Fleshlight is the world’s most successful male sex toy company, and pretty much single-handedly responsible for making them as acceptable for men as they have been for women for decades.
What makes them so popular is the impressively realistic feeling they provide. There’s also of course the wide variety they offer, with many carefully modeled on adult movie stars’ bodies.
In this review, I’ll be focusing specifically on the stamina training unit, which was the one I used when I was dealing with premature ejaculation. It played an important part in helping me develop my sexual stamina, especially during the months I was single.
The fleshlight stamina training unit is meant to be used to practice ejaculation control techniques like the start and stop method or edging, kegels, reverse kegels, and arousal control.
The idea being that by practicing these techniques with a realistic vagina, you’ll be able to last longer during real sex.
Don’t think this is only about serious self-control exercises and training though. You’ll also have great fun and some intense orgasms along the way.
In this review, I’ll explain why I think it’s such an effective tool to help you overcome premature ejaculation. I’ll also talk about my experience with it, and why if you’re simply looking for something to spice up your solo sex time, a fleshlight is one to consider.
Reasons it rocks
Quality design and realistic silicone skin
The Fleshlight is made from high quality material and has a realistic design, right down to the carefully shaped lips of the vagina.
Although you can’t really tell from the photos, the internal skin is beautifully smooth and soft. The internal flesh is made from a deliciously silky silicone and has just the right combination of flexibility and tightness.
It’s probably the closest thing I’ve found to the sensation of real sex in the many male sex toys I’ve reviewed over the years. The first time you use it, you’ll realize that the way you masturbate has just changed forever.
It has a detailed interior, designed to feel like the contours of a real vagina, enhancing your pleasure and helping you get used to the feeling of sex.
You definitely feel all the contours, which have two stages: firstly the entrance has circular contours, and then the inside has lots of small bumps which creates a great ribbed feeling when you’re using it.
What I found was that the slower you use it the better it feels because of the sensation of the contours. And depending on how you use it, you can give yourself different sensations.
To be honest though, it’s not easy to use it fast the first few times because the stimulation is so insanely strong. If you can cope with the pleasure for longer than 2 or 3 minutes first time round, you’re doing well!
The instructions tell you to remove the inner tube and warm it for a few minutes in hot water. It will then stay warm when back inside the tube while you’re using it.
I tried it without warming it up the first time, and it still felt great. But when you soak it in warm water first it feels much more realistic. It also feels more comfortable since the heat helps spread the lubricant around. So I definitely recommend taking the time to warm it up first.
Variable suction effect
I obviously didn’t read the instructions very well when I bought the fleshlight, as it took me a couple of uses to discover the suction effect.
So I was very surprised to discover that by turning the end cap, you can create a suction effect so powerful you actually have to put some effort into removing your penis!
When you start playing around with the stronger suction settings, it becomes almost impossible to control yourself. So powerful is the stimulation, that if you’re practicing the start and stop technique, it’s a struggle to last more than a minute each time you start up again.
The fleshlight comes in a professional and hygienic box, and importantly it was discreetly packaged inside an unmarked cardboard box when I ordered it.
You get instructions telling you how to care for it, some good lubricant which lasts around 10 uses, and a useful handbook explaining the different techniques you can practice to improve your sexual stamina.
Easy to clean
All realistic vaginas do require a little effort to clean and maintain them. But unlike some other brands, fleshlights are easy and quick to clean since you can remove the inside and turn it inside out in seconds.
I recommend getting a specific sex toy cleaning spray rather than just using soap. But make sure you do clean it properly by running it under a tap and allowing it to air dry if you want it to last a long time.
The instructions also say you can sprinkle some corn starch into the inside occasionally to keep the softness.
Reasons it flops
My main criticism is that the fleshlight is quite large, which means it’s not such a subtle thing to hide if you live with people who like to rummage around your room.
I can understand the idea behind calling it fleshlight and trying to disguise it as a flashlight. But let’s face it – who in the 21st century would wander around the woods with a giant golden flashlight? Maybe a 1980s James Bond villain’s girlfriend, but not me.
The good thing though is that unlike most realistic vaginas it’s built into a plastic case with a screw top lid so you can completely conceal the vagina itself.
And in fact you can use the size and solid exterior to your advantage – try wedging the fleshlight between heavier objects like your mattress and bed frame to create a hands free experience.
Fleshlights apparently are at their best for about 100 uses. If you look after it well, you’ll be able to get more mileage out of it. I guess that’s the trade-off for being made from such a soft and delicate material.
The final word
Overall, the fleshlight is the most pleasurable realistic vagina I’ve ever tried. The skin is soft and smooth, with interior contours that put a smile on your face every time you use it. And it will give you more intense orgasms than you’ve ever had on your own before.
I found that it dramatically reduced how long I could last for, and it took time to build up the same level of sexual stamina again. So that alone tells me it does its job of preparing you for the higher levels of stimulation you’ll have during sex.
And if you’re simply looking for a fun sex toy to heighten your pleasure, I can guarantee you won’t want to go back to your hand once you’re treated yourself to a fleshlight.
Where to buy fleshlights
You can find Fleshlights in many sex shops and online stores. But probably the best place to get them from is the official fleshlight website, where they have regular discounts.
It’s a great website with a wide range of fleshlights, modeled on different porn stars. They also have some cool extras like the shower attachment and vibrating version.
And for a truly interactive experience, you can hook up to their specially made porn videos so it feels like you’re in the film, which is a great experience.