How To Give A Woman Oral Sex: Master The Art Of Oral

Oral sex can be an exciting part of foreplay and an intense sexual experience that many women enjoy. It’s also a great way for men with premature ejaculation to extend lovemaking and give themselves some time out when they feel close to climaxing.

The best news is that it’s not so hard to improve your technique. All you really need to do is try out new movements and observe how your particular partner reacts.

In this article, I’ll share some of the best techniques I’ve found over the years, and I’ll also explain how you can learn what works best for your own partner.

Everyone is different

A key point to keep in mind is that all women are different. What works for one might not work for another, and what worked last night might not work tonight.

Where does that leave you? With a lot of experimenting to do or the courage to simply ask her to tell you what she likes.

When testing the water, try different movements, patterns, positions, speeds, and rhythms. Mix things up until you have a good repertoire of techniques that you feel comfortable with and seem to work well.

Your ability to respond to her feedback is arguably just as important as your initial experience and skill with your tongue. Listen and pay attention, and if what you’re doing isn’t getting the right sighs and moans, don’t get disheartened – just move on and try something else.

image of a man kissing a woman on a bed erotically

Don’t skip or rush oral sex

It can be tempting to skip oral sex or only do it for a couple of minutes. This isn’t ideal though; a generous lover shows a partner that their pleasure is important.

Spending a good amount of time on oral should also help raise her arousal level and increase the chance that she enjoys your lovemaking as much as you do.

How long do you need to do it for? That depends on the woman (and perhaps how flexible your neck is!)

Until she orgasms would be good, but she might ask you to stop before then, or orgasm simply might not happen (which is fine). At the very least, you’ll probably want to continue until she seems to be getting very turned on.

Start out slowly

image of a man kissnig a woman's neck sensually

A classic mistake with oral sex is to dive in with your tongue pressing hard on her clitoris and/or flicking away at lightning speed. This can be uncomfortable for the woman and takes away the fun of the build-up.

You need to start out slowly. In fact, start out by steering clear of her vagina. Kiss her lips, neck, breasts, and the inside of her thighs. Make her wait for the real action. There’s a lot to be said for anticipation, and it can be fun for you to make her wait for it…and really, really want it.

When you do finally get down there, avoid the clitoris for a while, licking around it rather than touching it.

When you do get to the clitoris, start slowly. Caress it gently with the soft top side of your tongue (not the hard tip) and only slowly start to add more pressure to your movements.

You want to tease to please. This will do much more to turn her on than just getting straight down to business.

Get creative with your tongue

diagram showing the vagina anatomy

The flat surface on top of your tongue is soft and flexible, whilst the tip is harder and can exert more pressure. Try using the full, top part of your tongue at first, maybe moving to the tip later – if she likes that.

Keep your tongue flat and soft, and lick up from the bottom of the labia to the clitoris at the beginning. If she enjoys that, you can eventually move on.

Move your tongue in an up and down motion, or side to side. Whatever you choose to do, spend some time on each movement in a constant rhythm. Start slow, build steadily, and allow some time to see how she reacts to each movement and repeated rhythm.

Vary your movements

It pays to be observant, so keep track of which movements elicit moans of pleasure, and stick with the ones that do, at least for a while.

A classic trick to discover new movements is to spell out the alphabet with your tongue around the entire area. This means large, flowing, and artful calligraphy – not tiny letters with a fine-tipped pen!

When you find a letter, or part of a letter, that makes her moan, experiment with that letter a bit more. Alternatively, finish the alphabet and then go back to the letter movements that she seemed to like most.

You need to keep that rhythm going, but start to gradually speed up and press harder as she moans louder. Remember, gradually means over the course of several minutes, not seconds.

Don’t neglect the rest of her genitals either – it’s not all about the clitoris. Many women have a sensitive patch just to one side of the clitoris, for example. Lick there and see what reaction you get.

Get comfortable

If you’re planning on spending a decent amount of time giving her oral sex, there are two issues that can crop up, both around your comfort.

The first is neck ache, which can be handled by switching positions. Having her sit on a couch or the side of the bed with you between her legs can work. Alternatively, try putting a pillow under her bum to raise the area slightly.

Secondly, there’s tongue ache. If your tongue starts to get tired, gently suck her clitoris or kiss around the vaginal area instead. After a couple of seconds, you can go back to licking.

Unless your neck is hurting or you have a preexisting condition, it’s worth putting up with a bit of discomfort. She probably does the same for you!

Use your hands

If you’re in the right position, you can simultaneously caress her body with your hands while your tongue is busy.

The breasts, inner thighs, and backs of the knees are all erogenous zones, so stroking them will make her feel great.

You can also use her hands to spread her labia, giving you better access. Try pushing up the hood of the clitoris to reach the more sensitive part with your tongue (this is a technique for later, not right at the beginning).

Alternatively, you can penetrate her with your fingers. If you’re going down the penetration route, there are a couple of options. Try inserting one or two fingers and making a ‘come here’ motion to stimulate her G-spot.

You could also let your fingers linger and stroke around her entrance to take advantage of the massive amount of nerves there. Both are good, and a combination is even better.

Don’t insert any fingers until she’s lubricated and turned on though.

Experiment with different positions

suggestive image of a man about to give a woman oral sex

There are many positions that work for oral sex. From lying down to sitting up, 69, or even sideways (resting your head on her inner thigh helps deal with neck ache).

Try different positions to find out which ones work best for you and your partner. And try not to get stuck in a pattern of repeating the same step-by-step routine every time you have sex or some of the anticipation and excitement will slowly wane.

