of what different kinds you can use, and which ones work with oral sex or not.

      All the best

  23. Last Time says:

    as a last week fun adventure in self pleasure i wanted to try something new, i did try the g-spot which was 100% enjoyable, but let me say you can’t just use a finger as you need something like a dildo. as i have from this point ended my 2 years of self pleasure, I wish you good luck in you adventure. ps. don’t think of doing it for the rest of your life :) As much as it’s fun, it can change a man and make him less. just think about it. good luck and peace out. from LAST_TIME

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi ‘Last Time’

      Thanks for your interesting thoughts. Personally I don’t think there is anything wrong with masturbation, and it is a normal, healthy thing to do. If you feel less of a man, then that’s your choice to avoid it. But I don’t think it makes you any more or less of a man. It’s just something we do.

  24. Cameron says:

    Hey I have a REALLY good way to orgasm. Just take your penis with your hand (either hand is fine, I just prefer left because it’s stronger) and rub it on the side of your leg. In about 20 secs, it will feel like heaven. But I as well have a question. When I move my penis up and down, it doesn’t feel like anything? Why is that??? Thanks.

  25. Gabor says:

    thanks for the ideas about kegels. I heard about them before but didn’t really understand them. I’m definitely going to try out some of these techniques.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Gabor

      No worries – I hope you understand them better after reading the articles about them here.

  26. John says:

    Over musturbation leads to lose weight ?what should be the frequency of musturbation as I’m very slim. .?

    • Ethan Green says:

      I’ve never heard that John, unless you’re doing exercise at the same time, which would be very weird…
      Seriously though, where did you hear that it can lead to weight loss? If that were the case, it would be the most amazing dieting plan ever thought of!

      • John says:

        what should be the frequency of musturbation for me as I am 20 years old.

        • Ethan Green says:

          There are no rules about it John and everyone has a different level of need/desire. Just do what feels natural and you should be fine.

  27. Vickey says:

    I am 23 yrs i started masturbating after 5 to 6 mins i ejaculate. my penis size is only 1 to 2 inch. please help me for the long sex play

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Vickey

      Follow through to the pages I recommend in the second half of this article and you will find lots of useful advice:-)

  28. Smith says:

    I loved your article. Really Cool.

  29. lasting too long says:

    I never ejaculate without masturbation. I think I have overdone it. Now I masturbate 1-3 times a day. If I can manage to skip a day I I go crazy with it the next. How long will it take to be able to ejaculate with my partner. She is extremely sexy, so no issue with staying aroused. I can stay hard easily for an hour.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Lasting too long,

      Hmmm that’s a difficult question to answer. Perhaps there is something about the way you have sex which is just not doing it for you. Maybe you need to try some new things together.
      Also perhaps the amount you are ejaculating through masturbation is affecting your sex life. You might need to just put a bit more effort into trying not to for a few days, and then see it you can with your partner!
      And if you are watching films etc when alone, you may be altering what your mind likes to reach an orgasm. If that’s the case, try removing that element from your solo time.
      All the best

  30. Smith's Biggie says:

    Hey , thank you very much for the information . I used to last 15 minutes now I can last as long as my hands die out :) It’s really amazing …

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there SM

      You’re welcome, glad you found it helpful. 15 mins wasn’t a bad time by the way. But if you have total control, then great!


  31. Good Time Master says:

    over multiple days i have tried these techniques and its been a great success my buddy feels great lasts longer used to be around 3 min now about 10 loved the article great info and well written i’m looking into a toy but am to young to buy one yet anything you can help me out with getting one? before 19 that would be great thanks! :)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Good Time Master

      Glad to hear you found the article helpful, and that you’ve had success with the techniques. As for the toy, we can’t help there I’m afraid. You’ll have to wait!


  32. Wanking Warrior says:

    I’ve been manning the gun for years but your techniques have taken me to a new level.

  33. vimal says:

    Please give me a trick to make a vagina from home made stuff. And can I use coconut oil as lubricant ? Please Answer as fast as possible.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Vimal,

      If you find a lubricant in the shops which contains coconut oil and is sold as a sex lubricant, then yes. But personally I wouldn’t use normal coconut oil.
      As for the fake vagina, I don’t recommend making one at home because they are nowhere near as good as buying one!

  34. c84Oxba says:

    I’m actually capable of sucking myself, but it depends on the day, that I am flexible or not. I am kind of fat and don’t know why I can do this…

  35. hbc says:

    OMG the black man finally gets a half-decent wank…thanks dude!

  36. kenwyneftw says:

    Awesome advice dude…. thx

  37. rouge says:

    this article was very helpful thaks so much! i’ve already increased my time to 2 hours. also my gf would like me to say thanks for her and that you’ve helped a lot.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Rouge,

      Thanks for your comment, and I’m really pleased that the article was helpful. I’m not surprised your girlfriend is happy if you’re lasting two hours. Though I am surprised it’s not too much!


  38. Jimmy Recard says:

    Thanks! Came here looking for techniques but glad you included that training information. Never considered tht!

