Ejaculation by Command is a popular self-help guide which teaches men natural techniques to last longer during sex.
I think it’s a particularly good option if you’re just starting to learn about premature ejaculation, as it has a
So when you start practicing the exercises, you have a good understanding of how mental and physical control works, and what you’re trying to achieve at each step.
It’s also a useful guide if you currently have a partner, and want to work on the problem together, as it suggests some good exercises for couples.
How does it help?
Ejaculation By Command teaches several ejaculation control techniques, including the classic start and stop method.
It describes how you can practice alone to understand and control your arousal levels. This is important for developing control, so it’s great that it’s explained in such detail.
It then builds up to include partner work as well, telling you exactly which positions you should practice with. And it breaks down the techniques in a clear step by step guide.
For me, this is the most impressive part of the Ejaculation by Command course. The partner work is described in depth, and if you practice it regularly it can help you improve your stamina on the job, so to speak.
It also explains how you should focus on your partner rather than yourself. It has good advice about foreplay and oral sex which can help to bring your partner’s arousal levels up, or give them an orgasm or two first.
There’s an excellent section on correct breathing techniques, which is very thorough and easy to understand. And there’s a useful explanation of why distraction techniques are ineffective. Instead, you learn how to focus your mind on the right kind of body sensations.
Towards the end, there’s an interesting section on which food you can eat to improve your endurance – something most other books don’t include.
All in all, I think the author – Lloyd Lester – does a good job of looking at the problem from different angles and giving you different options for dealing with it.
The emergency tactics mini-book is full of tips you can put to use straight away. And it has a couple of unique ideas – the one about the tongue on the roof of the mouth being a new one to me.
The quick-start guide is a useful and practical addition. It summarizes the training exercises in the main book if you don’t want to read it all in one go, and you can also easily use it for reference later on.
Following from this there’s an audio companion as well, so you can download and listen to the whole book if you find that an easier way to learn. Handily it allows you to download the entire book or just individual sections.
There are also several other sex guides thrown in for good measure, though I didn’t personally spend much time on any of these, seeing them as an unnecessary distraction.
Are the techniques safe?
As far as I can tell, Ejaculation by Command is a safe guide to follow. There are no extreme techniques and he doesn’t advise buying any pills or supplements. They are all natural techniques and don’t involve anything risky.
My only real criticism is that there’s some exaggerated advertising about it being possible to last for a long time from the outset.
I think that while some men might have that kind of lucky outcome, the vast majority will have to put some time and effort into making the techniques work.
How long is impossible to say; it could be weeks, or it could be months. But it’s unlikely to be just one day!
Having said that, I put the effort into these techniques and had good results with them. So as far as I’m concerned, it’s worth the effort.
Ejaculation by Command is a solid choice of ejaculation control guide, whether you’re currently single or in a relationship.
It contains effective techniques you can practice alone, and also a range of ways you can work with your current partner to improve your control.
The quick start guide is excellent as it summarizes the whole book for easy reference. And you get the emergency tactics book with ideas that don’t need practice, just key adjustments to the way you have sex.