How To Give A Woman Oral Sex – Advice For Guys From A Girl

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Do you and your partner enjoy oral sex, but you’re not quite sure if you’ve quite mastered this sometimes mysterious art?

Perhaps you haven’t had an opportunity yet, but want to be sure you get it just right when that magical moment arrives.

Oral sex is arguably an essential part of great foreplay, but can be so much more than that – your tongue has the capacity to give a woman toe-curling orgasms.

It’s also a great way to prime your partner and raise her arousal levels, which then reduces the pressure on you to last for a long time when having sex.

In this article, I’ll be teaching you guys how to give a girl oral sex properly, as well as helping you work out what your own partner likes and hopes you’ll do more of.

Everyone is different

It’s really important to remember that everyone is different – what pleases one woman might not tick the right boxes for another.

Perhaps the best piece of advice is to get down (literally) to some serious trial and error. Remember to communicate your desires and simply enjoy the process of getting to know each other.

We girls love receiving oral sex, but you won’t know for sure if the techniques you read in a book or website will work unless you give them a go. Once you’ve read some advice about what women want, test it out and see if your partner enjoys it.

Whatever your partner finds pleasurable is exactly what you need to be doing. Don’t just repeat a trick or style you read, heard or found worked on someone else.

It’s fine to start out with movements you know work for some women, but if isn’t met by moaning or other signs of pleasure, abandon it and move onto the next.

Don’t skip or rush oral sex

Many guys tend to skip past performing oral sex for their partner, or only do it briefly in the hope of receiving some oral in return.

This a mistake though, and sexually selfish if you ask me – a skillful lover should be generous and show his partner that her pleasure is important to him.

And giving oral sex is a key ingredient for turning a woman on, bringing her arousal level up to yours, and therefore ensuring that she enjoys the sexual encounter as much as you do.

If you keep in mind my tips for giving a girl good oral sex and take the time to get it right, you’ll bring some extra spice to the bedroom and satisfy her as much as she deserves.

Don’t rush in

image of a woman lying on a bedPerhaps you don’t really enjoy giving oral sex? Or maybe you’re just a little unsure about what to do exactly.

This can lead to the classic mistake of diving straight in, with your tongue flicking away like a cat with a fresh bowl of milk.

However, what we really want is for you to start nice and slowly, tease us and build up steadily.

Kiss her lips, neck and make your way down her body until you’re kissing her inner thighs. Try and make eye contact as much as possible, and position yourself in a comfortably position that allows you to caress her breasts, body and arms.

The idea is to turn her on before you even start the oral sex and make her tingle all over. A bit of teasing works really well here. A lot of teasing can be magic.

Build up gradually

When you begin to kiss and lick during oral sex, work your way in slowly from the outside. This will make the experience more intense and still feel like you’re teasing her. A slow build up creates a much better orgasm for us girls.

Most women are very sensitive to touch, including touch performed by the tongue, so start gently and see what your woman wants. The clitoris in particular is packed full of nerve endings so make sure you listen to her signals.

Try not to rush into licking the clitoris, and when you do be gentle – especially if she’s not fully aroused yet.

Get creative with your tongue

Diagram Of The Vagina And Clitoris for oral sexThe key to giving a woman good oral sex is to keep moving your tongue. If you’re not sure how, keep it flat and soft, and lick up from the bottom of the labia up to her clitoris.

You can do an up and down motion, side to side, or even better – a slow, lingering mixture of both at the start.

It’s important to use the flatter and softer top part of your tongue – especially at the start when she may not be fully aroused, and not ready for the additional pressure and speed that the tip can bring.

If you flick away as hard and fast as possible right from the start, it might just feel too sensitive and put her off.

Vary your movements

You can try spelling out the alphabet over different areas with your tongue – this keeps the tongue moving in different directions. And don’t forget to change the pace – get faster and more intense if she likes it.

The classic advice with the alphabet techniques is that if you find a ‘letter movement’ that she responds well to, then you can keep repeating that letter for a while.

You might occasionally want to gently suck her clitoris, as the suction can give a different sensation. Some women will love this, some won’t. And even a girl that likes it one day might not the next day.

You need to be ready to change, be creative, be flexible and keep working at finding what tongue movements, pressure and speed work on a particular girl, on a particular day in a particular setting!

And remember it’s not just the clitoris you need to focus on. Draw that alphabet large over the whole area, then medium and small around different parts. Women enjoy the whole area being licked, kissed and touched, so don’t get fixated just on the clitoris.

