How To Give A Woman Oral Sex – Advice For Guys From A Girl

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Do you and your partner enjoy oral sex, but you’re not sure if you’ve quite mastered this sometimes mysterious art?

Perhaps you haven’t had an opportunity yet, but want to be sure you get it right when that magical moment arrives.

Oral sex is arguably an essential part of foreplay, but can be so much more than that – your tongue has the capacity to give a woman toe-curling orgasms.

It’s also a great way of priming your partner and raising her arousal levels, which then reduces the pressure on you to last for a long time when having sex.

This article will teach you guys how to give a girl oral sex properly, as well as helping you work out what your own partner likes and hopes you’ll do.

Everyone is different

It’s really important to remember that everyone is different – what pleases one woman might not tick the right boxes for another.

Perhaps the best piece of advice is to get down (literally) to some serious trial and error. Remember to communicate your desires and simply enjoy the process of getting to know each other.

We girls love receiving oral sex, but you won’t know for sure if what you read in a book or website will work unless you give it a go. Once you’ve read some advice about what women want, test it out and see if your partner enjoys it.

Whatever your partner finds pleasurable is exactly what you need to be doing. Don’t just repeat a trick or style you read, heard or found worked on someone else.

It’s fine to start out with movements you know work for some women, but if isn’t met by moaning or other signs of pleasure, abandon it and move onto the next.

Don’t skip or rush oral sex

Many guys tend to skip past performing oral sex for their partner, or only do it briefly in the hope of receiving some oral in return.

This a mistake though, and sexually selfish if you ask me – a skillful lover should be generous and show his partner that her pleasure is important to him.

And giving oral sex is a key ingredient for turning a woman on, bringing her arousal level up to yours, and therefore ensuring that she enjoys the sexual encounter as much as you do.

If you keep in mind my tips for giving a girl good oral sex and take the time to get it right, you’ll bring some extra spice to the bedroom and satisfy her as much as she deserves.

Don’t rush in

image of a woman lying on a bedPerhaps you don’t really enjoy giving oral sex? Or maybe you’re just a little unsure about what to do exactly.

This can lead to simply diving straight in, with your tongue flicking away like a cat that’s never had milk before.

However, what we really want is for you to start nice and slowly.

Kiss her lips, neck and make your way down her body until you’re kissing her inner thighs. Try and make eye contact as much as possible and position yourself in a comfortably way that you can caress her breasts from time to time.

The idea is to turn her on before you even start the oral sex and make her tingle all over. A bit of teasing works really well here. A lot of teasing can be magic.

Build up gradually

When you begin to kiss and lick during oral sex, work your way in slowly from the outside. This will make the feelings more intense and still feel like you’re teasing her. A slow build up creates a much better orgasm for us girls.

Most women are very sensitive to touch, including touch performed by the tongue, so start gently and see what your woman wants. The clitoris in particular is packed full of nerve endings so make sure you listen to her signals.

Try not to rush into licking the clitoris, and when you do be gentle – especially if she’s not fully aroused yet.

Get creative with your tongue

Diagram Of The Vagina And Clitoris for oral sexThe key to giving a woman good oral sex is to keep moving your tongue. If you’re not sure how, keep it flat and soft, and lick up the entire vulva and clitoris.

You can do an up and down motion or side to side, or a mixture of both.

If you keep your tongue hard and only use the tip, especially in a sharp flicking motion, then you’re denying your girl the softest, wettest and smoothest part of your tongue.

It’s important to use the flatter and softer part of your tongue – especially at the start when she may not be fully aroused and not ready for the additional pressure and speed that the tip can bring.

If you flick away as hard and fast as possible right from the start, it might just feel too sensitive and put her off.

You can try spelling out the alphabet over different areas with your tongue – this keeps the tongue moving in different directions. And don’t forget to change the pace – get faster and more intense if she likes it.

The classic advice with the alphabet techniques is that if you find a ‘letter movement’ that she responds well to, then you can keep repeating that letter for a while.

You might occasionally want to gently suck her clitoris, as the suction can give a different sensation. Some women will love this, some won’t. And even a girl that likes it one day may not the next day.

