The Best Sexual Stamina Guides In 2020

photo of the ejaculation by command ebook

When you read through this review, you might be surprised to see that there are currently only three guides, one of which is offline right now.

So I apologize that my ‘best of…’ list technically consists of just two items. I’m currently checking out some others and will add them in the future. But for now, at least it won’t take as long to read this article as some of my others!

Now, here’s another thing to think about – do you actually need to spend money on a sexual stamina guide? My view is this: it depends on your situation and way of doing things generally.

You don’t necessarily need to, especially if money is tight, because you can find lots of free information online. Even right here on my blog, you can find some (hopefully) helpful tips.

Where I think it might be useful is if you’d prefer an in-depth guide, rather than basing your techniques solely on the standard articles about lasting longer that are found all over the internet. It’s not that it isn’t good advice – just that they don’t always explain the methods very clearly.

And of course, it will also be useful to me as I might make a small commission if you do buy one – just to be transparent about that.

On a personal level, I followed a couple of these guides and found them very helpful. I can’t guarantee that they will work equally well for all men with premature ejaculation. But I think they are a good place to start if you’re not keen on medication, delay sprays or condoms, and want to try to improve your sexual endurance naturally.


1. Ejaculation By Command

ejaculate by command guide

By the time I discovered Ejaculation by Command, I already had my premature ejaculation under control. So this review is based on my current knowledge of what works well, rather than personal experience.

What I like about this one is that the author tries to make life easy for you. You’re presented with different options to suit your style: read the entire book, follow a quick start guide, or listen to an audio companion.

As well as giving you all the necessary background information, there are many techniques and exercises to practice: arousal control and edging, correct breathing, mental focusing, tantric exercises, and diet, to name just a few.

The author also put a lot of thought into how you can make this all work with your current partner. So as well as techniques to practice together, he gives you advice on satisfying them first. And this is something I personally find very useful to bear in mind – and to actually do.

I have a couple of criticisms, as I always do. Firstly, you have to go through a lengthy sales page and offers to buy other sex guides. And there’s a somewhat exaggerated claim about it being guaranteed you’ll last 20 minutes straight away.

Despite those points, I think Ejaculation By Command is a very good book. It’s easy to follow and full of useful exercises for both you and your partner to practice.

Note that you’ll need to download it from the author’s website rather than buying a physical book. So the link below will take you to a (secure) website with a whole bunch of sales text to wade through to find a buy button.


2. The Ejaculation Trainer

image of the ejaculation trainer ebook

The Ejaculation Trainer was a guide that I personally followed a few years ago when I first set out to tackle my own issue with premature ejaculation.

Unfortunately, the website where it’s sold regularly goes down and the author no longer updates or maintains the guide and doesn’t reply to queries. I’ve kept it in the list because I’m hoping the author will sort their website out, and you might be able to find it elsewhere if you search for it.

Availability issues aside, I can’t deny that this was a useful guide for me. I practised the exercises regularly for a couple of months and had good results with them. A couple of months might seem like a lot of effort, but I was happy with the outcome – I was able to last longer than 10 minutes on a fairly regular basis, which was considerably better than between one and five on average.

I think what worked for me was a combination of things. There are lots of practical tips which help you straight away (the ’emergency tactics’ mini-book). And there’s plenty of clear and comprehensive background information to sexual stamina issues.

Then there are several practical exercises to help you control your arousal, erection type, and ejaculation response. My main criticism is the same as most of these online guides: the author makes bold claims about you being able to last 10-30 minutes from day one.

I think that might be possible if you already last a few minutes usually and just need some pointers for doing things differently. But for many men, it will probably take practice to last that length of time.

But that’s my only criticism of an otherwise useful book. It made a difference to my sex life, so it’s a shame that it’s not currently available.

Currently unavailable as it looks like the author hasn’t renewed the domain name.


3. Lasting Longer

image of the cover of lasting longer by dr sy silverberg

Lasting Longer is a cheaper and briefer alternative to the previous books. The author is a sex therapist who first wrote it back in the 1970s. And he says that his approach was developed through his experience of helping men in therapy.

Like some other PE guides, it focuses mainly on the stop and start technique, but then skips some of the other techniques.

The author says that his solution to PE is a simple one, just not an easy one. But he then confusingly spends a lot of time describing what he just described as simple.

The chapter that I probably found most useful was about sexual performance anxiety. You can see his experience as a therapist there, with helpful advice about your mental and emotional state during sex.

He talks in detail about the importance of changing your attitude towards sex, which I think could be helpful for couples whose sexual encounters end when the man finishes.

Overall, I don’t think there’s as much in this guide as there could be, especially compared to the amount of information and exercises in other guides. I think that by only focusing on one main technique, it’s missing half the story.

Maybe the approach was a revolutionary idea back in the 1970s. But nowadays, I think many people will want something which will help them straight away, with a wider range of techniques to try. Still, the price is considerably lower for this guide, which in itself is a good reason to consider it.

Note: the paper version is currently unavailable, but you can still get the kindle version on Amazon.