The 5 Best Sex Positions For Women To Orgasm

image of a classic woman on top sex positionYou know which positions you prefer, and which are likely to make you orgasm. Maybe it’s doggy style, perhaps it’s simple missionary. But what about your partner?

Simply put, there are some positions that are more likely to make her orgasm than others. Which are they? That’s what you’re about to find out!

The two simple rules

Before we get to some great positions to try, there are two simple rules that you should remember when it comes to positioning:

Don’t forget the erogenous zones

The more erogenous zones you can involve in a position, the more likely she is to orgasm. Breasts and genitals are obviously erogenous, but so are the inside of her thighs, the neck, and the backs of the knees.

The best positions will allow you and/or her to touch at least some of those erogenous zones.

Keep it simple

Nobody wants to feels uncomfortable, so avoid complicated positions unless she’s a yoga expert. She’s not likely to orgasm if she has her legs behind her neck.

So with that in mind, here are the best (and easiest) positions to spend plenty of time on next time you have sex.

1) Spooning

spoons position

Spooning is great for everyone – it’s very low impact and both partners can relax while doing it. Get your partner to lie on her side with her knees slightly raised towards her chest. Then you press up against her from behind, allowing you to penetrate from the rear.

Nobody takes any weight, and your movements will be rocking rather than thrusting, so this truly is low energy. It also has the added benefit of being a position that can help you last longer in bed, since the movements are more subtle.

The advantages? Spooning allows a woman to stimulate herself from the front, meaning her chances of orgasm are much higher. And cuddling means that this is a very intimate position as well.

On the downside, there’s no eye contact here, which puts some people off. Plus, some women find it a little more difficult to orgasm when lying on their side as opposed to on their back. So it’s a good position, but not everyone will reach climax in it.

2) The Rocking Horse

illustration of the rocking horse sex position

The rocking horse is another nice, low impact position. You sit with your legs outstretched (either leaning against the headboard, on a chair or even the couch). She sits on top of you and wraps her thighs around you.

This is one of my personal favorites, and is a particularly comfortable position to hold, since both partners are sitting down, and again, motion will be rocking rather than thrusting.

The main benefits are that there’s lots of physical contact, and there’s intimate eye contact. And she can control the motion, meaning she can move at a rhythm that’s right for her.

On the negative side, it can be tough to get decent clitoral stimulation in this position. But you can improve the chances by holding her butt to you tightly and asking her what works.

Alternatively, try using a special clitoral vibrator, or a vibrating cock ring. That will allow stimulation of her clitoris at the same time (and new sex toys are always fun!).

3) Reverse Cowgirl

picture demonstrating the reverse cowgirl position

I’ll be honest, this isn’t a great position when you’ve just met someone. It’s a little impersonal (and speaking from personal experience, tough on the girl’s thigh muscles). But it can be very effective in achieving orgasm.

You lie flat on your back or propped up against some pillows, and she turns around and sits on your penis whilst facing your feet.

Pros? She can self stimulate her clitoris again, which we already know increases her chances of orgasm. And you can stimulate her butt, which for some women is especially pleasurable.

On the negative side, there’s no eye contact, and this can be a bit of an energetic position for her, since there’s lots of bouncing around.

4) Doggy Style

couple showing the position of the doggy style

Doggy style is a real classic when it comes to sex positions, and is absolutely one of my favorites (as well as the favorite of most of my female friends).

She goes down on her hands and knees, you kneel behind her and enter her from behind. Simple.

On the positive side, she can self stimulate, and you can get nice deep thrusts (and stimulate her G spot at the same time). On the negative side, no eye contact can make this a little impersonal.

Having said that, there’s something particularly sexy about the naughty look you can give a guy if you turn your head towards him…

For a fantastic variation on doggy style, try playing around with pillows. Enough pillows in the right areas (particularly under her stomach) can prop her up so that she’s more comfortable. And it might even increase your chances of G spot stimulation.

5) The Slide

illustration of the slide sex position

For the slide, you lie flat on your back, and then she lies flat on top of you, allowing you to slide inside her. The motion again will be rocking rather than thrusting.

The pros are full body contact as well as eye contact, and there’s no aching thigh muscles for her. And because her legs are together (rather than spread), penetration will feel tighter for you.

On the negative side, it may be a little more difficult for her to achieve orgasm with her legs together without a bit of practice.

