image of a man and woman embracing in bed in an intimate way

You may be surprised to hear that most women aren’t looking for the body or staying power of an adult movie star. And if you can go all night, they might wonder if they turn you on in the right way.

The scenes you see in online videos are acting, not real life, and they don’t portray what real women want.

For most women, there are other more important aspects of sex than pure staying power or penis size. So with that in mind, here are 4 golden rules you should consider if you want her to keep coming back for more.


1. Foreplay begins before you get undressed

If asked, many women would say they wanted more want more prolonged foreplay. And it can feel that men see foreplay as little more than a warm up to the main event, and try to do as little of it as possible.

This is a mistake when it comes to pleasing a woman in bed because foreplay is one of the aspects of sex they enjoy most. Men are usually able to reach orgasm sooner than women, so foreplay gives her time to get to the same point as you.

There are many forms of foreplay, so ask them what feels good if you’re not sure. If they aren’t into what you’re doing then try something else; everyone is different and one woman may not like the same sexual activities as another.

It can be slightly off-putting if they think you’re just trying some ‘tricks’ you know pleased previous women, and aren’t paying attention to whether or not they actually like it.

Foreplay for women can start in the morning or afternoon. Anticipation is exciting, so suggest watching a film together or offer to cook. This attention will put them in the right frame of mind and they’ll spend the day thinking about an evening together.

If you can remember to send your partner a text message saying how much you’re looking forward to spending time with her, it will help set the right mood.

In fact, if you begin with her imagination before even attempting to remove articles of clothing, you’re off to a great start.


2. Know where the clitoris is

diagram showing where the clitoris is

Let’s move on to the female anatomy. This isn’t a science lesson, but if you don’t know what’s what on the female body and where it’s located, it will soon become clear that you’re fumbling in the dark.

If you want to know how you can really satisfy a woman in bed, you also need to know exactly where to focus your attention. They want and expect men to be educated in this respect.

A crucial thing to remember is that many women need clitoral stimulation to climax – and the clitoris isn’t located inside the vagina.

Yes, penetrative sex feels good, but it often won’t get them there like it will for a man. A woman needs clitoral stimulation, so don’t be afraid to use your fingers to stimulate her or give her oral sex.

It can also come from shifting positions and incorporating different movements – for example, the figure of eight with your hips. It’s fine to ask your partner which positions feel best, and make sure you spend plenty of time doing them.

Keep in mind that you shouldn’t keep shifting positions once she’s extremely aroused. Women need to take their time over a build-up of sensations. It’s fine to experiment and change positions at first, but if you find a position that’s stimulating her in all the right ways, stick with it.

Don’t interrupt the steady build to an orgasm just because you think you’ve been in the same position for too long. This really is a key point to remember: variety is great to start with, but not when she’s heading towards a climax.


3. Compliment her

man whispering a compliment in a woman's ear

When it comes to feeling confident in the bedroom, people like to be told how great they look, feel, smell and anything else you can think of.

Being naked and having all those bumps and lumps exposed can make them feel self-conscious and stop them from enjoying sex.

There are so many outside pressures to look great, that women carry that ‘body perfect’ pressure into the bedroom.

You can blame movies, television and advertising for some of the inhibitions they have. So it help if you make an effort to counteract their critical opinions of their body, and reassure them that they are amazing just the way they are.

And keep in mind that if they catch you drooling over images of women with ‘perfect’ bodies, they might feel that they can’t live up to those expectations.

So try not to grow lazy over time. Never stop telling them how beautiful, sexy and just downright awesome they are.


4. Women love communication

man and woman talking in bed

Women undoubtedly worry about different things to men and sex is no different. They want you to let them know when something feels good, as well as praise how they look and feel.

Take your time over foreplay and learn what works for your partner. Communication in the bedroom is paramount. Don’t assume it’s all perfect just because they haven’t complained or demanded something.

It’s great if you can find out directly from her what she likes, and talk about what you like to. You can do this before, during or after sex. There’s no rule about the best time to talk about sex.