  39. annon123 says:

    hi guys
    I am sorry .. i am a woman. I was just trying to to figure out this mystery and perhaps to learn something new. Thanks because it does help to know things.

    I will give you some insight that actually is not in magazines and online to help you back.

    We lie. Its sad but the truth is we dont really like it after 20 minutes because yes it hurts. The key to women is simply this. Take your time with the foreplay. Make us wonder why you are not trying to race to the actual sex part. If a guy takes an hour with us and spends time pleasing our senses it make us have to ask for the sex part… thats quite hot. At that point pretty much women dont care if you go for 5 minute or 10 but we will hate you and probably not call you again if you take more than 20 minutes because it hurts or we get bored.
    Thats the truth. be gentle with our touching but definitely do touch us down there…..It makes us feel really special if you take the time with the foreplay and if we have to actually ask or say.. I’m ready for you… it makes us really adore you for respecting us so much. all women I know will do anything for a man like this. This is what we dream of from being young teenage girls….

    hope that helps you back guys…. xoxoxo

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      No need to apologise at all, it’s always great to hear from a woman in the comments of any articles here.

      It’s interesting what you say, and I think you’re absolutely right about the foreplay. It’s good advice for any guys to try and make sure he can control himself long enough to wait until his partner is ready for him.

      And in terms of lasting 20 mins or longer. Well, I think according to surveys that’s correct for many women. But there are of course women who do like, want and need guys to last longer.

      Guys will only know by observing their partner’s reaction and asking them. And hoping that if they have an open and trusting relationship, their partner will tell them exactly what they want and not lie!

      Thanks again

      • Anonymous says:

        Am ready 4 U baby just call me now

        • Ethan Green says:

          Normally I delete such useless comments, but this one is so incomprehensibly pointless, I thought I’d publish it for any future readers to share the joke!
          What kind of person writes a comment like that, but with an anonymous name, no email and no phone number!?!?
          Answers on a postcard…

  40. annon123 says:

    sorry for the spelling errors… basically the summary is : make us ask you for more, then pretty much you are the total master… yup The god of sex really

    • Ethan Green says:

      No problem – I corrected most of them!
      Good summary…it just needs guys to be able to hold out long enough for you to ask for more!!

  41. frog says:

    thanks so much! this article helped a lot. but i have a good or what i think is a good question: so i was talking to my gf and i asked if she thought i have a large penis, she said yes so i tried to get my mind off it. so i measured my penis and its 7 in when hard, 5 when soft. my gf is satisfied with my size but im not and advice to make it longer or advice in general?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Frog,
      Your size is definitely above average, so I wouldn’t be worried about it. And if your partner is happy too, then you’re in a good place!!

  42. Mason says:

    I loved the article my gf does not want to have sex yet so I practice masterbating.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Mason,
      If you practice the techniques for lasting longer, then hopefully when she’s ready, you’ll be able to do your part in having an awesome sex life!

  43. jacf says:

    How would you stop the flow of cum

  44. Bob says:

    This will help “BIG TIME”

  45. Bob says:

    Can’t wait to see if it payed off

  46. Raj says:

    Hi Ethan…
    I don’t wank very often, but when i do, i cum within a minute. Please advise me on how i can keep going for a much longer time. Thanks

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Raj,

      I suggest reading the article again, particularly the parts about lasting longer! And you can just go to our home page and read that. It’s a good starting point if you need to improve your lasting time.

  47. baker says:

    Would it be okay if I asked what the size of your penis is I want to know if mine is average

    • Ethan Green says:

      I think the best way to do that is to google ‘average penis size’ and also specifically for your country or ethnic background as there are differences. Comparing it against mine is just a bit weird…

  48. ak 9 says:

    boss help me for improving the orgasm time.
    and how many times the masturbation is possible in one week without any harm

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi ak 9

      Have a look at our homepage, and read the recommended articles from there. There is tons of information on this site, and also reviews of the best training programs and products. Just have a look around:-)
      As for your second question, I think only you can know the answer to that. Technically you should be able to do it as much as you like, but if it starts getting sore in any way, then it’s probably time for a rest and the next week do a little less. Everyone is different!
      Hope that helps

  49. sam says:

    Thank you very much for the tips it was a very educational article.

  50. Josh says:

    Really don’t know which techniques to use any suggestions on which helped?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Josh,

      They all help! If you’re unsure where to start, I recommend going to our homepage and reading from there. It’s designed to help you take the first steps and understand your options.

      • Josh says:

        My Penis has reached its maximum potential I feel after using these suggested techniques, I stay hard for longer periods of time without cuming & also the pleasure is amazing.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Josh,

          That’s great to hear – I’m always very happy to hear that readers have benefited from the articles. It make the hard work creating them all worth it:-)
          Thanks for your feedback – it’s much appreciated.
          Enjoy your new potential!

  51. Jojo says:

    Can’t pushing the perineum cause infertility?

