Everyone likes it when their partner has an orgasm. It makes you feel like you’re a good lover, and that your partner is happy with your sex life.
The thing is, we’re sometimes left with a little doubt in the back of our minds. Did she really climax that loudly, or was she faking it?
The classic joke is that if you have to ask them, then they probably didn’t. But I don’t think that’s quite true – not everyone has a noisy orgasm, and it can vary in intensity from one day to the next anyway.
But if you don’t want to ask your partner directly, how can you be sure? Let’s take a look at some of the signs that might help put your mind at ease. Just remember – this isn’t an exact science though!
1. The classic sign
Before we get into what are, in my opinion, the best signs (i.e. hard to fake!), it’s worth addressing the classic sign.
Firstly, if you think loud screaming or moaning is a 100% reliable sign, it’s not always the case. I think there’s a better way of working out if it’s a sign or orgasm or not.
Does she scream or moan loudly, then roll over and move onto something else? Not great.
Or does she start making noises that she wasn’t making before, and then suddenly become much quieter and hold you close, perhaps shaking or breathing unusually deeply for a while? I’d say that’s a more likely sign of orgasm.
There’s still a problem with this, however. Women sometimes fake orgasms. So although the above could mean she’s climaxed, it might also mean that she wants you to think she’s climaxed.
See the conundrum? That’s why I recommend looking a little deeper than noise levels alone.
2. The best signs
For me, there are two excellent signs that a woman has climaxed, and they are both pretty simple:
- She has a ‘tell’. Some women just have a thing they do when they orgasm. It could be shaking, laughing, tensing her stomach up. But if you know her well enough, you’ll know.
- She tells you. If your partner is a good communicator and you have an honest sexual relationship, she’ll outright tell you that she has or hasn’t climaxed.
Of course, both these signs will depend on your relationship and how long you’ve been together. So let’s look at a few subtler signs to look out for.
3. Subtle biological signs
There are a few biological signs that a woman is aroused and has orgasmed. But these are a bit complicated, for reasons that will become clear:
- Her pupils
dilate:a great sign, but not the easiest to keep an eye out for!
- Her face and chest flush: okay, except she might just be hot after all that exercise.
- Her vagina becomes more lubricated: slightly more helpful, though she’s probably already quite lubricated. And it can be difficult to tell if you’re wearing a condom.
- Her brain activity changes: yeah, you’re not going to be able to see that!
So these biological signs might work in the lab, but they’re not so practical in real life.
4. More practical signs
Here are a few of my personal observations that may help you (but there’s no 100% guarantee):
- Her vaginal muscles contract and spasm: not true of all women, and not true of all women all the time. But if it does happen, it’s a strong signal that there’s an orgasm going on. This is also an easier one to tell if you’re giving her oral sex.
- Her nipples get hard: again, not true of all women every time. But if her nipples suddenly become harder, it’s possible she’s about to orgasm.
- Her breathing changes: it gets faster, deeper, then stops for a second until she begins to orgasm.
- Her voice
changes:a tricky one, but if she suddenly cries out in a primal scream (or uses languageshe normally doesn’t), then this could mean she’s climaxed.
5. You may never know
All of these clues, whether obvious or subtle, are fun to look out for. But they ignore one simple truth: you can’t expect to always be sure if your partner has climaxed.
The perhaps frustrating reality is that even after you’ve read everything there is to know about sex and women and orgasms, you might have to accept the fact that there will always be a little mystery – and that’s ok.
And not knowing might not be as big a deal as you think. Should you constantly worry about your partner’s climax tally? Perhaps not.
Sex isn’t just about orgasms
As a caring and good lover, you’ll want your partner to have an amazing time in bed. But it’s important to understand that orgasm isn’t the be all and end all of
Sex in itself breeds intimacy, which is important to a successful relationship. Basically, sex is its own reward.
In fact, there’s a whole method of sex without orgasm that’s called Karezza. Practitioners of Karezza say that sex is more fulfilling without orgasm, that relationships are better, and that intimacy is improved.
Not only that, but female orgasm is a strange and unpredictable thing. According to research, only around 8% of women regularly experience orgasm from penetrative sex.
That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try to make your partner orgasm in other ways, such as with great oral sex. But it does mean that for regular sex the odds are stacked against you.
Most women have had sex without climaxing at least once in their lives (and probably much more often), and realize that it happens.
Now, I’m not saying that women are used to not reaching orgasm or that it doesn’t matter if they don’t. I’m just saying that they understand it won’t happen all the time, and won’t hate you for it – as long as you have good sex that you both enjoy.