And you might start something amazing if you develop an open communication about sex. Who knows, you may discover that both of you have been harboring identical secret fantasies.

However, although communication is important, never ever ask them if they’ve come yet. If you need to ask, there’s a good chance it didn’t happen.

Not only does this make it evident that you aren’t paying attention, it piles on the pressure to get there, and there’s no passion killer worse than that.

If this all seems like hard work then bear in mind that the more attention you give to your partner, the more she’s going to want to have sex with you. And surely that makes up for the extra attention you might need to start paying.


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432 thoughts on “How To Satisfy A Woman In Bed – 4 Golden Rules”

  1. Hi Ethan
    well my Gf is a virgin and we now have made out twice and the foreplay is well done ..undressing part ..etc when it comes to penetrating inside she is like “no dont please”. What can i do in order to get over this situation.? and maybe break it?

    1. Hi Evans
      The most important point to think about here is that you need to go at the speed she is happy with. If she’s not ready yet, you need to accept that and not pressure her. If she’s a virgin and you’ve only just started making out, it might take her a while before she feels ready to have sex, if at all. And that’s normal, fine and something you should help her to feel comfortable about.
      So be patient, be understanding and if the day comes when she wants to, it will be soooo much better than if she does it because you pressure her.
      Ethan

  2. Anonymous

    Wow that’s nice tips I think from now on my partner will be more happy than other days!

    1. Hi
      I’m glad you found the tips useful! I’m sure your partner will appreciate it if you put them into action.
      Ethan

  3. Alick maponda

    I want to sack my gf but she refuses. How can i make her accept .

    1. Hi Alick
      You can’t and shouldn’t ‘make’ her do anything. Just wait until she’s ready. Trust me, it’ll be much, much better if she WANTS to have sex with you.
      Ethan

  4. Boanerges Appiah

    Wow wow wow I really love this, it has helped me make the love of my life happy and never wants to let go of me. The thing about the clitoris really really is a genius, what! Oral sex really turns her on truly

    1. Hi Boanerges
      Thanks for your comment. It’s fantastic that the article has helped your love life so much. I hope you keep enjoying your time together and that it gets even better as time goes by.
      Regards
      Ethan

  5. My penis size is about 5′ but the problem is i don’t last long as my girlfriend now getting frustrated from me….I ejaculate after the moments i penetrate and left my girlfriend craving for more…now whenever I ask her to have sex she just laugh at me and say ‘for how long, just for a minute? ‘
    Second, i want to penetrate her in the ass because i want her screaming but she doesn’t allow for anal.
    Suggestion please.

    1. Hi A
      Thanks for your comment. It seems to me like there are 3 issues here:
      1. There is a lot of help on this site about premature ejaculation – have a good look around.
      2. It seems like your girlfriend isn’t being very understanding, though sometimes it’s hard for women to be nice about this. I would talk to her about it, accept it as an issue and work together to last longer.
      3. If she doesn’t like it, you have to accept that. Not all women like that!
      Hope that helps
      Ethan

  6. hi Ethan
    Thanks for the article, hits on the right spots which my girl has been trying to tell me all this while, but am bad at getting hints.
    She is not ready for penetration yet, but we have a fantastic foreplay and oral session. The problem which I face is the blue ball syndrome, which is usually a pain in my balls after we are done, and I feel it might be coz of d absence of penetration /ejaculating. The pain usually subsides after an hour or two, but during tht time I can hardly do anything myself, let alone please my partner while she expects me to. Is there something I can do about it?

    1. Hi Rahul
      Thanks for your comment and I’m glad you liked the article. When you engage in foreplay, do you not ejaculate? That would be one answer! Otherwise, I guess masturbating earlier before you see her would also help. Do your testicles hurt at any other time? If so, I’d get yourself checked by a doctor. But assuming it literally is just blue ball, stay patient amd when she’s ready, things will hopefully improve.
      Ethan

  7. Earl Grey

    When me and my girlfriend got together she used to orgasm during penetration regularly no problem.. nw i find that she only starts orgasming when i start coming and i finnish her off with my fingers why is this?