  52. Patrick says:

    Hey Ethan, So i just read this and to be honest, thoroughly enjoyed it. Bravo on the article. Definitely have an issue with the throwing on my favorite movie and getting to it, I’m single right now so not very worried about the bedroom preformance. And this will sound strange but you’re THE Ethan Green right? If so then i love what you and your brother do. Funny if i meet you on sex article comment, right? Anyway thanks for the article man :)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Patrick,

      Thanks for the comment, and I’m glad you found the article helpful. I think being single is the perfect time to practice the skills for lasting longer! Personally, I would take the opportunity of the time and privacy you have to explore how well you can learn to control yourself.
      Not sure who you mean by THE Ethan Green though, and I don’t have a brother! But I’d be very interested to know who you though I was:-)
      All the best

  53. jackson says:

    Thanks this helped a lot I’ve been looking for this kinda info and this is perfect I practiced a lot of the realistic using my body and it helped me a lot thanks.

  54. Arya says:

    Well this article; those who needs to play regular with optimum immersive influences at masturbation would all find much informative and useful for their practical stuff if to be considered so! Ethan bro, that’s to receive a hearty thank of on what information you’ve provided man! Good on to see there are many other buddies like me who masturbate, now realized there is a huge company for me. Instead one day we better open up and organize the ‘Masturbation Club For Playas’!!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Arya,

      Thanks for the comment, and you’re very welcome for the article and information. I’m not sure how popular your club would be though!! As is usually the case with this activity, you might find you’re the only one who turns up…

  55. bob (totally my real name) says:

    i can only last for about 2 min while masturbating ive been using those techniques but which one do you think would help me the most?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Bob,

      Well done for starting to use the techniques for lasting longer – hopefully it will help a lot in the long run! To be honest it’s hard to say which is the best, because in my opinion the best thing to do is learn all of them, then find a combination which works well for you. That’s one of the reasons I recommend looking at getting a book on the topic so you can learn everything there is to learn about it, rather than just reading about one technique and then doing that over and over. Have a look at our homepage, and that’s a good way to understand the main choices you can make.

  56. bob (totally my real name) says:

    also could you recommend the best technique it would be very useful.

  57. mister v says:

    I have a problem. I Last too long. I’m a man and i have difficulty reaching climax when masturbating or intercourse. I have difficulty keeping an erection because after about 10 minutes I lose sensitivity. I use lube but it still getting harder to get an orgasm.
    can you help me

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi mister v,

      Sorry to hear that, though in some ways you’re not really in the best place to be getting help for that because this website is mainly to help guys who don’t last long enough! But I would suggest you perhaps reduce how much you masturbate for. That way, when you do have sex, you’ll be less used to the physical stimulation and perhaps orgasm more easily.
      All the best

  58. murari says:

    I did a good job by the print of your article. It’s very helpful to my friends also. sex toys also we are willing to use them… but if those toys may caught by our parents we will be expell from our homes… rest of the things I am enjoing nicely.. does usage of thyronorm effects PE?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Murari,

      Thanks for your comment and I’m glad you and your friends found the article helpful. I think you need to balance what you do in life with the possible consequences. So it’s probably good to stay away from the toys. Being thrown out of home far outweighs the pleasure of using a toy! And anyway, there are many more ways to have fun which don’t need toys.
      As for the thyronorm, I really don’t know. I had a look online for you, but can’t find anything which specifically indicates it could effect PE.
      All the best

  59. Gray10 says:

    This is genius. i really like all the options and my gf really like the new skills i learned from u.Big thanx

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Gray10

      Thanks, I’m very happy both you and your girlfriend have benefited from the article. Long may it last!

  60. curtis says:

    I find the article as good advice,I am used to lasting for 1 min..i’ll use the advice

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Curtis,

      I’m glad you found it useful. Yes, if 1 minute is your usual lasting time, then I highly recommend putting some work in to extending that time.
      All the best

  61. Tristan says:

    I tried these techniques, they were pretty helpful, so thanks Ethan G


  62. nathan swift says:

    o dude !!!! is this for real (⊙o⊙).. finally I found a site that will help me because I’m so tired doing again the techniques that I know since I’m 12 .thanks a lot.∩__∩

  63. nathan swift says:

    your techniques dude truly worked I found my penis erected so big that I didn’t experience from the days that passed.

    thanks a lot

  64. krull says:

    its awesome. i’ve been having heavenly pleasure with my partner. thanks ethan

  65. Flufdun says:

    I get erection all the time even in public is there ways to stop this because it’s really embarrassing -thanks

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Flufdun,

      Depending on your age, it could just be some very active hormones, in which case you’re probably not the only one that has that problem. If it’s really out of control, then maybe talk to your doctor and get some advice from them. Otherwise, you might have to find ways to deal with it, such as wearing clothes wear you can hide it easily. And try distraction and breathing techniques, such as thinking about something which definitely doesn’t get you excited. And at the same time focus on your breath, counting in and out for 4 seconds each. That might help calm you down and take your mind off it. But it’s not an easy one to deal with I’m afraid, especially if you’re young.
      All the best

  66. This is not my real name says:

    So I wanted to further improve my self in masturbating, and this popped up. So I read the whole thing. I was actually shocked! I already do most of the stuff in this paragraph, I also have found my g-spot thanks to this, I wasn’t going far enough. Thanks dude for this awesome information!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hello this isn’t anyone’s real name,

      Glad to hear you found the article helpful and have made a new discovery of your body. I hope it brings you fun!
      All the best

  67. raiden says:

    Thanks man the article was informative enough.humorous and well explained.some of the techniques were completely new to me and I am raring to have go…..!!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Raiden,

      You’re very welcome, and I’m pleased you enjoyed the article – it’s always good to get feedback like that. Have fun with the new techniques!

