Fleshlight is the most popular global brand of realistic vaginas, and pretty much single-handedly responsible for making male sex toys acceptable.
The concept of the stamina training unit is that as well as having a lot of fun, you can use it to practice ejaculation control techniques.
The idea being that by practicing the right techniques with something that kind of resembles the real thing, you’ll be able to last longer when it actually matters.
In this review, I’ll explain why I think it’s a useful tool for working on your sexual stamina, and of course, a great toy to whip out when you’re in need of something a bit more exciting than your hand.
Reasons it rocks
First things first – when I get sex products in the mail, I don’t want to see a funny grin on the delivery guy’s face as he hands it over.
So I was happy to see my fleshlight discreetly packaged inside an unmarked cardboard box. I also liked the fact that it was neatly presented inside a nice looking pack, rather than flopping around an empty box.
You get instructions telling you how to care for it, some good lubricant which lasts around 10 uses, and a useful little guide book explaining the different techniques you can try.
Quality design and realistic silicone skin
It’s made from high-quality material and has a realistic design, right down to the carefully shaped lips of the vagina.
Although you can’t really tell from the photos, the internal skin is beautifully smooth and soft. The internal flesh is made from a deliciously silky silicone and has just the right combination of flexibility and tightness.
It’s probably the closest thing I’ve found to the sensation of real sex in the various toys I’ve looked at over the years. The first time you use it you’ll have a dawning realization that the way you masturbate has just changed forever.
It has a detailed interior, designed to feel like the contours of a real vagina, enhancing your pleasure and helping you get used to the feeling of sex.
You definitely feel all the contours, which have two stages: firstly the entrance has circular contours, and then the inside has lots of small bumps which creates a great ribbed feeling when you’re using it.
What I found was that the slower you use it the better it feels because of the sensation of the contours. And depending on how you use it, you can give yourself different sensations.
To be honest though, it’s almost impossible to use it fast the first few times because the stimulation is so strong you just can’t take it. If you can cope with the pleasure for longer than 2 or 3 minutes first time round, you’re doing well.
The fleshlight instructions tell you to remove the inner tube and warm it for a few minutes in hot water. It will then stay warm when back inside the tube while you’re using it.
I tried it without warming it up the first time, and it still felt great. But when you soak it in water first it feels much more realistic. It also feels more comfortable since the heat helps spread the lubricant around. So I definitely recommend taking the time to warm it up first.
Variable suction effect
I obviously didn’t read the instructions very well when I bought the STU as it took me a couple of uses to discover the suction effect. Imagine my surprise when I realized that by turning the end cap you can create a suction effect so powerful you actually have to put some effort into getting the thing off your penis.
When you start playing around with the stronger suction settings, it becomes almost impossible to control yourself. So good is the sensation, that if you’re practicing the start and stop technique, it’s a struggle to last more than a minute each time you start up again.
Easy to clean
All realistic vaginas do require a little effort to clean and maintain them. But unlike some other brands, fleshlights are easy and quick to clean since you can remove the inside and turn it inside out in seconds.
I recommend getting a specific sex-toy cleaning spray rather than just using soap. But make sure you do clean it properly by running it under a tap and allowing it to air dry if you want it to last a long time. The instructions also say you can sprinkle some corn starch into the inside occasionally to keep the softness.
Reasons it flops
My main criticism is that the fleshlight is quite large, which means it’s not such a subtle thing to hide if you live with people who like to rummage around your room.
I can understand the idea behind calling it fleshlight and trying to disguise it as a flashlight. But let’s face it – who in the 21st century would wander around the woods with a giant golden flashlight? Maybe a 1980’s James Bond villain’s girlfriend, but not me.
The good thing though is that unlike most realistic vaginas it’s built into a plastic case with a screw-top lid so you can completely conceal the vagina itself. That might buy you some time to kick it under the bed if someone sees it lying around your bedroom.
And in fact you can use the size and solid exterior to your advantage – try wedging the fleshlight between heavier objects like your mattress and bed frame to create a hands-free experience.
Another criticism I have is that they say it only lasts for about 100 uses. If you look after it well, you’ll probably get a bit more mileage out of it. I guess that’s the trade-off for being made from a soft material.
It’s also important to note that this isn’t an instant solution to premature ejaculation, if that’s what you’re using it for. You’ll need to practice the techniques for at least a few weeks before you really learn to cope with the stimulation of sex. But stick with it and you’ll have a good chance of improving your stamina in the long run.
The final word
Overall, the fleshlight stamina training unit is a high quality and intensely pleasurable realistic vagina. The skin is soft and smooth, with interior contours that put a smile on your face every time you use it.
I found that it dramatically reduced how long I could last for during masturbation, and it took time to build up the same level of stamina again. So that alone tells me it does its job of preparing you for the higher levels of stimulation you’ll have during sex.