The Squeeze technique is one of several classic to overcome premature ejaculation. It was developed by the sex therapists and researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson, hence the official name.
It need to be done correctly to be effective, something which is unfortunately not always easy to achieve. So in this article I’ll give you step by step instructions to hopefully help you get it right.
But do also bear in mind that there are other ways to last for longer during sex which you might also find helpful to investigate.
It’s best to be shown the method by a professional
Usually it’s recommended that professional sex therapists demonstrate to a couple exactly how to hold the penis during the squeeze technique to ensure it’s done correctly.
Obviously not everyone wants to pay for, or even visit a sex therapist. But it is much more effective if done under a structured training program with professional guidance.
The squeeze technique should be done with your partner
I found that it is just about impossible unless your wrist can bend in a very unnatural way.
You can try to change the positioning of your fingers and thumb to adapt the technique to do it solo, but it’s really tricky.
Because of these two problems with doing the Masters Johnson method, my opinion is that you may be better off trying the start and stop method instead. It can be practiced alone or with your partner and is just as effective.
If you still want to try and learn without professional guidance, then this is how the method should be performed. Note that there is a specifically slow build up in learning the squeeze technique.
Part one – manual stimulation only
1. Assuming that you are practicing the technique as a couple, to start with just ask your partner to masturbate you using her hand.
2. As soon as you get a full erection, your partner must stop and put her fingers in the correct position to squeeze the penis.
As the diagram above shows, the thumb must be placed over the frenulum, which is the elastic band like piece of tissue under the glands (tip) of the penis which connects the foreskin to the penis. This is on the opposite side of the penis from the side a man usually sees.
Then the first and second finger are placed on the opposite side, i.e. the front side of the penis that the man can usually see.
They are placed either side of the coronal ridge, which is the ridge of the tip of the penis a few centimeters from the very top, but with the fingers still next to each other either side of the ridge.
3. Your partner squeezes your penis with her fingers in that position for about 4 seconds. She needs to squeeze quite hard, and probably won’t naturally apply the right strength through fear of hurting you.
In this case you may need to put your hand over her fingers and squeeze harder. This will show her how hard she can actually squeeze without hurting you.
4. You may lose between 10 and 30 percent of your erection because of the squeeze. This is completely normal. Your partner should wait 15-30 seconds after releasing the squeeze before starting to stimulate your penis again.
5. As soon as you re-gain a full erection, the squeeze technique can again be done. This pattern can be repeated 4-5 times in the first session.
6. When you have done this a few times, you can then move on to trying it to achieve ejaculation control.
Part two – practicing ejaculation control
1. In this next stage your partner should masturbate you to the point of nearing orgasm, and then use the squeeze method as described above just before you are about to ejaculate.
2. You can repeat this process either 4 or 5 times, or for a period of 15-20 minutes – whichever comes first. Remember to allow an enjoyable ejaculation and orgasm at the end of the session.
3. After practicing the squeeze technique manually over 3-4 different days, you can move on and try it with oral sex.
4. Finally, after 3-4 days of practicing during oral sex, you can then attempt ejaculation control with full penetrative sex.
5. When having full sex, it is recommended that you use the squeeze technique 2-3 times first during foreplay, before then having sex and continuing to withdraw and use the technique.
How often and for how long should you practice the squeeze technique?
The Masters-Johnson method does take a certain amount of dedication on both you and your partner’s behalf. It may be then that you only practice the technique once or twice per week, whilst continuing to have normal, free flowing sex on other days.
It is important to still have a natural sexual relationship whilst practicing this and other techniques. But do continue to practice the technique every week over the coming months.
You may need to practice the squeeze technique once a week for 6-12 months to completely ingrain the new-found ability to control ejaculation. But steadily you will see results even in your normal sexual encounters with your partner.
This should hopefully serve as a motivation and reason to keep up with the somewhat clinical and torturous sounding squeeze technique sessions.
Even if you see good results in weeks, do continue to practice the technique as it will help to make it a more permanent result.
The importance of trust
Please also remember that this technique involves a lot of trust and understanding between you and your partner. It is important that both of you, but especially you, are relaxed, calm and able to enjoy the sessions.
Any stress, anxiety, embarrassment or fear will only serve to undermine what you are doing.
So enter into each session lovingly, or at least happily, and enjoy each others company. At first you will need to tell you partner when you are near ejaculation, but in time she should recognize the signs from your body and be able to tell when to put the squeeze technique into action.
Trust her and allow her to do so. This is a joint venture, so remember to trust one another and enter each session as a partnership.
Other things that can help
The squeeze technique is just one possible way to tackle premature ejaculation. And in many ways it is probably the hardest to do correctly. For that reason at the start I suggested looking into other methods to deal with this issue.
It’s also a sad truth that some guys won’t have any success with this or other behavioral techniques. Especially if the problem is more one of physical sensitivity, or simply a lack of willingness to practice them for months.
In this case I also recommend trying out a good delay spray which can sometimes help immediately. You can then continue working on the squeeze technique, but also have the kind of longer sex you would like when it gets a bit much constantly working on techniques like this.