    1. Hi there
      Well, it could be for various reasons. Sounds like you’re just getting more in tune if she orgasms when you do, more or less. It’s an amazing thing to orgasm together, so maybe rather than see it as a problem, see it as a positive challenge to try and orgasm at exactly the same time…
      Good luck!
      Ethan

  8. Subhadeep bhunia

    Hi..im 21years old.my gf is also 21.she enjoy foreply but she dont want to sex..what can i do..?

    1. Hi Subhadeep
      There’s not much you can do apart from be patient and wait until she’s ready to go further. There’s no point pressurizing her, and if anything it will make her less likely to want to have sex, or at least in a way that she will fully enjoy. So my advice is to be patient, be understanding, give her the best foreplay she’s ever had, focus on giving her pleasure in the ways she is comfortable with. Once you rock her world that way, she’ll be more likely to want more with you in the future!
      Ethan

  9. I am 56. My wife is 44 and I can not get enough of her. We have been married just over a year and we have a very demanding 20’month toddler. We seldom have alone time and we are very tired most of the time. My last marriage ended because I let my self get to into her and she accused me of raping her. I ended up having a brief affair with my former gf to her and confessed in an attempt for repentance to the church I have been removed from. I am now feeling to into my new wife and am afraid of the same thing happening. I work very hard bring her to orgasm then i don’t get a chance to orgasm my self. I am a very explorative man and want to learn every trick to drive body wild but she has little enthusiasm to explore. She likes me to talk dirty but it is hard for me and it distracts from my concentration. She usually begs for the big vibrator I gave her and then she is to sensitive for me to continue. I have been trying to give her a vaginal orgasm by stimulatin her huge swollen g spot but she won’t buy into that and is tired of me always making her have to pee. She finds it impossible to let go and I ask if she can pee in my mouth but I think she is starting to think I am a pervert. I haven’t orgasmed in several days and we usually have sex at least once a day. It is hard for me to masturbate like I used to. I want more sex with her but I just keep on spinning my wheels. How can I make he more enthusiastic about wanting crazy sex with me?

    1. Hi James
      It sounds to me like there’s a fundamental difference in what you both like and are willing to do for each other. If it were me, I’d have a conversation, outside of sex time, about what you both like and if you’re willing to try to fulfill both your fantasies. But you may find that some things she just won’t go for – like peeing the mouth. Many people just won’t go there, and you’ll have to accept it! But at the same time, she needs to be willing to have sex with you in a way that gets you going, and not just using toys. I really think you both need to have a good chat and find a better balance.
      Ethan

  10. really i dont have sex ever before.. but when I think about it I feel bad b/c of my penis size. so regarding my problem what is the average size (in cm) of penis???

    1. Hi abd
      If you google average penis size + your country or ethnic background, you’ll find an accurate answer. But anyway, don’t feel bad about the size. As they say, it’s not the size that counts, it’s what you do with it.
      Ethan

  11. Hi. My gf likes foreplay… after foreplay when I starts penetrating her she cannot hold more than 5 min.. She says ” pls stop i cant…” but I didn’t completed yet.. What she can do for a long time sex?

    1. Hi Aadi
      I guess it depends on why she feels the need to stop. You need to ask her why, and then work out what to do. It could be that she’s just too sensitive, especially if you bring her to, or close to, orgasm during foreplay. In which case, go easier on the foreplay – tease her more, but don’t give her an orgasm every time. Or if you do, spend more time kissing and caressing etc before you go into penetrative sex to give her time to recover. And if she continues being too sensitive, just take it easy during sex – go nice and slow and sensually, don’t just pound away as fast as you can.