You need to be ready to change, be creative, be flexible and keep working at finding what tongue movements, pressure and speed work on a particular girl, on a particular day in a particular setting!

And remember it’s not just the clitoris you need to focus on. Draw that alphabet large over the whole area, then medium and small around different parts. Women enjoy the whole area being licked, kissed and touched, so don’t get fixated just on the clitoris.

Don’t forget about your hands

When giving a woman oral sex, try to get yourself into a position where your hands are free to add an extra element. If you’re able to caress her body and breasts while giving oral, she’ll enjoy it so much more.

If you can gently caress her thighs, stomach, chest and arms with your finger tips while giving her oral sex, you’ll be able to tap into multiple erogenous zones all at the same time and send sparks flying in her body.

You can also use one hand to slightly lift up the ‘hood’ of the clitoris and reveal the more sensitive part for your tongue to stimulate. Make sure you learn where this is.

If you’re good at multi-tasking, why not add your fingers into the action and try to stimulate her G Spot? Most women enjoy the build up so try to learn when she’s ready for you to use your fingers as well to intensify the pleasure to the next level.

If you go straight in with the fingers at the start then you might ruin the potential for an orgasm that a steady build up brings. If in doubt, don’t insert a finger until she’s naturally already wet and moaning with pleasure.

Experiment with different positions

the number 69, a great position to give a woman oral sexTry different techniques and see what works for you. Perhaps you’d like to introduce some new positions (such as the 69 where you both perform oral sex to each other at the same time, or the man on top and in control).

Whatever you do, mix it up and don’t make things feel like a routine. If she doesn’t quite know what’s coming next, she’ll be even more turned on, whether the oral sex is for foreplay or for orgasm.

Find the best technique and don’t stop!

It’s obviously not always easy for you to speak to her while you perform oral sex, so listen to the sounds she makes. We women can be a bit shy, but generally most like to talk and say what we like.

If your girl isn’t a talker though, check for signs she’s enjoying it, such as heavier breathing or moaning. And if she’s holding the top of your head, she may grip harder as she’s closer to climaxing.

Look for signals that tell you she’s really turned on, and don’t suddenly stop or change what you’re doing if what you’re doing is working.

At the start it’s fine to play around and experiment with different actions and techniques. But once you’ve teased her and gotten her warmed up, it’s time to settle on the technique that will give her an orgasm and not stop until she gets there.

By this point, your jaw may be aching and your tongue might feel numb, but persistence will pay off. If she’s enjoying it, then stopping as she’s building towards climax just because you have neck ache or a sore jaw isn’t cool!

Nothing beats a bit of feedback so ask her afterwards if she liked it and she might offer some tips to make next time even more intense.


Hopefully you’ll see now that the key to giving a girl oral sex is to not expect any one thing to work from one time to the next.

You need to be flexible, creative and responsive. If she doesn’t tell you exactly what works, you need to find out yourself by observing how she reacts to different techniques.

And perhaps most importantly, when you know what works for her, once you decide to focus on that technique just keep doing it until she reaches orgasm.

Enjoy the practice, enjoy the experimenting, and enjoy the great feeling when you magically work out exactly what she needs to have orgasms.

More ideas

If you’d like to find out about even more ways to give your partner amazing oral sex, I highly recommend reading ‘Lick by Lick’, written by the respected sex expert Michael Webb.

He explores the finer details of what really makes great oral sex, and gives you lots of great ideas and techniques to try.

Check out the Lick by Lick oral sex guide >>

240 CommentsLeave a comment

  • Hi!
    I have given oral I few times before but I have encountered a little problem; I don’t really like the taste or the smell and it annoys me because I really want to give my gf pleasure. It is not that I dislike oral at all, but I can’t stand the taste/smell, what can I do?

    • Hi Abi
      Hmmm, yes this can be a tricky one. Perhaps have showers or baths together and get her horny at that time, then she’ll be as clean as possible when you give her oral. Otherwise, most people do just have to put up with some smell and taste which can be strong at times. That’s just the way it is, and you’ll probably find she’s also putting up with your smell and taste sometimes!

    • You can use a dental dam, encourage her to practice safe sex and then toss it into the mix. This way you won’t have to deal with the taste/smell. Good luck!