Don’t forget about your hands

When giving a woman oral sex, try to get yourself into a position where your hands are free to add an extra element. If you’re able to caress her body and breasts while giving oral, she’ll enjoy it so much more.

If you can gently caress her thighs, stomach, chest and arms with your finger tips while giving her oral sex, you’ll be able to tap into multiple erogenous zones all at the same time and send sparks flying in her body.

You can also use one hand to slightly lift up the ‘hood’ of the clitoris and reveal the more sensitive part for your tongue to stimulate. Make sure you learn where this is.

If you’re good at multitasking, why not add your fingers into the action and try to stimulate her G-Spot? Most women enjoy the build up, so try to learn when she’s ready for you to use your fingers as well to intensify the pleasure to the next level.

If you go straight in with the fingers at the start then you might ruin the potential for an orgasm that a steady build up brings. If in doubt, don’t insert a finger until she’s naturally already wet and moaning with pleasure.

Experiment with different positions

the number 69, a great position to give a woman oral sexTry different techniques and see what works for you. Perhaps you’d like to introduce some new positions (such as the 69 where you both perform oral sex to each other at the same time, or the man on top and in control).

Whatever you do, mix it up and don’t make things feel like a routine. If she doesn’t quite know what’s coming next, she’ll be even more turned on, whether the oral sex is for foreplay or for orgasm.

Find the best technique and don’t stop!

It’s obviously not always easy for you to speak to her while you perform oral sex, so listen to the sounds she makes. We women can be a bit shy, but generally most like to talk and say what we like.

If your girl isn’t a talker though, check for signs she’s enjoying it, such as heavier breathing or moaning. And if she’s holding the top of your head, she may grip harder as she’s closer to climaxing.

Look for signals that tell you she’s really turned on, and don’t suddenly stop or change what you’re doing if she’s clearly really into it.

At the start, it’s fine to play around and experiment with different actions and techniques. But once you’ve teased her and gotten her warmed up, it’s time to settle on the technique that will give her an orgasm and not stop until she gets there.

By this point, your jaw may be aching and your tongue might feel numb, but persistence will pay off. If she’s enjoying it, then stopping as she’s building towards climax just because you have neck ache or a sore jaw isn’t cool!

And nothing beats a bit of feedback, so ask her afterwards if she liked it, and she might offer some tips to make next time even more intense.

Remember

Hopefully you’ll see now that the key to giving a girl oral sex is to not expect any one thing to work from one time to the next.

You need to be flexible, creative and responsive. If she doesn’t tell you exactly what works, you need to find out yourself by observing how she reacts to different techniques.

And perhaps most importantly, when you know what works for her, once you decide to focus on that technique, just keep doing it until she reaches orgasm.

Enjoy the practice, enjoy the experimenting, and enjoy the great feeling when you magically work out exactly what she needs to have orgasms.

More ideas

If you’d like to find out about even more ways to give your partner amazing oral sex, I highly recommend reading ‘Lick by Lick’, written by the respected sex expert Michael Webb.

He explores the finer details of what really makes great oral sex, and gives you lots of great ideas and techniques to try.

Check out the Lick by Lick oral sex guide >>

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  • Hey, my fiancee has recently told me that she likes me going down on her sometimes, but she is grossed out by spit. She doesn’t like wet kisses on her lips (The ones on her face, lol) and usually wipes those off, so I believe her that she is not a fan of the spit side of oral.

    She said she’s able to ignore it sometimes, but other times it just grosses her out. Any suggestions?

    • Hi CBH
      Yes, just don’t make her feel that there is any spit getting involved in your oral! There’s no need to spit or salivate on her when doing it, and even if some inevitably comes out of your mouth, she doesn’t have to know about it. So try the oral, but try and not do anything or make noises that makes her think spit is involved.
      Ethan

    • Giving cunnilingus is all a matter of using your tongue, lips and mouth to pleasure her down there. Let you tongue glide over her vaginal lips, don’t ignore the clitoris, and work your way inside her vaginal walls. Once you have settled on a nice, steady rhythm, keep the pressure up – and at this point, you need to pay attention to what her body is telling you. Does she like you to go harder or faster? Following the pace that she wants, don’t go lax on the pressure and simply keep on doing what you’re doing. You’ll know that she has reached the big ‘O’ when her pupils dilate, and when her vaginal lips go flex tightly and then go lax.

