Kegel Exercises For Men – My Complete Guide

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. This article is based solely on my personal experience with premature ejaculation and Kegel exercises. It is intended for informational purposes only and should not be seen as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult with a healthcare provider for any medical concerns or conditions.

If you have a problem with premature ejaculation, doing kegel exercises is one of the ways you can try to develop better control during sex.

In my own experience, strengthening the pelvic floor muscles significantly increased my ability to at least temporarily hold back ejaculation.

There’s an essential point that I feel is worth mentioning right at the start: it’s just as important to learn when to do them during sex as how to practice them in your own time.

I know from my personal experience, and from the hundreds of comments and emails I get about kegels on this site, that kegels are effective – but only if done correctly.

2 key points to understand about kegels

I’m going to quickly share two key points for those that are put off by the size of this article. Even if you choose to skip all the details below, understanding the next two points should help:

  • Don’t do kegel squeezes, pumps or contractions continuously during sex. It might help to squeeze the pelvic floor muscles if you’re struggling to get an erection in the moment, but you might also find you ejaculate quicker if you keep ‘pumping’ away.
  • Only do a strong kegel hold if you feel you’re close to ejaculating and you want to try and block it. Once the feeling passes, go back to keeping the muscles relaxed during sex.

Get those two points right, and you’ve won half the battle. Now let’s take a few steps back and take a look at the why and how to do kegels.

Background information

What are Kegel exercises?

Kegel exercises are the act of intentionally tensing or relaxing the muscles of the pelvic floor, which is why they are often referred to as pelvic floor exercises.

pelvic floor muscles diagram

It’s somewhat confusing to understand, but there are three main muscles involved:

  • Pubococcygeus muscle (PC)
  • Bulbocavernosus muscle (BC)
  • Iliococcygeus muscle (IC)

Some online articles only talk about the PC muscle, but it’s actually the BC muscle at the base of your penis which is most important for ejaculation control.

At first, it may just seem like one large and weak muscle group, and that’s totally normal when you start out. In time you’ll get better at pinpointing different muscles rather than the entire pelvic floor.

How do I know if I’m using the right muscles?

Everyone knows how to flex their biceps or pecs. But tensing your PC or BC muscle isn’t something you can do in front of the mirror, and the visible results are much more subtle.

The easiest explanation is that the muscle you use is the same as the one you use when stopping yourself from urinating mid-flow.

So next time you go to the toilet, try to mentally squeeze the muscle at the base of your penis to stop the flow. If you can do it, or even just reduce the flow, you’ve found the right muscle.

If this still doesn’t make sense, there are other ways to be sure you’re using the right muscle. Take a quick look at my article about locating your pelvic floor muscles if you need to.

Aren’t there different types of kegels?

When you see my weekly plan below, you’ll notice there are different types of kegel exercises. You still use the same muscle, but just training it in different ways, for example:

  • Quick pumps or squeezes – when you contract or squeeze the muscle fast and then release. You can then do lots of these in quick succession.
  • Holds – contract the muscles and don’t let go for a certain amount of time.
  • Reverse kegels – instead of contracting, you actively relax. It’s almost like the pushing feeling you would have when squeezing out urine, or even a number two. More on that later.

When, where, how often and how many to do?

Some people say you can do as many kegels as you like. I don’t agree with that though. Yes, you can do kegels in any place you feel comfortable, though it’s best to start in a private space.

The important thing to remember is that they aren’t that different from other muscles; if you push them too hard, you can end up with tense or sore muscles.

When I first started doing kegels, I wasn’t told this and did them in vast quantities. Although I didn’t have any problems, some people have written to me saying that they did too many after reading other websites and now feel tight or sore.

For this reason it’s best to start out doing them every other day. Once you’ve built some strength and tone you can do them more often. Even then you should always rest at least 1 or 2 days a week.

And there’s no need to do thousands of them every session. You wouldn’t do that to your arms or chest, so there’s no need here either.

When do you do kegels during sex?

I see kegels as a ‘last line of defense’ to hold back ejaculation. If you feel yourself getting too aroused, or reaching the point of no return, ideally you should take some other action, like changing positions or rhythm.

If you don’t take action quickly enough, or you’re taken by surprise by your own arousal, then doing a kegel squeeze might help stop you ejaculating.

