The best way to increase your sexual stamina permanently is to learn to control your body and mind through natural techniques. A good premature ejaculation book will give you everything you need to do that as effectively and quickly as possible.
With several to choose from, it’s important to find one which strikes the right balance between tips which can immediately help and exercises to develop lasting control.
In this review, I’ll be talking about three books which I personally used to improve my control in bed. They are all self-help guides and available as an instant download so you can get started straight away.
What to look for in an ejaculation control guide
Here’s what I personally expect from a good ejaculation control guide:
- Detailed background information about PE.
- Tips to help you last longer from day one.
- A range of effective exercises and techniques to gain ejaculation control.
- Complete, detailed and step by step instructions.
- A good support option to get answers to questions.
With those criteria in mind, let’s take a look at my recommendations.
1. The Ejaculation Trainer
The Ejaculation Trainer has been around for more than 10 years, and has stood the test of time as one of the most popular and effective books on premature ejaculation.
Before I created this website, it was the second program I’d tried. I
It took me from lasting between 1 and 5 minutes on average to over 10 minutes most times, and sometimes (though not always) much longer.
What worked for me was a combination of things. There are lots of practical tips which help you straight away (the emergency tactics mini book), along with easy to understand and comprehensive background information.
Then there are several practical exercises to help you control your arousal, erection type, and ejaculation response. It was also good to have an email support option so you can get help if you need it.
My only criticism is that the author does make some bold claims about you being able to last 10-30 minutes from day one.
I think that might be possible if you already last a few minutes usually and just need some pointers for doing things differently. But for many men, it will probably take some practice to last that length of time.
But that’s my only criticism of an otherwise excellent book. Once you put the techniques into action, you’ll find it’s a serious guide to a serious problem. It made a big difference to my sex life and confidence, so for that
2. Ejaculation By Command
By the time I discovered Ejaculation by Command I’d already pretty much gotten my premature ejaculation under control. So really this particular review is based on my current knowledge of what works or not rather than personal experience.
What I like about this book is that the author tries to make life easy for you. You’re presented with different options to suit your style: reading the whole book; following a quick start summary guide; or listening to an audio companion.
As well as giving you all the necessary background information, there are many techniques and exercises to practice: arousal control and edging, correct breathing, mental focusing, tantric exercises, and diet, to name just a few.
The author also put a lot of thought into how you can make this all work with your current partner. So as well as techniques to practice together, he gives you advice on satisfying them first. And this is something I now see is a key point in dealing with mismatched arousal levels.
I do have a couple of criticisms though. Firstly, you have to go through a lengthy sales page and offers to buy other sex guides. And like the Ejaculation Trainer, there’s a somewhat exaggerated claim about it being guaranteed you’ll last 20 minutes straight away.
Despite those points, I do think Ejaculation By Command is a good book. It’s easy to follow and understand, full of useful exercises for both you and your partner to practice. Knowing what I know now, I imagine I would have had similar results to the Ejaculation Trainer if I’d read this one first.
3. Lasting Longer
Lasting Longer is a cheaper and briefer alternative to the previous books. The author is a sex therapist who first wrote it back in the 1970s. And he says that his approach was developed through his experience of helping men in therapy.
Like some other PE guides, it focuses mainly on the stop and start technique, but then skips some of the other techniques.
The author says that his solution to PE is a simple one, just not an easy one. But he then confusingly spends a lot of time describing what he just described as simple…
The chapter that most impressed me is on the role of sexual performance anxiety. You can see the author’s experience as a therapist there, with helpful advice about your mental and emotional state during sex.
He talks in detail about the importance of changing your attitude towards sex, which I think could be helpful for couples whose sexual encounters end when the man finishes.
Overall, I don’t think there’s as much in this guide as there could be, especially compared to the amount of information and exercises in other guides. I think that by only focusing on one main technique, it’s missing half the story.
Maybe the approach was a revolutionary idea 40 years ago. But nowadays, I think many people will want something which will help them straight away, with a wider range of techniques to try.