Why read a book about premature ejaculation when the internet is full of free advice about the problem?
It’s a good question, and one that several readers have asked me.
My personal answer is because it’s what I did, and the techniques they teach helped me gain much better control. But that’s just me – I prefer detailed information to the same old “10 tips for PE” kind of articles you find online.
You can find a few books on sites like Amazon, which I’ve decided not to review here for now. They have plenty of customer reviews, so you can find out more about them there if you like.
Instead, I’ve decided to focus on the less transparent downloadable guides. These are widely advertised online, partly because bloggers can make a commission if you buy them (including me – shameless affiliate links below).
But really, the main reason I promote them is that I genuinely benefited from the techniques in the first two guides below, long before I even started this website.
So even though you can find a lot of what they say online, and they have annoyingly long sales pages, I still think they are well written and offer some great ideas if you’re interested in natural techniques for tackling premature ejaculation.
1. Ejaculation By Command
The author of Ejaculation by Command, Lloyd Lester, is a prolific online sex advice writer, with 10 sex guides to his name.
I like that he tries to make life easier with different options to suit your style: read the book, follow a quick start summary, or listen to the audio version.
As well as giving you all the key background information on premature ejaculation, the guide is packed with effective exercises and techniques to improve your stamina.
For example, you’ll learn about arousal control and edging, kegels, correct breathing, sensate focusing, tantric sex techniques, and a diet that promotes healthy sexual functioning.
As well as all the useful solo exercises, Lloyd also put a lot of thought into how you can make it work with your current partner.
There are techniques that you can practice together during sex. And he also explains how to give your partner an orgasm before intercourse. That will help boost your confidence, and allow you to have longer and more satisfying sex.
My main criticism is the exaggerated claim about being able to last 20 minutes longer from day one.
I think that might be possible if you usually last a few minutes, and just need pointers for doing things differently. But if you have severe premature ejaculation, it will probably take practice to last that length of time.
On the whole, Ejaculation By Command is a solid guide. It’s easy to follow and understand, full of useful exercises for both you and your partner to practice. And importantly, Lloyd responds to emails with helpful answers to questions.
2. The Ejaculation Trainer
The Ejaculation Trainer is the guide I first used to tackle my problem with premature ejaculation. I followed the exercises diligently for a couple of months and had great results with them.
It took me from lasting between 1 and 5 minutes on average to over 10 minutes most times, and sometimes (though not always) much longer.
What worked for me was a combination of things. There are lots of practical tips which help you straight away (the emergency tactics mini book). And there’s just the right amount of background information to help you fully understand the issue.
Then there are several practical exercises to help you control your arousal, erection type, and ejaculation response. The exercises are all well explained, easy to do, and very effective if you stick with them.
Unfortunately, as good as this guide is, it doesn’t look like the author keeps an eye on the website anymore. It still hasn’t moved to secure https, and it isn’t mobile responsive, so it’s hard to read. Matt no longer replies to emails either.
It’s a shame he doesn’t seem to maintain the website, as it was an excellent guide. However, it made a significant difference to my sexual stamina, so I still think it’s worth considering – if you don’t mind that it hasn’t been updated in a while.
But on balance, I’d probably recommend Ejaculation By Command first now – the techniques are the same, and the author keeps it up to date, as well as answering questions.
3. Ejaculation Guru
The Ejaculation Guru is one of the most recent premature ejaculation books, with an emphasis on using the pelvic floor muscles to control ejaculation.
The author, Jack Grave, clearly has a lot of faith in his technique. He talks about that one method almost exclusively for 30 minutes in his somewhat monotonous introductory video (Sorry, Jack – you know it’s true!).
He describes the book as being based on a new technique. But when I read the guide, I found it’s based on the classic kegels technique of using the pelvic floor muscles at the point of no return.
Despite that, he does a good job of explaining how to do pelvic floor/kegel exercises. There are extensive instructions, including safety advice and an exact description of how to use the muscles during sex.
I particularly liked the sections on arousal control. He rightly splits this into 2 parts, mental and physical arousal, with useful ideas to gain control.
He talks about understanding your arousal scale, visualization, NLP, breathing, changing mental focus, and changing the way you have sex to control your arousal. He also offers some methods to last longer straight away, which you can use while developing the pelvic floor muscles.
Overall, I think he explains his techniques accurately and in detail. If you’re interested in kegel exercises in particular, you’ll probably enjoy Jack’s positive approach.
But if you’re looking for a more rounded approach to premature ejaculation, you might find Ejaculation Guru a bit too focused on that one technique.
One final point worth mentioning is that Jack does reply to questions, which is great.