Then once your arousal subsides a little, you can rest, change positions or do whatever else you need to recover. Kegels are therefore not a single solution to premature ejaculation.

In fact, during sex you should be doing the opposite of the strong kegel hold: you should try to keep those muscles relaxed. That’s why it’s important to balance your exercise routine with reverse kegels and relaxation in general.

The key is to develop a balanced control of your pelvic floor muscles.

My kegel exercises routine

As long as you don’t overdo it, I think you can make your own routine up. The following routine comes from my personal practice and experience.

If you feel the routine is too hard, just reduce the sets and times to suit you and build up slowly. You may also find it helpful to speak to a medical profession first, especially if you have any medical conditions. Ask them if doing pelvic floor exercises will be safe for you.

Finally, in the exercises I refer to just the BC muscle, because it’s the one most involved in ejaculation control at the point of no return.

However, when starting out it’s fine to think of the whole pelvic floor as one muscle group if you struggle to isolate that muscle. Even if you’re also contracting the PC muscle, it doesn’t matter as it will help strengthen your pelvic floor as a whole.

 A) Practicing kegel exercises when flaccid

I recommend spending 2 to 3 weeks only practicing kegel exercises when flaccid. You don’t need to try them during masturbation or sex until you’ve done some groundwork.

Note: a reader asked about the word ‘squeeze’ which I use in the routine. You don’t squeeze with your hand, but you squeeze/contract/tighten the muscle using mental control.

Week 1

Do this kegel routine every other day:

  • Squeeze the BC muscle for 1 second and then release. Try to relax for a second when you release. Do this 10 times in a row.
  • Rest for 30 seconds. During this, and every other rest, try to relax the BC muscle and your whole body.
  • Do this first set 5 times. So you do 5 sets of 10 quick squeezes or pumps with 30 second rests.
  • Squeeze and hold for 5 seconds.
  • Rest for 15 seconds.
  • Repeat that step 4 more times. So you do 5 sets of 5 second holds.
  • Squeeze and hold for 10 seconds if you can.
  • Rest for 30 seconds.
  • Repeat that step twice more. So you do 3 sets of 10 second holds.

Week 2

Again, you can do this routine every other day:

  • Do a kegel hold for 1 second, 15 times in a row.
  • Rest for 20 seconds.
  • Repeat those steps 4 more times.
  • Squeeze the BC muscle for 5 seconds, followed by a 15 second rest. Then repeat 5 times.
  • Squeeze and hold for 10 seconds. Rest for 30 seconds then repeat twice.
  • Do quick 1 second kegels 30 times. Rest for 30 seconds and then repeat twice.
  • Squeeze and try to hold the kegel for 30 seconds continuously. Rest and then try again twice more. If you can’t manage 30 seconds, just hold it for as long as you can comfortably.

Week 3

As before, you can do this routine every second day. In between each of these steps you can rest for 30 seconds.

  • Perform a fast kegel squeeze, or pump, 20 times. Repeat this 3 times with a 30 second break between each set.
  • Do a strong kegel squeeze for 5 seconds, 10 times in a row. Try to relax completely for 5 seconds between each 5 second squeeze.
  • Squeeze for 10 seconds, 5 times in a row. Relax for 10 seconds in between each squeeze.
  • Squeeze and hold for 20 seconds, followed by a 10 second rest. Repeat once.
  • Squeeze and hold for 40 seconds, followed by a 20 second rest.
  • Squeeze and hold for 60 seconds, then relax completely.

Week 4 onwards

After 2 or 3 weeks of kegeling every other day, you should have a clear idea of where you’re at. If you found a particular week too difficult, you can repeat it or go back to the week before.

If you made it through and are starting to feel some control, you can get creative and mix your kegel exercise routine up. Maybe one day copy the idea of the first week, then the second practice day use the format from the third week.

You can add length of time to sets, and you can increase the number to complete during the fast ones. It’s really up to you, and muscles generally respond better to variety.

B) Doing kegel exercises with an erection

After 2 to 3 weeks of practice when flaccid you can try to do kegels with an erection once or twice a week either instead of, or as well as, the normal practice. Your main kegel routine should still be done when flaccid, even once you’ve been doing it for a long time.

