Fleshlight is the most popular brand of realistic vaginas globally, and pretty much single-handedly responsible for making male sex toys acceptable.
What makes them so popular is in part the concept of modelling the vaginas on real porn stars. But more importantly is the fact that they’re, well, just so pleasurable to use.
The fleshlight stamina training unit was dreamed up to be used to practice ejaculation control techniques. The idea being that by practicing the right techniques with something that resembles the real thing, you’ll be able to last longer when it actually matters.
Don’t think this is only about serious self-control exercises and training though. You’ll also have great fun and some intense orgasms along the way, thanks to the fleshlight’s impressively realistic design and awesome suction effect.
In this stamina training unit review I’ll explain why I think it’s such an effective accessory to help you overcome premature ejaculation.
I’ll also talk about my experience with it, and why if you’re simply looking for something to spice up your solo fun time, it will leave madam palm and her five lovely daughters eating dust.
Reasons it rocks
The fleshlight comes in a professional-looking and hygienic pack, and importantly it was discreetly packaged inside an unmarked cardboard box when I ordered it.
You get instructions telling you how to care for it, some good lubricant which lasts around 10 uses, and also a pretty cool handbook explaining the different techniques you can try.
Quality design and realistic silicone skin
It’s made from high-quality material and has a realistic design, right down to the carefully shaped lips of the vagina.
Although you can’t really tell from the photos, the internal skin is beautifully smooth and soft. The internal flesh is made from a deliciously silky silicone and has just the right combination of flexibility and tightness.
It’s probably the closest thing I’ve found to the sensation of real sex in the various toys I’ve looked at over the years. The first time you use it you’ll have a dawning realization that the way you masturbate has just changed forever.
It has a detailed interior, designed to feel like the contours of a real vagina, enhancing your pleasure and helping you get used to the feeling of sex.
You definitely feel all the contours, which have two stages: firstly the entrance has circular contours, and then the inside has lots of small bumps which creates a great ribbed feeling when you’re using it.
What I found was that the slower you use it the better it feels because of the sensation of the contours. And depending on how you use it, you can give yourself different sensations.
To be honest though, it’s almost impossible to use it fast the first few times because the stimulation is so strong you just can’t take it. If you can cope with the pleasure for longer than 2 or 3 minutes first time round, you’re doing well.
The fleshlight instructions tell you to remove the inner tube and warm it for a few minutes in hot water. It will then stay warm when back inside the tube while you’re using it.
I tried it without warming it up the first time, and it still felt great. But when you soak it in water first it feels much more realistic. It also feels more comfortable since the heat helps spread the lubricant around. So I definitely recommend taking the time to warm it up first.
Variable suction effect
I obviously didn’t read the instructions very well when I bought the STU as it took me a couple of uses to discover the suction effect. Imagine my surprise when I realized that by turning the end cap you can create a suction effect so powerful you actually have to put some effort into getting the thing off your penis.
When you start playing around with the stronger suction settings, it becomes almost impossible to control yourself. So good is the sensation, that if you’re practicing the start and stop technique, it’s a struggle to last more than a minute each time you start up again.
Easy to clean
All realistic vaginas do require a little effort to clean and maintain them. But unlike some other brands, fleshlights are easy and quick to clean since you can remove the inside and turn it inside out in seconds.
I recommend getting a specific sex-toy cleaning spray rather than just using soap. But make sure you do clean it properly by running it under a tap and allowing it to air dry if you want it to last a long time. The instructions also say you can sprinkle some corn starch into the inside occasionally to keep the softness.
Reasons it flops
My main criticism is that the fleshlight is quite large, which means it’s not such a subtle thing to hide if you live with people who like to rummage around your room.
I can understand the idea behind calling it fleshlight and trying to disguise it as a flashlight. But let’s face it – who in the 21st century would wander around the woods with a giant golden flashlight? Maybe a 1980s James Bond villain’s girlfriend, but not me.
The good thing though is that unlike most realistic vaginas it’s built into a plastic case with a screw top lid so you can completely conceal the vagina itself. That might buy you some time to kick it under the bed if someone sees it lying around your bedroom.
And in fact you can use the size and solid exterior to your advantage – try wedging the fleshlight between heavier objects like your mattress and bed frame to create a hands free experience.
Another criticism I have is that they say it only lasts for about 100 uses. If you look after it well, you’ll probably get a bit more mileage out of it. I guess that’s the trade-off for being made from a soft material.
It’s also important to note that this isn’t an instant solution to premature ejaculation, if that’s what you’re using it for. You’ll need to practice the techniques for at least a few weeks before you really learn to cope with the stimulation of sex. But stick with it and you’ll have a good chance of improving your stamina in the long run.
The final word
Overall, the fleshlight is the most pleasurable realistic vagina I’ve ever tried. The skin is soft and smooth, with interior contours that put a smile on your face every time you use it. Not to mention give you more intense orgasms than you’ve ever had on your own before.
I found that it dramatically reduced how long I could last for during masturbation, and it took time to build up the same level of stamina again. So that alone tells me it does its job of preparing you for the higher levels of stimulation you’ll have during sex.
And if you’re simply looking for a fun sex toy to heighten your pleasure, I can guarantee you won’t want to go back to your hand once you’re treated yourself to a fleshlight.
Where to buy fleshlights
You can find Fleshlights in many sex shops and online stores. But probably the best place to get them from is the official fleshlight website, where they have regular discounts.
It’s a neat website with a wide range of fleshlights, modeled on different porn stars. They also have some cool extras like the shower attachment and vibrating version.
And for a truly interactive experience you can hook up to their specially made porn videos so it feels like you’re in the film, which is a great experience.