      It could be that you’re too big for her, in which case use lubricant and go slowly and less deep. It could be that you’re doing it too fast, hard or in a position she finds uncomfortable. Again, you need to ask her about this.
      Good sex is about teamwork and communication. So find out why she can’t carry on, then work out what you can do about it.
      Good luck!
      Ethan

  12. i wanna know why i get ejaculated even when sex x not yet taking place. it doesn’t even take a minute and I’ll be wetted and my gf doesn’t like me anymore. pls i need an advice

    1. Hi max
      Do you have a full ejaculation, or is it just wet from pre-cum? If it’s the second, don’t worry about it – some guys do just release fluids when they are getting going. If it’s the first, then it’s likely you have premature ejaculation and need to take steps to deal with it. Have a look at my article about choosing the right premature ejaculation treatment for some help.
      Ethan

  13. Mwl Biology

    Is there any medication for treating the problem of not having sex for longer time?

  14. Efficacious

    I am 25 yrs of age. I never come quickly in my first or second intercourse with different girls, and after ejaculation, i still get back quickly, i could even go 7 rounds. But i am now wt a girl i love so much, and i don’t experience those magic anymore, i even come too quickly. I am a Christian and i follow the bible or am not expected not to keep a girlfriend. i have been penalized for that even, but the thing is, i luv her n she luvs me and she is not willing to let go because i play with her well. inf act, she had to send me a complementary text after our first sex saying in summary”i am too sweet”. she is my college, and she is ready for marriage but i am not, ‘cos i am still a student. Because of pressure, i am forced to brea up wt her but i find it difficult. I must confess, i have being a virgin ever since till 2013 when i had my first intercourse. I ws born 1991. Pls hint me.

    1. Hi there
      Thanks for your comment. Do you mean pressure as in she wants to marry now and you don’t? I think if she’s that great, you love her that much, and she loves you, then there’s nothing wrong with taking some time until you’re both ready. Tell her you love her, but want to wait before getting married. If she truly loves you, she’ll understand your point of view. Then you can work together to try to keep things going with less pressure, hopefully.
      Ethan

  15. my wife does not like foreplay. she is plumpy and my penis is not big enough to hit right so it makes her lose interest in sex. its really affecting me what do i do

    1. Hi Doob
      Sorry to hear you have some problems there. Have you tried different positions? In some positions you can enter more deeply, for example if she is on her back with her legs in the air as far towards her head as possible. Why doesn’t she like foreplay? Have you asked her why? Have you asked her what she really likes, and what you can do together? I think if you open a conversation in a nice way, with the aim of working together as a team to have great sex, you might find she gives you some ideas.
      Regards
      Ethan

  16. I’m about to have sex with my best friend. We’ve been best friends for three years and recently we have shown sexual desires. She’s def my dream girl and I want to make sure I give her a session she won’t forget. Giving the fact that she’s my dream girl I’m afraid I might climax quickly. This normally doesn’t happen with me but I just know that I won’t be screwing around long. Any suggestions? And is there anything I can do to make it unforgettable. She’s also a little scared that it might be awkward between us Bcuz we’ve know eachother for so long. She says “it’s like we’re family” what can I do to make this work.

    1. Hi Austin
      Thanks for your comment. That’s a tricky question, and perhaps only something you can answer really. In terms of making it special, why don’t you create a really romantic evening that just builds excitement in a dating kind of way instead of friends. Maybe go to a really romantic restaurant or bar, have a couple of drinks to relax. And have the place where you’ll have sex also with candles and anything else you feel would be romantic. If you do something that’s not what you’d normally do as friends, and add romance and passion triggers, that might work.
      But at the same time, maybe you can just laugh your way through it in the most relaxed and fun way possible. I guess it depends on your style. If it was me I’d do a bit of both.
      In terms of lasting longer, well, again I think you just won’t know until it happens. If it’s not normally a problem, I’d just try and get the idea out of your head that it will be. Start telling yourself from this moment that you’ll be fine and give her the best night ever. And at the end of the day, if you do come quickly, there’s still the rest of the night to get back to your usual ways. If that’s not enough advice though, have a look round this site as it’s predominantly about that problem and things you can do.
      Best of the luck and I hope it works out amazingly between you!
      Ethan

    2. "Quote"

      I Don’t remember where i read this, it might have even been on this site, but if you do a good job with foreplay, then you’re good to go. if you are still nervous about it, make sure to read up on the topic of sex, and give her good oral stimulation.

      ps i know this comment is a bit late

  17. Hi, my girlfriend is circumcised. We’ve been having sex for a while now but she hasn’t had an orgasm before? Please what can I do?