Having said that, try not to switch positions if you’re already going down on her and she’s enjoying it. If you do, you might break the flow and make it more difficult for her to reach orgasm.

And despite what I said, once you do find a magic formula for your partner (if it exists), there’s no need to reinvent the entire wheel if you know what gives her earth-shattering orgasms.

Sure, add a few fun variations in the form of details, but don’t deny her the oral orgasm she loves in the name of endless experimentation.

Discover what works and don’t stop

I’m repeating myself, but this is such an important point: pay attention to her feedback. Listen out for her moans and sighs so you can slowly build a picture of exactly what she enjoys most.

When you get the signals that she’s turned on and getting close to orgasm, keep doing exactly what you’re doing.

Look out for heavy breathing, moaning, an increase in her lubrication, grinding or pulsing, tightly gripping your hair, head, bedding or whatever she can reach!

Don’t stop, don’t change anything, just keep going. When she says “yes” she means “keep doing that and don’t stop.”

Leave your experimenting and playing around for the beginning and middle of your oral sex. Once you reach the point where she’s seriously turned on, any kind of variation (position, movement, pattern) might interrupt her concentration.

Knowing when she’s really into what you’re doing and is on the path to orgasm is something that takes time and experience with a new partner. But you’ll eventually learn when she hits the sweet spot of just needing you to carry on with the exact same rhythm until she reaches orgasm.

That might be 30 seconds before, a minute, or several minutes. As I said at the start, all women are different.

Don’t stress if she doesn’t climax

On a final note, don’t be upset if she doesn’t climax when you give her oral sex. It’s important not to get stuck in a vicious cycle of questioning why she doesn’t come.

Keep working on it, but don’t create any drama around the issue. Not all women will orgasm with oral, but it doesn’t mean it’s not an amazing experience that they enjoy before, during, or after penetrative sex.

For men with premature ejaculation

When I first started having sex, the idea of pulling out during sex and giving my partner oral for a while was always a bit strange to me, so I didn’t do it much.

With time and experience, however, I’ve come to learn that this is actually a good way to deal with premature ejaculation and extend your lovemaking session.

Ideally, you don’t want to pull out just as you’re on the verge of orgasm, give her oral for a minute or two and then go back to it because you might find you’re still too close to ejaculating. Learn to stop before you’re at the point of no return, and then switch to oral sex for a bit.

Again, some experimenting is probably needed to make it work for you and your partner. But I do recommend trying this if you struggle with how long you typically last during sex.

393 Comments

  1. Hey, my fiancee has recently told me that she likes me going down on her sometimes, but she is grossed out by spit. She doesn’t like wet kisses on her lips (The ones on her face, lol) and usually wipes those off, so I believe her that she is not a fan of the spit side of oral.

    She said she’s able to ignore it sometimes, but other times it just grosses her out. Any suggestions?

    • Hi CBH
      Yes, just don’t make her feel that there is any spit getting involved in your oral! There’s no need to spit or salivate on her when doing it, and even if some inevitably comes out of your mouth, she doesn’t have to know about it. So try the oral, but try and not do anything or make noises that makes her think spit is involved.
      Ethan

    • Giving cunnilingus is all a matter of using your tongue, lips and mouth to pleasure her down there. Let you tongue glide over her vaginal lips, don’t ignore the clitoris, and work your way inside her vaginal walls. Once you have settled on a nice, steady rhythm, keep the pressure up – and at this point, you need to pay attention to what her body is telling you. Does she like you to go harder or faster? Following the pace that she wants, don’t go lax on the pressure and simply keep on doing what you’re doing. You’ll know that she has reached the big ‘O’ when her pupils dilate, and when her vaginal lips go flex tightly and then go lax.

  2. Oh my life!
    This arrival has made my day! I’m a 23yo lesbian and obviously love giving oral! I’ve read slot about oral sex in my younger days when I wasn’t sure what went where, this has got to be the best one yet! If you guys want some advice I’d say
    1: make your girl relaxed and comfortable. Some girls are so self conscious they struggle with being naked. Offer a blanket or to keep to shirt on? She will respect you for it, trust me!
    2: get your girl positioned right. If you place a pillow under her bum, it will push her up and give you an easier job, also it will be more pleasurable for her as it changes inside the vagina and gives her more control. Also, keep her knees apart, not to much so it strains her hips just enough to give you more room, this also opens up the labia making her feel even more!
    3:always be moving. Try and constantly move your tounge, up and down, side to side. Be gental and careful to start, as you feel her feeling more pleasure, increase the pressure and speed. But remember, it’s a vagina, not and ice cream!
    4: don’t forget about your hands! When you can feel her hips moving, her breathing increasing, slip a finger in, (sorry for the crudeness), as I said in #1 the vaginal walls change possison and should make her feel different, you don’t have to move it, just your finger by being there will increase pleasure.
    5: feel the vibrations. If you have a small vibrator use it! Don’t over power your tounge, use it more as an teaser than a toy.
    6: be kind. This last one doesn’t apply to all females but after my experiences (which there has been many) after oral and climax, go back up to the top of the bed, get comfy, and just hold her. Make her feel loved and cared for. No words have to be spoken.

    Giving oral to a female isn’t about the end game, it’s about making her feel good. It could 5 minuets, maybe 25, but she’ll feel great after!

    Thanks for reading (if you did) sorry if it’s crude or anything.

    Jay x

    Ps, sorry if I’m just repeating the artical, like I said, I’ve read a lot..