  • Oh my life!
    This arrival has made my day! I’m a 23yo lesbian and obviously love giving oral! I’ve read slot about oral sex in my younger days when I wasn’t sure what went where, this has got to be the best one yet! If you guys want some advice I’d say
    1: make your girl relaxed and comfortable. Some girls are so self conscious they struggle with being naked. Offer a blanket or to keep to shirt on? She will respect you for it, trust me!
    2: get your girl positioned right. If you place a pillow under her bum, it will push her up and give you an easier job, also it will be more pleasurable for her as it changes inside the vagina and gives her more control. Also, keep her knees apart, not to much so it strains her hips just enough to give you more room, this also opens up the labia making her feel even more!
    3:always be moving. Try and constantly move your tounge, up and down, side to side. Be gental and careful to start, as you feel her feeling more pleasure, increase the pressure and speed. But remember, it’s a vagina, not and ice cream!
    4: don’t forget about your hands! When you can feel her hips moving, her breathing increasing, slip a finger in, (sorry for the crudeness), as I said in #1 the vaginal walls change possison and should make her feel different, you don’t have to move it, just your finger by being there will increase pleasure.
    5: feel the vibrations. If you have a small vibrator use it! Don’t over power your tounge, use it more as an teaser than a toy.
    6: be kind. This last one doesn’t apply to all females but after my experiences (which there has been many) after oral and climax, go back up to the top of the bed, get comfy, and just hold her. Make her feel loved and cared for. No words have to be spoken.

    Giving oral to a female isn’t about the end game, it’s about making her feel good. It could 5 minuets, maybe 25, but she’ll feel great after!

    Thanks for reading (if you did) sorry if it’s crude or anything.

    Jay x

    Ps, sorry if I’m just repeating the artical, like I said, I’ve read a lot..

    • Hi Jay
      Thanks for your comment and compliment anout the article. It’s very interesting to hear from you and get your ideas. I totally agree with everything you said, so hopefully your words will help some guys (and girls too maybe) give even better oral sex.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • Thx you know I’m a virgin but ik a lot about the woman’s anatomy and sex it’s just that I’m soon to be married and I never read anything with oral thx

        • Hi Stephen
          Ah ok, well I recommend reading up on oral sex. Your soon-to-be wife will be eternally grateful if you’re good at it!
          Best of luck for the wedding!
          Ethan

    • Hey Jay,

      Really helpful article, there are plenty of articles on net but its always good to get advice on the personal level (not that the articles on net are trivial). I was looking this on net because this is first time i will be trying it out. Glad there are people out there who are interested in sharing their knowledge & helping guys like me.

      PS: Hope i can read more from you

  • What do you mean when you say ,spell the alphabet with my tongue? I found this very helpful for someone who has never done oral

    • Imagine the whole vaginal area lips, entrance and clitoris are a piece of paper and your tongue is a paint brush. Now draw each letter of the alphabet on your canvas, keeping your tongue soft, nor hard and pointy, linking the letters on the spot when you can, or lifting your tongue to start the next letter if you want to. The idea is that it forces you to stimulate the whole area instead of just flicking away at the clitoris, which many women find just too sensitive, especially at the start.
      Does that help?

  • I am 16, i gave oral for the first time recently. And she said it was very good but i believe that now. I will try new things since im not so nervous now

    • Hi Ant
      It’s always good to try new things. When you find something that works though, remember to remember exactly what you did!
      Ethan

  • Hi there… wow wht great tips here…
    My girl doesn’t want penetration . am allowed to do everything else except enter her. Not even with fingers. She wants me to make her orgasm without entering her in any way. Any suggestions, besides tongue flicking /sliding penis on her clit/finger massaging her clit?

    • Hi again,
      Are you sure that your female friends will be interested in having sexual relations with you, regardless of whether it’s oral sex or even just kissing?
      Ethan

        • If you don’t get them wet first with foreplay, or if you have a very large penis, or go too hard and deep, especially at first, then yes it can hurt. My advice would be to soend loads of time on foreplay. And by that I mean 20 minutes or more, not a quick 5 minute finger or oral and then penetration. Make her lie back, kiss her whole body, give her oral until she is dripping wet. Then have sex.
          Regards
          Ethan

  • I am 17 now and want to give some girl an oral sex but…..I don’t know how to approach…almost every girl like to be given oral ….but why do they shy in admitting that………….sorry for my bad english

