The Squeeze technique is one of the oldest self-help techniques developed to help guys with premature ejaculation. Created by the famous sex therapists William Masters and Virginia Johnson, some see it as an effective technique, but it’s actually quite difficult to do correctly.
To be honest, I’m not a huge fan of the technique. Partly because it’s an awkward one to do, but also because I just think there are better ways to last longer in bed.
Despite not being enthralled by the method, I’m still keen to describe it as best I can in case you’re interested in trying it. So in this article you’ll find step by step instructions, and if you have any questions feel free to drop them in the comments at the end.
1. Do you need a professional to show you how?
Some websites recommend that you ask a professional sex therapist to show you how to do the technique because it’s so tricky. But let’s face it, who’s actually going to ask for that kind of help, especially in the modern era of the internet?
I think it’s possible to understand the technique with some clear instructions, but I wanted to mention this point in case you’ve read it elsewhere.
2. You should practise it with your partner
It’s been found that if you try the squeeze technique yourself, it’s usually less effective. This is due to the awkward thumb and finger positioning needed to do it correctly.
You can try to change the positioning of your fingers and thumb to adapt the technique to do it solo, but it requires some double-jointed wrist and finger yoga. Personally, I find it pretty uncomfortable to do alone.
Part one – the technique with an erection
Assuming you’re practicing the technique with your partner, ask them to start masturbating you. As soon as you get a full erection, she has to stop and put her fingers in the correct position to squeeze your penis as follows:
She should place her thumb on the frenulum, which is the string-like piece of skin connecting the head of the penis to the foreskin.
The first and second fingers are placed on the opposite side, i.e. the front side of the penis that you see when you look down at it.
They are placed either side of the coronal ridge, which is the ridge of the tip of the penis a few centimeters from the very top, but with the fingers still next to each other either side of the ridge.
Your partner squeezes your penis with her fingers in that position for about 4 seconds. She needs to squeeze quite hard, and probably won’t naturally apply the right strength through fear of hurting you.
If that’s the case, you may need to guide her by putting your hand over her fingers and showing her how hard she can squeeze without hurting you.
You may lose between 10 and 30 percent of your erection strength because of the squeeze, which is completely normal. Your partner should then wait 15-30 seconds after releasing the squeeze before starting to stimulate your penis again.
As soon as you get a full erection again, you can repeat the technique. This pattern can be repeated 4-5 times in the first session. When you’ve done this a few times, you can then move on to try it to achieve ejaculation control.
Part two – practicing ejaculation control
Now comes the time to really put the technique to the test. In this stage your partner should masturbate you to the point of nearing orgasm, and then use the squeeze technique as described above. The key is to make sure you do it at the right time, something which isn’t easy to pinpoint.
If you find that you instantly feel like ejaculating when she starts again after each rest, you probably left it too close to the point of ejaculation. So in future try to stop and do the squeeze a little earlier.
It’s a bit of an art-form getting the timing right, so you’ll have to experiment a little and probably be prepared for a few timing mishaps at first. The idea is that the technique will buy you time each time you do it and rest, not that you end up painfully hovering around the point of ejaculation.
You can repeat this process either 4 or 5 times, or for a period of 15-20 minutes – whichever comes first. Remember to allow an enjoyable ejaculation and orgasm at the end of the session.
After practicing this technique over 3-4 different days, you can move on and try it with oral sex. Finally, after 3-4 days of practicing during oral sex you can attempt ejaculation control with full penetrative sex.
When having full sex, it’s recommended that you use the squeeze technique 2-3 times first during foreplay before having sex and continuing to withdraw and use the technique.
How often should you practice it?
The squeeze technique takes dedication on both you and your partner’s part. It may be then that you only practice the technique once or twice per week whilst continuing to have normal sex on other days.
It’s important to still have a natural sexual relationship whilst practicing this and other techniques. But do continue to practice the technique every week over the coming months. With a little luck and perseverance you’ll see results even in your normal sexual encounters with your partner.
This should hopefully serve as a motivation and reason to keep up with the somewhat clinical and torturous squeeze technique sessions.
The importance of trust
This technique involves trust and understanding between you and your partner. It’s important that both of you are relaxed, calm and able to enjoy the sessions. Any stress, anxiety, embarrassment or fear will only serve to undermine what you’re doing.
So enter into each session lovingly and enjoy each others company. At first you’ll need to tell you partner when you’re near ejaculation, but in time she should recognize the signs from your body and be able to tell when to put the squeeze technique into action.
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I think it’s useful to consider reading a good premature ejaculation book to really tackle the problem from every angle. There’s lots to learn about how your body and mind work during sex, and other exercises which can help you gain control.
If that’s not something you’re keen on doing right now though, I do also recommend trying out techniques such as the start and stop method. In my experience, it’s better than the squeeze technique.
Finally, you might find it helpful to read my story where I describe my efforts to stop premature ejaculation.