You might already know that the pleasure of unprotected sex can be overwhelming – especially if you struggle with premature ejaculation.
Using any kind of condom usually takes the edge off, at least a little. So the double protection of both a condom and some numbing gel inside can help even more.
It’s worth bearing in mind that the trade-off for the numbing is sometimes a significant reduction in physical pleasure. But if you have a real problem coping with the physical stimulation of sex, they can work wonders.
There are a few companies that make them, and in this
1. Trojan Extended Pleasure
Of the four types I’ve tried, Trojan Extended Pleasure worked best for me. I’ve used them many times, and I find they do a good job of reducing the stimulation of sex, which helps me last longer.
Even opening the condom packet is easier than the others. It has a paper feel rather than the fiddly metallic material, and you can open it quickly and easily, which isn’t always the case with condoms.
It contains 4% benzocaine, which is evenly spread inside the tip of the condom. Some other brands use ‘blobs’ of heat-activated gel, which looks a bit odd.
The condom is also larger than the others, so if you ever find them uncomfortably tight around the base of your penis, it’s a good option for you.
Importantly though, it doesn’t numb me so much that I can’t enjoy sex. My partner also has no problems with the condom, says there’s no odor and that it feels like a normal condom to her.
The only potential issue particular to this condom is that it feels quite wet out of the packet. You do end up with slightly slippy fingers after putting it on, so might want a tissue or towel nearby.
Overall, I’m a fan of Trojan Extended Pleasure. It’s a reliable brand, easy to use and works well. And that’s all you really need.
Where to buy
2. Durex mutual climax / performax intense
It contains 5% benzocaine, which is a little more than the Trojan’s 4%. I couldn’t personally tell the difference between the two in terms of how strong the numbing was though.
The other main feature of the Durex is the idea of raising your partner’s arousal by including dots and ribs to stimulate them more.
The idea is that the condom both helps you last longer and stimulates them more. So hopefully you’ll both have a better chance of reaching climax together.
My partner definitely feels the extra stimulation and enjoys it a lot. I don’t think it’s enough on its own to ensure mutual climax, but it’s fun to experiment with.
Like the Trojan, the condom numbs me enough to last longer, that much is for sure. And again, the loss of sensitivity is noticeable, but not so much that I don’t enjoy sex.
The main issue is that the benzocaine is heat activated. So when you open the pack, it has blobs of gel that only melt when you put it on.
Admittedly it’s less slippy to use than Trojan. But it looks and feels a little unusual, especially if you’re with a new partner.
Where to buy
3. Durex Extended Pleasure
Durex extended pleasure also contains 5% benzocaine, the same as the mutual climax / Performax intense.
The major difference is that this is a normal straight condom, with no ribs or dots to provide your partner with a little extra fun.
Again, the benzocaine is heat activated, so it only spreads when you put it on. Before you put it on you’ll see little lumps at the end of the condom, which will then melt with your body heat and some massaging.
When I’ve tried them, they do help me last a few minutes longer than with a normal condom, and considerably longer than without a condom at all.
I do think the mutual climax is a better option
Where to buy
As with the other Durex, they are sold in many pharmacies. And again, you can get them from Amazon.com.
4. Pasante Infinity
Pasante delay condoms contain lidocaine rather than benzocaine, which is an important difference.
It only actually has 1% lidocaine, which is quite a small amount if you compare it to the 10% found in desensitizing sprays. I imagine that’s because it will be in constant contact with your skin rather than sprayed once and then wiped off.
Having said that, I wasn’t overly impressed with the numbing effect. It did reduce the sensitivity a little, but not as much as the others.
So I think that it’s perhaps one to try if you’ve either found the benzocaine has too strong an effect, or if you prefer lidocaine to benzocaine for practical reasons.
On a physical note, the Pasante felt the tightest of the condoms, which will suit some men more than others.
Where to buy
I haven’t seen Pasante in any local pharmacies, but they are available on Amazon.com.