  • am 59 years old the last girl friend I had was 15 years ago Iv just kept my self to my self but it’s time
    to have some fun am not getting any younger the truth is I never done oral sex to a lady am a bit worried about STDs in my mouth I’ve seen pictures on here and what you can get from it by licking a woman’s vagina is there anything I can cover it with?

    • Hi Philip
      There’s nothing you can cover it with! If you’re that worried, then you can ask your partner to get an STD test with you before having sex. Some people do ask their new partner to do that.

      • Actually there is! Look up dental dams. They’re definitely something more popular in the lesbian community, but no reason men can’t try them too!

        • Hi Kathleen
          Wow, I didn’t even know they existed. Just looked them up online now – I can’t imagine someone being particularly flattered by you wanting to use one if you’ve only just met, but at least it’s an option. Thanks!

  • Hi

    I am 36 years old man, I don’t like to make oral sex for my partner, although i am sure she wants this.
    give me please some tips to avoid feeling disgusting with oral sex.

    one more thing, my partner is very beautiful and sexy, but i am not feeling excited to her as before, meanwhile, i am feeling excited to another women and those women are not beautiful and sexy as she is.

    I am really feeling bad, please help and advice

    • Hi Sam
      That’s a difficult one to be honest! If you find it disgusting, is it a physical thing or mental? Lots of people don’t really love giving oral sex in terms of the action itself. But, you can learn to love it through the pleasure you give your partner. It’s great to be able to give pleasure to your partner in a way that’s selfless, as it’s all about them in that moment.
      As for your second question, well I guess you need to ask yourself how much your really like the first person. If you’re disgusted by the thought of giving them oral sex, you’re not excited by them and you’re into someone else, that doesn’t look very good to me at all. Maybe you need to be honest and decide whether both you and your partner would be better off not together so you can both find someone who is really well suited.
      Having said that, if you love your partner, perhaps you’re just having a difficult moment and it’s something to work through. If that’s the case, I’d remind myself that it’s normal for feelings to fluctuate in a relationship. But that doesn’t mean they won’t come back or can’t be nurtured.

    • Hi there
      The signs will be different for different women. But she might: tense her body as she approaches orgasm, thrust her vagina more on to your mouth, grab the bed sheets or your body, make louder sounds, breathe more heavily and faster etc.
      You will just know when she has an orgasm! And as the saying goes, if you have to ask her – she probably didn’t! However, with oral sex, you can usually tell from a pulsing feeling that happens in her body around the area.

  • Like Don above there are many men who enjoy pleasuring a woman orally.
    There are fewer that prefer it over all else but again like Don I am also one of them. To give pleasure on an intimate level like this is my favorite thing to do. This article had enlightened me a bit more with some tips on how to pefect my technique. Thanks so much for the info.
    Also I want to say in my experience teasing a woman by not directly putting pressure on her clit only the areas around it for a period of time has given them a much stronger orgasm. I tend to indirectly touch it only slightly until she pretty much forces my toungue on her clit.

    • Hi Rick
      Thanks for your comment. I think you’re right in that most men might enjoy it, but not more than sex. But some do just really love giving that kind of pleasure to their partner.
      I’m glad you enjoyed the article, and thanks for also sharing your tip. I agree that some teasing around the area can go a long way towards heightening the eventual orgasm.

  • I’ve received oral a number of times, but I’ve never come before, mainly because when he’s down there doing it, it’s so intense I have to beg him to stop, but at the same time I really want him to finish the job. Is this normal?

    • Hi Jemma
      Thanks for your comment. Many guys unfortunately just don’t know how to give oral sex properly. Either because they haven’t been taught by a woman or because they haven’t done enough research, which is easy to do these days with the internet and all the guides written to help guys understand the intricacies of good oral sex.
      It may be too intense either because you’re just very sensitive, or because he’s going too hard and fast on the clitoris from early on. Maybe you need to tell the guy to go slow and soft to start with – most guys appreciate a bit of guidance because we secretly really, really want to make you happy when we do it. So in my opinion it’s better just to tell the guy to go easy and build up if it’s all too much for you.