The orgasm balance
The real take-home is that when it comes to orgasms you need to strike a balance. Your partner has the right to orgasm if that’s what she wants; but she equally has the right not to feel pressured into having an orgasm.
That might sound complicated, but with good communication, it shouldn’t be. Partners should both feel comfortable enough to make their wishes known.
And as a good partner, you should be able to place her wishes over your own (don’t feel the need to make her orgasm if she doesn’t want to or can’t).
It’s also important to work together to find out what gets her there. Penetration doesn’t work? Be willing to go down or use your hands in the way she likes. And if you finish first, don’t be shy to use your hands or tongue to get her there.
What are your thoughts?
Does your partner have a ‘tell’ that they’ve reached orgasm? What are the signs of climax that you usually notice, and does it worry you if your partner does or doesn’t have an orgasm during sex? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.
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The one thing.. that cannot be faked.. Is “Chilly Lips” .. When any of my lovers ever came.. the “Delta T” was unmistakeable.. and wonderful..
God bless all women.. You are so intriguing.. and mysterious.
I have never reached orgasm before, could there be any reason?
Bad luck for starters! Seriously, there could be many reasons. Have you experimented on your own with different techniques? I think that’s probably a good starting point to work out what floats your boat.
It may be a lack of concentration during the act or poor preparations. Romance also depends on your feelings, you may have deep feelings that needs much romance.
I’ve come to the conclusion that the biggest blocker of women’s orgasms is birth control. It makes it so much harder to bring them to climax. Instead of 20 minutes you are looking at an hour maybe. It’s doable but almost exhaustingly so.
Another is intimacy. Do you admire your partner and crave them past sexual aspects.
Finally, foreplay. You should be aroused intensely prior to penetration to increase the sensitivity of friction. Oral sex is a great way to get things going. A man that wants to please will always give oral prior to intercourse.
I’m a pro at faking orgasms in all kinds of ways, since I was well past 50 years old when I experienced my first orgasm. People suggested I just hadn’t noticed them, and I’d wonder then what’s the point? I was absolutely blown away when it finally happened. It started in my toes, felt like an explosion, and I passed out briefly, scaring my partner. My first conscious thought was “So THAT’S why people like to do this so much!” Obviously, it was unmistakable.
I noticed a glow, a slight sheen of moisture over my entire body which cannot be faked (not perspiration from exertion which would be just centered under arms). Since then, I’ve learned how to make myself come with toys, and occasionally with a partner, too. It doesn’t happen every time, and never happens if he’s trying to ‘make’ me come.
That magical first time occurred with the best lover I’ve ever had, an older gentleman with a tiny dick who was virtually impotent, but who loved to play around for hours. Previously I just wanted to get intercourse over as fast as possible because it always hurt. Best I could say was sometimes it didn’t hurt as much.
Foreplay was great and I’d get totally turned on, however once anyone turned their attention toward my pussy, then I’d start to dry up, anticipating the discomfort. I’m a small woman and any penetration was painful. But orgasm was never his goal, just enjoy the journey, he’d say. He was patient enough that I stopped anticipating pain, developing my pleasure pathways, and learning all kinds of new and exciting intimacies.
Thanks for sharing your experience. I think there will be many people out there who can relate to your story. It’s a perfect example of how it’s not all about hard and fast penetration, and the journey can have so many other paths.
hey, im in a few months relationship with an amazing woman and so far we are great, we got a wonderful connection and we are very open to each other. she is a virgin (still) and she says she never came before, we both don’t have much sexual experience so we have no clue about most stuff in bed.
while we were making out i asked her several times about orgasms and she always replied with a “i don’t know” or a casual no. although we do think she was close to it several times, i think she might’ve had it while not even knowing.
after reading your article (and a few others) i managed to grasp a few proofs of why she did have an orgasm or was close to it, like grabbing the sheets and myself, as well as arching her back with her eyes rolling to the back with louder moans.
now the question is, is it reliable to say she ejaculated? and how can i help her understand when she is close to it or when she cums, according to her she has no idea and i 100 percent trust her on that.
I would say just try not to worry about it, or get fixated on it. Even after many years of sex, it’s tempting to be really keen to know my partner reached orgasm. The truth it though, it’s often not to easy for women, and they can feel pressurized to have an orgasm, or at least say they did. So my advice would be to just relax, enjoy sex together and not make it an ongoing lengthy topic of conversation. She will probably appreciate feeling like the pressure is off. And in the meantime, just keep learning, enjoying and experiencing fun times together in bed!
