The Squeeze technique is one of several natural techniques men can use to develop the ability to control when they ejaculate.
It was developed by the famous sex therapists William Masters and Virginia Johnson – hence the official name ‘the Masters-Johnson method’
It’s often promoted as a good way to overcome premature ejaculation, but it must be done correctly – something which isn’t always easy to achieve.
And if I’m perfectly honest, I’m not a huge fan of the technique, as you’ll see why later in the article.
In this article I’ll give you step-by-step instructions, so if you do want to try it with a partner, you’ll have the best chance at getting it right.
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2 Key points before attempting the squeeze technique:
It’s best to be shown the method by a professional
Obviously not everyone finds the idea of visiting a sex therapist appealing though. So I’ll do my best to describe the technique, but bear in mind many men get it wrong when trying to learn it themselves.
The squeeze technique should be done with your partner
It’s been found that when a man attempts it himself, it’s usually less effective – this is due to the awkward thumb and finger positioning needed for a man to do it on his own.
I’ve found that it’s just about impossible unless your wrist can bend in a very unnatural way! You can try to change the positioning of your fingers and thumb to adapt the technique to do it solo, but it’s really tricky.
If you still want to try and learn without professional guidance, then this is how the method should be performed. Note that there’s a specifically slow build up in learning the squeeze technique.
Part one – the technique with an erection
- 1. Assuming you’re practicing the technique with your partner, ask them to masturbate you using one hand to begin with.
2. As soon as you get a full erection (not before orgasm – just when you get a full erection), your partner must stop and put her fingers in the correct position to squeeze your penis.
As the picture to the right shows, the thumb must be placed over the frenulum, which is the elastic band like piece of tissue under the glands (tip) of the penis which connects the foreskin to the penis (on the underside of your penis).
Then the first and second finger are placed on the opposite side, i.e. the front side of the penis that you see when you look down at it.
They are placed either side of the coronal ridge, which is the ridge of the tip of the penis a few centimeters from the very top, but with the fingers still next to each other either side of the ridge.
3. Your partner squeezes your penis with her fingers in that position for about 4 seconds. She needs to squeeze quite hard, and probably won’t naturally apply the right strength through fear of hurting you.
In this case you may need to put your hand over her fingers and squeeze harder. This will show her how hard she can actually squeeze without hurting you.
4. You may lose between 10 and 30 percent of your erection because of the squeeze. This is completely normal. Your partner should wait 15-30 seconds after releasing the squeeze before starting to stimulate your penis again.
5. As soon as you re-gain a full erection, the squeeze technique can again be done. This pattern can be repeated 4-5 times in the first session.
6. When you’ve done this a few times, you can then move on to try it to achieve ejaculation control.
Part two – practicing ejaculation control
1. In this next stage your partner should masturbate you to the point of nearing orgasm, and then use the squeeze method as described above.
2. You can repeat this process either 4 or 5 times, or for a period of 15-20 minutes – whichever comes first. Remember to allow an enjoyable ejaculation and orgasm at the end of the session.
3. After practicing this technique over 3-4 different days, you can move on and try it with oral sex.
4. Finally, after 3-4 days of practicing during oral sex, you can then attempt ejaculation control with full penetrative sex.
5. When having full sex, it’s recommended that you use the squeeze technique 2-3 times first during foreplay, before then having sex and continuing to withdraw and use the technique.
How often should you practice the squeeze technique?
The Masters-Johnson method takes dedication on both you and your partner’s part. It may be then that you only practice the technique once or twice per week, whilst continuing to have normal sex on other days.
It’s important to still have a natural sexual relationship whilst practicing this and other techniques. But do continue to practice the technique every week over the coming months. Steadily you will see results even in your normal sexual encounters with your partner.
This should hopefully serve as a motivation and reason to keep up with the somewhat clinical and torturous sounding squeeze technique sessions.
The importance of trust
This technique involves trust and understanding between you and your partner. It’s important that both of you are relaxed, calm and able to enjoy the sessions.
Any stress, anxiety, embarrassment or fear will only serve to undermine what you are doing.
So enter into each session lovingly and enjoy each others company. At first you’ll need to tell you partner when you’re near ejaculation, but in time, she should recognize the signs from your body and be able to tell when to put the squeeze technique into action.
More premature ejaculation techniques
The squeeze technique is just one of several classic methods to improve your self-control. And in many ways it’s probably the hardest and most unnatural to do.
Fortunately there are other techniques you can try, such as kegels and the stop-start method.
It’s also essential to understand the psychological and biological processes that can contribute to the problem of premature ejaculation.
For that reason I recommend that you consider getting yourself a good book on the topic. You can then learn in a structured way everything you need to know which will make practicing the various different techniques far more effective.