The Best Way To Masturbate – 14 Techniques Every Guy Should Know

image showing an explosionThis article is for anyone who’s never been taught the best way to masturbate. And considering it’s not exactly a dinner time topic, that’s probably everyone.

In this article you’ll discover new and exciting ways to give yourself intense orgasms, and hopefully have a lot of fun along the way.

You’ll also find out how you can use masturbation to train yourself to be great when it comes to real sex.

With the right techniques, you can develop the kind of sexual endurance that will leave your lover lying exhausted on the bed and staring at you in amazement. What’s not to love about that?

1) Getting started – the basic technique

image of a man holding a banana in his handMost people learn early on that their hand is the perfect friend with benefits. It’s natural, effective and a lot of fun.

The most basic technique is simply to grip your penis in your stronger hand with your fingers underneath and thumb on top.

You then move your hand up and down the shaft, not too hard and not too fast. With some experimentation you should be able to find just the right pressure, finger position and speed to stimulate you.

If you like you can lightly rub the head of the penis too, though without lubricant you might find it’s a bit too sensitive and dry. In which case it’s fine just to rub the shaft.

This is probably the oldest and most satisfying hands-only masturbation technique. The speed and pressure you can apply brings about a satisfying orgasm. However, with a little creativity and variety, you can take it to a whole new level as you’ll soon see.

2) Your hand’s twin

two hands are better than oneEven at this basic level you can still spice things up nicely by using your other hand. Here are some ideas for you to try out:

  • Try using only your other hand.
  • Try using both hands at the same time. If you can put them one next to the other on your shaft, then lucky for you and any girl you meet. If not, you can try holding your penis in between both palms pressed together.
  • Use one hand to move up and down the shaft while the other plays with the head of your penis.
  • Wringing is a great double-handed technique. Imagine wringing the water out of a cloth by squeezing your hands in opposite directions. Just be a bit more gentle with yourself!

3) Don’t leave your balls hanging

2 ballsYour balls are more than just an odd-shaped storage facility. They’re an erogenous zone which you can use to heighten your orgasms.

It’s up to you to work out the best way to masturbate by including your testicles; all guys are different, but here are some suggestions:

  • Pull them slightly downwards while masturbating.
  • Try caressing, stroking or tickling them – experiment to see what and where feels good.
  • Try just holding them in a light but firm grip with the other hand.

There’s another good reason to spend some quality time with your balls. If you know what they feel like normally, you can look out for any unusual lumps – something all guys should do on a regular basis.

4) It’s not just women that have multiple erogenous zones

diagram of the male and female erogenous zonesEven though the majority of masturbation techniques are centered on the penis and balls, there are other parts of your body that respond well to a little attention.

It’s a popular belief that only women have multiple erogenous zones. However, the truth is that your body is far more sensitive than you might think.

For example, try touching your nipples and experiment with different strokes, pressure and movements.

Try caressing the inside of your thighs or your stomach. If there’s anywhere that you know you’re sensitive, don’t be afraid to explore yourself further with touch.

Some guys will be more sensitive than others in different areas, so it’s up to you to find out what works for you. There are no rules, so get to know your own body and find out what floats your boat.

5) Moving south: the perineum

The Perineum is the area in between your anus and balls. It’s a soft padded area which is sensitive to touch. You can try caressing it or pushing it gently with your spare hand. Again, be creative and see what kind of stimulation, if any, gets you going.

6) Experiment with different positions

Here are 3 ways you can use different positions to mix things up from time to time:

  • Hold your penis under your body, lying on your bed on top of your hand. Then thrust into your hand.
  • Try kneeling or standing and thrusting into your hand.
  • Change positions during your session: kneeling, standing, sitting, swapping hands or anything you can think of to add variety.

7) The holy grail of the male G-spot

male g spot diagramSome cynical folk will say the male g-spot is a lost Atlantis which never existed in the first place. Others claim that we are in fact blessed with 2 G-spots.

The first is the area on and around the frenulum – the string-like piece of flesh connecting the head of the penis with the shaft. You’ll probably find it’s a particularly sensitive area to rub.

The second G-spot might not appeal to everyone, but some guys like to include their anus when masturbating. For others, it’s strictly a one-way street.

