The G-spot is thought to be an erogenous area inside the vagina that can be particularly pleasurable when stimulated, and lead to orgasm for some women.
Although the idea of the G-spot has been around for centuries, it’s only been known as the G-spot since the 1980s, named after German gynecologist Eric Grafenberg.
But the existence and exact biology of the G-spot is still a hotly debated topic. Does it even exist, or is it just another way to stimulate the clitoris?
Where is a woman’s G-Spot?
The area commonly described as the G-spot lies inside the vagina, between 5 and 8 centimeters up from the vaginal opening.
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Does it exist or not? What the research says
There’s still a lot of scientific debate around the existence of the G-spot, for two main reasons. Firstly, scientists haven’t been able to prove that a unique G-spot exists, even through imaging scans and biopsy.
Secondly, although many women can orgasm when that area is stimulated, others don’t find it so special. S
In 2012, researchers in the U.S. reviewed nearly 100 studies spanning 60 years, and concluded that the G-Spot probably doesn’t exist.
This major denial of the fabled G-Spot was published all around the world – see interesting articles by the Telegraph and the Huffington Post.
But could it be a hidden part of the clitoris?
However, researchers in France a different theory. Based on ultrasounds of women during finger penetration, they discovered that stimulating the G-Spot might actually be reaching an internal part of the clitoris (which definitely exists). They reported:
We suggest that the special sensitivity of the lower anterior vaginal wall could be explained by pressure and movement of clitoris’ root during a vaginal penetration and subsequent perineal contraction. The G-spot could be explained by the richly innervated clitoris.
And the lead author of the U.S. review, Dr. Amichai Kilchevsky, was also quoted by the Huffington post as saying in response to women who claim they do have a G-Spot:
What they’re likely experiencing is a continuation of the clitoris
So even though scientists can’t find a distinct G-Spot, it’s possible that the internal part of the clitoris could be playing a key role – for some women at least.
Should we focus less on the G-Spot?
Some experts, such as Dr. Kilchevsky, argue that there are problems with emphasizing the importance of a magic G-Spot. People might put too much focus on it and make women feel pressured to experience an orgasm.
It might make some women feel that there’s something wrong with them if they don’t seem to have a G-Spot. But as Jane Charmers, a lecturer in physiotherapy says:
You are not abnormal or strange or dysfunctional if you cannot find your G-spot…Sexual arousal, desire
andpleasure are individual: if you are unable to find your G-area, work on finding something that does fulfill your sexual needs.
Points to keep in mind
Despite the debate and controversy, let’s now take a closer look at how to go about trying to find and stimulate the area where the G-Spot might be.
Before getting started, there are a few things to keep in mind:
- You might not find it: in which case, don’t worry about it. There are countless other ways to enjoy sex without focusing on this area.
- If you do find it, your partner may not like it being stimulated
- Finding it is only possible when your partner is very turned on: which means lots of good foreplay first.
Practical ways to find the G-spot
Because the G-spot is inside the vagina, there’s really only one way that you’re going to find it, and that’s by touch.
The easiest way to find it is if your partner is lying on her back. Once she’s very aroused, insert your fingers inside her and feel around the upper wall of her vagina.
You may be able to feel an area that is spongy or swollen, almost like a large, soft lump, and the skin might feel a little rougher than the rest of her vagina. That’s how women often describe the G-spot.
How to stimulate the G-spot
Your best bet for stimulating the G-spot is by hand. This usually works best during oral sex, since your partner will be receiving clitoral stimulation at the same time, meaning she should be nicely turned on.
Insert your fingers inside her (one or two fingers should be fine), and then make a “come here” motion against the upper part of her vagina.
You should start out slowly and get faster. Try timing your finger motion to your tongue movements and you should get the speed right. Few women will orgasm from G-spot stimulation alone.
When you initially start stimulating the area, your partner might feel like she has to pee, though that feeling will fade within a few seconds.
Just be aware of the fact that she might not like it, and she might feel a little strange at first, so be patient and understanding.
2. During penetration
It’s possible to stimulate the G-spot through penetration. However, it depends on the woman, the position, and the size and shape of your penis.
There are two positions that I’d recommend to reach the G-spot through penetration. Spooning allows fairly easy access, with you lying on your side behind her, entering her from the rear.
Doggy style can also work well for G-spot sex. But I’ve found that rather than the woman on her hands and knees this position works better if she’s lying on her front with a few pillows under her hips.
3. With toys
Sex toys are a great way to stimulate the G-spot, as long as you’re comfortable using them together.
You’ll need a dildo or vibrator, preferably one that’s curved for easier G-spot access. There are plenty of specific G-spot vibrators around to choose from. But you might need to try a couple of different sizes before you find the perfect fit.
What not to do
It might take a few tries to find. But don’t stress or get upset if you don’t find her G-spot – with some partners you’re simply not going to.
Don’t take it badly if she doesn’t like you touching her G-spot – some women simply find it uncomfortable.
Don’t rely on G-spot stimulation alone to bring her to enjoy sex or bring her to orgasm; most women will require external clitoral stimulation as well.
Do you think the G-Spot exists? What’s the best way to reach it?
Let me know in the comments below!
I found this article while researching about woman and menopause as my wife is 46. I’m a 58 Male, married (20 years) with many years experience (9 partners prior to marriage). I’ve learned that a woman’s orgasm also lies within her mental, not just physical being. And that I don’t give her orgasms, I contribute to them. Words of wisdom for the younger men.
It depends statistically, but in my case, gently pressing and not massaging are what my partners have expressed as their preference. With my wife, I press into the area just behind where the urethra (the small wrinkled testicular feeling sack) meets the upper vaginal wall. I notice that her clitoris twitches up (like a male erection) and enlarges. This enlargement isn’t just the exposed exterior, but also the interior length until it disappears under the pubic bone.
Therefore, my conclusion is that the “g-spot” is an area where the clitoris is internally closest to the vaginal wall.
Your words of advice are very good ones – stimulating a woman’s mind is also pretty key!
I think you could also right about the g-spot being close to where the clitoris is on the outside. Though considering the larger part of the clitoris inside, it’s hard to say exactly.
It exists..and in most of cases a proper stimulation of gspot leads to squirting. I studied and tried with my partners..it works and gives a lot of pleasure:)
Always a controversial topic when you read about it. I wouldn’t say I have immense sexual experience and I have definitely never had a vaginal orgasm but I did experience some pleasure one time when fingered so I would say that there is definitely something there… I always enjoy your articles, they are so insightful!
Yes, it’s still a bit of a mystery in some ways! As you say though, if so many people experience intenser pleasure in a similar spot, there’s got to be something going on!