Hey, I kinda forgot about my comment here and came back to check on it.
Gotta say your advice was spot on, as we advanced our sexual relationship, we began to learn more about each other, and we managed to progress very well.
Thank you so much for the reply.
She probably did orgasm and she knows when she does now :)
Good to hear from you again, and great to hear things progressed. Long may it continue!
Ok I have questions I squirt and cream when I squirt I feel a release my toes curl I squeeze his arms or chest depending on the position I feel a build up before is that me actually cumming as far as the creaming I don’t know the feelings I am having at the time. I just know that is cock is white but he is black.
Wow, I wasn’t expecting the sudden change in topic in your last sentence. Is it somehow connected and I missed the point, or did you just thought train your comment?!
The only question I can see is about when you are actually cumming. I don’t know, is the answer. I suspect it’s a gradual buildup and there’s no real need to try to define the exact time. It happens, and that’s all that matters in my opinion!
I left the best sexual companion I have ever had after almost fifteen years. We lived together much of that time. It was usually glorious. She was stunning. The type of woman men of all ages followed in the mall wanting to hook up. I was already in my seventies when we parted.
But to come to the point: I gave her great oral. She loved it and her reactions were some of those discussed in the forum already. But with one exception, at moment of climax or nearing climax she would murmur and speak in a strange language. It seemed like Latin or something. Her incantations were spontaneous and fast. She says that it was particular only to our union. She had never had that experience with any other partners. And she had experiences with scores of men in her lifetime. My question: can you elucidate on the “speaking in languages” phenomenon? How rare is this behavior during the sexual act?
My reaction: it was a turn on. I would get super excited and then demonstrated even more willingness and capacity to satisfy her.
(For the curious: I have tried to communicate with her again but she says that our parting was forever. She is ashamed of the bad treatment she gave me in the last year of our union.)
Thanks for sharing your interesting experience. To be honest, I’ve never heard of this before. The closest I’ve had to this is when my partner screams ‘Don’t stop!’, which is different from the usual ‘stop it!’ when I’m doing one of the many things she thinks I do too much of in life lol
My fiance is 10 years younger than me and not very experienced in the sex department. He also suffers from ED. I rarely have an orgasm when we have sex and it’s frustrating. I don’t want to hurt his feelings because he’s already self-conscious about suffering from ED at 26 years old. Any suggestions?
Tricky one. Have you spoken to him about it at all? There are plenty of treatments available for ED, so it might be worth seeing if you can talk to him about trying one. If not, you could try to help ensure he’s as relaxed as possible when you have sex. Being stressed or anxious can make ED worse, and generally sex I think.
I hope this will solve his problem with Ed don’t throw in the towel just yet , without pressure , two if you sit down , communicate with him encourage him to see the dr. I’m in the same boat as he is, I’m 55 I went to see a dr I told him honestly that what would you recommend he gave me prescription, I took it let sit for awhile, then boom it works to till now she’s happy not frustrated she enjoys it everytime when we get down to it we never stop , so yeah have go and see his dr I was shame but it was for my own good , I’m glad I went to see the dr I forced myself to see him or it’s bye bye would’ve been 3 years if I never go yeah really sit down an encourage him
I had issues with ED for many years in my 40’s and my wife and I tried everything to help. Some pills worked sometimes or not but when I got a Penial Implant and after healing from the surgery all is well. NO PROBLEMS Confidence and Happiness now! Maybe he would listen to that option?
Do you have a link to a medical site that discusses the exact surgery you had done? That would be useful to see.
Unless he suffers from alcoholism, I don’t see why he would lose the ability to get aroused…. but it might be related to hormone imbalance. Check a doctor specializing in hormones.
Only once in my life did I ever see clear signs of orgasm. Repeated uncontrolled whole body shuddering lasting almost a minute.
I really need to know the visible signs that my girl has reached orgasm. Help. No bull Please.
both my wife and my subs ORGASM that is a must my rule is they are satisfied before i am and they so wish to satisfy there master. but now i have gotten older i seldom salute the flag as i once did (old age is a (bummer) thank god i was thought there are more then just a penis USE YOUR WHOLE BODY MAN !!! AND I HAVE BEEN AT THIS GAME FOR CLOSE TO 55 YEARS
ORGASM OR BUST
Get him a dick pump or stretch it out, but sometimes u need to get off to nothing like letting the juice go
Hi Mia, men that have ED in their 20’s are most likely into Porn too much. You might need to discuss this with him. I have found that when they cool it on the porn, they return back to normal within a couple weeks. Porn messes with the brain chemically and for men, also physically. Best of luck.