  68. Arsenically poisonous says:

    Wow! This was good! Actually I last for about 7-10 minutes already, so is that enough?
    Moreover, thanks for the lubrication tip. Actually I have an occasional method which I practice when nobody is at home – I remove the shower head in my bathroom and let the water stream flow directly to my penis. This might sound painful, but controlling the speed of water gives the right amount of orgasm. Also, this stimulates me little by little and I get the peak orgasms of my life by this technique. Also, in this technique, I usually come after 20 minutes, so the orgasm is highly intense, even more than any lubricants (I can’t use a sex toy as my parents might discover it and the rest would be history! :P).

    Thanks dude, for this useful info and telling what actually girls want!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Arsenically poisonous,

      Thanks for the comment, I’m glad you enjoyed the article. 7 – 10 minutes is a good amount of time if you can do that during sex. But it of course depends on your partner as well, and their needs..not just the number!
      And I get your shower technique, it’s a fun technique and I imagine there are a lot of guys out there experimenting in similar ways!
      All the best

  69. David says:

    I and others have been playing with my dick for over 50 years and just yesterday I discovered a new masturbation technique. It helps if your aroused penis makes a lot of precum, like mine does. If not, use your favorite lube.

    Put your hand on your balls (I use my right hand). Grab your balls over and over while pressing your taint with your middle finger. At the same time, rub your thumb up and down the underside of your hardon which is wet with precum or lube. I do this all with the same hand.

    If you do this many times over, stopping just before cumming (edging), when you do cum the orgasm is fantastically intense. At least it is for me!

    I’d like to know if this works for anyone else and if it works for both cut and uncut dicks (I’m cut).

  70. Jackeroffer says:

    You helped me beat my record! I went from 3 to 12 minutes!

  71. erwam lawrence says:

    I really liked the article and thanks for that, but then I really need some advice. I really feel ma penis is not as strong big and long as I would want it to be and then how can I really have a longer satisfying sex period with my girl friend.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Erwam,

      Thanks for the comment and I’m glad you enjoyed the article. I don’t really give advice on penis size issues. And for lasting longer, well you just need to follow the advice in this article, and look around this website for ideas!
      All the best

  72. Will says:

    hey the article was very informative and looking forward to trying out a few of the techniques you mentioned. I’m sure this has helped out a lot of guys as it has helped me. Thanks alot


    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi will,

      Thanks for the comment and the compliment. It’s always nice to hear that it helped someone.
      All the best

  73. Andy says:

    See, my issue is that I need to reduce my stamina. I can never seem to orgasm from sex but I can ejaculate with my hand in between 15 and 30 minutes, and I normally last over an hour during sex sometimes, to orgasm from sex I have to exhaust myself to the point of cramping, light-headedness, frustration, and overall fatigue. I’m not sure what the problem is.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Andy,

      Thanks for your comment, and sorry to hear you’re having difficulties. Though to be honest it’s the complete opposite of what this website focuses on. If you want to find out more, than the term you should search online for is ‘delayed ejaculation’.
      I hope that helps and that you find a way to deal with it.

  74. George says:

    This article is amazing and managed roger my staying time up to 40 minutes!! My girlfriend is amazed at my stamina and my orgasms are always much stronger now.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi George,
      Fantastic news! I’m really pleased that the article helped you, and your girlfriend, to have a better sex life.
      Long may it continue!

  75. watsupex says:

    Dude I am 32 never masturbated and had 11 threesomes and once a 4some fffm

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi watsupex,
      What made you decide to read this article then?

      • Hughy says:

        What I love to do is this–I just love 60’s babydoll chiffon nighties/peignoirs with long nylon ribbons to the hem, and sexy bows. I get a real buzz with wearing these sexy gear’s and playing with myself in them. I know its probably a bit unusual but I love it. I love to play with ribbons as I turn myself on, and get the ribbons and chiffon around my cock and balls, it feels really fantastic. I have this babydoll sissy nightie with lots of frills around the hem and puffy sleeves. it has a big bow in the front and two either side all with long ribbons [over a meter] so playing with 10 long nylon ribbons is heaven.
        I’d love to know your comment.

