Lasting longer was one of the first premature ejaculation self-help manuals, written by the sex therapist Dr Sy Silverberg. At first glance there there’s nothing fancy about the book, with its plain printed cover.
And inside you’ll find quite a short, simple and easy-to-read book with some background to PE and one main self-help behavioral technique to practice.
In this review, I’ll be looking at how Lasting Longer aims to help guys do exactly what the title says, explaining the general background and theory it presents, and what kind of training program it gives you.
Dr Silverberg’s experience
Dr Silverberg says that he originally wrote Lasting Longer in 1978, updating it in 2010 after 30 years of professional practice as a sex therapist.
Most of the other guides are written by guys who have personally experienced and overcome PE. They then use their knowledge and research to create their training course.
What makes Dr Silverberg different is the simple approach based on his practical experience of helping guys. He also trained with the famous sex therapists Masters and Johnson in the 1970s (they first has the idea for the squeeze technique).
So on the face of it, Dr Silverberg would appear to be a trustworthy source of advice. It’s not clear whether he ever experienced PE personally or not, but it’s clear that he has experience with helping men.
The background information
Dr Silverberg says in the introduction that he intentionally kept a lot of background information out of the book. He believes that curing PE is quite simple, though he does say early on that it’s not necessarily easy.
He gived an introduction to the possible causes of PE, discussing evolutionary theories and the sexual behavior of men generally.
He then goes on to explain how ejaculation works, how you can learn to control the reflex, and the importance of learning arousal control. His simple explanation of these concepts makes a lot of sense, and provides a solid reason to want to learn the later techniques.
One of the best sections in the book is about the role of sexual performance anxiety. He has a nice way of helping you understand the role that it plays, and how to manage your expectations about your performance.
He very cleverly suggests looking at your sex life in a different way, which could make a difference to both you and your partner’s satisfaction. This is where his experience as a sex therapist really shines through, and I was impressed with that section.
The training program consists of two main elements, both fundamental in developing arousal and ejaculation control. He describes the methods in a good amount of detail, with a specific focus on learning to recognize your arousal levels.
His intention is that you learn when your body is signalling that you’re approaching the point of no return. In that way you can then learn to keep yourself at the plateau stage of arousal, and not ejaculate until you choose to.
His method is clear, succinct and has 2 main steps: solo work and partner work, both of which he teaches you how to do. As a final word he has a section dedicated towards your partner. He gives her practical advice on how she can work with you to support you and help you through the process.
I liked the way he thinks about the partner in this inclusive way; he acknowledges the fact that she has an important role to play in your journey to learn control.
My main criticism is that the book feels a little short. I think it’s a shame that he decided to leave out more detailed information and assume that one technique is enough for every guys that reads it.
There isn’t a section outlining the techniques that can be used to immediately make a difference, for example. I think a lot of guys would appreciate having some simple and practical ideas that will help them straight away.
Finally, like all the eBook courses, this isn’t an instant cure. It will take some time and dedication to make the most of the technique in the book and see a real difference in your lasting time.
Lasting longer is a basic introduction to PE, easy to read and follow. But that simplicity is also my main criticism. There are books with more information, more detail and more advanced techniques. And I personally think it’s important to know as much about the problem as possible.
The main technique is essentially just the stop-start method. So if you’re interested in that technique, you’ll find a very detailed explanation of how to do it.
But if you’re hoping for some different exercises and tips to help you right away, you might find one of the more advanced books suits you better.