You can practice similar movements as you did before, but with an erection. It’s up to you how many you do exactly and it will partly depend on your ability to maintain an erection while kegeling.

You can do a couple of sets of 10 to 30 fast pumps, followed by a couple of longer holds of 30 seconds. Then try for a minute if you can.

The main use of the strong kegel hold is stopping yourself from ejaculating during sex. And in my experience, this usually only requires a strong hold of 10 to 20 seconds, maybe a little longer sometimes.

So there’s no need to train yourself to hold it for longer than a minute. If you can do a strong hold for a minute, then you’re probably way beyond what you’d ever actually need to do.

Safety points to consider

1. If you start to feel tense or sore during or after doing kegels exercise, take time off to let your pelvic floor muscles recover.

2. If you have problems getting or maintaining an erection after you start doing kegel exercises, stop doing them. It’s probably a sign you’ve either done too much, or done them incorrectly. So rest for a week or two and see if the problem resolves.

3. Don’t hold the squeeze too tight or you could strain the muscle. It should be tight enough to engage the kegel muscles, but not so tight it takes serious effort and feels uncomfortable.

4. Don’t forget to relax in between sets. This is an important part of getting the pelvic floor muscles balanced. The aim isn’t pure muscle strength, but a balance between strength, tone, control and the ability to relax the muscles at will.

Part 3: Putting it all together

Testing out your hard work

Once you’re confident that you can hold a kegel squeeze comfortably for 30 seconds, it’s time to see if you can hold back ejaculation during masturbation.

You need to have a good understanding of where your point of no return is to be successful. If you do it too early or too late then it won’t work. This can take some practice!

The idea is not to simply keep going whilst holding a kegel and hope you don’t ejaculate. Instead, you should build yourself up to the point where you would ejaculate if you didn’t do the kegel squeezing motion.

As you reach that point, stop what you’re doing and do a kegel squeeze until your arousal level drops down. Getting the timing right is half of the battle; no matter how well trained your muscles are, if you time it wrong, it won’t work.

And then of course if you have a partner, you can try it with them. It may help to ask them to work with you to start with. If you’ve done the start and stop method together already, then this is just another tool to add to that. If you haven’t, I recommend starting now.

What about advanced and reverse kegels?

Some websites and guides say that you should work on isolating those various pelvic floor muscles with advanced kegel exercises.

My personal opinion is that there’s no need to stress about developing a perfect ability to isolate them. As long as you’re doing your kegel holds with the same muscle you use to stop yourself peeing, you’ll be fine.

Reverse Kegels are arguably more important to learn. The main concept is that keeping the pelvic floor muscles relaxed during sex is better than tensing them endlessly. And reverse kegels can be a very effective way of helping you achieve that relaxation.

In my experience, reverse kegels are considerably harder to master than normal kegels. But I’ve had some great success when doing them during sex to help keep my arousal level in check.


  1. Great article! Thanks for sharing, Ethan. I’m working on getting stronger erections and stronger ejaculations. Edging and building up the energy over a period of time (usually about 30-60 minutes for me) is helping, and by incorporating the Kegel exercises that you have laid out will hopefully make my masturbation sessions, and sex with my partners, even more pleasurable. Happy Kegeling 😊

  2. Hi Ethan,

    First of all, man tks so much for such organized, trustable and clear content you have put together about PE. Not easy at all to find something over the internet and most of the websites are really shitty and untrusted.

    I’ve dealt with PE since I remember and not easy to fix it and feel confident about sex, but hopefully I get there… Regarding kegel, I’ve tried some times and I believe I have strong control, however, sometimes I used over sex, but some times have this experience.

    Eventually, I go way over the point of no return, ejaculate a little bit (not at all, so I can continue with an erection), but I continue very aroused and need to stop and wait… Should I try to find better timing on that?! I mean, using start and stop method + kegel, should I avoid any partial ejaculation and stop a bit before?!

    It really happens to me overtraining or sex this partial ejaculation. I think I’m missing this point of no return. The problem is that after this partial ejaculation, sometimes I lost hardness in the erection. Do you suggest to avoid partial ejaculation over this process?! Have you experienced something similar?

    Cheers mate!