    1. Hi Ugo,
      Sorry but I’m not expert in that at all! I would suggest researching this online and looking for websites which specifically deal with this, if you can find any.
      All the best
      Ethan

    2. Anonymous

      It may be possible to get there by stimulation of the tits and breasts alone.

  18. About stamina…
    My girlfriend is something I would imagine would be most guys dream girl. She’s crazy fast to get orgasms, by far the easiest I’ve ever paired up with. But because of this she tires quickly, no surprise shes totally spent after 5 orgasms in somewhat quick successions. While i on the other hand prefer to work it for at least 30 min but preferably several hours, it’s my thing. We really don’t match up in this aspect unfortunately and im not sure what to do. Of course I think a quicky with her someplace not-at-home is awesome, but at home i think quickys are somewhat boring and i want to enjoy her for long moments. My ex and i could keep going for half a day and i really miss doing this with my current girl. Any tips on how to make that happen? She comes almost as soon as i enter her…

  19. Hi

    I always satisfy my girlfriend when we have sex and she orgasm 90% of the time because I start first by having oral sex with her then penetrative sex. The problem is I take too long before ejaculating and she would tell me that I’m now spoiling a good thing by taking long.

    1. Hi Simo
      Thanks for your comment. Ah yes, I know this can be a problem. Delayed ejaculation can be an issue for couples – I don’t really discuss it here, but if you google it, you’ll find lots of good advice for things you can do to not affect the enjoyment too much hopefully.
      Regards
      Ethan

  20. my girlfriend and me we both are in mood any time but we don’t get the time to spend with each other. whenever time is there we do sex but its not successful, it seems for her my penis is too much big and long. but she don’t have any pain.
    I am only afraid of doing it…

    1. Hi Smit
      Thanks for your comment. I’m not sure why she feels it’s too big then? What happens exactly that makes you think she isn’t happy? Why is it unsuccessful? If you give me some more details, I might be able to provide some decent advice.
      Regards
      Ethan

  21. hi
    my problem is that I can’t remove my upper skin before penetrating
    I am 21 years old
    please give me the best solution

  22. Hi am Adede

    I have a problem when having sex with my partner. when I start working after a few minutes my penis starts becoming very weak until I see I cant do anything plz need some advice

    1. Hi Adede
      Thanks for your comment. There are lots of reasons why you might find it difficult to maintain an erection during sex. It’s not a topic I address at length here really, so the best advice would be to look up ‘erectile dysfunction’ online. And specifically look with phrases like ‘difficulty keeping an erection during sex’. Hopefully you’ll find some websites dedicated to that problem.
      Regards
      Ethan

  23. Hi my girl friend doesn’t like playing & sucking of her breast, anytime we make sex i feel she is not satisfied. what are other means that we employ to make her satisfied?

    1. Hi,

      Have a look at the article about giving a woman oral sex. Have you spoken to her about why she doesn’t like it? Maybe they are very sensitive, or not very sensitive. Ask her why she doesn’t like it. And have you asked her is she wants to do other things during sex? What makes you think she’s not satisfied? Has she said something? Does she not climax? Does she just not say good things about it?
      Regards
      Ethan

  24. My gf says that she doesn’t need risk and she says she can’t handle the pain though I am not going deep or fast help

    1. Hi Abc
      I can’t really give any advice at the moment because I’m not sure what it is that you mean by risk? Do you mean just the fact that she finds you too painful? It may be that you are a little large for her, and that some lubricant might help, as well as spending more time on foreplay.
      Ethan

  25. Anonymous

    When i finish having sex, I feel pain inside my penis, what is the problem?