This has to be the dumbest reply to this i’ve seen. Watching porn does not “mess with the brain chemically” other than inducing the same changes that a guy having sex with an actual partner does. Learn some Psychology before you open your mouth again.
What CAN happen from masturbating, especially in the wrong way, watching porn is that it CAN cause your dick to become less sensitive and therefore harder to experience physical arousal from standard physical sexual contact. Lots of foreplay so he is very aroused mentally and physically CAN help with this, but it’s not always 100% guaranteed.
David, you are wrong. I just turned 30 and I had bad ED due to porn in my mid 20’s because I relied on it too much as a crutch for not doing well with women or when I was bored or when I was stressed. It rewires your brain. Just because you may not have has the same experience doesn’t mean no other guy has. It certainly affected me. I almost lost my girlfriend I’m dating now because I had problems the second time we had sex. (The first time wasn’t my 100% either). I told her the truth and she stayed and I haven’t really watched porn for the past month and a half but once or twice after not doing it for a month and I’ve been able to last a lot lot longer and be better. Rewiring with a woman and abstaining from any porn or masturbation is paramount to recovery.
Check out yourbrainonporn.com or yourbrainrebalanced.com for more personal accounts.
But yes, my first thought is that the 26 year old is having the same exact problems I had. Porn-induced ED.
Longer foreplay and let him climax first. Have him give you oral sex after his ejaculation teaching him about the sensitivity of the clitoral areas. Being an older woman I can enjoy him sucking on my clitoris in a gentle tugging motion longer sucking motion almost always bring me to climax. Having him play with my nipples is helpful too.
Let him swallow a cialis pill before having sex
Make him bust a full nut. Wait 15 minutes then he should be able to last an hour lol
I noticed that. Me and my gf have been messing around and like after I came, 13 min later I get hard for the longest. I dont really understand why. Sorry if I’m coming off weird i have no one else to talk to about this.
No man has ever given me an orgasm through penetration or oral sex.
Only just recently have I received an orgasm from my boyfriend and I’m 24 years old. He will never stop trying until he gets me off.
My boyfriend has given me an orgasm through oral sex. He has learned where the main points are on my clit. Sadly, he can be down there longer than 30 minutes.
Before I orgasm I am tilting my hips and start telling him I’m coming. My body is tense the entire time of the build up and orgasm. During the time my entire body feels flushed. I feel this massive power in my lower body and g-spot in my vagina. I become aggressive and pull him towards me. I start moaning and screaming. When my orgasm is finished I have to tell him to stop touching my clit because it is extra sensitive.
Thanks for sharing this. I hope now you’ve had your first, there are many, many more waiting for you! I’m sure your boyfriend will get that 30 mins down – just communicate with him and tell him exactly what works or not.
I have both clitorial and vaginal orgasms. Usually when I have a clitorial orgasm it’s like this one big explosion, but when I have a vaginal orgasm it’s like multiple explosions one after the other.
I haven’t faked an orgasm before, and I don’t think I could. I’ll start shaking, my vision gets blurry and my eyes roll back. I’m pretty vocal, and my vagina clenches really really hard around my partners member. I’ll sometimes grab on to my partner so hard my hands turn white.
30 mins!! Damn I need to step my game up. I can only last like 18 min ggs to that guy!
Well i am new to having sex. My boyfriend asked me if i had orgasmed and i didn’t know what to tell him. Reading through all these comments, i think i may have. My clit became very sensitive, i was breathing very hard to the point of me being light headed, my legs and thighs were shaking.
So, to answer your two main questions. First, not all women respond like that, but I’m sure some do. There’s nothing wrong with it though. Second, no she’s not peeing, technically.
Rhythm guys! Just like y’all like rhythm so do we!! My husband can tell when I orgasm. He says he can feel my vagina “squeeze” his penis and I become extremely wet afterwards. Also our clit becomes sooo sensitive it tickles. I can’t help but sign/laugh a little after an orgasm. If my husband wants to continue playing with my clit after an orgasm to build another he has to hold me down at times because the “tickle” is too much!! But what I love the most is riding his dick with a silver bullet (vibrator) ring around his cock – I get off every. Single. Time. And that’s just the clitoris orgasm. Once he checks mark that off then he hit it’s hard and I get the G-sport orgasm. Two complete different feelings! Remember hitting it hard right after a clit orgasm will always lead to g spot orgasm – for me anyway. ?
