The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

image showing an explosionThis article is for anyone who’s never been taught the best way to masturbate. And considering it’s not exactly a dinner time topic, that’s probably everyone.

In this article you’ll discover new and exciting ways to give yourself intense orgasms, and hopefully have a lot of fun along the way.

You’ll also find out how you can use masturbation to train yourself to be great when it comes to real sex.

With the right techniques, you can develop the kind of sexual endurance that will leave your lover lying exhausted on the bed and staring at you in amazement. What’s not to love about that?

1) Getting started – the basic technique

image of a man holding a banana in his handMost people learn early on that their hand is the perfect friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and a lot of fun.

The most basic technique is simply to grip your penis in your stronger hand with your fingers underneath and thumb on top.

You then move your hand up and down the shaft, not too hard and not too fast. With some experimentation you should be able to find just the right pressure, finger position and speed to stimulate you.

If you like you can lightly rub the head of the penis too, though without lubricant you might find it’s a bit too sensitive and dry. In which case it’s fine just to rub the shaft.

This is probably the oldest and most satisfying hands-only masturbation technique. The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. However, with a little creativity and variety, you can take it to a whole new level as you’ll soon see.

2) Your hand’s twin

two hands are better than oneEven at this basic level you can still spice things up nicely by using your other hand. Here are some ideas for you to try out:

  • Try using only your other hand.
  • Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. If not, you can try holding your penis in between both palms pressed together.
  • Use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.
  • Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!

3) Don’t leave your balls hanging

2 ballsYour balls are more than just an odd-shaped storage facility. They’re an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.

It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:

  • Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
  • Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
  • Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.

There’s another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.

4) It’s not just women that have multiple erogenous zones

diagram of the male and female erogenous zonesEven though the majority of masturbation techniques are centered on the penis and balls, there are other parts of your body that respond well to a little attention.

It’s a popular belief that only women have multiple erogenous zones. However, the truth is that your body is far more sensitive than you might think.

For example, try touching your nipples and experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.

Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you’re sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.

Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.

5) Moving south: the perineum

The Perineum is the area in between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand. Again, be creative and see what kind of stimulation, if any, gets you going.

6) Experiment with different positions

Here are 3 ways you can use different positions to mix things up from time to time:

  • Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.
  • Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand.
  • Change positions during your session: kneeling, standing, sitting, swapping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.

7) The holy grail of the male G-spot

male g spot diagramSome cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place. Others claim that we are in fact blessed with 2 G-spots.

The first is the area on and around the frenulum – the string-like piece of flesh connecting the head of the penis with the shaft. You’ll probably find it’s a particularly sensitive area to rub.

The second G-spot might not appeal to everyone, but some guys like to include their anus when masturbating. For others, it’s strictly a one-way street.

If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-heightening treat. Here’s how to find it:

  • Wash your anus and hands before starting.
  • Put some lubricant on your finger.
  • Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
  • Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
  • You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
  • The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter, which is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.

8) The best way to masturbate is with a realistic vagina

fleshlight male masturbatorOf all the ideas in this article, this one has the most potential to change the way you masturbate forever.

If you’re interested in techniques to maximize your pleasure and have stronger orgasms, this is the one for you.

Using a realistic vagina provides the perfect combination of intense stimulation and a challenge to your sexual stamina.

There are lots of companies that make male sex toys, but the one I recommend is Fleshlight. Their realistic vaginas are made from a high-quality, silky-soft material with a contoured interior that feels amazing.

If you’re interested in trying one, you can find some great deals on theĀ official Fleshlight website.

9) The slippery joys of lubricant

lubricantFor the same reasons that you’d use a simulated vagina, lubricant is also an awesome addition to the repertoire of self-pleasure techniques.

Whether you’re using a toy or just your hands, lubricant will get you another important step closer to the real thing.

A real vagina is wet and slippery, so a dry palm is a poor imitation of that amazing experience. Lubricant also makes it easier to stimulate the head of your penis, and of course explore your anus if you so desire.

Please note that depending on your age, you might not be able to get hold of a realistic vagina or sex lubricant. In which case, don’t stress about it. Yes, they’re a lot of fun, but they aren’t absolutely necessary.