    1. Hi

      I’m not sure to be honest. It could be either from having too much and too hard. Or it could be that there’s a medical problem. I’d speak to your doctor to get some checks to make sure you haven’t got an infection.
      Ethan

  26. Wallambok Nongsiej

    When i try to have sex with my gf she always says ‘this is not the time’

    1. Hi Wallambok

      You’ll have to respect her wishes then! Perhaps have a conversation about her feelings towards you and having sex at a moment when you’re both feeling calm and happy together.
      Regards
      Ethan

  27. Will this work even when your penis is not all that Large…?
    İs she going to be satisfied?

    1. Hi Duncan

      Well, you may be worrying unneccesarily about your penis size. Many guys are actually in the normal range but think they aren’t. And even if you are smaller than average, you can of course still satisfy a woman. As they say, it’s not the size it’s what you do with it that counts. Some women might argue that’s not totally the case, but if you dedicate yourself to learning all the different ways to pleasure a woman, you’ll be in a better position that someone who just goes at it as hard as they can in the position they like the most with no thought for the woman.
      Regards
      Ethan

  28. I Have abig penis 25cm long three fingers depth i usually cum after 30-35 minutes…meaning i have a good sex drive i really give it my all in bed even oral sex but every time i have sex with a girl she cries tears i dont know whats wrong….and in most cases they tend to run away or break whatever relationship we had before having sex with them plz help me

    1. Hi there
      That’s really a very large penis you have there, which could be the reason they cry! Especially if you’re going at it hard for 30 minutes. If that is the case, then I think you need to work out what is actually comfortable and enjoyable for the woman. Maybe she just doesn’t find that length hammering away at her pleasurable, and it could be painful. I think you need to talk to her about what she enjoys, and also if you notice them looking uncomfortable, you need to go slower and not so deep.
      If it’s not a physical issue, as might be suggested by them breaking up before having sex, then I can’t advise you because I don’t know you, or the way you are with women. That’s something you’ll have to work out for yourself.
      Sorry I can’t help more.
      Ethan

  29. Jasper Kwasi

    my girlfriend love me very much and I to but the problem is that I don’t know how to make her have sex with me .

    1. Hi Jasper,
      I might just be picking up on a language point here, but to me the problem comes in your desire to ‘make’ her have sex with you. My opinion is that you need to wait patiently until she’s ready to have sex, not force it. Yes, you can bring up your desire in conversation. But do it in a friendly, positive way rather than making her feel pressured or criticized. You’re much more likely to have success by working with her, not against her.
      Ethan

  30. my penis takes long before erecting after ejaculation. This really bores my girl friend often. What can i do?

    1. Hi Markory
      How long does it take? Depending on your age, it can take minutes or hours. You can always engage in oral or manual stimulation during this time. But really, if she gets bored and tells you she gets bored, then maybe you need to think about what that means. Or switch the TV on for a while!
      Ethan

  31. I always reach my orgasm first before my wife can reach her orgasm.i ejaculate early what can i do?

    1. Hi Budro
      There’s plenty of advice here on this website, covering both natural techniques and delay products. I recommend starting at the homepage and seeing what appeals to you.
      Ethan

  32. Joeh Oburah Blecxieh

    Hi! I’m Oburah 21 yrs of age, It is just recently that i and my ex made love b4 we broke up she then sent me a text in my email that, “when u get another woman learn how to pleasure her cos your not good in bed still” i’ve been thinking of this after all that long time we last had sex it is just last week she told me that i feel so useless when we began by kissing and took same couple of time b4 we came up to the act, am pleased to have this great article knowing that i’ll gain more lessons concerning that matter, i just don’t want this to happen again.