Thanks for sharing your experience and ideas! I’m sure there will be some men reading it thinking about your last technique!
Usually what happens right before I orgasm or when I’m orgasming, is I’ll start to shake really bad, I’ll moan really loud, many squeal and scream, and breath really fast, my face, chest, and arms flush, and I’ll get really wet. Then afterward I moan slightly cuz that’s how I express my pleasure. And to help, I or him will play around with my clit, and boobs. The for sure sign for when I’m at the climax and starting the orgasm is I run my hands through my hair, over my face, throat and chest. To help I squeeze my boobs and press on my BFs hands to give more pressure when playing around with my clit.
Thaks for sharing your experience! That’s actually a good point – how some women will themselves get more involved in stimulating themself when close to climax – and put more pressure on their partner to encourage them to give you more stimulation.
Usually what happens with me, is I start to breath faster, then I start to squeal a little bit and I might scream. Then my clit usually is a bit swollen and it’s really sensitive. Also, usually my face will be flushed. What really gets me going is playing around with my boobs, and making it ruff down there, but I like it gentle as well. Either way I reach an orgasm.
My clit usually feels very tender to the touch after I masturbate. Is this a sign that I orgasmed?
Well, it could be one sign. But it might feel tender just from the constant touching. But yes, generally it will feel particularly tender for a while after orgasm.
I’ve clearly made women orgasm through penetrative sex. It’s hard to fake it when her eyes get super wide and big globs of white nut shoot out of her vagina. They don’t moan at all during orgasm, they usually just look really surprised. I found the best position to hit the “g-spot” is missionary. Its easier to feel the ridges in that position. Pin her legs back to her side and let her grab your dick and guide it in. She knows where it feels good so it doesn’t have to be a guessing game. I’ve made multiple women orgasm and ejaculate this way.
Thanks for sharing your experience and tips!
My question is if a woman is trembling in her legs. And every time you run your fingers up and down her legs she tremble more does this mean she is having an orgasm? Most my partners seem to do the same thing. Some more than others. But I had the same thing happened and my partner say she didn’t come.
Well, I guess you answered the question already! If someone told you they didn’t, then they very likely didn’t, and so it’s not always a sign. However, some women will tremble when they orgasm. So it’s down to working out if it’s a sign for that particular partner or not.
My clit does get sensitive, I grab a hold of my partner as I’m about to reach my climax, I also tense up, my face gets flush. Sometimes I let out an audible “oh” and usually after a powerful climax i lay there catching my breath and enjoying my release of energy.
Thanks for sharing! I think grabbing the partner and tensing up is often a good sign!
I laugh shake scream cry it feels good and bad i love it
I get very quiet because I end up holding my breath. It’s not something I can help personally because I can’t climax while breathing for some reason. It’s almost as if I’m pushing the orgasm through. I’m sure I’m a strange case but I’ve faked tons of orgasms by getting louder bc I knew I just want going to and I’m not gonna make someone go down on me for an entire hour while I’m enjoying myself but not getting there either. A lover has to be very skilled or my body just won’t. And by skilled I mean he has to have some basic understanding of what keeping a solid rhythm means, how to kiss properly, and how to stimulate my nipples well. A man who rushes beyond the time it takes me to be ready enough to ask for it, is not going to please me.
Thanks for sharing your particular signs. I don’t think you’re a strange case; I’m sure there are many others who hold their breath too! It’s a shame you felt the need to fake it, as so many of us do at times! But yes, if it’s going to go on forever and he’s not doing it quite right, you need to make some kind of change. Perhaps a little gentle education and pointing in the right direction would be good!
It really works to give them a g spot orgasm
My eyes rolls up like The exorcist. I almost have a panic attack. My breathing is uncontrollable, I quiver all over,I’m vocal loudly.and my back arches, my toes curl also. Can’t fake it to my partner though
Thanks for sharing! It would be great if more women commented with a description of what happens for them.
With reactions like yours, I’m not surprised it’s not so easy to fake. Sounds like you have some powerful orgasms – lucky you!
I usually laugh after cumming
I cant seem to find the thig that pushes her over the edge and makes her climax is the any advice on that?
Probably the best thing is to ask her straight up what she likes most. There’s also probable a good chance she needs more/better clitoral stimulation to reach climax. Most women need the clitoris to be properly stimulated, not just penetration.
