The Masters And Johnson Squeeze Technique

The Squeeze technique is one of several natural techniques men can use to develop the ability to control when they ejaculate.

It was developed by the famous sex therapists William Masters and Virginia Johnson – hence the official name ‘the Masters-Johnson method’

It’s often promoted as a good way to overcome premature ejaculation, but it must be done correctly – something which isn’t always easy to achieve.

And if I’m perfectly honest, I’m not a huge fan of the technique, as you’ll see why later in the article.

In this article I’ll give you step-by-step instructions, so if you do want to try it with a partner, you’ll have the best chance at getting it right.


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2 Key points before attempting the squeeze technique:

It’s best to be shown the method by a professional

masters and johnson grip pictureUsually it’s recommended that professional sex therapists demonstrate to a couple exactly how to hold the penis during the squeeze technique to ensure it’s done correctly.

Obviously not everyone finds the idea of visiting a sex therapist appealing though. So I’ll do my best to describe the technique, but bear in mind many men get it wrong when trying to learn it themselves.


The squeeze technique should be done with your partner

It’s been found that when a man attempts it himself, it’s usually less effective – this is due to the awkward thumb and finger positioning needed for a man to do it on his own.

I’ve found that it’s just about impossible unless your wrist can bend in a very unnatural way! You can try to change the positioning of your fingers and thumb to adapt the technique to do it solo, but it’s really tricky.

If you still want to try and learn without professional guidance, then this is how the method should be performed. Note that there’s a specifically slow build up in learning the squeeze technique.


Part one – the technique with an erection

1. Assuming you’re practicing the technique with your partner, ask them to masturbate you using one hand to begin with.

2. As soon as you get a full erection (not before orgasm – just when you get a full erection), your partner must stop and put her fingers in the correct position to squeeze your penis.

Masters and johnson grip diagram

The correct finger positions for the Masters and Johnson grip

As the picture to the right shows, the thumb must be placed over the frenulum, which is the elastic band like piece of tissue under the glands (tip) of the penis which connects the foreskin to the penis (on the underside of your penis).

Then the first and second finger are placed on the opposite side, i.e. the front side of the penis that you see when you look down at it.

They are placed either side of the coronal ridge, which is the ridge of the tip of the penis a few centimeters from the very top, but with the fingers still next to each other either side of the ridge.

3. Your partner squeezes your penis with her fingers in that position for about 4 seconds. She needs to squeeze quite hard, and probably won’t naturally apply the right strength through fear of hurting you.

In this case you may need to put your hand over her fingers and squeeze harder. This will show her how hard she can actually squeeze without hurting you.

4. You may lose between 10 and 30 percent of your erection because of the squeeze. This is completely normal. Your partner should wait 15-30 seconds after releasing the squeeze before starting to stimulate your penis again.

5. As soon as you re-gain a full erection, the squeeze technique can again be done. This pattern can be repeated 4-5 times in the first session.

6. When you’ve done this a few times, you can then move on to try it to achieve ejaculation control.


Part two – practicing ejaculation control

1. In this next stage your partner should masturbate you to the point of nearing orgasm, and then use the squeeze method as described above.

2. You can repeat this process either 4 or 5 times, or for a period of 15-20 minutes – whichever comes first. Remember to allow an enjoyable ejaculation and orgasm at the end of the session.

3. After practicing this technique over 3-4 different days, you can move on and try it with oral sex.

4. Finally, after 3-4 days of practicing during oral sex, you can then attempt ejaculation control with full penetrative sex.

5. When having full sex, it’s recommended that you use the squeeze technique 2-3 times first during foreplay, before then having sex and continuing to withdraw and use the technique.


How often should you practice the squeeze technique?

The Masters-Johnson method takes dedication on both you and your partner’s part. It may be then that you only practice the technique once or twice per week, whilst continuing to have normal sex on other days.

It’s important to still have a natural sexual relationship whilst practicing this and other techniques. But do continue to practice the technique every week over the coming months. Steadily you will see results even in your normal sexual encounters with your partner.

This should hopefully serve as a motivation and reason to keep up with the somewhat clinical and torturous sounding squeeze technique sessions.


The importance of trust

This technique involves trust and understanding between you and your partner. It’s important that both of you are relaxed, calm and able to enjoy the sessions.

Any stress, anxiety, embarrassment or fear will only serve to undermine what you are doing.

So enter into each session lovingly and enjoy each others company. At first you’ll need to tell you partner when you’re near ejaculation, but in time, she should recognize the signs from your body and be able to tell when to put the squeeze technique into action.