10) The double-edged sword of online movies

Adult movies can be great if used the right way, but they can also be problematic if watched without any thought.

As you’ll find out in part 3, rushing masturbation isn’t the best way to go about things. And one thing which is sure to increase your arousal is your favorite movie.

If you just switch it on, get yourself as excited as possible and rush to climax, you may be accidentally training yourself to ejaculate quickly during sex too.

However, if you use it as a tool when learning how to masturbate in a controlled way, it’s a good way to test your ability to keep relaxed and calm.

11) Sex toys Santa won’t deliver

vibrating cock ring for masturbationThere are loads of great sex toys you can use in combination with the masturbation techniques in this article, for example:

  • Cock rings and vibrating cock rings add extra pleasure and also test your control.
  • You can try out a realistic vagina mouth sleeve.
  • There are toys designed to stimulate your G-spot.
  • If you’re into any clothing fetish, then don’t be afraid to have fun with it!

Improve your sexual stamina

with masturbation techniques you can train yourself to be a stud in the bedroom

Many guys, especially during their teenage years, masturbate as quickly as possible. This is understandable because a) you don’t want anyone walking in on you, and b) it just kind of feels better going faster.

However, what I’m about to tell you is probably the most important point in this article:

Take your time!

I don’t want to worry you, but some guys end up ejaculating very quickly during sex, which is obviously not great. And it’s thought that one of the main reasons this happens is because of masturbating as fast as possible when younger.

But since you’re reading this, hopefully that’s never going to happen to you. And instead you can use your masturbation time to train yourself to become a stud in the bedroom.

Read on to find out a bit more about the right way to go about things.

12) The human traffic light: the start and stop method

start and stop imageIn terms of techniques, the start and stop method is a great way to masturbate. The simple version is that you set yourself a time – 20 minutes is good – and you don’t allow yourself to ejaculate until that time is up.

Every time you feel yourself getting close to the point of ejaculating, stop and take a breather for 30 seconds and then carry on. It might sound a bit frustrating, but it’s an effective way to develop your endurance.

You may also find that by holding back for so long, when you finally let go, your orgasm will be even more powerful.

13) Kegels – relaxation and the last line of defense

do not disturb while masturbating signKegels are a secret weapon you can develop in the safety of your bedroom. They can be used as a last line of defense to stop yourself ejaculating.

But as well as strengthening the muscles for holding back ejaculation, they also teach you which body parts to keep relaxed during sex.

In addition, they’re often used to get bigger and harder erections. They can also give you better bladder control when you’ve had too many beers. What’s not to love about that?

14) Breathe and relax

Breathing slowly and deeply whilst keeping your body relaxed is a useful skill to learn when masturbating. The reason being that tension will extinguish your sexual performance faster than a fireman’s hose on a wooden match.

So the next time you’re enjoying some solo time, remember to slow down and breathe.

Final word

By now you’ve probably worked out that the key to great masturbation is to experiment and find out what really works for you. Try to be open-minded, but if there are things that just don’t appeal or do it for you, don’t worry about it!

There are two ideas in this article that I recommend above all others. Firstly, take your time when masturbating and don’t rush it. If you need to improve your stamina, do the start and stop technique and you should see improvements pretty soon.

Secondly, whether it’s purely for pleasure or for working on your stamina, it’s worth thinking about trying out a realistic vagina. It’s a great way to improve your stamina and so much more fun than your hand.

Concerned about your penis size?

Many guys have left comments asking about their penis size, asking me if their size is normal and how they can increase it. My advice is not to worry about this until you’re at least 21 years old as your penis may keep growing until then.

If you do want an effective way to increase your penis size, my recommended approach isĀ called the penis enlargement remedy.

Find out more about the penis enlargement remedy >>

2,378 CommentsLeave a comment

  • hey! i eject sperm just 10-15 seconds in blowjob and before inserting my penis into vagina…. i think i am having premature ejaculation problem…please suggest me the ways to overcome this problem…i am in too much tension..