    • Hi Jay
      Thanks for your comment and compliment anout the article. It’s very interesting to hear from you and get your ideas. I totally agree with everything you said, so hopefully your words will help some guys (and girls too maybe) give even better oral sex.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • Thx you know I’m a virgin but ik a lot about the woman’s anatomy and sex it’s just that I’m soon to be married and I never read anything with oral thx

        • Hi Stephen
          Ah ok, well I recommend reading up on oral sex. Your soon-to-be wife will be eternally grateful if you’re good at it!
          Best of luck for the wedding!
          Ethan

    • Hey Jay,

      Really helpful article, there are plenty of articles on net but its always good to get advice on the personal level (not that the articles on net are trivial). I was looking this on net because this is first time i will be trying it out. Glad there are people out there who are interested in sharing their knowledge & helping guys like me.

      PS: Hope i can read more from you

  4. What do you mean when you say ,spell the alphabet with my tongue? I found this very helpful for someone who has never done oral

    • Imagine the whole vaginal area lips, entrance and clitoris are a piece of paper and your tongue is a paint brush. Now draw each letter of the alphabet on your canvas, keeping your tongue soft, nor hard and pointy, linking the letters on the spot when you can, or lifting your tongue to start the next letter if you want to. The idea is that it forces you to stimulate the whole area instead of just flicking away at the clitoris, which many women find just too sensitive, especially at the start.
      Does that help?

  5. I am 16, i gave oral for the first time recently. And she said it was very good but i believe that now. I will try new things since im not so nervous now

  6. Hi there… wow wht great tips here…
    My girl doesn’t want penetration . am allowed to do everything else except enter her. Not even with fingers. She wants me to make her orgasm without entering her in any way. Any suggestions, besides tongue flicking /sliding penis on her clit/finger massaging her clit?

    • Hi again,
      Are you sure that your female friends will be interested in having sexual relations with you, regardless of whether it’s oral sex or even just kissing?
      Ethan

        • If you don’t get them wet first with foreplay, or if you have a very large penis, or go too hard and deep, especially at first, then yes it can hurt. My advice would be to soend loads of time on foreplay. And by that I mean 20 minutes or more, not a quick 5 minute finger or oral and then penetration. Make her lie back, kiss her whole body, give her oral until she is dripping wet. Then have sex.
          Regards
          Ethan

  8. I am 17 now and want to give some girl an oral sex but…..I don’t know how to approach…almost every girl like to be given oral ….but why do they shy in admitting that………….sorry for my bad english

    • Hi Josh
      If you have a girlfriend or partner, then it should be something which comes about naturally during foreplay. You don’t need to ask her permission to do it if you’re already at the stage of being naked and sexual together. You just kiss her, work your way down her body slowly, kissing every inch of her body, then down her legs, then slowly position yourself in between her legs and eventually give her oral. It should be something natural, with a good transition from whatever you were doing before. If you spend lots of time kissing and enjoying her body, it will give her time to relax and get used to the idea that you’re maybe going to give her oral.
      Ethan

  9. 86 years old healthy with no problems. Oral is all I can give and believe me its real fun. My last orgasm was about a year ago. Cant go anymore. Guess thats it for me, but believe me, my tongue still works just fine and I love it. Kinda hard trying to find someone but when I do, WOW

    • Hi Bill
      Thanks for your comment. Yes, unfortunately that fate awaits all of us guys! But good work for still finding ways to enjoy yourself. You’re an inspiration!
      Regards
      Ethan

  10. I have to admit I have performed oral on a lot of women. I love it and would rather do that than receive or even have sex. And in my experience all women are different in how they like this to be done. The trouble arises when a woman is unwilling to communicate to you what exactly she needs. Yes, I can experiment but why do women have such a hard time just telling you? I guess the old “if you loved me you would know how to please me” thing is still going on.
    One of my most erotic relationships was with a married woman who’s husband was unwilling to do this for her. I met her in a bar, she was with girlfriends and I overheard her complaining that husband never went down on her and she so missed that.
    Later I asked her to dance and admitted I had overheard her and offered my “services” with no expectations of anything else. I guess she was drunk enough to not call me a pervert and walk away.
    I did hear the table of her friends break out in laughter after I walked away. I assumed that constituted a no. I never expected her to say yes anyway. However later in the night she came up to me and asked if my offer was still on the table.
    We went out to my car and I performed oral on her. I knew she had an orgasm by the change in taste and the flow and of course by her heavy breathing and her saying “oh #### yes, oh #### yes several times”
    She got up and left after I gave her my number. A week later she called and came over. She told me her sex life with her husband was great, often and satisfying except that it lacked oral from him.
    This started a year long off and on thing. I never had sex with her, never kissed her, never touched her breasts. Usually she would stop by sit down and receive for about half an hour. She would immediately get up and leave after saying thank you. She stopped when she became pregnant. I miss doing this and would like to find a woman again for this but women are not like men, lots of guys would love to find a woman who would give them oral only.
    Does anyone think women will evolve enough someday to be able to just take like this from a man?

    • Hi Don

      Thanks for your comment. And wow, what a comment! I can’t help but think, without sounding rude, that she was using you. But I guess if you enjoyed it too, then perhaps not. I can’t say I’ve ever heard of a situation like this before though! As to whether all women will evolve to want this, I’m not sure many women would agree with the word evolve being used to describe what this would be haha.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • OMG Don you are the man!!! i LOVE oral, and if a guy wont do it to me every time I will dump his ars. That married woman was a lucky gal..!! had her cake and ate it too.. Not that i believe in infidelity, but you are a women’s dream who loves oral. Sounds like you must know what you’re doing!! kudo’s to you!

