Delay creams and sprays are an easy and immediate solution for premature ejaculation that appeal to many men.
They can be especially useful if your problem is caused by physical sensitivity rather than factors like anxiety or a lack of arousal control.
In this article you’ll find out more about the pros and cons of using a delay cream or spray, helping you work out if it’s the right option for you or not.
And if you’ve already decided you want to try one, you might like to see my recommendations of the best delay sprays and creams.
1. An easy option which requires minimal effort
Using a delay cream is perhaps the quickest and easiest approach to dealing with premature ejaculation. All you need to do is apply it before you have sex, wait a few minutes before washing it off, and you’re good to go.
2. Use on demand
A delay cream only needs to be applied each time you have sex. So if you don’t have sex often, you don’t need to worry about continually taking something just in case. This is in stark contrast to some other treatments such as anti-depressants, which would need to be taken every day.
3. The ingredients are usually safe
The ingredients used are typically Benzocaine and Lidocaine, topical anesthetics which are generally thought to be safe for most people. Durex condoms, Promescent, Super Dragon 6000, Doc Johnson, Rock hard and Stud 100, for example, all use either of those.
Some people may have adverse reactions to a topical anesthetic cream, but it’s quite rare and most people tolerate the ingredients well.
4. Available without a prescription
Most delay creams can be bought over the counter or ordered online, without the need for a prescription. So if you’re not keen on talking to your doctor about it, this is a discreet self-help option that can avoid any potential embarrassment.
5. The numbing is usually effective
The most important question when considering a delay cream is of course whether it actually works of not. Most of them do work, and sometimes very well.
However, the numbing action is sometimes a little too strong and causes other problems, as you’ll see in the next section.
Possible issues and side effects
1. Loss of erection
One of the common side effects of delay products is too much numbing. If the cream is too strong, or you put too much on, you may end up with reduced sensation.
This can sometimes also result in difficult getting or maintaining an erection. You then have to wash off what you can, and wait for the anesthetic to wear off before trying again. Not an ideal situation in the throws of passion.
2. Loss of pleasure
Another common problem with desensitizing creams is that you effectively have a trade-off. You should last longer in bed, but you might enjoy the sensation less.
It could be argued that you have less pleasure, but have it for longer so it’s a good trade. And you also get pleasure in knowing that you’re satisfying your partner, which is of course very important.
3. Transference to your partner
Any numbing cream has the potential to cause some problems for your partner if it transfers to the, either through penetrative sex or oral.
So it’s important to follow the instructions carefully (If you bought one that doesn’t have clear instructions, take a look at my article about using delay sprays correctly).
But sometimes transference still happens for various reasons, such as getting the timing wrong or not washing it off properly. An easy way to avoid this is to use a condom, and if you have unprotected sex make sure you wash it off properly before sex.
4. Having to apply it before having sex
Depending on your personal situation, the act of applying the spray or cream can be an issue.
If you’re in a relationship, or with an understanding person, it’s probably not so much of an issue – especially if you know exactly when you’re going to have sex.
But if you’re with a new partner, or it’s spontaneous sex, it can be a bit of a passion killer to pop into the bathroom to apply it and then wait to wash it off.
My advice is to just be up front about it and make the most of that time to focus on giving your partner some amazing foreplay. Hopefully they’ll be too busy being pleasured to make you feel awkward about the cream.
5. Not a cure – the long-term cost
Desensitizing products can’t cure premature ejaculation, so if you choose to use them on an ongoing basis, you’ll have to keep buying them.
If you have the money, you might feel that it’s worth the cost. And even if you don’t have all the money in the world, the chances are you’ll still find enough for the upkeep of your sex life. But at the end of the day, the cost will add up if you have an active life between the sheets.
As you can see, there are good reasons for and against using a desensitizing product. The main positives are that they are easy to get, work quickly and you don’t have to put any effort into learning ejaculation control.
The main problems are that it’s not a cure and it can cause a loss of pleasure and erection strength.
My advice is that if you need something to help right now, it’s worth trying one to see if it suits you. Just make sure you follow the instructions carefully and don’t skip the part where you wash it off before sex.