    • Hi Samuel
      There are lots of articles to help you on this site. You can start at the homepage, and any of the sections talking about lasting longer in bed. And you can also try the techniques I discussed at the end of this article. It’s all here, you just have to look around and do some reading, then put the techniques into practice!

    • Hi there
      You might find it helpful to look up ‘anejaculation’ online. It’s not something I’ve written about here yet, but you can find lots of good advice if you search for it.

    • Hi CD31
      There are lots of different treatments available for erection problems. Viagra is one of the moment commonly used drugs, but there are others available over the counter too.

  • When I ejaculate my cum doesn’t shoot out it just kinda poors out. It shoots up a little bit but not much. Is this normal???

    • Hi there
      Yes, that’s quite normal for many guys. Lots of things can affect the way it shoots out or not. The best thing to do is stay fit and healthy – do plenty of exercise and eat well.

    • Hi there
      If you’re old enough to buy online, you can find many different types, even on websites like amazon for example. If not, you can use moisturizing creams if they don’t have too many chemicals in them – but I’d advise not getting the cream on your penis head. Or manhy guys just use saliva. But really, it’s not essential if you can’t get hold of any.

  • My penis size is 5 inches and my age is the size normal?Sometimes it takes few minutes to cum while sometimes I extend the time by a hour while masturbating..will it not harm in future?

    • Hi Rahul
      Yes, that’s within the normal range for your age, so don’t worry about it. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with your masturbation time, so you can relax!

  • Ethan,

    Thanks for writing such a detailed article.

    One of my favorite ways is to use water to masterbate. In the shower, take the shower head off, and allow the solid stream of water to hit the head of the penis. You spoke about using the right amount of pressure while using your hand/s. The same applies to the water pressure.

    There are many different types of shower heads, so you might have to be creative about creating the water stream. I’ve tied towels around the stream if it too hard no matter what. I’ve also found that the shower head that many hotels use can be forced to create the sold stream necessary.

    You can use the same kinds of toys to manipulate areas of your body, just see what feels right.

    Thanks again for the article.

    • Hi Shannon
      I’m glad you liked the article! Yes, water can be an interesting and fun way to stimulate the penis, especially shower streams. If it’s something you enjoy, that’s great.

  • Hey i masturbate by putting my penis between my thighs and i tighten around it and do it like am having sex … i continue doing it like that is there going to be an effect on me…

    • Hi daniel
      Other guys have said they do the same thing. I don’t think it will have any bad effect on you. But perhaps try other techniques as well, such as using your hand, so you get used to that.

  • So gonna list off a couple of things that have bothered me lately. First off, on my right testicle I have a small round bulb (about the size of a pea) that is attached but with enough distance from the testicle that I can distinctly feel that it’s smooth and round. Applying pressure to it produces the same feeling in the same areas as applying pressure to the testicle. I’ve had this for as long as I can remember and it hasn’t caused me any problems but I’m still concerned with it. Next, when I was just starting to masturbate, I accidentally bent my erect penis till it practically folded. Again, I’ve had no issues from this that I’m aware of but to this day, albeit with a bit of discomfort, I can bend my erect penis at a 90 degree angle and further without much effort. Is this bad and should I immediately stop? And has any damage resulted as a cause of this happening?
    Lastly (yes I know, quite the read so far), I’ve been able to avoid pulling my foreskin all the way back behind the head when I masturbate but during sex, not so much. Other than the immediate sensitivity, this doesn’t cause much of an issue, but upon looking at my penis after, I notice a darker discoloration of the head and a dulled sense of sensitivity. Is having my foreskin peeled back all the way cutting off circulation?
    Thanks for reading.

    • Hi Joe
      Let’s see if I can answer your questions.

      1. You should get that checked out by a doctor. It could something harmless like a cyst, but it’s still very important to get any unusual testicular lumps checked by a professional.

      2. That might just mean you’re not getting a 100% hard erection if you can still bend it to much. Can you always bend it, or only when it’s not totally hard? Again, it might be totally normal, but you can ask the doctor.
      Is it very difficult to put the foreskin back over the head when it’s like that?


  • Hello. I am currently 16 years old and I think my penis is decreasing in size. Before I started masturbating, it was bigger. Is this me just going crazy or is this bad?