    • how about instead of licking the alphabet she just wants umlaut, umlaut, and then more umlaut…and then the CHINESE alphabet? night-lite on for all that that with me, how do you even introduce high- speed hypervacuuum suctioning her clit…oh, yeah..the orgasm wiggle… she’s already a fan….

  11. I have my 35 year old boy friend, he’s a good lover but I’m not going to lie sometimes its difficult for me to climax when he’s down there. Is it offensive for men for us to explain how it should be done. I don’t want to make him feel bad but I would love to climax more often. What should I do?

    • Hi Maribel
      Not at all! In fact, most guys generally welcome a bit of education as we’re usually quite anxious about pleasing our partner. Most guys, anyway. So if he’s generally the considerate type and not all macho, then he’ll probably be happy for some tips. And even if he isn’t, it’s still probably worth telling him if he hasn’t been able to work it out himself yet. Maybe you could start the ball rolling by asking him to tell you exactly how he likes you to give him oral. Then hopefully when its your turn, he might ask you too.
      Ethan

    • As a man I encourage you to tell him exactly what you want. How you want it how fast where the more details the better.

  12. Hi i have a question, from my experience women in older age 55+ seems to me enjoy more oral sex then younger why is that??

    • Hi Joseph,
      I’ve never been with a woman in that age band so I can’t really say. But in my experience, women as they get older tend to have higher expectations of what is enjoyable sex, men too. Perhaps that’s one reason why.
      Ethan

  13. hi I just need a little information some time after the Christmas holidays am meeting up with my girl friend am 58 yo she is 56yo we are both in love but we are going to doing oral sex me on her and she on me Im just a bit concern about this Iv never done this ever so it’s going to be my first time I have condoms here and 2 tubes of lubricate y girl friend has been marred but now she is divorced I just need some information about this and what should I do

    • Hi Philip
      Well, to be honest, there’s a huge amount of information in the article and the comments. My advice would be to try and relax and let nature take its course. Just go slow, enjoy the time together and spend time kissing around her body before you get started on the oral. Then just follow the tips here and experiment. And of course, ask her what she likes.
      Above all have fun and enjoy it!
      Ethan

  14. My lovely wife of 19 years just doesn’t like me to do this when I have convinced her to try in the past she is so sensitive around or on her clit she can’t stand it and pushes me away but I feel she is missing out? She is multi orgasmic with a vibrator either side of her clit but never from penetrative sex. Having read these comments I will try again. Can I ask ladies does the clit start very sensitive and then ease off a little allowing direct contact? Am I hitting it too early on

    • Hi
      Yes, it most definitely starts off more sensitive. I would put your attention to the areas around the clit for a good amount of time, and only move on to touch the clit when you feel she is very aroused. And even then, just use the flat surface of your tongue at first and keep it soft and gentle. If you just go straight in and start flicking it with your tongue, she’s not going to appreciate it if she’s sensitive.
      But the main thing is if she doesn’t enjoy it, either don’t do it, or ask her what she would prefer you to do down there. She’s ultimately the expert when it comes to what feels good or not.
      Regards
      Ethan

    • Try using your tongue to spell the alphabet on her genitals. This works surprisingly well as your tongue is always moving in different directions. Learn her favorite letters and the orders that work the best!A good lover’s hands never stop moving, so keep exploring, insert a finger, or massage her thighs while you perform.You can also try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed or blown to add extra stimulation.Having a mint in your mouth while you are performing cunnilingus can also improve your results. The mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance.

      • Mitchell you have the right ideas !! I think you didn’t need this article and some lucky girl will have a lot of fun with you. Read your comments and started to wish for a guy would do this for me !! You said a key thing ….. “a good lovers hands will never stop moving” ….. I think this article mentioned that women like the build up and touch sensitive ……… this is called being sensual and is most womens … dream!

        • Hi Margaret
          Thanks for your comment. You’re right in that some girl will be lucky! It’s always good to hear from a woman who can share her point of view in the comments here, and let the guys know what works or not.
          Ethan

    • Yes u are read that part of the article go down her body slow her lips her neck even her back the middle of our stomach when I get down there that’s when u get off the straight line and go to the side under the clit n the inside of thighs slightly nibble or lick or even a little sucking while Ur lips are attacked suck while moving up n down her inner things start moving closer to her lips lick or suck up and down open her up a little start lower that the clit even lick inside her just a little move extra slow with her as u approach it try the sides first be very slow n make sure Ur tongue is aofy not pointed n hard lick across the hood just barley touching her clit super slow this may work n take about 5-10 min to work down to her clit don’t spend to much time there unless she’s loving it or it will ruin it move back down wet Ur fingers n massage were she can tolerate with Ur hand while licking everywhere else this may be an alternative that will work for her n she will b so amazed

  15. Tried this on 5 different women in 2 weeks and they all multi orgasmed very hard. Ages were 24 to 43.

    They are all asking for more. Love it.

  16. Can u help? I come just the moment I penetrate which makes me feel terribly bad and don’t ever want to have sex, I have tried different viagra they never worked they only leave me with severe headache that last a minimum of 5 days I am just 33years old married with children but I want to enjoy sex. Pls help

    • Hi Zac
      Thanks for your comment. Viagra isn’t really the best solution for premature ejaculation. Sure, in some ways it makes sense that if you ejaculate and still stay hard, you can go again and again. But it somehow doesn’t work that way for one reason or another. If you get severe headaches too, then it’s clearly not for you.
      My advice would be to start at the homepage of this website where I talk about the two main paths – delays sprays and natural techniques. My personal preference is for natural techniques, but you can do both on a temporary basis until you learn more about the problem.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • get your wife to give you oral before you penetrate and that can help you last longer, or even drink water and wait until it feels like you have to go and instead get an erection, the need to release your bladder will help with pre-ejaculation.