    • Hi Josh
      If you have a girlfriend or partner, then it should be something which comes about naturally during foreplay. You don’t need to ask her permission to do it if you’re already at the stage of being naked and sexual together. You just kiss her, work your way down her body slowly, kissing every inch of her body, then down her legs, then slowly position yourself in between her legs and eventually give her oral. It should be something natural, with a good transition from whatever you were doing before. If you spend lots of time kissing and enjoying her body, it will give her time to relax and get used to the idea that you’re maybe going to give her oral.
      Ethan

  • 86 years old healthy with no problems. Oral is all I can give and believe me its real fun. My last orgasm was about a year ago. Cant go anymore. Guess thats it for me, but believe me, my tongue still works just fine and I love it. Kinda hard trying to find someone but when I do, WOW

    • Hi Bill
      Thanks for your comment. Yes, unfortunately that fate awaits all of us guys! But good work for still finding ways to enjoy yourself. You’re an inspiration!
      Regards
      Ethan

  • I have to admit I have performed oral on a lot of women. I love it and would rather do that than receive or even have sex. And in my experience all women are different in how they like this to be done. The trouble arises when a woman is unwilling to communicate to you what exactly she needs. Yes, I can experiment but why do women have such a hard time just telling you? I guess the old “if you loved me you would know how to please me” thing is still going on.
    One of my most erotic relationships was with a married woman who’s husband was unwilling to do this for her. I met her in a bar, she was with girlfriends and I overheard her complaining that husband never went down on her and she so missed that.
    Later I asked her to dance and admitted I had overheard her and offered my “services” with no expectations of anything else. I guess she was drunk enough to not call me a pervert and walk away.
    I did hear the table of her friends break out in laughter after I walked away. I assumed that constituted a no. I never expected her to say yes anyway. However later in the night she came up to me and asked if my offer was still on the table.
    We went out to my car and I performed oral on her. I knew she had an orgasm by the change in taste and the flow and of course by her heavy breathing and her saying “oh #### yes, oh #### yes several times”
    She got up and left after I gave her my number. A week later she called and came over. She told me her sex life with her husband was great, often and satisfying except that it lacked oral from him.
    This started a year long off and on thing. I never had sex with her, never kissed her, never touched her breasts. Usually she would stop by sit down and receive for about half an hour. She would immediately get up and leave after saying thank you. She stopped when she became pregnant. I miss doing this and would like to find a woman again for this but women are not like men, lots of guys would love to find a woman who would give them oral only.
    Does anyone think women will evolve enough someday to be able to just take like this from a man?

    • Hi Don

      Thanks for your comment. And wow, what a comment! I can’t help but think, without sounding rude, that she was using you. But I guess if you enjoyed it too, then perhaps not. I can’t say I’ve ever heard of a situation like this before though! As to whether all women will evolve to want this, I’m not sure many women would agree with the word evolve being used to describe what this would be haha.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • OMG Don you are the man!!! i LOVE oral, and if a guy wont do it to me every time I will dump his ars. That married woman was a lucky gal..!! had her cake and ate it too.. Not that i believe in infidelity, but you are a women’s dream who loves oral. Sounds like you must know what you’re doing!! kudo’s to you!

    • how about instead of licking the alphabet she just wants umlaut, umlaut, and then more umlaut…and then the CHINESE alphabet? night-lite on for all that that with me, how do you even introduce high- speed hypervacuuum suctioning her clit…oh, yeah..the orgasm wiggle… she’s already a fan….

  • I have my 35 year old boy friend, he’s a good lover but I’m not going to lie sometimes its difficult for me to climax when he’s down there. Is it offensive for men for us to explain how it should be done. I don’t want to make him feel bad but I would love to climax more often. What should I do?

    • Hi Maribel
      Not at all! In fact, most guys generally welcome a bit of education as we’re usually quite anxious about pleasing our partner. Most guys, anyway. So if he’s generally the considerate type and not all macho, then he’ll probably be happy for some tips. And even if he isn’t, it’s still probably worth telling him if he hasn’t been able to work it out himself yet. Maybe you could start the ball rolling by asking him to tell you exactly how he likes you to give him oral. Then hopefully when its your turn, he might ask you too.
      Ethan

    • As a man I encourage you to tell him exactly what you want. How you want it how fast where the more details the better.

