The Squeeze technique is one of several techniques men can use to develop the ability to control when they ejaculate.
It was developed by the famous sex therapists and researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson – hence the official name ‘the Masters-Johnson method’
It can be a very good way to overcome premature ejaculation, but it must be done correctly – something which isn’t always easy to achieve.
In this article I’ll give you step-by-step instructions, so if you do want to try it with a partner, you’ll have the best chance at getting it right.
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2 Key points before attempting the squeeze technique:
It’s best to be shown the method by a professional
Obviously not everyone wants to pay for, or even visit a sex therapist. So I’ll do our best to describe the technique, but bear in mind many men get it wrong when trying to learn it themselves.
It’s much more effective if done under a structured training program with professional guidance.
The squeeze technique should be done with your partner
It has been found that when a man attempts it himself, it is usually less effective – this is due to the awkward thumb and finger positioning needed for a man to do it on his own.
I’ve found that it’s just about impossible unless your wrist can bend in a very unnatural way! You can try to change the positioning of your fingers and thumb to adapt the technique to do it solo, but it’s really tricky.
If you still want to try and learn without professional guidance, then this is how the method should be performed. Note that there is a specifically slow build up in learning the squeeze technique.
Part one – the technique with an erection
- 1. Assuming that you are practicing the technique as a couple, ask your partner to masturbate you using her hand to begin with when learning the technique.
2. As soon as you get a full erection (not before orgasm – just when you get a full erection), your partner must stop and put her fingers in the correct position to squeeze the penis.
As the picture to the right shows, the thumb must be placed over the frenulum, which is the elastic band like piece of tissue under the glands (tip) of the penis which connects the foreskin to the penis. This is on the opposite side of the penis from the side a man usually sees.
Then the first and second finger are placed on the opposite side, i.e. the front side of the penis that the man can usually see.
They are placed either side of the coronal ridge, which is the ridge of the tip of the penis a few centimeters from the very top, but with the fingers still next to each other either side of the ridge.
3. Your partner squeezes your penis with her fingers in that position for about 4 seconds. She needs to squeeze quite hard, and probably won’t naturally apply the right strength through fear of hurting you.
In this case you may need to put your hand over her fingers and squeeze harder. This will show her how hard she can actually squeeze without hurting you.
4. You may lose between 10 and 30 percent of your erection because of the squeeze. This is completely normal. Your partner should wait 15-30 seconds after releasing the squeeze before starting to stimulate your penis again.
5. As soon as you re-gain a full erection, the squeeze technique can again be done. This pattern can be repeated 4-5 times in the first session.
6. When you have done this a few times, you can then move on to trying it to achieve ejaculation control.
Part two – practicing ejaculation control
1. In this next stage your partner should masturbate you to the point of nearing orgasm, and then use the squeeze method as described above.
2. You can repeat this process either 4 or 5 times, or for a period of 15-20 minutes – whichever comes first. Remember to allow an enjoyable ejaculation and orgasm at the end of the session.
3. After practicing this technique over 3-4 different days, you can move on and try it with oral sex.
4. Finally, after 3-4 days of practicing during oral sex, you can then attempt ejaculation control with full penetrative sex.
5. When having full sex, it is recommended that you use the squeeze technique 2-3 times first during foreplay, before then having sex and continuing to withdraw and use the technique.
How often and for how long should you practice the squeeze technique?
The Masters-Johnson method does take a certain amount of dedication on both you and your partner’s behalf. It may be then that you only practice the technique once or twice per week, whilst continuing to have normal, free flowing sexual activities between you on other days.
It’s important to still have a natural sexual relationship whilst practicing this and other techniques. But do continue to practice the technique every week over the coming months.
You may need to practice the squeeze technique once a week for several months to completely ingrain the new-found ability to control ejaculation. But steadily you will see results even in your normal sexual encounters with your partner.
This should hopefully serve as a motivation and reason to keep up with the somewhat clinical and torturous sounding squeeze technique sessions.
Even if you see good results in weeks, do continue to practice the technique as it will help to make it a more permanent result.
The importance of trust
Please also remember that this technique involves a lot of trust and understanding between you and your partner. It’s important that both of you, but especially you, are relaxed, calm and able to enjoy the sessions.
Any stress, anxiety, embarrassment or fear will only serve to undermine what you are doing.
So enter into each session lovingly, or at least happily, and enjoy each others company. At first you will need to tell you partner when you are near ejaculation, but in time, she should recognize the signs from your body and be able to tell when to put the squeeze technique into action.
Trust her and allow her to do so. This is a joint venture, so remember to trust one another and enter each squeeze technique training session as a partnership.
More premature ejaculation techniques
The squeeze technique is just one of several classic methods to improve your self-control. And in many ways it’s probably the hardest to do correctly.
Fortunately there are other techniques you can try, such as kegels and the stop-start method.
It’s also essential to understand the psychological and biological processes that can contribute to the problem of premature ejaculation.
For that reason I recommend that you consider getting yourself a good book on the topic. You can then learn in a structured way everything you need to know which will make practicing the techniques far more effective.
If you just try and put bits and pieces together from reading articles online, then you may well miss out some key points.
Have a read of my premature ejaculation book reviews to decide which one might be best suited to the stage you are at in learning ejaculation control.