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Hughy

          Thanks for your comment. In a planet of billions of people, there are I’m sure many people with equally and even more unusual ways to entertain themselves! If it works for you, that’s all that matters. I did unfortunately feel the need to edit out the last 2 sentences of your comment as they were pretty graphic even by this website’s standards…something which isn’t easy to achieve!
          Anyway, that’s my comment. Enjoy your ribbons;-)

  76. Hornygoldy says:

    Hey ethan!First of all Thanks a lot!!that was really very helpful….to be honest i was addicted to masturbation for the past 6 years and used to masturbate way over the limit and spent my years in exaustion but since the start of 2015 i am trying to cut down my fapping frequency to once a week and practice masturbation with towel and plastic glove vagina once a week for more pleasurable expierience…any more suggestions for me from you would be great! Again thnx:)

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi hornygoldy

      Thanks for your comment, and I’m glad you found the site useful. I think masturbation is perfectly natural, but if you think you’ve been doing it too much, then that’s all that matters. I hope you find a way to control it to the extent that you’re happy with. As for now, my suggestions are all in the article above! I’m sure a bit of creative thinking wouldn’t go amiss from yourself though!
      All the best

  77. Hughy says:

    I hope that my email does not appear Ethan from above

  78. Patrick says:

    Thank you Ethan for the help just one question. I find that it can hurt to rub my penis even if I do it very gently the only method that works is a very gentle tap on the tip of the head. Is there a problem with me or am I just really sensitive?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Patrick,

      You’re welcome. That does sounds like you might be unusually sensitive. It shouldn’t hurt to rub your penis gently. I would recommend talking to a doctor about it. Try not to be embarrassed, and remember they are used to talking about men’s anatomy!

  79. Wolfy says:

    I read this and tried everything, do you have any other suggestions?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Wow! Well, my best suggestion would be to do more of what you like the most, and use your imagination to see if you can make that even better!

  80. Bolvla says:

    Thanks for putting this on here it helped me soo much since the only thing I was doing was the old fashioned way.

  81. tpi6 says:

    Great article. It was informative, and didn’t know there were so many ways to do it. Thanks for writing it.

  82. dudes says:

    that helped alot ,my gf was stunned at my performance in the bed:-) thanks for those techniques

  83. jeremicp3 says:

    my gf had a great night last night thanx to your tips

  84. david7 says:

    I masturbate while watching porn ….. Is it healthy to do so… Or should i try to masturbate without porn ??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi David,

      Personally I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. But I do think it’s good not to become reliant on it, to mix things up and also to use just your imagination, or watch erotic films instead of the stuff you find online these days.

  85. Robbie says:

    Love the finger to the anus and the pulling down your balls a bit thanks for the tips

  86. manish says:

    my penis foreskin swells sometimes after masturbating.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi manish
      That doesn’t sound very good at all. Either you’re doing it too hard, too much or you’re very sensitive. Try giving it a break for a while, then do it more gently the next time. If it still happens, I would speak to a doctor if I were you.

  87. Anounymus says:

    Hi I find this article very helpful. I’m the usual guy that just master bates in 2 minutes by rubbing it up and down really fast . I didn’t know men have g spots . I want to try and find it but it’s hard . I have tried it before but doesn’t seem to feel pleasurable . Maybe I’m not going far enough . Also I want to experiment with playing with my balls too . Thanks for the tips !

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      I’m glad you enjoyed the article! I get the feeling that not all guys will enjoy that kind of stimulation equally. Even if you do find the right area, it could just be that you don’t enjoy it that much. I wouldn’t worry about it too much…

  88. WolfAddictionzz says:

    A good tip is to use 3 fingers and use the top and middle to masturbate

  89. J says:

    Thank you so much. I’ve been masturbating about once a day. My GF lives in another state. It’s been getting old just using my hand and almost not satisfying. I tried some of the techniques and it helped a lot! Thank you!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi J
      I’m glad you found the tips useful. I hope it keeps you satisfied while waiting to see your girlfriend!

  90. vampiz says:

    hi ethan,
    it was great your all tips were fabulous my gf will never forget last night. thanks to u

  91. It was strange says:

    I tried the g-spot thing and it was weird cause I could get my finger that far up my ass, (it was stretching it) I don’t know how girls can do that with a penis, I don’t recommend this unless you have small hands with a big but-hole

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      Well, it’s not a technique that every guy will enjoy! So if it’s not for you, not to worry. There’s plenty more you can do.

  92. POPS WITH A PRE TEEN says:

    I have been really avoiding the ol “bird’s & the bee’s” talk with my son, and I am actually glad to have stumbled across this article! I grew up in a very strict southern Baptist home and the word sex much less Masterbate didn’t ever come up. I had to learn about this type of things from sneaking my best friends older brothers porn magazine or from friends. I know very well that kid’s are learning things way earlier than us parents want to admit, and I am glad that at least the information contained herein is very informative and not instantly hard core slapping chicks UFC ring sex. It’s great to see young people have a place to go to get some answers to the questions they have, without the embarrassing conversation with a parent! As my boy would say! “EPIC”

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      Thank you very much for your comment. It’s great to hear from someone with your perspective. To be honest, I do sometimes wonder what different cross sections of society would think of this article. I like to think that most people will see it for the important educational points that lie underneath the fun aspect. So it’s good to hear your point of view confirming that. Thank you.
      All the best