    • Hi Rober
      You’re welcome! It’s good to know the site was helpful. It does seem like you are waiting until too late to stop. I would definitely experiment with stopping sooner, or at least changing what you’re doing. Sometimes a position change, speed or rhythm can help to cool down and reset the clock.

    • Hello!
      I found this guide and it’s really informational! However, I have a question regarding this and reverse kegels. Should I only start doing reverse kegels after mastering the regular ones? Like once I’m done with the 2 to 3 weeks of practice and testing with an erection, do I then go ahead and start the reverse ones? Or do I start them now along with the normal ones?
      Thank you and many regards

  3. Hi Ethan,

    Great article! But I’m still a bit confused about using kegels during sex. Am I right saying you should try to relax as much as possible during sex, so doing reverse kegels. And when you’ve reached the point of no return, doing a strong kegel is a way to not ejaculate? When I do so, I still have the climax feeling and sometimes my erection goes away. Am I too late with my kegel in that situation?

    • Hi Tom
      That’s pretty much it, yes. Except the reverse kegel isn’t strictly necessary. If you can just stay relatively relaxed and not be pumping kegels, that’s fine too. You might be too late yes, especially if you ejaculate. I would switch positions, change the speed/rhythm or switch to oral etc sooner.

  4. Hi Ethan,

    Do I really have to rest every other day? So say, in a week, I will only do the excercises 4 times?

    Also, is there a certain time in the progression where I can already start practicing it in masturbation?

    Great guide btw.


    • Hi Ryan
      Thanks, glad it was useful!
      To be honest, I think it’s a personal choice. I practiced them more regularly, but started to give that advice to take breaks following repeated comments and questions about getting tightening of the area. I also think it makes sense following normal muscle training guidance. Very few people go the gym every single day to train the same muscle group, for example. Rest days are important.

  5. thank you for the article…I have been doing kegels now three times a day…hold for ten seconds relax for ten seconds three sets during the day of ten

    I sit on the toilet and relax and find an erection starts and then proceed with exercise…I notice it feels good when doing the exercise….is this on the right track? I was having trouble with leakage and running to the bathroom constantly…now it is beginning to subside. I’m hoping this will help with the problem….also I am doing lying on bed bring up legs up and opening and close for 9 sets…40 sec in between…I am doing now three working up for more…what do you think…

    Thanks again…Paul

    • Hi Paul
      I think it’s fine that it feels good – that can definitely be the case. I can’t remember where I read it, but I think it’s better not to do it sitting on the toilet – it’s better lying down, or sitting on a softer surface without putting strain on the muscles down there that happens on the toilet. I’m not entirely sure where I heard that though, so it’s your choice!
      As for the sets, I think it’s not an exact science, but I wouldn’t get carried away and do too many. You want to avoid overtraining the muscles or straining them too much.

  6. Hi Ethan,
    Is there would be any problem if we hold and release our ejaculation for multiple times of no point return during sex or masturbation?

    • I don’t think so. If you can keep playing around with the point of no return, that’s fine as far as I am aware. But I personally think it’s a nice reward to actually allow yourself to orgasm at the end. Some people say it’s good to hold that energy and not come at all. But I think life is too short to restrict yourself that way!

  7. Great article thanks a lot :)

    wondered if you may of heard of the fella Mantak Chia who promotes the use of PC muscle control to support men having multiple dry orgasms during sex. you didnt mention orgasms during the PONR kegel hold. might you have an opinion on this? thanks duude

    • Hi there
      Thank you- glad you liked it. I have heard of him, but haven’t looked too deeply into his ideas. I will check him out again though. As for multiple orgasms, I do think it’s possible with the right timing of the right muscles.

  8. Hi,
    Great article, thank you.
    I noticed something when practicing reverse kegels during masturbation that seems to be involved in my inability to keep the bc relaxed…
    As soon as i touch the tip of my penis, when really aroused, the bc contracts automatically, like a reflex…any advise on how to maintain it relaxed?

    • Hi T
      You’re welcome! To be honest, I’m really not sure what you could do to change that. I’d just say to keep practicing really. Perhaps use lubricant to see if the reflex is because of friction or sensitivity?