If you’re willing to explore here though, then you could be in for an orgasm-heightening treat. Here’s how to find it:

  • Wash your anus and hands before starting.
  • Put some lubricant on your finger.
  • Rub around the outside of your anus to begin with.
  • Gently insert a finger as far as is comfortable.
  • You can then just keep the finger inside while you masturbate with your other hand as normal, or move it gently in and out. Whatever works for you.
  • The G-Spot is a small area a couple of inches inside. It should feel like a little ball just over an inch in diameter, which is actually the outside of the prostate. You can softly rub this spot if you manage to find it, and if it’s pleasurable.

8) The best way to masturbate is with a realistic vagina

fleshlight male masturbatorOf all the ideas in this article, this one has the most potential to change the way you masturbate forever.

If you’re interested in techniques to maximize your pleasure and have stronger orgasms, this is the one for you.

Using a realistic vagina provides the perfect combination of intense stimulation and a challenge to your sexual stamina.

There are lots of companies that make male sex toys, but the one I recommend is Fleshlight. Fleshlights are made from a high-quality, silky-soft material with a contoured interior that feels amazing.

If you’re interested in trying one, you can get some great deals on the official official Fleshlight website.

9) The slippery joys of lubricant

lubricantFor the same reasons that you’d use a simulated vagina, lubricant is also an awesome addition to the repertoire of self-pleasure techniques.

Whether you’re using a toy or just your hands, lubricant will get you another important step closer to the real thing.

A real vagina is wet and slippery, so a dry palm is a poor imitation of that amazing experience. Lubricant also makes it easier to stimulate the head of your penis, and of course explore your anus if you so desire.

Please note that depending on your age, you might not be able to get hold of a realistic vagina or sex lubricant. In which case, don’t stress about it. Yes, they’re a lot of fun, but they aren’t absolutely necessary.

10) The double-edged sword of online movies

Adult movies can be great if used the right way, but they can also be problematic if watched without any thought.

As you’ll find out in part 3, rushing masturbation isn’t the best way to go about things. And one thing which is sure to increase your arousal is your favorite movie.

If you just switch it on, get yourself as excited as possible and rush to climax, you may be accidentally training yourself to ejaculate quickly during sex too.

However, if you use it as a tool when learning how to masturbate in a controlled way, it’s a good way to test your ability to keep relaxed and calm.

11) Sex toys Santa won’t deliver

vibrating cock ring for masturbationThere are loads of great sex toys you can use in combination with the masturbation techniques in this article, for example:

  • Cock rings and vibrating cock rings add extra pleasure and also test your control.
  • You can try out a realistic vagina mouth sleeve.
  • There are toys designed to stimulate your G-spot.
  • If you’re into any clothing fetish, then don’t be afraid to have fun with it!

Improve your sexual stamina

with masturbation techniques you can train yourself to be a stud in the bedroom

Many guys, especially during their teenage years, masturbate as quickly as possible. This is understandable because a) you don’t want anyone walking in on you, and b) it just kind of feels better going faster.

However, what I’m about to tell you is probably the most important point in this article:

Take your time!

I don’t want to worry you, but some guys end up ejaculating very quickly during sex, which is obviously not great. And it’s thought that one of the main reasons this happens is because of masturbating as fast as possible when younger.

But since you’re reading this, hopefully that’s never going to happen to you. And instead you can use your masturbation time to train yourself to become a stud in the bedroom.

Read on to find out a bit more about the right way to go about things.

12) The human traffic light: the start and stop method

start and stop imageIn terms of techniques, the start and stop method is a great way to masturbate. The simple version is that you set yourself a time – 20 minutes is good – and you don’t allow yourself to ejaculate until that time is up.

Every time you feel yourself getting close to the point of ejaculating, stop and take a breather for 30 seconds and then carry on. It might sound a bit frustrating, but it’s an effective way to develop your endurance.

You may also find that by holding back for so long, when you finally let go, your orgasm will be even more powerful.

13) Kegels – relaxation and the last line of defense

do not disturb while masturbating signKegels are a secret weapon you can develop in the safety of your bedroom. They can be used as a last line of defense to stop yourself ejaculating.

But as well as strengthening the muscles for holding back ejaculation, they also teach you which body parts to keep relaxed during sex.

In addition, they’re often used to get bigger and harder erections. They can also give you better bladder control when you’ve had too many beers. What’s not to love about that?

14) Breathe and relax

Breathing slowly and deeply whilst keeping your body relaxed is a useful skill to learn when masturbating. The reason being that tension will extinguish your sexual performance faster than a fireman’s hose on a wooden match.

So the next time you’re enjoying some solo time, remember to slow down and breathe.