  19. My gorgeous sexy boyfriend did Wayne’s vacuum tip on me and made me come like a bloody train. Choo choo!!

    Amazing!! I even congratulated him after as this was the first time in many years I have orgasmed from oral. He will be def doing this every time I see him.. I can’t get enough as it is..

    Def going to marry him now.

    Cheers palsy! Wayne you’re the man.

    • Hi lover of Henry hoovers

      What a great name just to start with! I’m glad your man mastered Wayne’s magic technique. It’s always good to hear from a woman who has experienced some of the ideas here first hand and can support their efficacy.
      Long may it continue!
      Ethan

    • Can the vacuum technique be explained please? I read Waynes comment about it, but I’m not sure I get all of it. I would, like to have it explained a little more in detail. I have read where this technique is working well for plenty of girls and I really want to have my husband give it a try. I have only had one orgasm during oral sex and would really like to change that. Thanks

      • Hi Cindy

        To be honest I’ve been trying out his technique as well, with mixed effects! I’d also be grateful of a more detailed explanation. But that all depends on whether the Don (Wayne) is still following this thread and fees like responding…

        Regards
        Ethan

    • Omg, that’s what it is. I had no idea but when I read vacuum tip I was thinking “That’s it!” I didn’t know how to explain it but it slingshots me to orgasm in no time! It’s like he’s sucking on my C but allowing air to pass between each successive suck. It’s sort of like if you were to take the house part of the vacuum cleaner to a soft couch(something that can be easily sucked in the vacuum). You don’t just drag it across the couch, you keep pulling it away slightly and replacing it allowing the vacuum to suck in air between each replacement. The vacuum makes the sound of like wee-oooo weee-oooo weee-oooo when you do it.

      This is particularly effective, at least for me, when he does the a tiny bit lower than the tip of my C, like on the shafty part of it. OMG you will love it.

      Obviously do not less with that guys. She has to be aroused for it not to seem ridiculous.

    • Omg, that’s what it is. I had no idea but when I read vacuum tip I was thinking “That’s it!” I didn’t know how to explain it but it slingshots me to orgasm in no time! It’s like he’s sucking on my C but allowing air to pass between each successive suck. It’s sort of like if you were to take the hose part of the vacuum cleaner to a soft couch(something that can be easily sucked in the vacuum). You don’t just drag it across the couch, you keep pulling it away slightly and replacing it allowing the vacuum to suck in air between each replacement. The vacuum makes the sound of like wee-oooo weee-oooo weee-oooo when you do it.

      This is particularly effective, at least for me, when he does it a tiny bit lower than the tip of my C, like on the shafty part of it. OMG ladies you will love it. I am almost guaranteed to ejaculate when this happens. Not everyone can do that so don’t expect it.

      Obviously do not lead with that either guys. She has to be aroused for it not to seem ridiculous.

  20. Hi, very informative. Am from Asian country and lot of myths n taboo here. It’s been 8 years of marriage and we could not smooch properly. I try to suck vagina, same is not offered and I offered penis to suck, but it was not accepted.
    How can break the jinx? Is it a good idea to watch a porn movie together? Or can u suggest some stuff where visually it can be demonstrated?
    However I have a maid, as a last option, I would have to sucks hers if did not work with the wife .
    It can u suggest ways To seduce so I can get what been meant for me

    • Hi Jugnu
      Some women just don’t enjoy or find it comfortable to engage in oral sex. And if you try to force it, it can make them even less likely to do it. I would suggest the best thing is to talk to her openly about what she likes and doesn’t like in bed. You might find some answers there. About the maid…well, I think maybe working on your sex life with your wife is a better idea!
      Ethan

    • Hi Ethan , firstly thank you .
      We started talking and things getting better .
      In blue light , I given body to body oil massage to her while watching very erotic movies , specially with oral sex…. I had taste of honey pot at g spot however mine asset is still waiting to be wet with her tongue ….. It’s really unquanchable thrust . Can you suggest how can I make her agreed or seduce to give oral job . It’s an urgency in deed .

      • Hi Jugnu

        You’re welcome. To be honest, some women really don’t like giving oral for personal reasons. The only thing you can do is find a moment outside of sex when you’re both feeling comfortable, talking and happy together. Bring up the topic of sex, and ask her if she finds it difficult to do. Hopefully she’ll give you an answer and maybe if you’re lucky an explanation. But you may also just have to accept that she won’t do it. It’s a shame as my personal opinion is that oral sex is something to be shared. But I’ve known women who have had bad experiences in the past and just can’t face doing it for example. And I had to respect that.
        Regards
        Ethan

  21. Many of these techniques got her stimulated but I think her favorite had to be sucking on the clitoris, she went insane when I told her what I had in mind but when I actually did it she melted

  22. Great stuff! thanks for the article and wayne’s subsequent comment! I’d like to think im pretty alright under the covers, but I feel as though these tips will really make a difference and make a good night into a great one! thank you :)

    • Hi
      Thanks for the comment, and I’m glad you found the article helpful. As ever, Wayne’s comment is the star attraction:-) I’m glad you think it’ll help.
      Regards
      Ethan

  23. My wife likes me alternate between my tongue and her ladyfinger vibrator. So I lie between her legs and I’ve got a great view to vibe her clitoris and then follow up with my tongue. A typical session will see her cum between ten and twenty times until she begs me to stop. Sometimes I keep going with my tongue, and other times the ladyfinger takes over. We both love doing this as a prelude to her going down on me.