  93. GlennSkie says:

    Hi! Mr. Ethan, first of all, i wanna greet you a good day. Thanks for these wonderful and useful tips. I cum fast. That’s why i searched how to make it longer to cum. But i have a question or you, What is the normal ejaculating time during masturbation? I’m 15!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi glennskie,

      I’m glad you found the article helpful. To be honest I have no idea how long the average time is! I don’t think there has ever been a survey done on that. Something tells me it probably isn’t much longer than the average time during sex, which is 5-6 minutes. But who knows…some guys have probably worked out the best way to do it and ejaculate very fast, whilst others enjoy taking their time. So I don’t think there is a ‘normal’ time. It’s all down to personal preference.

  94. GlennSkie says:

    And.. During my first sexual intercourse with a girl, what should i do for a protection? please give some advices :) I really need those

  95. ananamys says:

    I know I misspelled anonomys bt does anything like ltion work as lube

  96. Six&a-half says:

    Its so true, masturbating does help last longer… I mean, I last up to at least 10 minutes with my girl, she cums pretty quick so I please her, and I can still keep going! That anus one tho… I’ll stick to a slippery hand cuz it felt weird lol… But how can I do kegles? What is that?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,
      Glad to hear you’re able to satisfy your girlfriend. And yes, that technique isn’t for everyone! You can find out about kegels by following the links in the article and to the right of the page…

  97. ken in miami says:

    being gay I don’t worry about lasting for a woman and when I do masturbate I last from 1 to 2 hours non stop Just relax your body By using a thumb placed right where your penis meets your groin you can feel the semen flow into your erection so you can tell how well you are doing with your other hand I feel sorry for those guys in the 10 to 15 minute range

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ken,

      That sounds like an incredible long time! Don’t you get bored or suffer from chafing?
      Take care of yourself;-)

  98. jacob says:

    I have porn mags and videos…but all of it is getting boring, what should I do

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Jacob,

      Perhaps put them away, close you eyes and use your imagination. Focus on the physical side of self-pleasure instead of the mental stimulus of mags and vids.
      And get creative!

  99. Chaitanya Bachaav says:

    Thanks for the advice but sometimes while masturbrating someome ( generaly mom) knocks the door of my bedroom i have no option other than opening the door so i have to stop in between.

    Is it good or bad to leave in middle??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Chaitanya,

      It’s not bad at all, so don’t worry about that. But if your mum keeps disturbing you, then perhaps wait for a better time of the day when she is not going to bother you so you can relax!

  100. Big-dick man says:

    I like masturbating and this will definitely help me out to for those nights when my friend doesn’t want anal so this will be something we can definitely use on and for each other and also my partner had bought me the flashlight vagina OMeffinG it is so realistic that u will be using 24/7 day and night! But like I said for me and my gay friend this will be awesome!!!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi b-d-m

      Thanks for your comment. I’m glad you found the article helpful, and yes fleshlights are pretty awesome. Thanks for adding your views on that one!

  101. Lol says:

    Does it mean your gay if you watch gay porn while masturbating?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Wow, I really don’t know what to say to that! Er…not necessarily is my best answer. Is it the only thing you watch, or do you just watch it from time to time? Maybe you’re bisexual, maybe you’re gay, maybe you’re experimenting and testing the boundaries of what turns you on. Only you can answer that question really…

  102. Caleb says:

    Im 12 and i was wondering if i should be masturbating at my age

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Caleb,

      There is no real answer to that question. My personal opinion is go with whatever feels natural for you to do. If you feel the urge, then do it. But don’t do it just because you think you’re supposed to. You’ll know once the hormones kick in and you are driven to experiment. Just don’t worry about it:-)
      All the best

  103. Himan says:

    Hey I am a younger man. I am a little embarrassed about my age. When I masturbate I use spit is that ok? So far I have not jizzed it felt like it very close but I think it was just a organism. Please respond.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Himan,

      Thanks for your comment. I think lots of guys use spit, though personally I don’t like it. You can find moisturizing lotions and creams which would do a better job if you can’t buy actual lubricant.
      And just so you know, an organism is a living thing. An orgasm is the pleasurable feeling of climax!
      All the best

  104. mr khan says:

    when I was masturbating sperm comes out with in 2 min…after that my penis is not in the mood…. what to do…??

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi mr khan

      I think then you would definitely benefit from following all the advice on this website about practicing techniques to last longer! Have a look round and you’ll get lots of good ideas.
      And it’s normal to not be in the mood for a while after orgasm. It’s called the refractory period, and varies from man to man, and changes with age and other factors.

  105. Ad93 says:

    Hi is there any way to masturbate by rubbing my penis head fast or slow with spit

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Ad93
      Yes, you can use spit as a lubricant and then masturbate any way you like. But personally I think it’s better to use other lubricants which feel better!

  106. Anonymous says:


  107. Anonymous says:

    how can I get rid of this masturbation?

