The only way to increase your sexual stamina permanently is to learn to control your body and mind through natural techniques.
And a good premature ejaculation book will give you everything you need to do that as effectively and quickly as possible.
With several to choose from, it’s important to find one which strikes the right balance between tips which will immediately help you, and exercises to develop lasting control.
In this review, I’ll be talking about 4 popular books, all self-help programs that are available as an instant download so you can get started straight away.
What to look for in an ejaculation control guide
Here’s what I personally expect from a good ejaculation control guide:
- Detailed background information about premature ejaculation.
- Tips that can help you last longer right away.
- A range of effective exercises and techniques to gain ejaculation control.
- Complete, detailed and step by step instructions.
- A support option to get answers to questions.
So with those criteria in mind, let’s take a look at my recommendations.
1. Ejaculation By Command
The author of Ejaculation by Command, Lloyd Lester, is a respected sex expert, with 10 sex guides to his name.
I like that he tries to make life easier with different options to suit your style: read the book; follow a quick start summary; or listen to the audio version.
As well as giving you all the key background information to premature ejaculation, the guide is packed with effective exercises and techniques to improve your stamina.
For example, you’ll learn about arousal control and edging, kegels, correct breathing, sensate focusing, tantric sex techniques, and a diet that promotes healthy sexual functioning.
As well as all the useful solo exercises, Lloyd also put a lot of thought into how you can make it work with your current partner.
There are techniques that you can practice together during sex. And he also explains how to give your partner an orgasm before intercourse. That will help boost your confidence, and allow you to have longer and more satisfying sex.
My only criticism is that he makes some exaggerated claims about you being able to last 20 minutes longer from day one. That might be possible for some men, but I think many will need some time to practice the techniques.
Lloyd does offer an email support option, which is great. I’ve contacted him a couple of times and received helpful responses.
On the whole, Ejaculation By Command is an excellent guide. I practiced the exercises it contains and can now last significantly longer because of them. So it’s the one I recommend trying if you’re interested in these kind of techniques.Check out Ejaculation By Command
2. Ejaculation Guru
The Ejaculation Guru is one of the most recent premature ejaculation books, with an emphasis on using the pelvic floor muscles to control ejaculation.
The author, Jack Grave, clearly has a lot faith in his technique, talking about that one method almost exclusively for 30 minutes in his introductory video.
He describes the book as being based on a new technique. But when I read the guide, I found it’s based on the classic kegels technique of using the pelvic floor muscles at the point of no return.
Despite that, he does a good job of explaining how to do pelvic floor/kegel exercises. There are extensive instructions, including safety advice and an exact description of how to use the muscles during sex.
I particularly liked the sections on arousal control. He rightly splits this into 2 parts, mental and physical arousal, with useful ideas to gain control.
He talks about understanding your arousal scale, visualization, NLP, breathing, changing mental focus, and changing the way you have sex to control your arousal. He also offers some methods to last longer straight away, which you can use while developing the pelvic floor muscles.
Overall, I think he explains his techniques accurately and in detail. If you’re interested in kegels, this is one of the better books I’ve read about them. But if you’re looking for a more rounded approach to premature ejaculation, you might find Ejaculation Guru a bit too focused on that one technique.Check out Ejaculation Guru
3. The Ejaculation Trainer
The Ejaculation Trainer was one of the original stamina training books, and a very popular one in its day. It was also one of the guides I personally followed when I first started dealing with my PE.
It has a particularly good ’emergency tactics’ mini book, which lists lots of practical techniques that can help you last a little longer right away.
The main book starts off with some comprehensive background information that gives you a good understanding of why premature ejaculation happens for many men, and what you need to do to tackle it.
The author, Matt Gordon, goes into a lot of detail regarding his main technique. It’s all about controlling the way you become aroused in the first place, and then controlling your arousal levels during sex.
And to do that, he gives you several practical exercises to help you develop a good level of self-control, and your eventual ejaculation response.
Unfortunately, it seems that Matt is no longer actively involved in maintaining the guide. He hasn’t replied to emails I sent a couple of months ago, or recent follow ups.
It’s still a useful book, as all the core information is right there. But it would be better if you could get answers to questions about the techniques from the author.Check out The Ejaculation Trainer
4. Lasting Longer
Lasting Longer is much simpler and shorter compared to the previous books. The author is a sex therapist who first wrote the book all the way back in the 1970s, and he says that his simple approach was developed through his experience of helping men in sex therapy sessions.
Like some other premature ejaculation guides, it focuses mainly on the start and stop technique. However, there’s also a good section on the role of sexual performance anxiety.
He talks a lot about the importance of changing your attitude towards your ‘performance’ and sex life in general, and I found this section very helpful.
However, I don’t really think there’s as much content as there could be, especially when compared to the amount of information and exercises in the others I’ve read.
Even though he describes his technique in depth, it left me wondering why he’d chosen to focus solely on one method and not offer more.
Overall, it’s not bad – it’s just kind of missing half the story. Maybe the approach was a revolutionary idea 40 years ago. But in the modern day and age, many men want tips which will help them straight away, and a range of different techniques to try.
And like the Ejaculation Trainer, there’s no support option with this one. Though to be fair, the main technique is described very clearly, and don’t leave much room for confusion.Check out Lasting Longer