  9. Ethan, thanks very much for the very thorough information. I am a 60 year old man who is hoping that kegels will help with my issue which is not premature ejaculation. I have almost no ejaculate when I orgasm. I have also occasionally had an issue with dribbling on the way to urinate, especially if I wait too long. Is doing kegels likely to help me with these things?

    • So what’s happened is I’ve done too many kegals and now my bc muscles are in a constant state of tension, so even when I masturbate it’s continuously clenched and this causes ejaculation way too early. Any thoughts on how I can solve this issue?

      • To be honest, it’s not something I’m an expert in undoing. I know there is advice online about relaxing tense pelvic floors, so I would search for that. My viw would be to learn to do reverse kegels, and also focus on relaxation in general. But yeah, have a look for physiotherapists who talk online about this specific issue.

  10. Hi Ethan,

    What do you think about the bridge exercise? Is it worth doing? If so, how many repetitions do you recommend?

    Thank for the great article.

    • Hi Carl
      Glad you liked the article. I’m a big fan of yoga, so I’d say any exercise which can strengthen the pelvic floor is worth doing. That’s actually a great point, and something I should add to the site – thanks!

  11. Hey! I love your routine, I’ve been doing it for a while, I’m good at reverse Kegels as well, I even went a little bit further so I can even hold the squeeze for more than a minute, so my question is, I usually train 3 days a week every other day (m/t/f) as you recommend, but I want to know if I can or should be doing this more times a week, maybe 5 days a week and rest on weekend? Thanks for the awesome guide btw, and for keeping the q&a active (:

    • Hi Antonio
      Thanks for the comment – it’s always uplifting to know readers appreciate the article and endless comments!
      Personally, I would just stick with fewer days. Men do sometimes have issues because of doing too much kegels, so my opinion is to take it easy and just build the control slowly but surely.

        • Hi Antonio
          You’re welcome! I don’t have a guide about jelqing, sorry. I’m hesitant to write about it because after all the research and personal testing I’ve done for penis enlargement, it just doesn’t seem like there’s a guaranteed successful technique – including jelqing. From what I can tell, it’s unlikely to cause much harm, but I’m more into helping men accept the way they are than spend months bashing their own penis abut in the hope it grows a cm!

  12. Hi
    Why I should not train Kegels and reverse Kegels during erection?
    I will use Kegels during erection (sex). That’s why I think train Kegels during erection.
    Please explain

    • Hi Rafal
      In the article, I recommend starting with flaccid practice and then moving on to erect practice. Personally, I just think it’s safer to build the muscles when flaccid to start with.

    • Hi M
      Yes, at the most. I think it’s good to have rest days during the week – just like any other muscles of the body that you are training. I don’t think it’s necessary, or healthy, to do them multiple times per day.

  13. Hi Ethan, very good article.. any suggestions as far as an erected kegel routine goes ? Any clues on how to keep the erection during the exercise.


    • Hi Paul
      Thanks! Personally, I don’t think there’s a need to do an erected routine. When erect, it’s time to practice the actual technique in the moment, either when masturbating or having sex. I’d leave the actual muscle training part for flaccid times.

  14. I plan on starting Kegels exercises this week and I want to know if ejaculation or having sex affects it. In the same sense that if I did leg day at the gym I wouldn’t go hiking right afterward, or even the next 1-2 days.

    • Hi C
      No, I don’t think it’s an issue – at least not that I’ve heard of. But if you do start feeling any soreness or tightness in the area, just go easy on the kegels.

  15. Very nice article, thanks for the help! – One question for you:

    For me, it’s very hard to isolate the pelvic floor muscle. The two ways I’ve heard of contracting it is by holding back pee and holding back a fart. I can do both, but only when it’s actually happening. So, for me, I’ve been able to consistently do it on the toilet after I poop.

    Is this actually targeting the pelvic floor muscle that adheres to these premature ejaculation benefits? Because both methods feel kind of different, I hope I’m not just doing this hold my poop in all for no reason.

    • Hi there
      Nice to know you liked the article!
      I think it’s a good idea not to keep practicing on the toilet. It’s only good to do that a couple of times to get an idea of the muscles. When you practice, it’s better done sitting somewhere comfortable or lying on the bed.
      And I would focus more on the same muscles used for holding back pee.

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