More premature ejaculation techniques

The squeeze technique is just one of several classic methods to improve your self-control. And in many ways it’s probably the hardest and most unnatural to do.

Fortunately there are other techniques you can try, such as kegels and the stop-start method.

It’s also essential to understand the psychological and biological processes that can contribute to the problem of premature ejaculation.

For that reason I recommend that you consider getting yourself a good book on the topic. You can then learn in a structured way everything you need to know which will make practicing the various different techniques far more effective.

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26 Responses to “The Masters And Johnson Squeeze Technique”

  1. Lantus says:


    My ex girlfriend used to like really gentle sex, so I could last relatively long periods (not sure exactly how long), and then, towards the end decide when to get more active to control my ejaculation.

    I’ve recently dated a new girl, and she was much more into … pounding sex, and I really didn’t last much at all — perhaps a minute? So it clearly depends on what you do as well.

    I’m not very happy with that, but not sure I need treatment just yet.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Lantus
      I understand your predicament completely. And yes, you’re right in that what you do during sex can have a massive impact on your lasting time. I had exactly the same response, as I think would most guys. My way of dealing with it was just to become more dominant in bed. I would take control and make sure that it was me that dictates the speed, rhythm and positions etc. That way I could last longer by doing it slowly at first, which also helped give me time to manage my arousal levels. Then once I felt I was in control, I would build up the speed. And of course, you can also spend as much time on foreplay as you like.
      Now, if you have a seriously dominant and confident sexual partner, it’s not so easy to take control. But I think you still can, and if all else fails just talk to her about what you need to be able to last longer. Logically if she wants to have the best possible sex with you, and you know what will help that happen, she should listen to you and work with you. In theory…

  2. cladul says:

    hi, i haven’t experience this problem but the opposite, when I make love, after foreplays even if i’m still excited i can’t come, it takes lot of effort and most of the time with my partner i have to finish by masturbating, and still there it takes lots of time. and sometimes our love session ends without i can come
    first i can compare to a swimming pool filter pump where there is air, even if it turns, it doesn’t prime, so even if excited, wants to come,, i can’t
    2nd when i can come, the sperm is very white and very thick, it does not ejaculate, it drip from penis, another source of frustration. Being in erection for hours brings also some inconfortable situations, I dont know what to do, and it is hard to talk about it. How can it be fix ?

  3. Thomas Crull says:

    My wife and I heard about this technique some time ago, 30 years +-. We attempted to practice. The timing was a little off and she applied the squeeze a little late and I ejaculated during the squeeze when she finally released the squeeze there was blood in the ejaculate and some pain. We did not attempt this technique again .

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Thomas
      Thanks for your comment. Wow, I’m not surprised you never tried the technique again! Did you do other techniques instead, or did you leave it?

  4. anonymous says:

    I am uncircumcised and had phimosis, but now able to fully retract the foreskin, However, once exposed the glans is very sensitive. It’s too uncomfortable touching directly to the exposed glans which is the reason of premature ejaculation. I will exercise squeeze technique, is there any technique by which extra sensitive glans become pleasurable to touch.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi there
      Have you tried using a desensitizing spray? You might find that one of those helps reduce the sensitivity a little bit, enough for it to be pleasurable to touch again hopefully.

  5. Hilchin says:

    Thanks a lot for this great work. I will try it and give you the feedback.

  6. mihu says:

    when I was 16 I used to masturbate every day 2 to three times a day. but during erection time I pushed hard on my penis (where penis joins to body) so semen never come out but got feel the erection sensation. but now I’m 31 & got married. enjoying with my wife last two years but I’m not happy. cos I erect within 1 minute after enter in her. but she is happy, cos continue after my first erection to make her happy. u know this is very hard to continue after first erection without rest. but I can continue for 15 to 20 min after first erection without breake. in this time she get 2 to three orgasms and me again another erection at last. but she is not getting pregnant. what’s the problem u think? would u pls ans?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Mihu

      I’m not sure I completely understand what you mean in the comment. You say erection at times when I wonder if you mean ejaculation? Do you mean you ejaculate after 1 minute, but then continue to have sex? And is the problem you mention the fact that she isn’t getting pregnant? If that’s the case, then considering what you first said – do you actually ejaculate semen when you orgasm? If so, then there could be many reasons why she’s not getting pregnant. My advice would be to either keep trying, or speak to a doctor about it to check you are both fertile.