If it’s not quite working, she can always spread her legs a little, so they go on either side of yours, increasing her chances of orgasm. And as things get hotter, she might want to arch her back and come up onto her knees so that you can get deeper thrusts rather than just rocking back and forth.

Don’t forget to experiment

There are tons of sexual positions out there for you to choose from, and half the fun is in experimentation.

There’s no guarantee that your partner is going to have an orgasm whatever position you choose – female libido is a complicated thing. But some positions are going to just be better for her than others.

The only way you’re going to find out what works is by trying out some different things and figuring out what works for you as a couple.

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Your choice of sex positions is just one piece of the puzzle. So you might also like my tips for great foreplay or fantastic oral sex – both of which are great to work on if you want to increase orgasm frequency and intensity.


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  1. wow…I definitely have to try all your suggestions because I really aim to satisfy my girl not just please myself. thanks a gazillion.

    1. Karen Martinez

      You’re welcome AJ – I hope you have fun with these positions!

  2. i always lick my partner’s vagina to orgasm b4 i go inside her to reach mine good or bad.

    1. Karen Martinez

      Hi Alexander
      Giving your partner an orgasm with oral sex before having penetrative sex is definitely good!

  3. I have a question, let’s say, it’s your first time ever (with consent, if you get my drift) what could you do to still have a good experience together, but not have to have full blown penetration sex? I like the sensual aspect of it, I’m just not as interested with going all out.

    1. Karen Martinez

      Hi Claire
      Well, the first thing is to be clear and tell your partner that you want to enjoy time together sexually, but not have sex. Are you wanting to have oral sex? That’s a good step to aim for, as the next would be penetrative sex. But if even that’s too much, then just making out is where you’ll need to stay probably.

  4. Always start with foreplay and her first orgasm should Always be achieved orally. Now she’s very lubed up for you to enter her in any position and if you grind on her clit from missionary position she will cum again before you. As for me I get so hard from satisfying her that it takes me at least 30 minutes to get mine, well by then she’s already on her third or fourth.

    1. Karen Martinez

      Hi there
      Thanks for sharing your technique. I agree that it’s a good idea to spend loads of time on foreplay and oral first. If you can make her happy before sex, then you’re off to a great start!

  5. Geofrey Barasa

    If i have sex with my partner,first round i go for 10 minutes, second round i go for 15 minutes, do i have a problem?

    1. Karen Martinez

      Hi Geofrey
      I think that’s pretty good really. So no, I wouldn’t say you have a problem. The only problem would be if you or your partner are still unhappy with that time. But compared to the average lasting time, you’re doing well!

  6. Interesting article, thanks! I like these positions already, but might have to do them more and try your variations:-)

    1. Karen Martinez

      Hi Oscar
      I’m happy you think so, and you’re welcome! Have fun with the variations!

  7. terminus z woodberry

    please tell me the exact duration of first sex i mean first round…plsss???

    1. Karen Martinez

      There is no exact duration. If you’re talking about average times, well that varies a lot. If you can go for 6 minutes then you’re doing good. Longer than that, great!

    2. Well i complete my first round withing 8 minutes but it depends on my dick energy level. sometimes i do first and second round at once coz my dick remain erected after my first round. and that will take me 11 minutes

      1. Karen Martinez

        Sound like you have some good stamina! If you’re able to go for round 2 soon after round 1, then that will definitely help if your partner needs time to have an orgasm.

  8. Great article, there’s some fantastic ideas here (You have definitely given me some inspiration!!)

  9. Very well narrated , gives ample to opt the suitable one as per mood and liking. Sex is all about playing with your thoughts and enacting to give and get the love with your partner. Living the moments playfully to the core of its nadir.

    1. Ethan Green

      Hi Shiva
      Thanks, I’m glad you liked the article. And you’re right – sex should be playful and loving!

  10. Thanks for the helpful article. I read one of your articles saying it’s good if you have problems with lasting time to focus more on the woman. So I’ll be using some of the ideas here for sure!
    Thanks again

    1. Ethan Green

      Hi OB

      No problem, and yes you’re right in that I talk about this concept a lot. It’s important whether you have problems or not to ensure your partner has the best experience possible. But yes, if you have problems with lasting time, it’s a good idea to spend more time in the positions which she is most likely to reach orgasm with.

  11. Hey thanks for the ideas! Will definitely be giving the ones I don’t know a go!

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