Final word

By now you’ve probably worked out that the key to great masturbation is to experiment and find out what really works for you. Try to be open-minded, but if there are things that just don’t appeal or do it for you, don’t worry about it!

There are two ideas in this article that I recommend above all others. Firstly, take your time when masturbating and don’t rush it. If you need to improve your stamina, do the start and stop technique and you should see improvements pretty soon.

Secondly, whether it’s purely for pleasure or for working on your stamina, it’s worth thinking about trying out a realistic vagina. It’s a great way to improve your stamina and so much more fun than your hand.

Concerned about your penis size?

Many guys have left comments asking about their penis size, asking me if their size is normal and how they can increase it. My advice is not to worry about this until you’re at least 21 years old as the penis may keep growing until then.

If you do want a safe, natural and effective way to increase your penis size, my recommended approach is the penis enlargement remedy.

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2,259 CommentsLeave a comment

  • Hi, when I am erect my penis is pointing up. But when I am half to full erect it is pointing forward. Is this ok? Cheers. Harrison

    • Hi Tanmay
      Yes, both of those are normal. You should start ejaculating at some point soon, but if you don’t by the time you’re 18, perhaps ask a doctor about it.

  • Hi I have an uncircumcised penis and I mostly masturbate with fore skin on but when I pull down the skin and then masturbate it kinda hurts, I’m guessing that it’s because I’m still sensitive down there, is it normal.

    • Hi Neil
      Yes, it’s normal for the head to feel sensitive. If you don’t use lubricant it’s better to avoid rubbing the uncovered penis head if it feels sensitive.

  • Hi,
    Whenever I have sex with my wife or masterbate I feel drained up to next one or two days, some time feel feverish also.
    Please advise

    • Hi Kumar
      Thanks for your comment. To be honest, I’m not sure why you would experience that. I can understand feeling drained for a while afterwards, but not one or two days – unless you’re having a huge amount of vigorous sex. Feeling feverish sounds unusual too. Have you had a general medical checkup recently? It might be good to check your general health.

  • Is it safe to sit on the edge of the sofa and masturbate/ejaculate? I have heard that if you sit upright with back straight on the edge of a sofa then you will rip the pelvic floor muscles and nerves between your anus and scrotum at orgasm due to the sofa pressure preventing those muscles moving smoothly.

    • Hi John
      I haven’t heard of that happening, and to be honest find it hard to believe that it could happen. I really don’t think it’s a problem, but if you’re worried about it, there are plenty of other position you can try.

  • Hello. I am an adult male and my ejaculation does not shoot out of my penis. Instead it just kind of dribbles out. Is this normal?

    • Hi David
      Some people will find that happens. It’s not essential that it shoots out, but if you really feel you want to work on that, doing kegel exercises can sometimes help.

  • Hi, I just turned 17 a few days ago and my penis size when erect is barely 5 inches, i’ve been worried about this and I always believed that its just cuz i’m a little fat. I want to know if that’s normal for my age.

    • Hi John
      It is a normal size for your age. It may continue to grow, but you’re right in that being overweight can make it look smaller. It’s a great motivation to lose weight if you feel it’s an issue!

  • Hi…mi name is bhuvan…..I masturbate every day about 4 times….but with my lover I cant spend lot of timee for sex its very fast ejaculation….how can I last longer?

  • Hey, I do masturbation without my penis being erect just lying down and rubbbing it a little with my hands. Is that the normal way of doing it?

  • My foreskin fully covers the tip of penis, with a hole of 3mm. But when erect the penis is fully inside the foreskin, with no discomfort. I have a few other methods of masturbation.
    1) I show the penis under the shower or faucet with water in full force. When water falls on the tip, the penis in due course gets erect. Then the force of water is adjusted for the maximum enjoyment. The tickling feeling is just too good. Ejaculation happens in due course.
    2) I pull the foreskin to the maximum and blow air by mouth with a straw attached to the tip & enclosed with the foreskin. An air bubble is formed on the tip of the penis. I hold this tight by pinching the foreskin with my two fingers. Then I show the penis under the running shower or faucet, adjusting the water flow for the maximum comfort. The sound that is produced is just fun. In due course the penis gets erect & semen comes out and is retained inside the bubble.
    3) Instead of air, I also try with water in the same way by filling a mouthfull of water and with a straw. The feeling is quite different.
    In case you can remove the shower head, and water gushing out of the pipe in a single stream will give another experience. Of course the force of water is to adjusted for comfort.