  7. hector says:

    I never have had this issue….. recently about the past three months i reach orgasms within 1-2 minutes or less of exposure! It definitly is causing anxiety as well as some self doubt and depression. I just dont understand why this problem just started. my girlfriend and I had some issues but are working them out. this problem occurs with masturbation as well as sex and like i said i have never had this issue and have been told many times in the last that i am above average in bed. whats going on?

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Hector

      Thanks for your comment. I can understand your frustration, but don’t panic just yet. Many guys go through periods where their lasting time dramatically alters, for better or for worse. And often there is no identifiable reason. What have you changed about the way you have sex? Are you having sex less often, and with less foreplay to ‘warm’ her up? Sometimes getting into a habit of less sex and less foreplay for example can result in the guy being unable to contain himself.
      The main thing is not to panic about it just yet. Spend more time focused on her, lots of foreplay and manual and oral stimulation, and don’t worry so much about your time during penetration. This should help improve your confidence if you see you are making her happy.
      If the problem persists for weeks, then maybe have a look round this site and see what other advice you can apply. There’s plenty here to think about.
      All the best

      • Hector says:

        well i have been having a problem with opiates and coming off of them i am also on prozac which i tried to decrease and it didn’t help, i have just never had this problem before, could it be the opiate withdrawal issue and getting my chemical levels and endorphins back to normal??

        • Ethan Green says:

          Hi Hector,

          Thanks for your comment. To be honest, I’m not a medical professional, so couldn’t really give you a solid answer one way or the other. Having said that, I can imagine that when your general chemistry is in chaos, it can have an effect on all kinds of bodily functions. I guess the only way to really know is to see if the problem resolves once you’re completely off the opiates. If not, then perhaps either speak to your doctor about the prozac, or come back here for more advice.
          All the best and stay strong!

  8. hussey says:

    Sir ,

    I m suffering from PE since many years. I completed 3 years of my marriage. I use to masturbate a lot at the time of my schooling . Is this a cause of this problem. I am visiting psychiatrist for this but no results. I m very depressed because of this problem . I will surely try this technique . Please give suggestion if any.



    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Hussey

      Thank you for your comment. It’s impossible to say what led to your PE. It could be masturbation, but it could be something else. The key though is what you do about it. Have a look around this website and you’ll find plenty of ideas and suggestions for you. I personally don’t think that the masters and johnson techniquer alone will work, and that you need to do more than this one technique. Check out our homepage and you’ll find ideas of the different things which can help.
      Try not to let it keep you depressed…decide today that you’re going to take action to deal with the problem, and dedicate yourself to it. With time, patience and dedication you can make an improvement.
      All the best

  9. rew q says:

    Dear Ethan ,

    I was highly impressed by reading the above method, but our friend Ethan shocked me by saying that he can last 8-10 minutes … so i am curious to ask the following : what is the normal duration that should last during intercourse if a man is not controlling as in for a normal human being. and what could be the estimated time after being able to control it (minimum maximum ).

    well , i am having the same problem i use to last longer doing safe sex but sex without safety is really ending quickly .. i just want it to last longer ,to be able to enjoy it and to satisfy my partner….

    i will start the above method i wish that it will help me controlling it .

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi rew,

      Thanks for your comment. I think your questions about lasting time are best answered by reading this article which discusses the facts about premature ejaculation statistics.
      It’s also much harder to last longer with unprotected sex! So don’t be shocked if the change has made a big difference. You will hopefully get used to it over time. But you can also go back to using a condom sometimes if you feel like lasting longer. You’ll probably last even longer than before now you’ve been exposed to the more sensitive experience.
      All the best

  10. Eddie says:

    I haven’t experienced this problem before but after I went to school physical intimacy was only one week a month due to distance. Prior to this change I’d last 8-10 minutes. What could be the cause of this change

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Eddie,

      I would imagine it’s very likely due to the excitement of seeing your partner again! And of course the lack of practice in between. Try not to think you have a serious problem. Probably with some regular time together again you’ll be fine:-)
      All the best

  11. Salunkhe SK says:

    Dear sir, I’ll try my best for those Techniques; I know that the result will be positive one. I am suffering the problem from last 8 yrs. So nowadays I comes to know the Techniques I an going to try this regularly.
    Thanking you.

    • Ethan Green says:

      Hi Salunke SK

      I am happy you think the techniques will help you. Hopefully they will and the problem with get better!

  12. hazel carter says:

    Heard about this on a episode of Frasier – the whole show is about sex lol

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