The only way to increase your sexual stamina permanently is to learn to control your body and mind through natural techniques. A good premature ejaculation book will give you everything you need to do that as effectively and quickly as possible.
With several to choose from, it’s important to find one which strikes the right balance between tips which will immediately help you and exercises to develop lasting control.
In this review, I’ll be talking about 4 popular books, all self-help programs available as an instant download so you can get started straight away.
What to look for in an ejaculation control guide
Here’s what I personally expect from a good ejaculation control guide:
- Detailed background information about premature ejaculation.
- Tips to help you last longer from day one.
- A range of effective exercises and techniques to gain ejaculation control.
- Complete, detailed and step by step instructions.
- A support option to get answers to questions.
So with those criteria in mind, let’s take a look at my recommendations.
1) The Ejaculation Trainer
The Ejaculation Trainer has been around for about 10 years, and has stood the test of time as one of the most popular and effective books on premature ejaculation.
Before I created this website, it was the second program I’d tried myself. I followed the exercises diligently for a couple of months and had great results with them.
It took me from lasting between 1 and 5 minutes on average to over 10 minutes most times, and sometimes (though not always) much longer.
What worked for me was a combination of things. There are lots of practical tips which help you straight away (the emergency tactics mini book), along with easy to understand and comprehensive background information.
Then there are several practical exercises to help you control your arousal and ejaculation response. It was also good to have an email support option so you can get help if you need it.
My only criticism is that the author does make some bold claims about you being able to last 10-30 minutes from day one. I think that may possible if you already last a few minutes usually, and just need some pointers for doing things differently. But for many men, it will take some practice to last that length of time.
That’s my only criticism of an otherwise excellent book though. Once you put the techniques into action, you’ll find it’s a serious guide to a serious problem. It made a big difference to my own sex life and confidence, and for that reason it’s the one I recommend.
2) Ejaculation By Command
What I like about Ejaculation by Command is that the author tries to make life easy for you. You’re presented with different options to suit your style: reading the whole book; following a quick start summary guide; or listening to an audio companion.
As well as giving you all the key background information, there are many techniques and exercises to practice: arousal control and edging, correct breathing, mental focusing, tantric exercises and diet, to name just a few.
The author also put a lot of thought into how you can make this all work with your current partner. So as well as techniques to practice together, he gives you advice on satisfying them first. And this is a great way to deal with differences in arousal levels and prolong intimacy and sex together.
I do have a couple of criticisms though. Firstly, you have to go through a lengthy sales page and offers to buy other sex guides. And like the Ejaculation Trainer there’s an exaggerated claim about it being guaranteed you’ll last 20 minutes straight away.
Despite those points, I do think Ejaculation By Command is a very good book. It’s easy to follow and understand, full of useful exercises for both you and your partner to practice. Knowing what I know now, I imagine I would have had similar results to the Ejaculation Trainer if I’d read this one first.
3. Ejaculation Guru
The Ejaculation Guru is one of the most recent premature ejaculation books, with a heavy emphasis on using the pelvic floor muscles to control ejaculation. Such is the author’s belief that his technique works, that he talks almost exclusively about it in the 30 minute introductory video.
However, I found it confusing that he describes the book as being based on a new technique. But when I read the guide, I discovered that it’s in fact the classic technique of using the pelvic floor muscles correctly during sex and at the point of no return.
Despite that, the author does a good job of explaining how to do pelvic floor/kegel exercises. There are extensive instructions, including safety advice and an exact description of how to use the muscles during sex.
I particularly liked the sections on arousal control. He rightly splits this into 2 parts – mental and physical arousal, with useful ideas to gain control.
He talks about understanding your arousal scale, visualization, NLP, breathing, changing mental focus, and changing the way you have sex to control your arousal. He also offers some methods to last longer straight away, which you can use while developing the pelvic floor muscles.
Overall, I think he explains his techniques accurately and in detail. If you’re interested in kegels, this is one of the better books I’ve read about them. But if you’re looking for a more rounded approach to premature ejaculation, you might find Ejaculation Guru too focused on that one technique.
4) Lasting Longer
Lasting Longer is much simpler and shorter compared to the previous books. The author is a sex therapist who first wrote the book all the way back in the 1970s, and he says that his simple approach was developed through his experience of helping men in sex therapy sessions.
Like some other premature ejaculation guides, it focuses largely on the start and stop technique. However, there’s also a good section on the role of sexual performance anxiety.
He talks a lot about the importance of changing your attitude towards your ‘performance’ and sex life in general, and I found this section very helpful.
However, I don’t really think there’s as much content as there could be, especially when compared to the amount of information and exercises in the others I’ve read. Even though he describes his technique in depth and with expertise, it left me wondering why he’d chosen to focus solely on one technique and not offer more.
Overall, it’s not bad – it’s just kind of missing half the story. Maybe the approach was a revolutionary idea 40 years ago. But in the modern day and age, many men want tips which will help them straight away, and a range of different techniques to try.