The key is to focus on her and connect with her. If you love her, let it show. Be fully present, be free in yourself, which will allow her to be free in herself. This, beyond all other things, will make a woman cum, 100% guaranteed. (But if it’s technical advice you seek: Foreplay is a very good thing; and a kiss her on the neck drives most women wild).
Guys learn how to finger a girl properly and give her a g-spot orgasm! I thought I had good orgasms but at 35 I finally experienced a blended orgasm (g-spot and clitoral) and it blew me away, pun intended lol. For me it required a guy with strong hands and fingers who was willing and able to find my g-spot about an inch or two in the front- while you’re facing her, insert 2 fingers and do the “come here” motion with your fingers. You have to find a rhythm and be strong and consistent. I can have a g-spot orgasm within seconds if a guy does it right which is totally different than a clitoral orgasm which requires a build up and release. I usually have a clitoral orgasm through penetration by being on top and rubbing my clit against the pubic bone. Once I get a good angle and rhythm I will eventually start to hold my breath until my orgasm exploded and I moan and cream all over his cock. When it’s really good he can feel my vaginal muscles contracting on his cock and it feels fucking amazing. Now to blend the 2 together… the best way is to finger me in the come here motion while licking my pussy or one of us also fingering my clit. When the clit orgasm happens while my g-spot is being properly penetrated it is the fucking hottest orgasm I could possibly have. My inside and outside shake and quiver and I moan and cum all over your cock. The best orgasm I ever had was with a guy I wasn’t even attracted to but damn we’re his fingers strong and his cock big and hard. Damn I wish I had a guy that could fuck me like that now. I love to fuck where there is the risk of getting caught. One of my best orgasms ever was him fingering my g-spot while I fingered my clit with just a jacket over us on the bus. After I cum like that I am dripping wet and my clit is so sensitive but I still wanna ride a hard cock. Add to this sucking on my nipples and grabbing my ass hard while I ride your cock up and down, then bite me and smack my ass.. it will be the best sex of our lives. I need to find my thrusting g-spot/clit vibrator right now cuz I’m so fucking horny just thinking about it.
Just curious, my partner squirts either from oral or penetration does not happen the same all the time. My question is, by squirting is a full proof assurance that she’s having an orgasm or is it just a form of release.
I’d say it’s probably a fairly good sign of orgasm, yes! But just because it doesn’t happen every time, doesn’t mean she didn’t orgasm that time too. So I wouldn’t rely on it solely to judge.
Nice article, thanks! And I always thought that when my missus was screaming, it was a sure sign she came. And when she’s kind of just a bit moany, I don’t really know if she just had a small orgasm or is faking it to make me happy or whatever. Any thoughts?
You’re welcome! If you suspect she might be faking it sometimes, she might be. But you know women do have different types and intensity of orgasm from one day to the next. So it’s possible she does climax in both situations you mention.
After a woman orgasms, her clitoris often gets very sensitive. If you touch it gently and she reacts like you touched her with a hot fireplace poker, she probably orgasmed. If not, either she didn’t or she’s prone to multiple orgasms and might want another.
It’s true, it can feel extremely sensitive. After they climax, if you want to continue, it’s good to either give a minute to rest or only stimulate her very gently to test how she’s feeling.
My girl usually tells me if she doesnt.. but she says she orgasms at least some every single time.. a lot of times she will say… “you didnt leave me hanging but we’ll finish this up tomorrow nite”.. or something 2 that extent… and 9 times outa 10.. it seems as if it only takes her like 5 mins or so and then after she orgasms.. or at least acts as if she does shell start begging me to cum…. am i getting lied to.. or does she know that its not gonna happen for her so she just concentrates on me???
To be honest, I don’t know if she’s faking it sometimes or not. But your comment is confusing anyway – you say she tells you if she doesn’t. But then also say she orgasms every single time.
I am having the total opposite of most ladies here. My love, (yes, I meant to say love, not lover) gives me orgasms just by looking at me and even fully clothed. He can touch my back clothed or not and I will have an orgasm. While giving him oral, I have orgasms. I say all this to say, sometimes, it is about the mental and spiritual connection you have with your love. You certainly can not have these types of orgasms casually. I’ve only experienced this with one person in my life and never knew it could even be possible. The orgasms from penetration sex are great also but those I mentioned earlier on are just mind blowing. I’m not sure his deepest innermost feelings about it although I know he thinks it is a spiritual mindblowing thing. I have searched everything I can find online and no explanation. I will just call it the effect of twin spirit powers. ETSP. Yes I made that up. Wishing much love, light and orgasmic powers to you all. Wait for the right one.