    • Hi Steve
      Thanks for the comment, and it sounds like you have a great thing going on there. wow though, ten to twenty times? She must love you;-)
      Regards
      Ethan

  24. Wayne,
    I have read your article and plan to follow it. I am 73 years old and have an erection problem. Meds do not help. My girl friend is 11 years my Junior. She loves sex and melts at my touch. I use a dildo to replace what I can’t do. We preform oral sex on each other and are both very happy with it. I put some cream on her the other day and thought she would die. As I was removing it with my tongue, she couldn’t lay still and was excited like never before. I also loved where you stated to use two fingers inside her. We are getting married soon and I dearly hope she can feel my wedding ring when I slip it inside her. Our love has no bounds

    • Hi Old Timer
      Thanks for the comment, and once again Wayne’s tips have proven to be a hit! I like your cream idea, and it’s great to hear that you still have an active love life. Shame you have erection problems, but I guess that’s natural. Good work for finding alternatives though.
      I hope you don’t lose that wedding ring;-)
      All the best and congratulations!
      Ethan

    • Good for you old timer! It can be very difficult to keep an active sex life at that age. My hat goes off to you my friend

  27. im 72. im absolutely in love. she loves oral.
    trust me when i say that to be successful at making your lover cum hard, climax and even squirt across the room….plan your time with her according to your opportunities: that is to say, be able to DO IT ALL in a short amount of time (up to 5 minutes), medium (up to 20 minutes), long (up to 1 hour), extra long (up to 2.5 hours), mega long (up to 5 hours), marathon love night (from 11p to 7am with breakfast included), and finally, the ultimate love-fest (from whenever to whenever to include dinner and dancing my friend!)
    yes…I’ve done it all, and very successfully.
    but it takes careful planning and patience during iterations of your ‘plan execution’ that will always include trial and error. but here’s the deal men … once you let her know you are ALWAYS READY NO MATTER WHAT…AND CAN PROVE IT WITH EXPERIENCE OVER TIME (YOU’RE GONNA LOVE THIS PART) SHE WILL BE YOURS FOREVER NO MATTER IF THE DEVIL HIMSELF TRIES TO EVER INTERFERE!
    YOU CAN TAKE IT TO THE BANK!

    If you need help planning all the above time periods…all you have to do is READ AND HEED!
    ive been reading and then doing all my life because if there is only one thing i know to be true…it’s this ==> making her cum will save your ass from grief, turmoil and broken dreams!

    • Hi trikiriki69
      Wow. I don’t know how to respond to that comment! If you have a moment, it would be very interesting to hear some of your actual techniques! I’m sure you must have a trick or two you can share:-)
      Ethan

  29. Below are 5 cunnilingus tips to help you get started.
    Start Slowly
    Don’t rush to the finish, it’s more of a marathon than a one hundred metre sprint. Begin by kissing her body, starting from her neck and working your way down; remember no-where is of limits, kiss her stomach, her legs and anywhere else you can think of. This will help her to relax and feel comfortable.
    Take Control
    Give her the opportunity to be totally swept away by you. Before you go down on her, hold both her hands with yours and put them above her head. Then tell her that your in control and that she is not to move her hands unless you tell her that it’s okay to do so. This will only add to the overall tease factor, guaranteeing a successful climax.
    Don’t Let Her Have It All At Once
    Once you begin using your tongue on her vagina, don’t be afraid to tease her. Gently lick her clitoris and vagina and then begin kissing her body again. Every time you do this, extend the length you do it for. After a while begin licking her out properly. Start by gently kissing her clit and the outsides of her vagina.
    ABC, It’s Easy As 123
    A great little technique when going down on a woman is the alphabet technique. With your tongue inside her vagina, begin spelling out the alphabet with your tongue. This is a great way to cover all areas of her vagina and it also allows you to begin discovering where she is most sensitive.
    Fingers And All
    The tongue is more than capable of doing all the work itself, but you can take a woman even further by using your fingers. A great technique is to lick her clit and then gently put your middle finger inside her vagina. You can then rest you index finger and ring finger on the outside of her vagina. If she seems comfortable you can use the come hither technique. Using you index and middle finger, put them inside her vagina and then with the fingers inside her pretend you are signalling for someone to come over to you.

      • Damn! I’m a lesbian, and I’ve never heard a man so in tune with what a woman wants! I could almost feel you going down on me…. Yummy

    • I found your article about oral sex very interesting and informative, I started giving my wife oral sex almost as soon after our wedding as possible. It was enjoyable and exciting for both of us that it became a regular practice. We were both rather randy and we had sex of one kind or another every night. We found that doing a 69 was far better and certainly more enjoyable and satisfying if she was on top. It gave her the chance to initiate her own desires, one being her liking to push my erect penis between her breasts as she put her hands behind my knees to pull me legs upwards so she could start sucking my balls. I was able to give her anal licks and tongue probes while she was busy on top of me. She was also able to return the compliment by giving me anal licks and tongue probes. . satisfaction. Best of all, she was always willing for it to happen every night !!!

  31. Sing to her a T pain song even if you cant sing. Then lick the inside of her like you would like ice cream flick that clit with the tip of your tongue periodically. Ask her you like that. And yall know if she do cause she’ll say dont stop. After that your golden.