  108. Anonymous says:

    Lol, is it wrong to look this up even though I have a gf. Im just tring to build up stamina. :/

    • Ethan Green says:

      Not at all. In my mind, all guys should at all times be thinking about how they can improve their sex life for both them and their partner. So if it’s about improving your stamina, then you’re doing both of you a favor!

  109. kenwyneftw says:

    hey again ethan, i am wondering if my friend is okay, he is 17 and his foreskin hasn’t retracted! i know cause he started crying…. is it normal???? :/

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Kenwyneftw

      It is normal for adolescents to have difficulty retracting their foreskin. Often doctors keep an eye on them to help make sure it happens. If it’s still an issue at his age, it’s probably a good idea to speak to a doctor to make sure everything is ok.

  110. Random Dude says:

    LoL it was really fun, reading things that i’ve already had researched on… still pretty educating for “non-researchers”, good job on that ;)

  111. Master Bates says:

    Hi Ethan,
    Thanx for the straightforward & valuable advice! I have this thing that I cant put my masturbation endurance levels in the real thing. Maybe coz I prolong or shorten my orgasms thru fantasy. When I masturbate my drabbest fantasy gives me a good 20 mins. While a top rated high end one brings me off in 4-5 mins. Which gives me good reason to believe I have enough control. But things are different for me during a real scene. We start off with some foreplay & when we r ready, I start off with my dampest fantasy like even driving a steamroller or something. But I guess my 5 senses dont care what my mind thinks. They just lock on to Junior and tell him ‘hey kid, times up. Shoot!’ & Thats it. Finito
    kaput. All in 4 minutes flat.
    So guess I’ll find some help here surely. Ethan sorry for the long story. U r probably why this guy couldnt just say “I have control when I masturbate and I cant while lovemaking” p.s. if u do answer, u can edit the longer stuff show the 11 liner. Thanx again.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi M B

      Thanks for your comment, and don’t worry about the length. I enjoy reading people’s comments and helping out where I can.
      What you describe is very normal. That’s why I advise guys to practice masturbation for 20 minutes or more before they allow themselves to orgasm, as it helps build stamina when it comes to the real thing. Maybe your goal should be to hold out for 20 minutes with your favourite fantasy as it seems that’s more likely to help you in the long run.
      And yes, have a look round the site and you’ll find some more tips here and there.
      All the best

  112. All the time says:

    Some great tips, my favorite not mentioned, although i dont have a toy… That would be fun until its discovered, then embarrassing!

    I mix it up but when there is no discovery risk I have one thats just like sex.

    Erect, put on condom. I have plenty of ‘self lube’ so let that build up or put a little lube in tip of condom prior to putting it on. Once lubed unroll extra so its 2-3 inches hanging off yourself, then tuck into rolled/folded blanket, or between two pillows. Pump away like its real sex. Feels great and makes cleanup easy as you cane come into pillow since condom is on. Treat pillow like missionary or from behind. In bed is best. Nothing else compares other than sex. Buy lots of condoms though! (No lube outside of condom should be dry. Even wipe off packaging lube. You want to slide inside the condom.)

    Enjoy and thanks for the great article!!

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi All the time,

      Thanks for the comment, and the compliment about the article. I think there are various ways of using condoms and household items, and only your creativity limits the possibilities! But personally, I think if you’re into that kind of thing, then getting a fleshlight for example will blow your blanket idea out of the water…believe me!
      All the best

  113. jizzar says:

    Im 14 and i know how to masturbate but i dont know how to shoot cum anyone want to help me

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi j
      It might be that your body just isn’t ready yet. Once it is, you will know about it so don’t worry!

  114. Michael says:

    Hey im 14. And i masturbate with my legs! It might sound weird but for me, squeezing the tip of my penis between my leg give me and unlimited amount of pleasure. The problem is i had sex with my girlfriend the other day and she was waiting for me to ejaculate, but i couldnt because the technique i was using to ejaculate on her face (jacking off), i wasn’t used to. I just want to masturbate normally. I’ve tried but it never works. Can anyone help me with this?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Michael,

      That’s an interesting technique! I think if you stop doing the legs thing, and just keep trying the ‘normal’ way, then eventually it will work for you. Sometimes it takes a while to adjust to a new style of doing things sexually. So don’t panic about it.

  115. 3/4 says:

    I am 14, love the article btw. But i have a really small penis. It is 3/4 of an inch. Is there any ways to stimulate a tiny penis? Besides anal. I do anal a lot.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,
      Is it that size when it is erect though? Have you started having erections yet? Many guys have much, much smaller penises when they are soft, but they then grow a lot bigger when erect.

