The best way to increase your sexual stamina permanently is to learn to control your body and mind through natural techniques. A good premature ejaculation book will give you everything you need to do that as effectively and quickly as possible.
With several to choose from, it’s important to find one which strikes the right balance between tips which will immediately help and exercises to develop lasting control.
In this review, I’ll be giving you my opinion of 4 of the most popular books. They are all self-help programs and available as an instant download so you can get started straight away.
What to look for in an ejaculation control guide
Here’s what I personally expect from a good ejaculation control guide:
- Detailed background information about premature ejaculation.
- Tips to help you last longer from day one.
- A range of effective exercises and techniques to gain ejaculation control.
- Complete, detailed and step by step instructions.
- A good support option to get answers to questions.
With those criteria in mind, let’s take a look at my recommendations.
1. The Ejaculation Trainer
The Ejaculation Trainer has been around for about 10 years, and has stood the test of time as one of the most popular and effective books on premature ejaculation.
Before I started this website, it was the second program I’d tried. I followed the exercises diligently for a couple of months and had great results with them.
It took me from lasting between 1 and 5 minutes on average to over 10 minutes most times, and sometimes (though not always) much longer.
What worked for me was a combination of things. There are lots of practical tips which help you straight away (the emergency tactics mini book), along with easy to understand and comprehensive background information.
Then there are several practical exercises to help you control your arousal, erection type and ejaculation response. It was also good to have an email support option so you can get help if you need it.
My only criticism is that the author does make some bold claims about you being able to last 10-30 minutes from day one.
I think that might be possible if you already last a few minutes usually and just need some pointers for doing things differently. But if you have severe premature ejaculation, it will probably take some practice to last that length of time.
But that’s my only criticism of an otherwise excellent book. Once you put the techniques into action, you’ll find it’s a serious guide to a serious problem. It made a big difference to my sex life and confidence, so for that reason it’s still my top pick.
2. Ejaculation By Command
By the time I discovered Ejaculation by Command I’d already pretty much gotten my premature ejaculation under control. So really, this particular review is based on my current knowledge of what works or not rather than personal experience.
What I like about this book is that the author tries to make life easy for you. You’re presented with different options to suit your style: reading the whole book; following a quick start summary guide; or listening to an audio companion.
As well as giving you all the necessary background information, there are many techniques and exercises to practice, for example: arousal control and edging, correct breathing, mental focusing, tantric exercises and diet, to name just a few.
The author also put a lot of thought into how you can make this all work with your current partner. So as well as techniques to practice together, he gives you advice on satisfying them first. And this is something I now see is a key point in dealing with the difference in arousal levels.
In terms of criticisms, it’s the same as the Ejaculation Trainer in that there’s a somewhat exaggerated claim about it being guaranteed you’ll last 20 minutes straight away.
Despite that, I do think Ejaculation By Command is a good book. It’s easy to follow and understand, full of useful exercises for both you and your partner to practice.
Knowing what I know now, I imagine I would have had similar results to the Ejaculation Trainer if I’d read this one first.
3. Ejaculation Guru
The Ejaculation Guru is one of the most recent premature ejaculation books, with a heavy emphasis on using the pelvic floor muscles to control ejaculation.
Such is the author’s belief that his technique works, that he talks almost exclusively about it in the 30 minute introductory video. I did find it somewhat repetitive though, as he repeats over and over again how powerful a technique it is.
I found it confusing that on his website he describes the book as being based on a new technique, one that’s unlike the classic behavioral techniques.
But when I listened to the video and read the manual, I discovered that it is in fact the classic technique of using the pelvic floor muscles correctly during sex and at the point of no return.
Despite that, the author does a good job of explaining how to do pelvic floor exercises / kegels. There are extensive instructions, including safety advice and an exact description of how to use the muscles during sex.
I particularly liked the sections on arousal control. He rightly splits this into 2 parts – mental and physical arousal, with useful ideas to gain control.
For example, understanding your arousal scale, visualization, NLP, breathing, changing mental focus, and changing the way you have sex to control your arousal.
He also describes methods to last longer straight away, which you can use while developing the pelvic floor muscles. And you get several other useful short books, including oral sex, foreplay and erection strength guides.
Overall, I think he explains his techniques accurately and in detail. If you’re interested in kegels, this is one of the better books I’ve read about them. But if you’re looking for a more rounded approach to premature ejaculation, You might find Ejaculation Guru too focused on that one technique.
4. Lasting Longer
Lasting Longer is a cheaper and simpler alternative to the previous two books. The author is a sex therapist who first wrote it back in 1970s. And he says that his simple approach was developed through his experience of helping guys in therapy.
Like some other premature ejaculation guides, it focuses mainly on the stop-start technique, but then skips some of the other techniques.
The author says that his solution to premature ejaculation is a simple one, just not an easy one. But he then confusingly spends a lot of time describing what’s supposed to be simple.
The chapter that most impressed me is on the role of sexual performance anxiety. You can see the author’s experience as a therapist there, with helpful advice about your mental and emotional state during sex.
He talks in detail about the importance of changing your attitude towards sex, which I think could be helpful for couples whose sexual encounters end when the guy finishes.
don’t think there’s as much in this guide as there could be, especially compared to the amount of information and exercises in other books. I think that by only focusing on one main technique, it’s missing half the story.
Maybe the approach was a revolutionary idea 40 years ago. But nowadays, I think many guys want something which will help them straight away, with a wider range of techniques to try.