  • I have been with a married women for 6 years and sex is great. She crazy about me giving her oral sex. My tongue runs her crazy in bed. But I wonder why she doesn’t hold or touch me after she cums or after that big organism. She gets sexually distance. I also have to ask her to give me oral. But when she does I can’t cum it takes me a very long time.

    • Hi Ed
      Thanks for your comment. It’s quite normal for a woman to feel totally relaxed after an orgasm and want to enjoy the moment. The best thing you can do is just keep quiet and hold her tight, giving her some gentle caressing maybe.
      You may also find she’s a bit nervous about doing it in return if it takes you a very long time to cum. Some women do find it uncomfortable giving oral for extended periods of time. Maybe ask her honestly how she feels about it and see what she says. Maybe you’ll have to settle for a mixture of manual, oral and normal sex instead of hoping she’s happy to have you in her mouth for ages!
      So my advice would be to have an open chat about what’s working or not for you both.

  • My girlfriend and I are pretty experimental when it comes to sex I’d say we trust each other a lot and are pretty comfortable in the sheets. For her birthday we agreed to some mild bondage. I wouldn’t give to much detail but let her know I had an idea to see if she was interested. So with saying that is there any advice as far as oral stand up or just any ideas that I may not have thought of.

    • Hi Cody
      Something that works really well is if you have her tied or restrained, then spend a loooong time kissing all of her body and teasing her – move up and down the body, and each time you go to give her oral, don’t actually do it. Just tease repeatedly and make her really want it. Then each time you move back to that area you can slowly give more and more oral each time, before stopping again. It can drive her wild with desire for it, so that when you finally settle into giving some serious oral, she will be very, very turned on.

  • Am 26. Pls, what can I do in order to have sex for longer? I hardly last 5min in sex, because of this I do spend a lot of time in romance before making attempts to have sex. I noticed this happens whenever my partner needs me to put more pressure. Thanks

    • Hi Denis
      To last longer, there are two main approaches. One if to practice natural techniques and the other is to use more immediate solutions like a delay spray. If you go to the homepage, you’ll find advice on which one might help you most and why both together can be useful.
      I’d also suggest that you really learn as much as you can about oral sex, as this can be a great way to buy yourself extra time. I like to stop in the middle of sex sometimes and give oral if I’m feeling over-stimulated. And if you’re good at oral, she’ll love you for this. As for more pressure, yes doing it faster and harder will make you come faster. Try doing that in the spoons positions though – it allows for deeper penetration, but is easier for the guy to withstand.

      • My girl friend is soo sexy and beautiful…i dont know if she likes oral sex or not..i like oral i even tried 2 to 3 times..but she doesnt response or doesnt go wild…how to make wild by oral sex…cn u plz hlp me..

        • Hi there
          To be honest, most women don’t exactly go wild during oral sex. In my experience, it’s more of a case of they lie there, relax and enjoy what you’re doing. If you do it right, once they get really turned on, sure they might start moaning, writhing around or grabbing the bed sheets or your head. But often they can be quite quiet until they get quite close to orgasm unless they are a naturally loud person during sexual activity anyway.
          Why don’t you ask her if she enjoys what you do? Ask her what you could do to make it better for her if she enjoys oral sex but you’re not quite hitting her buttons. And also make sure you really read up on doing the techniques correctly. The more knowledge you have, the less practice you’ll need to find something which she really enjoys.

  • Hey, my fiancee has recently told me that she likes me going down on her sometimes, but she is grossed out by spit. She doesn’t like wet kisses on her lips (The ones on her face, lol) and usually wipes those off, so I believe her that she is not a fan of the spit side of oral.

    She said she’s able to ignore it sometimes, but other times it just grosses her out. Any suggestions?

    • Hi CBH
      Yes, just don’t make her feel that there is any spit getting involved in your oral! There’s no need to spit or salivate on her when doing it, and even if some inevitably comes out of your mouth, she doesn’t have to know about it. So try the oral, but try and not do anything or make noises that makes her think spit is involved.

    • Giving cunnilingus is all a matter of using your tongue, lips and mouth to pleasure her down there. Let you tongue glide over her vaginal lips, don’t ignore the clitoris, and work your way inside her vaginal walls. Once you have settled on a nice, steady rhythm, keep the pressure up – and at this point, you need to pay attention to what her body is telling you. Does she like you to go harder or faster? Following the pace that she wants, don’t go lax on the pressure and simply keep on doing what you’re doing. You’ll know that she has reached the big ‘O’ when her pupils dilate, and when her vaginal lips go flex tightly and then go lax.

