If you can bring your partner to orgasm once, the chances are she’ll be able to have multiple orgasms – if you do the right things at the right time.
You don’t have to be a marathon man to make your partner climax more than once. All you need is patience and the right techniques.
I can’t help you with the patience part, but I do have one or two pieces of advice where the method is concerned.
Why multiple orgasms are easier for women
Women have a special advantage when it comes to orgasms. It might take them longer than men to climax, but they don’t then require what’s known as a refractory period.
After a man orgasms, he usually needs his refractory period (basically a rest so his body can get ready to go again). Since women don’t need this, they can go for round two much sooner.
In terms of timing, we’re not talking about an orgasm immediately followed by another, and so on. There’s usually at least a small gap between climaxes.
Second orgasm in under two minutes
That gap is smaller than you might think though. Whilst research shows it takes a woman an average of 18 to 24 minutes to achieve the first orgasm, the second one can come much faster.
According to Catherine Blacklege, the author of The Story of V: A Natural History of Female Sexuality, that second orgasm takes just one to two minutes.
Aren’t multiple orgasms a myth?
Absolutely not! We’ve known about multiple orgasms for a long time now. In fact, the famous sex researchers Masters and Johnson wrote more than half a century ago:
The human female frequently is not content with one orgasmic experience… Many well-adjusted women enjoy a minimum of three or four orgasmic experiences before they reach apparent satiation.
How many women have multiple orgasms?
So, if multiple orgasms are real, do all women have them?
A sexual response study back in 1991 reported that 42.7% of women had at some point experienced multiple climaxes.
However, Dr. Barbara Bartlik, a professor of psychiatry at Cornell University in New York, believes more than that number are able to:
All women are [physiologically] capable of having multiple orgasms.
How to give a woman multiple orgasms
There’s no guaranteed method of achieving multiple orgasms. The two of you are going to have to practice and find out what works for you.
That said, there are some basic techniques that might help you get here there.
1. Manual stimulation is easiest
So if you really want your partner to achieve multiple orgasms, treating her to manual stimulation is going to improve your chances. Oral stimulation is a close second.
Penetration, on the other hand, is probably not a good bet, since many women can’t orgasm from penetration at all.
2. Foreplay is essential
The idea is that you get her so turned on that one orgasm just isn’t enough to satisfy her. And that means that you need good foreplay technique.
You need to really build that sexual tension, and that begins even before you see her.
Text messages during the day to tell her how excited you are to see her,
The more turned on she is before her first orgasm, the more likely it is that she’ll have a second (and maybe even a third).
3. After the first orgasm
So, she’s all turned on, and you’ve given her that first orgasm. Now stop. Remove your hand/tongue from her clitoris and turn your attention elsewhere.
Maybe suck on her nipples, maybe kiss and gently bite her neck. Run your hands down her body. Don’t directly stimulate her, but keep her aroused.
The idea is that whilst you’re not directly stimulating her (her clitoris is sensitive after that first orgasm), you’re keeping her engine purring.
Now is not the time to grab a glass of water, go to the toilet, or anything else unrelated. If you break her concentration then you’re undoing all your hard work.
4. Going in for round two
After a minute or two of not giving her direct stimulation, it’s time to head back down south. With either your fingers or your tongue, begin stimulating around her clitoris, not directly on it.
With each circle around the area you make get a little closer to the clitoris until you actually touch it.
If she winces or complains when you touch her clitoris then go back to making circles around it before moving in again.
Once you can touch her clitoris without causing her discomfort, you can stimulate her in the way you normally would
And that’s literally it. Once she’s fully enjoying the clitoral stimulation again, just keep going until she hits that second orgasm.
Potential blocks to multiple orgasms
She’s too sensitive after round one
After orgasm, the clitoris is extremely sensitive and your partner may not want to be touched there again so soon. If you keep trying to touch her clitoris, and she keeps pushing you away, you should stop.
If you’ve spent a couple of minutes playing with her breasts, and then tried to go in for round two several times, but she’s still too sensitive, just back down.
You can, however, try going for penetration if she’s up for it. Penetration generally doesn’t stimulate the clitoris directly, so she might be more comfortable with this.
There’s not enough lubrication
Lubrication, or a lack of, can become an issue. So it’s usually a good idea to keep a bottle of lube on the bedside table.
The more lubricated she is, the easier and more comfortable it will be for her to orgasm.
She’s had enough already!
Sometimes once is all it takes to be happy. A great orgasm can also be exhausting, and at that
Not all women want multiple orgasms, and even if they do, not all women want them every time.
It’s important that you’re sensitive to what your partner wants. So if she tells you no, be glad you gave her such an amazing orgasm the first time around that she can’t handle another yet!
What works for you? Manual, oral, sex or all of the above? Let me known in the comments below!