    • Hi Joseph,
      I’ve never been with a woman in that age band so I can’t really say. But in my experience, women as they get older tend to have higher expectations of what is enjoyable sex, men too. Perhaps that’s one reason why.
      Ethan

  • hi I just need a little information some time after the Christmas holidays am meeting up with my girl friend am 58 yo she is 56yo we are both in love but we are going to doing oral sex me on her and she on me Im just a bit concern about this Iv never done this ever so it’s going to be my first time I have condoms here and 2 tubes of lubricate y girl friend has been marred but now she is divorced I just need some information about this and what should I do

    • Hi Philip
      Well, to be honest, there’s a huge amount of information in the article and the comments. My advice would be to try and relax and let nature take its course. Just go slow, enjoy the time together and spend time kissing around her body before you get started on the oral. Then just follow the tips here and experiment. And of course, ask her what she likes.
      Above all have fun and enjoy it!
      Ethan

  • My lovely wife of 19 years just doesn’t like me to do this when I have convinced her to try in the past she is so sensitive around or on her clit she can’t stand it and pushes me away but I feel she is missing out? She is multi orgasmic with a vibrator either side of her clit but never from penetrative sex. Having read these comments I will try again. Can I ask ladies does the clit start very sensitive and then ease off a little allowing direct contact? Am I hitting it too early on

    • Hi
      Yes, it most definitely starts off more sensitive. I would put your attention to the areas around the clit for a good amount of time, and only move on to touch the clit when you feel she is very aroused. And even then, just use the flat surface of your tongue at first and keep it soft and gentle. If you just go straight in and start flicking it with your tongue, she’s not going to appreciate it if she’s sensitive.
      But the main thing is if she doesn’t enjoy it, either don’t do it, or ask her what she would prefer you to do down there. She’s ultimately the expert when it comes to what feels good or not.
      Regards
      Ethan

    • Try using your tongue to spell the alphabet on her genitals. This works surprisingly well as your tongue is always moving in different directions. Learn her favorite letters and the orders that work the best!A good lover’s hands never stop moving, so keep exploring, insert a finger, or massage her thighs while you perform.You can also try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed or blown to add extra stimulation.Having a mint in your mouth while you are performing cunnilingus can also improve your results. The mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance.

      • Mitchell you have the right ideas !! I think you didn’t need this article and some lucky girl will have a lot of fun with you. Read your comments and started to wish for a guy would do this for me !! You said a key thing ….. “a good lovers hands will never stop moving” ….. I think this article mentioned that women like the build up and touch sensitive ……… this is called being sensual and is most womens … dream!

        • Hi Margaret
          Thanks for your comment. You’re right in that some girl will be lucky! It’s always good to hear from a woman who can share her point of view in the comments here, and let the guys know what works or not.
          Ethan

    • Yes u are read that part of the article go down her body slow her lips her neck even her back the middle of our stomach when I get down there that’s when u get off the straight line and go to the side under the clit n the inside of thighs slightly nibble or lick or even a little sucking while Ur lips are attacked suck while moving up n down her inner things start moving closer to her lips lick or suck up and down open her up a little start lower that the clit even lick inside her just a little move extra slow with her as u approach it try the sides first be very slow n make sure Ur tongue is aofy not pointed n hard lick across the hood just barley touching her clit super slow this may work n take about 5-10 min to work down to her clit don’t spend to much time there unless she’s loving it or it will ruin it move back down wet Ur fingers n massage were she can tolerate with Ur hand while licking everywhere else this may be an alternative that will work for her n she will b so amazed

  • Tried this on 5 different women in 2 weeks and they all multi orgasmed very hard. Ages were 24 to 43.

    They are all asking for more. Love it.

  • Can u help? I come just the moment I penetrate which makes me feel terribly bad and don’t ever want to have sex, I have tried different viagra they never worked they only leave me with severe headache that last a minimum of 5 days I am just 33years old married with children but I want to enjoy sex. Pls help

    • Hi Zac
      Thanks for your comment. Viagra isn’t really the best solution for premature ejaculation. Sure, in some ways it makes sense that if you ejaculate and still stay hard, you can go again and again. But it somehow doesn’t work that way for one reason or another. If you get severe headaches too, then it’s clearly not for you.
      My advice would be to start at the homepage of this website where I talk about the two main paths – delays sprays and natural techniques. My personal preference is for natural techniques, but you can do both on a temporary basis until you learn more about the problem.
      Regards
      Ethan

      • get your wife to give you oral before you penetrate and that can help you last longer, or even drink water and wait until it feels like you have to go and instead get an erection, the need to release your bladder will help with pre-ejaculation.

  • My gorgeous sexy boyfriend did Wayne’s vacuum tip on me and made me come like a bloody train. Choo choo!!