    • Hi Binder
      Thanks for sharing these interesting techniques. Water flowing can be very enjoyable, I agree. I got a bit lost trying to understand your straw descriptions, if I’m honest. But I guess you have a very specific technique going on there. As I always say to people with more unusual techniques, I do recommend also doing things that simulate sex as well – such as using your hand to move up and down. It’s good to get used to that kind of action.

  • hi i’m kishore,

    i have an issue, i masturbate but nothing comes. how many times should we do.
    could u help me with a video of showing how to masturbate

    • Hi Kishore
      If you’re under 18, it’s possible it’s because you haven’t gone through puberty yet, so it’s normal and nothing to worry about. If you’re older, then there could be several explanations. I’m afraid I won’t be publishing any videos – I think the written descriptions are adequate.

    • Hi CH
      Yes, that’s very normal. Called the morning glory sometimes, it’s still not totally clear as to why it happens. The main thing though is that it’s normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi,
    I have been masturbating since my teen days. But the thing is I don’t masturbates using my hand. I turn round in the bed and put my penis between the bed and the body. And then push the penis up and down. As if I am doing intercourse with someone. Is this position is harmful for my penis for masturbation. Will it create problem when I will have real sex

    • Hi Adman
      Lots of guys do that. My personal opinion is that it has the potential to over time change the angle of your erection to be more upwards because of the constant pressure in that direction. I’m not sure if that’s accurate or not, but it seems logical to me. So I’d mix it up by using your hand sometimes. I also think it’s good to get used to the feeling of skin (your hand) masturbating your penis with pressure rather than bed materials.

  • Ok so this is personal but I have only one testical and this is because my other one didn’t fully devolope but is that uncommon or is that common and will I still be able to have children and will it hold me back for anything?

    • Hi there
      Do you mean it never descended from inside the body, or just never developed at all? To be honest, the only person who can really help you with this is your own doctor. You could always ask for a sperm test to find out if you have healthy sperm. But from what I know, usually if one testicle is missing, the other one does the work for both just fine. That’s one reason why with testicular cancer, which usually only occurs in one testicle, they just completely remove the bad one straight away because they know the other will continue to work well on its own.

    • Hi Jijin
      No, it’s not dangerous at all, and totally normal. Maybe you could try spending some time doing a milking action to get it all out before getting up or dressed.

  • Hi. I am 20. I am used to masturbating in a kind of way whereby I’ll insert my penis between my thighs and rock my waist till I cum. it has been very satisfying over the last five years and I do it almost daily. But naw I find it impossible to release during real sex

    • Hi George
      Some guys do enjoy doing that. My advice would be to stop doing it, and try other techniques. That might just take the expectation away from your body that you need a certain stimulation to orgasm. You might also like to look up anejaculation online for more help about that.

  • Hi, when my penis is not erect then that cover of my penis can be completely down. But when it’s completely erect then that cover becomes tight at the bottrm part of the penis head

    • Hi aayush
      From what I think you’re describing, that’s quite normal. When erect, you should still be able to pull the foreskin back over the penis head, but it won’t go much further.

  • Sir my age is 24 and i masturbate daily. is daily masturbation going to create any problem after my marriage? and my penis size is also small 5 inch how can I increase my penis size pls?

    • Hi maddy
      No, it won’t cause any problems after you get married. I think it’s normal, healthy and a good way to prepare yourself for sex. So don’t worry about it! As for the size, you could try the approach I mentioned at the end of the article – it’s a good one and should help increase your size.

  • Hey there,
    I turned 19 and when I do my thing, you know, I am just finishing very quickly I’ve never been with a woman but when I will i am really sure that i screw it up.

    • Hi there
      Try not to worry about screwing things up – you just don’t know what will happen until you have the chance. However, if you feel that your lasting time isn’t too great, you can take action now to work on it. Have a look at the article I recommended and also take a look round this site where you’ll find loads of advice for increasing your stamina.

    • Hi there
      There’s nothing wrong with that. I do recommend using your imagination also and not relying on nude pics alone though.

  • Hi Ethan. I’m 15 almost 16 and my penis is 7.6 inches is that too small for my age? My girl and I are pretty serious about each other and I want her to be happy. Thanks in advance

    • Hi Joe
      That’s at the larger end of the spectrum. But do remember that making your partner happy isn’t just about size – it’s about the way you are together.

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