    • Hi Ghost

      Thanks for the pretty funny comment! But what if she listens to classical music or opera? I’m not sure she’ll get too turned on by badly sung T pain lyrics…
      Regards
      Ethan

  33. This is a great post. Do you have other sites you can recommend for me please? I had a heart transplant and can not get an erection anymore and my cardiologist recommends oral, but no specific recommendations. Any help you can provide will be great. Thank you sooooo much,

    • Hi Chuck

      Thanks for your comment. Sorry to hear about the heart issues and subsequent erection problem. Is there absolutely nothing that can be done on that front? No medication?

      I don’t know how open you and your partner are sexually, but I would also recommend getting into sex toys. You can use a dildo for example and control it. It’s not the same, but it’s still gives you more options that just oral.

      I would just buy one for her and present it one day in bed as a surprise. That way she will at least believe you’re serious about the idea! She may hve already considered it, but felt bad about suggesting it. So my advice would be to take control of the situation, and fully open your mind to the amazing world of sex toys!

      I don’t want to recommend any sites specifically. But searching online will turn up countless options for you!

      Regards
      Ethan

  34. I wish there was a video for Wayne’s technique and for the alphabet technique. I can’t quite picture the vacuum technique that you describe. None the less it sounds like it would be amazing if a guy knew how to properly do this to females!

  35. Wayne, thanks for the great advice. I actually tried this technique over the weekend and was able to give my wife an orgasm from oral for the first time in almost 10 years. As soon as I started with your technique I could tell she was really into it which is not always the case as she can be uncomfortable with me going down on her at times. I can’t wait to try it again. Thanks for sharing!

  36. I enjoy giving my girl oral sex and can tell when she is there because she squeezes my head or hand or shoulder. She tells me she was flying in the sky or
    in the clouds and has to cover her mouth from screaming
    out.She climaxes about ten times in between a lot of pounding then when she is wet I just have to eat. I tell
    her it is my honey pot and she is full of honey.
    My question is time as she is climaxing I try to continue with a deep tongue and a Muuuuummmm purr on
    her clit.Sometimes she will let me get her there again
    sometimes she will say give me a minute but put it in as she is still jumping or shaking.
    SHOULD I WAIT TILL SHE RELAXES AND START AGAIN> DOES A WOMAN WANT TO JUST ENJOY THE CLIMAX FOR A MINUTE OR
    SHOULD I JUST KEEP DOING WHAT I HAVE ALWAYS DONE AND GET HER TO CLIMAX AND AS SHE DOES CLIMB UP AND PUT IN IN AS SHE SEEMS TO BE DRIFTING

    • Hi B,

      Thanks for your comment. My personal experience has been that when a woman is climaxing she appreciates you just stopping, staying still, and letting her either freeze and enjoy the moment, or continue herself by grinding against you. That applies during oral or sex. But all women are different, so my advice would be to ask her! If you’re talkative enough to tell her you want honey from her honey pot, I’m sure you can ask her what she does or doesn’t like:-)
      Regards
      Ethan

  37. in terms of reaching that multi orgasm plateau, most women don’t even realise they can do it. they are so used to climaxing through masturbation or quick intercourse/oral and don’t want further touching because of sensitivity they have developed a habit of allowing arousal to totally subside post climax. The reality is that gentle continuation of touching or oral can keep arousal high yet still allow clit recovery from climax and are amazed that within 2-3 minutes they are immediately back to high arousal.

    • Hi Wayne,

      Wow, I don’t know what to say – thanks for such a long and detailed description of your technique for giving oral sex to women. It certainly sounds good to me, though I hope you spend some time on foreplay as in my experience going straight for the clitoris can be too much for most women. They need and like to be warmed up first rather than going straight to the most sensitive parts.
      But after that, your technique sounds very interesting, and I might have to give it a go the next time I have the opportunity!
      Regards
      Ethan

      • No problems.The thing that is best about it is you have total control of her. You can make her climax in 1 min or edge her 20 times over 30 min. YOU decide when she climaxes and how often. The thing about digital penetration of anal is a massive taboo. most women say 80% will say don’t like it. If you place it there as tease, when she is already hot she can push it away or say no. fine no drama My experience is 70% don’t push away. By lifting buttocks but leaving thumb close when they lower themselves bec of tense thighs they lower and partially penetrate anal and becomes a massive head taboo thing for them they are doing it themselves. Many then embrace it bec of head/taboo aspect.probably 50% are converted then and there and allow full penetration…..yes that high. For those that dont, use other thumb at her vagina and alls good.

        • Hi again Wayne,

          Thanks again for the interesting advice – and as you’ve seen, you already have someone agreeing with your technique!