  • Oh my life!
    This arrival has made my day! I’m a 23yo lesbian and obviously love giving oral! I’ve read slot about oral sex in my younger days when I wasn’t sure what went where, this has got to be the best one yet! If you guys want some advice I’d say
    1: make your girl relaxed and comfortable. Some girls are so self conscious they struggle with being naked. Offer a blanket or to keep to shirt on? She will respect you for it, trust me!
    2: get your girl positioned right. If you place a pillow under her bum, it will push her up and give you an easier job, also it will be more pleasurable for her as it changes inside the vagina and gives her more control. Also, keep her knees apart, not to much so it strains her hips just enough to give you more room, this also opens up the labia making her feel even more!
    3:always be moving. Try and constantly move your tounge, up and down, side to side. Be gental and careful to start, as you feel her feeling more pleasure, increase the pressure and speed. But remember, it’s a vagina, not and ice cream!
    4: don’t forget about your hands! When you can feel her hips moving, her breathing increasing, slip a finger in, (sorry for the crudeness), as I said in #1 the vaginal walls change possison and should make her feel different, you don’t have to move it, just your finger by being there will increase pleasure.
    5: feel the vibrations. If you have a small vibrator use it! Don’t over power your tounge, use it more as an teaser than a toy.
    6: be kind. This last one doesn’t apply to all females but after my experiences (which there has been many) after oral and climax, go back up to the top of the bed, get comfy, and just hold her. Make her feel loved and cared for. No words have to be spoken.

    Giving oral to a female isn’t about the end game, it’s about making her feel good. It could 5 minuets, maybe 25, but she’ll feel great after!

    Thanks for reading (if you did) sorry if it’s crude or anything.

    Jay x

    Ps, sorry if I’m just repeating the artical, like I said, I’ve read a lot..

    • Hi Jay
      Thanks for your comment and compliment anout the article. It’s very interesting to hear from you and get your ideas. I totally agree with everything you said, so hopefully your words will help some guys (and girls too maybe) give even better oral sex.

      • Thx you know I’m a virgin but ik a lot about the woman’s anatomy and sex it’s just that I’m soon to be married and I never read anything with oral thx

        • Hi Stephen
          Ah ok, well I recommend reading up on oral sex. Your soon-to-be wife will be eternally grateful if you’re good at it!
          Best of luck for the wedding!

    • Hey Jay,

      Really helpful article, there are plenty of articles on net but its always good to get advice on the personal level (not that the articles on net are trivial). I was looking this on net because this is first time i will be trying it out. Glad there are people out there who are interested in sharing their knowledge & helping guys like me.

      PS: Hope i can read more from you

  • What do you mean when you say ,spell the alphabet with my tongue? I found this very helpful for someone who has never done oral

    • Imagine the whole vaginal area lips, entrance and clitoris are a piece of paper and your tongue is a paint brush. Now draw each letter of the alphabet on your canvas, keeping your tongue soft, nor hard and pointy, linking the letters on the spot when you can, or lifting your tongue to start the next letter if you want to. The idea is that it forces you to stimulate the whole area instead of just flicking away at the clitoris, which many women find just too sensitive, especially at the start.
      Does that help?

  • I am 16, i gave oral for the first time recently. And she said it was very good but i believe that now. I will try new things since im not so nervous now

    • Hi Ant
      It’s always good to try new things. When you find something that works though, remember to remember exactly what you did!

  • Hi there… wow wht great tips here…
    My girl doesn’t want penetration . am allowed to do everything else except enter her. Not even with fingers. She wants me to make her orgasm without entering her in any way. Any suggestions, besides tongue flicking /sliding penis on her clit/finger massaging her clit?

    • Hi again,
      Are you sure that your female friends will be interested in having sexual relations with you, regardless of whether it’s oral sex or even just kissing?