  116. priya says:

    I tried masturbating my boyfriend….
    But i could never reach his ejaculation…
    Its embarrassing ..
    Feels like I’m not hot n sexy enough for him..
    Can u guys please help me…

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Priya

      Thanks for your comment. I imagine it has nothing to do with you being sexy enough. It’s probably technique! In my experience, most women don’t really know how to masturbate a guy very well. And those that do are those who take the time to understand how each guy likes it, as we are often quite different. Some like a soft and gentle grip, whereas others like you to grip much harder than you think would be enjoyable for example. My advice would be to ask him if he’s enjoying the way you do it, and get him to put his hand around yours and show your the exact strength of grip and speed he likes.
      But don’t worry about it. I can’t remember the last time a woman managed to get me to ejaculate through manual stimulation only, and I can tell you for certain that I have found several of my ex partners extremely hot and sexy!
      If all else fails, oral sex and real sex will undoubtedly do the trick for him…
      All the best

  117. XxilluminatixX says:

    Hey thanks. This article helped a lot. I have now begun to take it slow and have realized how much more pleasurable it can be.

  118. Persian boy says:

    Hello and thanks for your article.
    I have a question. After masturbation I really regret. I really want to know the answer.
    Answer my question if possible.
    Thank you very much and good luck.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Persian boy,

      Thanks for the comment and you’re welcome.
      What do you regret exactly? The fact that you masturbated? Have you been told that masturbation is bad for you, or something you shouldn’t do? If so, that’s something probably you need to make a decision about yourself.
      In my opinion there’s nothing wrong with it and it’s natural, and nothing to regret at all!

  119. Anon says:

    I masturbate by rubbing the part just below the head on the front of the penis left to right and have been doing so for about a year. Unfortunately, this desensitized my penis in a way that the normal stroking method doesn’t work as well. I will get hard, but I won’t stay hard. I suppose this is probably because I’ve just been masturbating too much and should lay off. Also, rubbing the head with lube feels strange.. Not necessarily pleasurable. It’s like the feeling you get when a girl keeps giving you head after you finish, but it’s like this before I actually do so. Any tips?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there,

      It might be that you’ve just overdone it a little by focusing on that one area. As you said yourself, probably best to lay off it for a while, and try a different technique which incorporates the whole penis, not just a specific area. And if lube doesn’t do it for you, that’s fine. Not every technique will be equally pleasurable for all guys. It really doesn’t matter at all!

  120. jeff says:

    i slipped and landed in my bath it was a position in which i could orally stimulate myself best day ever

  121. bigspurt says:

    I am a big fan of the Tenga Egg. I have about 7 or 8. Discovered them about two years ago. They wash up easily and I have only thrown two away.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Bigspurt,
      Thanks for the comment, and yes the Tenga can be quite fun too. Still prefer the fleshlight though!

  122. Anonymous says:

    I can only get the foreskin down to about the edge of the “head” of my penis were it is attached there’s this flap connected to the forehead is that normal?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Yes it is! It’s called the Frenulum. It’s very normal. If you google medical diagrams of the penis you will be able to find out more. So don’t worry!


  123. Harish says:

    That’s great information about masturbation…
    I need to know how to strengthen my penis…plz say that… I’m suffering from small one

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Harish

      I’m glad you found the article helpful. I don’t cover penis size on this website. You would have to search online for more on that. Sorry I can’t help more.

  124. shivi says:

    when i am masturbating it is done only in 1 minute. what should i done for at least 5 minute masturbation? help me out from this i want to be longer when i am masturbating.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Shivi,

      My advice would be to look around this website, and perhaps think about one of the training books I talk about in the article. They are full of tips for how to masturbate in a way which will help you last longer!

  125. Paulie D. Blart says:

    Hey your website was very helpful thank you! I really like the ones where u thrust on the g-spot and it helps make my orgasm far better thank you! :-) Paulie D. Blart

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Paulie

      Thanks for your comment and I’m glad you found the article helpful. Enjoy your new techniques!

  126. Grayson says:

    I did these these steps and ways for masturbation. really i was happy to see that they work. thank you man :D

  127. Grayson says:

    When i read the ways for masturbation i was exited to do it. and in fact i was really happy it works. thank you man. but if my dick is getting red it is bad???

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi again

      It depends how red! Sometimes it’s normal for the glans to be a bit read after masturbation. But if it is sore, or very red, or continually red, then that’s not a good thing and you should take some time out and perhaps go easier the next time.


  128. Frank says:

    I love this stuff I was going for 20 mins now like 45

  129. Bob the Builder says:

    It worked so well thanks alot!

  130. Mega Cummer says:

    Is it normal to cum so much that it can fill two cups

  131. josef calub says:

    thank you it helped alot

  132. kiyt says:

    i masturbates 10-20 minutes but nothing comes out, what shall i do???

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Kiyt
      If you are younger than 13-14 it’s normal not to ejaculate yet. But if you are older than 13, then perhaps you just need longer. If not, I would speak to a doctor about it to be on the safe side.

  133. zayn says:

    Hi there..I masturbate often when i’m watching pornography (2-3 times a day)..Will it affect me???
    Another thing is. I find it difficult to hold my orgasm too long especially when i am horny…

    Thanks by the way for the tips..Help me a lot. ^_^

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Zayn

      My advice would be to also masturbate when not watching pornography, and try to take longer over it. And also when you watch porn, try not to ejaculate too soon. Look around this website for more on this!

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