    1. Hi Oburah
      That sounds to me like an angry message sent to hurt you! But still, even if it was I think you can look on the positive side. It’s inspired you to look for more ways you can satisfy your partner, and no matter how good you are in bed, that’s always going to be useful.
      Regards
      Ethan

  33. I have a problem of not lasting long during intercourse, and i think its affecting my partner what should i do??

    1. Hi Pj
      There are lots of things you can do. The main choice being between practicing natural technique to last longer or using a delay product like a spray or condom. If you start here, you’ll find lots of information about those two choices.
      Regards
      Ethan

  34. HI…

    i have an average penis having 5″. but problem is that my upper skin is not removed till now even i am 30 years old guy. it makes me sad always. wheather i will make a complete sex with ,my partner or not.please give me a best solution over it. how to overcome with this problem

    1. Hi Aani,
      Do you mean you can’t pull your foreskin back at all? Or that you haven’t been circumcised? If you can’t pull it back, then at your age I would probably speak to your doctor about it.
      Ethan

  35. I have doubts about women having orgasms during sex. I made the mistake of asking my wife to masturbate in front of me. It started out slow enough but quickly became furious, for a good long time, and she finished by rotating her fingers around her clitoris at a speed that would make an F5 tornado weep with envy. It took at least 20 minutes. There is no greater expert for what it takes to give my wife an orgasm than my wife, and it took her 20 minutes, using hand motions no male could ever hope to duplicate without causing serious injury. Nothing that happens during sex comes even close to that. If a women has an orgasm, it must be 95% to 100% mental. Additionally, my wife’s masturbation orgasm looks nothing like her intercourse orgasm. Apparently I’ve been treated to a performance since day 1. I’ve been exploring methods to convince my wife to have sex with me more often. Asking her to let me masturbate inside her doesn’t seem to work any more. Saw a sensual massage video. Took 45 minutes to bring woman to orgasm, which did look real and more importantly, used hand motions at a speed a male could master given some practice. Seems worth trying. Would like to die knowing at least once I got a woman to experience an orgasm through my own efforts.

    1. Hi Flash,

      Thanks for your comment, and I know exactly what you mean. But look at it the other way round – when you masturbate yourself, how much is that like real sex? I bet that at times you go at lightning speed and with a harder grip than most women can provide. That doesn’t mean we can’t have orgasms when we have sex with a woman though does it?
      You’re right that mental arousal can be a massive part of women’s orgasms, and that’s where you can also work harder to get her aroused before you even have sex.
      It’s also a fact that women (well, most women) can have different types of orgasms depending on what is being stimulated, by what, and in what way. A penis, vibrator, tongue, fingers will all provide different types of orgasms potentially. And if your partner is so open to doing that in front of you, have you tried getting her to stimulate her clitoris herself while you have sex? Try spooning her for example, taking her from behind, and letting her do the clitoral work. In my experience this position and combined efforts can produce great orgasms.
      Don’t give up hope my friend…maybe find a way to use this new knowledge to your advantage and work together to maximise the potential for great orgasms!
      Regards
      Ethan

  36. Hi,

    My Name is Sam i am 29 old married man. but i am interested in my wife’s elder sister, she is 40 old. Please advise how can i start relation with her?
    and i don’t want to disturb my marriage life as well.

    1. Hi Sam,
      My advice would be to not try and do anything. Imagine what will happen when she tells your wife?
      Regards
      Ethan

  37. Chris Parker

    A sex without orgasm isn’t a pleasurable experience. Always remember that those who can orgasm can have a better sex. Inability to orgasm can make your sex life worst. One of the best way to please your women in bed that I personally know is to apply the edible chocolate paint to her body. Basically, the cocoa is a sensuous ingredient which stimulate our body & encourages sexual feeling. No feeling is better than tasting the chocolate directly from your partner’s naked body. It will help her orgasm & meanwhile you can masturbate her to keep her energized.

    1. Hi Chris

      Thanks for your comment and that great idea about the chocolate. I think anything which spices things up is a sure winner. Though I disagree that sex without orgasm isn’t pleasurable. Look at tantric sex for example, which says that sometimes not having an orgasm can be a powerful thing…
      Regards
      Ethan

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