        • If you don’t get them wet first with foreplay, or if you have a very large penis, or go too hard and deep, especially at first, then yes it can hurt. My advice would be to soend loads of time on foreplay. And by that I mean 20 minutes or more, not a quick 5 minute finger or oral and then penetration. Make her lie back, kiss her whole body, give her oral until she is dripping wet. Then have sex.

  • I am 17 now and want to give some girl an oral sex but…..I don’t know how to approach…almost every girl like to be given oral ….but why do they shy in admitting that………….sorry for my bad english

    • Hi Josh
      If you have a girlfriend or partner, then it should be something which comes about naturally during foreplay. You don’t need to ask her permission to do it if you’re already at the stage of being naked and sexual together. You just kiss her, work your way down her body slowly, kissing every inch of her body, then down her legs, then slowly position yourself in between her legs and eventually give her oral. It should be something natural, with a good transition from whatever you were doing before. If you spend lots of time kissing and enjoying her body, it will give her time to relax and get used to the idea that you’re maybe going to give her oral.

  • 86 years old healthy with no problems. Oral is all I can give and believe me its real fun. My last orgasm was about a year ago. Cant go anymore. Guess thats it for me, but believe me, my tongue still works just fine and I love it. Kinda hard trying to find someone but when I do, WOW

    • Hi Bill
      Thanks for your comment. Yes, unfortunately that fate awaits all of us guys! But good work for still finding ways to enjoy yourself. You’re an inspiration!

  • I have to admit I have performed oral on a lot of women. I love it and would rather do that than receive or even have sex. And in my experience all women are different in how they like this to be done. The trouble arises when a woman is unwilling to communicate to you what exactly she needs. Yes, I can experiment but why do women have such a hard time just telling you? I guess the old “if you loved me you would know how to please me” thing is still going on.
    One of my most erotic relationships was with a married woman who’s husband was unwilling to do this for her. I met her in a bar, she was with girlfriends and I overheard her complaining that husband never went down on her and she so missed that.
    Later I asked her to dance and admitted I had overheard her and offered my “services” with no expectations of anything else. I guess she was drunk enough to not call me a pervert and walk away.
    I did hear the table of her friends break out in laughter after I walked away. I assumed that constituted a no. I never expected her to say yes anyway. However later in the night she came up to me and asked if my offer was still on the table.
    We went out to my car and I performed oral on her. I knew she had an orgasm by the change in taste and the flow and of course by her heavy breathing and her saying “oh #### yes, oh #### yes several times”
    She got up and left after I gave her my number. A week later she called and came over. She told me her sex life with her husband was great, often and satisfying except that it lacked oral from him.
    This started a year long off and on thing. I never had sex with her, never kissed her, never touched her breasts. Usually she would stop by sit down and receive for about half an hour. She would immediately get up and leave after saying thank you. She stopped when she became pregnant. I miss doing this and would like to find a woman again for this but women are not like men, lots of guys would love to find a woman who would give them oral only.
    Does anyone think women will evolve enough someday to be able to just take like this from a man?

    • Hi Don

      Thanks for your comment. And wow, what a comment! I can’t help but think, without sounding rude, that she was using you. But I guess if you enjoyed it too, then perhaps not. I can’t say I’ve ever heard of a situation like this before though! As to whether all women will evolve to want this, I’m not sure many women would agree with the word evolve being used to describe what this would be haha.

      • OMG Don you are the man!!! i LOVE oral, and if a guy wont do it to me every time I will dump his ars. That married woman was a lucky gal..!! had her cake and ate it too.. Not that i believe in infidelity, but you are a women’s dream who loves oral. Sounds like you must know what you’re doing!! kudo’s to you!

    • how about instead of licking the alphabet she just wants umlaut, umlaut, and then more umlaut…and then the CHINESE alphabet? night-lite on for all that that with me, how do you even introduce high- speed hypervacuuum suctioning her clit…oh, yeah..the orgasm wiggle… she’s already a fan….

  • I have my 35 year old boy friend, he’s a good lover but I’m not going to lie sometimes its difficult for me to climax when he’s down there. Is it offensive for men for us to explain how it should be done. I don’t want to make him feel bad but I would love to climax more often. What should I do?

