The Squeeze Technique Step By Step

The squeeze technique was one of the first self-help techniques to help men with premature ejaculation.

It was created by the famous sex therapists William Masters and Virginia Johnson decades ago, and is still sometimes recommended as a treatment option.

My view is that it’s quite tricky to do though, kind of uncomfortable, and there are probably better techniques to try.

Having said that, I’ll still talk through some step by step instructions in case you’re interested in trying it.

Key points

1. Do you need a professional to show you how?

Some websites recommend that you ask a professional sex therapist to show you how to do the technique because it’s quite difficult to get right.

But let’s face it, who’s actually going to ask for that kind of help, especially in the modern era of the internet?

I think it’s possible to understand the technique with some clear instructions, but I wanted to mention this point in case you’ve read it elsewhere.

2. You should practice it with your partner

It’s been found that if you try the squeeze technique yourself, it’s usually less effective. This is due to the awkward thumb and finger positioning needed to do it correctly.

You can try to change the positioning of your fingers and thumb to adapt the technique to do it solo, but it requires some double-jointed wrist and finger yoga.

Personally, I find it pretty uncomfortable to do alone.

Part one – the technique with an erection

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Assuming you’re practicing the technique with your partner, ask them to start masturbating you.

As soon as you get a full erection, she has to stop and put her fingers in the correct position to squeeze your penis as follows:

She should place her thumb on the frenulum, which is the string-like piece of skin connecting the head of the penis to the foreskin.

The first and second fingers are placed on the opposite side, i.e. the front side of the penis that you see when you look down at it.

They are placed either side of the coronal ridge, which is the ridge of the tip of the penis a few centimeters from the very top, but with the fingers still next to each other either side of the ridge.

Your partner squeezes your penis with her fingers in that position for about 4 seconds. She needs to squeeze quite hard, and probably won’t naturally apply the right strength through fear of hurting you.

If that’s the case, you may need to guide her by putting your hand over her fingers and showing her how hard she can squeeze without hurting you.

You may lose between 10 and 30 percent of your erection strength because of the squeeze, which is completely normal. Your partner should then wait 15-30 seconds after releasing the squeeze before starting to stimulate your penis again.

As soon as you get a full erection again, you can repeat the technique. This pattern can be repeated 4-5 times in the first session. When you’ve done this a few times, you can then move on to try it to achieve ejaculation control.

Part two – practicing ejaculation control

In this stage, your partner should masturbate you to the point of nearing orgasm, and then use the squeeze technique as described above.

The key is to make sure you do it at the right time, something which isn’t easy to pinpoint.

If you find that you instantly feel like ejaculating when she starts again after each rest, you probably left it too close to the point of ejaculation. So in future try to stop and do the squeeze a little earlier.

It’s a bit of an art-form getting the timing right, so you’ll have to experiment a little and probably be prepared for a few timing mishaps at first.

The idea is that the technique will buy you time each time you do it and rest, not that you end up painfully hovering around the point of ejaculation.

You can repeat this process either 4 or 5 times or for a period of 15-20 minutes – whichever comes first. Remember to allow an enjoyable ejaculation and orgasm at the end of the session.

After practicing this technique over 3-4 different days, you can move on and try it with oral sex. Finally, after 3-4 days of practicing during oral sex you can attempt ejaculation control with full penetrative sex.

When having full sex, it’s recommended that you use the squeeze technique 2-3 times first during foreplay before having sex and continuing to withdraw and use the technique.

How often should you practice it?

The squeeze technique takes dedication on both you and your partner’s part. It may be then that you only practice the technique once or twice per week whilst continuing to have normal sex on other days.

It’s important to still have a natural sexual relationship whilst practicing this and other techniques. But do continue to practice the technique every week over the coming months.

With a little luck and perseverance, you’ll see results even in your normal sexual encounters with your partner.

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For more techniques, you might like to check out one of my recommended premature ejaculation self-help guides.

And for an overview of premature ejaculation, have a look at this page about PE treatment options.

68 thoughts on “The Squeeze Technique Step By Step”

  1. Sometimes I last 20 to 30 mins and other times less then 60 seconds. I even have trouble getting hard at times. Then I have days of sex two or three times plus. Before my cancer treatment it was never an Issue. Sex as much and as long as I wanted.

    1. Hi Bob
      Having had cancer myself, I know exactly what you mean. I think cancer treatment plays havoc with men’s sex lives, and in mine and your case, makes it kind of unpredictable. Things do get better though I’ve found, 7 years on and counting!

  2. Anonymous

    Can a 18 year old try this technique? is it harmful for a teenager to masturbate? if it is then what time gap should I maintain for masturbating ..please tell in full detail.

    1. Hi
      Yes you can try this technique, but only if you really need it. It’s normal to masturbate as a teenager.

    1. Hi Robas
      In that case, you might be better trying the start and stop technique, and just taking things really slowly.

    1. Hi
      It can help, yes. But as I said in the article, it’s perhaps a good idea to try other techniques too.

  3. Guillermo

    I’ve tried this technique but don’t rate it at all. I just feel stupid doing it, like a little kid holding himself so he doesn’t piss himself. At least with the start and stop you don’t have to pull out and totally change focus from your girl to your dick.

    1. Hi Guillermo
      I totally understand and agree with you. I’ve never thought about it quite like that, but I can see what you mean…

  4. So basically you’re saying don’t bother with this technique and do the start and stop? or is there a place for this one too?

    1. Hi Brandon
      Well, I guess it depends on you and what works for you. Perhaps you could try experimenting with it and if it works, maybe you’ll want to continue with it. But in my personal experience, it’s not the most enjoyable technique, nor the most effective.

    1. Hi Nelson
      Good question! It depends a lot on whether you mean physical excitement, emotional, mental, or all threee. And there is of course a lot of overlap between them. I personally think that the start and stop method is a good technique for learning about your different arousal levels, and then practicing recognizing them and reducing them when you feel you’re becoming too aroused. So the idea is to understand when you’re on a 7 or 8 out of 10, where 10 would be reaching orgasm. When you know the signs that you’re on a 7 or 8, it’s time to take action to calm yourself down – for example checking your breathing and keeping it slow, deep and relaxed, changing sex position if it’s too much to handle, maybe doing other things like re-focusing your thoughts and feeling on the whole body instead of just the penis.
      Those are some ideas to keep in mind for now!

  5. I find it difficult to have erection pls what treatment can I go for, its embarrassing and my relationship is at risk

  6. Why males of to do all that squeeze thing. Is there any natural way to do it. Or any natural ways to get back what you might lost

    1. Hi
      I agree that the squeeze technique isn’t the best way to improve your stamina, which is why I recommend other techniques in the article!

  7. Hello! Thank you for your article. I really do feel that I have a problem. After penetrating my girlfriend I cum literally within one pump. When she tries to do oral on me I cum almost immediately when she puts her mouth on my penis. Where should I start to do better

    1. Hi there
      You’re welcome! I think if you’re that sensitive, it would be good to practise the start and stop technique, both alone and with her. And you might benefit from using a desensitizing product too, as it could be that the physical sensitivity takes a lot of practise to really be able to deal with. So a delay spray can help you out in the meantime.

  8. hey read your article, one thing that im not clear on is how to do the squeeze technique after penetration, as just removing myself might cause me to ejaculate. also, im not sure which technique to do as i usually ejaculate about a minute after penetration/thrusting

    1. Hi bigx
      The squeeze technique does need to be done when the penis is removed. So I guess the trick is to remove it before you get to the point where doing so would make you ejaculate. Personally, I’d stick with the start and stop technique and not bother with the squeeze technique, unless you really are keen on trying it.

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