          All the best
          Ethan

  38. I have been with hundreds of women. No moral judgements please.I was pretty useful with oral, but one day i tried a new technique that has hit pay dirt. Used the technique on perhaps two hundred woman. Half proclaimed they were not multi orgasmic. 95% i can make climax at least 3 times without stopping and waiting for recovery. at least 140 women (ie 70%) proclaimed it was the best oral they had ever had, so i know its a winner. One even suggested i write a book lol. The technique has a number of elements and must be used correctly.
    1) Start slow kissing and licking around pussy. This is designed to allow the guy get to know sensitivity which is really important.
    2) Position best with woman on back you between her legs arms OUTSIDE her thighs reaching up to GENTLY pinch nipples.
    3) At some point when she has warmed up create a vacuum seal around the whole clitoral hood and clit area with your mouth (lips persed hard). Use upper lip to press the clitoral hood open by pushing against that area with mouth pressed. Whilst still in vacuum, having the upper teeth GENTLY hold the hood free of the clit). Retract your tongue back in your mouth a little and make it hard by pointing it. You then flick the hard tongue back and forward over the clit like a vibrator. Work slow at first because she may be a sensitive sort who will flinch or jump
    3) Adjust your pace with tongue to meet her arousal levels. Faster pace in a burst if you feel she isn’t at cusp. Slow or stop completely and just use lips and teeth to push clit hood open and closed to tease. You can get her to cum in 1 min with the technique BUT you don’t. You have total control like a vibrator on automatic speed adjust depending on proximity to climax. Its preferable to get her to tell you when close or not. eg a verbal sign….dirty talk etc. done it often enough i now know how close a woman is.
    4) Use you right hand to position thumb at entrance to vagina (or anus if she enjoys that). Dont penetrate just position it there as a mental tease. If you both enjoy anus stimulation its best if you wait for juices to flow and encourage them to cover her anus. When you then place thumb there without penetrating it will be greater turn on because is slippery.
    5) When you sense she is getting close to climax start pinching nipples between thumb and forefinger each hand (not too hard) and pulling breast out by the nipple.
    6) i usually place hands under her arse cheeks and tease her to lift her arse off the bed about 6-8 inches which does 2 things. Allows her to work hard with thigh muscle tensing………working hard for her climax! and secondly allows her to pelvic thrust as i presume she does with her vibrator. You dont break the vacuum seal or vibrator tongue.She can then control final stages usually to massive climax
    7) When she climaxes pull nipples out hard, fast vibrator tongue and penetrate vagina (or anus) with thumb. She will buck wildly so be careful to retract teeth at that point else you may hurt her. Didn’t do that one time and the woman god bless nearly knocked my teeth out! when she pelvic thrust at me lol
    8) IF you want her to multi climax move your mouth immediately away from clit area after climax and just slow lick not so sensitive areas, labia, inner thigh, vaginal opening,. perineum. After about 45 sec return to clit hood area. She may try to say no or push away but reassure her you know she is sensitive. Allow bottom lip not tongue to roll up and over clit hood area gently until you notice she is less sensitive again. Move back to vacuum position but be very gentle to start testing how sensitive she is. Sometimes if too sensitive you can use vacuum seal to simply open and close hood without direct stimulation to clit. Usually within 2-3 minutes you can re-start process with hard tongue vibrator again. You must get back there within this time frame to get her to what i call multi climax plateau from where you can repeat this…. maximum number i gave was 10 times. If she slides down from climax you will lose the chance for plateau. There is a window. Ask her to trust that you know what you are doing.
    Wayne

    • OMG, this is exactly what I make my boyfriend do, and the first time I’ve seen it described this way. The vacuum seal is definitely the key. Basically I beg him to suck on my clit, gently at first then harder and harder until I come. For me it works 100%. Wish I could do it to myself. Its about a thousand times better than doing it with my hands or even a vibrator.

      • Hi Hotwinxx,

        Thanks for adding a woman’s authority-up to Wayne’s technique! I’m sure that will help other guys reading this take even more interest in what he had to say:-)

        Regards
        Ethan

        • Yes! My husband uses this technique as well and it’s AMAZING! If you can do this we are HOOKED! I mean, it is the BEST way to give oral to a woman!

      • Hotwinxx. Sucking in a vacuum seal is good and something i usually use as variation during the process to change things up. My basic approach and the one i describe is more an intermittent thumping at her clit with the tongue.If you place mouth closed over top of your hand and flick tongue to and fro hard you will get a sense of what im talking about. If you use sucking its my experience that you have two choices. Suck creating suction with lips as first line or suck creating suction with teeth gently forward of the lips as first line.I find the latter a better technique because it rakes the sensitive flesh against the teeth when being sucked into mouth especially if you close the gap between teeth slightly heightening impact. W

    • Wayne. I actually tried your technique over the weekend and it worked amazingly well. I haven’t been able to get my wife to climax with oral for almost 10 years (she is not comfortable with me going down at times). I tried your technique as described above and she was totally into it and let me continue all the way to a great orgasm for her. Thanks for sharing.

    • I wish there was a video for Wayne’s technique and for the alphabet technique. I can’t quite picture the vacuum technique that you describe. None the less it sounds like it would be amazing if a guy knew how to properly do this to females!

  39. Cool article, with some good tips. The alphabet tongue is a top idea. I always forget what I was doing when trying random stuff. So this is a cracking way to remember! Nice one!

  40. Nice tips, and the one about the tongue alphabet sounds like a brilliant idea! Sometimes you kind of forget what you did that was good but with this you can just remember the letter youre on – genius

    • I learned the alphabet method from Sam Kesoson, when he talked about it in a comedy stand up routine. He was right!

        • I use the underside of my tongue when I suck on her. 5-10 min. She’s done. I use my hands too. One hand moves the hood up for best suction. The other I rub all over her body. I also make noises, the kind you make when you enjoy something. She says that turns her on too. I do all the things you mentioned. Kissing her body and running my hands all over. She is very turned on before I go down. I like it when she puts a pillow under her bottom and I put one under my knees on the floor. Saves the neck A LOT!! Thanks you for all the great info. You can never learn too much on how to please you woman.

        • Hi Kevbo
          Thanks for the comment and the suggestions. I particularly like the idea about the underside of the tongue and will have to give that a go!
          Ethan

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Related Articles