    • Hi Maribel
      Not at all! In fact, most guys generally welcome a bit of education as we’re usually quite anxious about pleasing our partner. Most guys, anyway. So if he’s generally the considerate type and not all macho, then he’ll probably be happy for some tips. And even if he isn’t, it’s still probably worth telling him if he hasn’t been able to work it out himself yet. Maybe you could start the ball rolling by asking him to tell you exactly how he likes you to give him oral. Then hopefully when its your turn, he might ask you too.

    • As a man I encourage you to tell him exactly what you want. How you want it how fast where the more details the better.

    • Hi Joseph,
      I’ve never been with a woman in that age band so I can’t really say. But in my experience, women as they get older tend to have higher expectations of what is enjoyable sex, men too. Perhaps that’s one reason why.

  • hi I just need a little information some time after the Christmas holidays am meeting up with my girl friend am 58 yo she is 56yo we are both in love but we are going to doing oral sex me on her and she on me Im just a bit concern about this Iv never done this ever so it’s going to be my first time I have condoms here and 2 tubes of lubricate y girl friend has been marred but now she is divorced I just need some information about this and what should I do

    • Hi Philip
      Well, to be honest, there’s a huge amount of information in the article and the comments. My advice would be to try and relax and let nature take its course. Just go slow, enjoy the time together and spend time kissing around her body before you get started on the oral. Then just follow the tips here and experiment. And of course, ask her what she likes.
      Above all have fun and enjoy it!

  • My lovely wife of 19 years just doesn’t like me to do this when I have convinced her to try in the past she is so sensitive around or on her clit she can’t stand it and pushes me away but I feel she is missing out? She is multi orgasmic with a vibrator either side of her clit but never from penetrative sex. Having read these comments I will try again. Can I ask ladies does the clit start very sensitive and then ease off a little allowing direct contact? Am I hitting it too early on

    • Hi
      Yes, it most definitely starts off more sensitive. I would put your attention to the areas around the clit for a good amount of time, and only move on to touch the clit when you feel she is very aroused. And even then, just use the flat surface of your tongue at first and keep it soft and gentle. If you just go straight in and start flicking it with your tongue, she’s not going to appreciate it if she’s sensitive.
      But the main thing is if she doesn’t enjoy it, either don’t do it, or ask her what she would prefer you to do down there. She’s ultimately the expert when it comes to what feels good or not.

    • Try using your tongue to spell the alphabet on her genitals. This works surprisingly well as your tongue is always moving in different directions. Learn her favorite letters and the orders that work the best!A good lover’s hands never stop moving, so keep exploring, insert a finger, or massage her thighs while you perform.You can also try using a wide variety of flavored gels, oils, and lubricants. Some of these products heat up when rubbed or blown to add extra stimulation.Having a mint in your mouth while you are performing cunnilingus can also improve your results. The mint, as long as it is not too weak or strong, can create a very intense tingling sensation to enhance your performance.

      • Mitchell you have the right ideas !! I think you didn’t need this article and some lucky girl will have a lot of fun with you. Read your comments and started to wish for a guy would do this for me !! You said a key thing ….. “a good lovers hands will never stop moving” ….. I think this article mentioned that women like the build up and touch sensitive ……… this is called being sensual and is most womens … dream!

        • Hi Margaret
          Thanks for your comment. You’re right in that some girl will be lucky! It’s always good to hear from a woman who can share her point of view in the comments here, and let the guys know what works or not.

    • Yes u are read that part of the article go down her body slow her lips her neck even her back the middle of our stomach when I get down there that’s when u get off the straight line and go to the side under the clit n the inside of thighs slightly nibble or lick or even a little sucking while Ur lips are attacked suck while moving up n down her inner things start moving closer to her lips lick or suck up and down open her up a little start lower that the clit even lick inside her just a little move extra slow with her as u approach it try the sides first be very slow n make sure Ur tongue is aofy not pointed n hard lick across the hood just barley touching her clit super slow this may work n take about 5-10 min to work down to her clit don’t spend to much time there unless she’s loving it or it will ruin it move back down wet Ur fingers n massage were she can tolerate with Ur hand while licking everywhere else this may be an alternative that will work for her n she will b so amazed

  • Tried this on 5 different women in 2 weeks and they all multi orgasmed very hard. Ages were 24 to 43.

    They are all asking for more. Love it.

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