    Amazing!! I even congratulated him after as this was the first time in many years I have orgasmed from oral. He will be def doing this every time I see him.. I can’t get enough as it is..

    Def going to marry him now.

    Cheers palsy! Wayne you’re the man.

    • Hi lover of Henry hoovers

      What a great name just to start with! I’m glad your man mastered Wayne’s magic technique. It’s always good to hear from a woman who has experienced some of the ideas here first hand and can support their efficacy.
      Long may it continue!
      Ethan

    • Can the vacuum technique be explained please? I read Waynes comment about it, but I’m not sure I get all of it. I would, like to have it explained a little more in detail. I have read where this technique is working well for plenty of girls and I really want to have my husband give it a try. I have only had one orgasm during oral sex and would really like to change that. Thanks

      • Hi Cindy

        To be honest I’ve been trying out his technique as well, with mixed effects! I’d also be grateful of a more detailed explanation. But that all depends on whether the Don (Wayne) is still following this thread and fees like responding…

        Regards
        Ethan

    • Omg, that’s what it is. I had no idea but when I read vacuum tip I was thinking “That’s it!” I didn’t know how to explain it but it slingshots me to orgasm in no time! It’s like he’s sucking on my C but allowing air to pass between each successive suck. It’s sort of like if you were to take the house part of the vacuum cleaner to a soft couch(something that can be easily sucked in the vacuum). You don’t just drag it across the couch, you keep pulling it away slightly and replacing it allowing the vacuum to suck in air between each replacement. The vacuum makes the sound of like wee-oooo weee-oooo weee-oooo when you do it.

      This is particularly effective, at least for me, when he does the a tiny bit lower than the tip of my C, like on the shafty part of it. OMG you will love it.

      Obviously do not less with that guys. She has to be aroused for it not to seem ridiculous.

    • Omg, that’s what it is. I had no idea but when I read vacuum tip I was thinking “That’s it!” I didn’t know how to explain it but it slingshots me to orgasm in no time! It’s like he’s sucking on my C but allowing air to pass between each successive suck. It’s sort of like if you were to take the hose part of the vacuum cleaner to a soft couch(something that can be easily sucked in the vacuum). You don’t just drag it across the couch, you keep pulling it away slightly and replacing it allowing the vacuum to suck in air between each replacement. The vacuum makes the sound of like wee-oooo weee-oooo weee-oooo when you do it.

      This is particularly effective, at least for me, when he does it a tiny bit lower than the tip of my C, like on the shafty part of it. OMG ladies you will love it. I am almost guaranteed to ejaculate when this happens. Not everyone can do that so don’t expect it.

      Obviously do not lead with that either guys. She has to be aroused for it not to seem ridiculous.

  • Hi, very informative. Am from Asian country and lot of myths n taboo here. It’s been 8 years of marriage and we could not smooch properly. I try to suck vagina, same is not offered and I offered penis to suck, but it was not accepted.
    How can break the jinx? Is it a good idea to watch a porn movie together? Or can u suggest some stuff where visually it can be demonstrated?
    However I have a maid, as a last option, I would have to sucks hers if did not work with the wife .
    It can u suggest ways To seduce so I can get what been meant for me

    • Hi Jugnu
      Some women just don’t enjoy or find it comfortable to engage in oral sex. And if you try to force it, it can make them even less likely to do it. I would suggest the best thing is to talk to her openly about what she likes and doesn’t like in bed. You might find some answers there. About the maid…well, I think maybe working on your sex life with your wife is a better idea!
      Ethan

    • Hi Ethan , firstly thank you .
      We started talking and things getting better .
      In blue light , I given body to body oil massage to her while watching very erotic movies , specially with oral sex…. I had taste of honey pot at g spot however mine asset is still waiting to be wet with her tongue ….. It’s really unquanchable thrust . Can you suggest how can I make her agreed or seduce to give oral job . It’s an urgency in deed .

      • Hi Jugnu

        You’re welcome. To be honest, some women really don’t like giving oral for personal reasons. The only thing you can do is find a moment outside of sex when you’re both feeling comfortable, talking and happy together. Bring up the topic of sex, and ask her if she finds it difficult to do. Hopefully she’ll give you an answer and maybe if you’re lucky an explanation. But you may also just have to accept that she won’t do it. It’s a shame as my personal opinion is that oral sex is something to be shared. But I’ve known women who have had bad experiences in the past and just can’t face doing it for example. And I had to respect that.
        Regards
        Ethan