    • Hi there
      There are several things that could lead to it either being smaller when erect or looking smaller to you. For example, weight gain, poor diet, stress etc. The best thing you can do is to try to be as active and healthy as possible. If you’re masturbating excessively, perhaps reduce the frequency too. It might also be useful to speak to your doctor, who can give you some advice and see if there’s anything physical causing it.

  • I stumbled over here by mistake and in all seriousness I love the honesty that you give about the..situation lol it’s been a big help in various ways..I’m curious since size isn’t a big deal would you mind sharing with us your size sir??

    • Hi Carlos
      I’m glad you found the article interesting, even if you did somehow find it by mistake. I don’t think it’s necessary to share my personal measurements though!

  • Hi Ethan,
    My pens is around 6.5 inches and I am only 14 a lot of people have there’s at around 4 to 5 inches and I read that the averge is at around 5 for my age range also what types of household items could I use as an alternative to lube and the final thing is that what do you think the best way to masterbate is I haven’t tryed any of the techniques yet but I defiantly will thanks for all of your techniques also thanks for replying to everyones comments in such detail
    Thanks Matt

    • Hi Matt
      You’re welcome – I’m glad you found the comments interesting. However, I think if you try the techniques, you’ll find what’s the best way for you personally! As for the lube, well, I wouldn’t worry about it at your age. You can use mild mosturizing cream or even spit. Just don’t rub any creams with chemicals in them into the penis head.

        • I use this thing called Bio-oil which is an oil supposed to be for getting ride of scars and such. It’s perfect to use as lube, as it contains no harsh chemicals. It also saves the awkward conversion when your parents find it.

  • Hi,im 18 when i masturbate i sometimes squeeze my testicles and feel.pain actually it makes me feel good.
    so is that normal?

    • Hi Yano
      Whilst some people enjoy a bit of sexual pain, I’d be careful not to squeeze the testicles too much, for fear of causing an injury.

  • Ethan this was the best advice ever. I used to cum in 3 min now it takes 30 min to an hour.
    Also my pens is 6 inches and I read some where that this may be its final size should I be worried or not.
    Thx so much

    • Hi Chase
      You’re welcome. I’m glad you found the advice helpful. And even if 6 inches is the final size, that’s a good size, so nothing to worry about.

  • Hi,
    M 21 year Old I tried Sex Two time but i lacked in erection. The girl helped me to give a blowjob but it didnt worked.
    The Same i tried with a girlfriend but at the time of sex i losed the erection.
    Please help. What should i Do???

    • Hi Sunny/
      Have you been able to spend more time with one of the women, after the initial difficulty? Like me and many other guys here, it might be that you just need a day or two to relax with the girl, after which the problem will stop naturally. But you won’t know unless someone is willing to see you again – which is why I talk about the importance of taking control of the situation.

  • It’s true about the two g spots, mine is ridiculously sensitive to touch, and it bulges up when aroused. I’ve had some of the best continuous, and multiple orgams just from the outslide skin line outside the anus going up to the balls. It’s probably the best self discovery I’ve made while experimenting around that area. Wands and other sex tools work best to find this area, but spend time with a finger while aroused to find it, it’s definitely, definitely worth time to! The height of orgasm is a intense, full body sensation which lasts and lasts, but remember you need to be aroused, and not trying to find it while you are not interested. Take some time from porn, touch and take time to feel your body, spend a good afternoon just feeling yourself and naturally feel yourself getting hard and sensitive, resist the urge to just wank quickly, it will be tempting but don’t! Your penis will get hard and leak just from touching your g spots, and you will cum again and again.

    • Hi Rollsworth
      Thanks for the great advice. I think you’re absolutely right that it’s a good idea to relax and focus on self-exploration in a meaningful way rather than just going at it as fast as possible in the same old way.

    • I was simply rubbing my head near the stringy bit and it felt amazing!! Didn’t even pump once and I came. Very impressed.

    • Hi Adrian
      It is in the normal range, but if you feel uncomfortable with your size, you could try some enlargement techniques if you like.

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