How I Dealt With My Premature Ejaculation Problem

This is my story of coping with premature ejaculation, and why I did nothing about it for so long. If it’s a problem you also have, hopefully you’ll find it a useful motivator to deal with it, along with helpful advice about what you can do.

It might also provide some solace in knowing that you’re not the only guy who’s suffered the embarrassment and frustration that it brings.

Losing my virginity and confidence

Although not all guys develop premature ejaculation because of rushed masturbation, I’m fairly sure it was a major cause for me. Like many men, I would just do it as fast as possible to avoid being caught.

I also think I was just a bit unlucky when losing my virginity. I was a late starter by modern standards, losing it at 19, and it was with a friend of a friend I met in a nightclub.

After sharing some excited kisses in the club, we went back to my place in the early hours of the morning to continue the fun. By the time things really heated up, I was so excited from hours of close dancing, flirting and foreplay that I didn’t even make it to sex the first time we tried.

I’d never even heard of premature ejaculation, but I obviously realized it would have been good to last on the positive side of zero seconds.

I didn’t know it at the time, but my confidence in my sexual ability took a huge hit in that moment. Like most women, she kept any disappointment to herself and did a good job of making me feel like it was alright.

Unfortunately, the second time we tried wasn’t much better. And so it slowly dawned on me that I had absolutely no idea what I was doing.

Just to make matters worse, I now know that I naturally have a physically sensitive penis. So in hindsight, I was probably always going to have problems with my stamina in bed, no matter how much anxiety might have also played a role following those first awkward moments.

The silence

Over the next few weeks I discovered the true extent of the problem; if I went 24 hours or longer without sex, I wouldn’t last more than a minute – if we were lucky.

If we had sex several times a day, I would get better each time, though rarely lasting longer than 5 minutes. And that depended on her being willing to wait for that better second, third or fourth time.

And since I didn’t know anything at the time about the concept of sex not being only about penetration and orgasm, over the months we gradually had sex less and less.

And the incredible thing is that we never once spoke about it.

To this day, the only thing that I still find a little embarrassing is that for the next few years I didn’t speak to any partner about it, nor did I do anything about it – not even when I was married.

Interestingly, no girlfriend ever tried hard to talk to me about it either, apart from my ex-wife sometimes jokingly insulting me when I came too soon.

Admittedly, we would sometimes talk about the fact that I often came too quickly, but never in the terms that it was a problem that needed fixing. In fact, what happened is that we also had sex less and less often, to the point of almost never.

The excuses

I selfishly managed to conjure up the excuse that it was precisely because we didn’t have sex very often that I couldn’t handle it on the times that we did. While technically true, the reality is that it’s not a chicken or the egg situation. It was my fault for not addressing it sooner.

It was only after I split up with my wife (my premature ejaculation wasn’t the reason!), that one day out of the blue I admitted to myself that I had a problem.

Admitting that it was problem came with mixed feelings. I felt bad that I hadn’t done anything about it sooner and more than a little bit embarrassed as I reflected on all the early finishes.

How many times had I left my ex-partners screaming in silence? How many friends had they complained about me to?

And at the same time, I was kind of excited by the idea of trying to fix the problem, wondering what kind of lover I might be if I could just deal with this one major issue.

First steps to dealing with it

For someone who spent years ignoring it, when I finally got round to dealing with my premature ejaculation, I became very dedicated – the fact that I started this website speaks for itself!

The hardest part was admitting it was a problem; everything else would simply be research and practical steps – or so I hoped.

After reading a few vague articles in men’s health websites, I discovered a self-help eBook called the Ejaculation Trainer.

Reading that book gave me two things: some hope and a lot of work to do. The key, apparently, to curing premature ejaculation was to practice the right techniques during masturbation and/or sex.

I found out though that it can take a while for these natural techniques to pay off fully. But in the meantime there were some tips I learned from the book which I could try out.

I tried putting together as many of the techniques as I could remember the next few times I had sex, and did see some improvements, but it was a bit hit or miss. Once or twice I found I could last a fair bit longer, but an equal number of times I only lasted a little longer.

(You can find out more about that book in my Ejaculation Trainer review)

Trying out desensitizing products

Since I suspected that I had a particularly sensitive penis, I thought it would be worth trying one of the desensitizing products that I kept reading about online.

I first tried different kinds of benzocaine and extra thick condoms, but found them a bit too uncomfortable to use. I also tried priligy, but it didn’t make enough of a difference for me to be willing to put up with the side effects.

I then tried several different desensitizing sprays and creams. Like the condoms, they were numbing me too much though, leaving me frustrated that nothing seemed to help much.

After a lot of trial and error I eventually discovered a delay spray called Promescent. This was the first time I found something which really worked.

It was still only a temporary measure, but seemed to be a very effective one that reliably helped me last longer every time (more about that in my Promescent review).

So now I had something which would help me to last around 10 minutes on average instead of just 1-5 minutes. It was time to really focus my attention on the natural techniques to see if I could cure the problem once and for all.

The natural techniques

When I started learning about the natural techniques I was single, so I had plenty of time to work through the book and understand what needed to be done.

I practiced the techniques in the book almost every day, slowly but surely learning to understand and control my arousal levels.

It was around 2 months that I had sex again, and finally had a chance to test the techniques for real. And the result was that my efforts had indeed helped.

The first time wasn’t a very reliable test because I was a bit drunk – probably a good reintroduction as alcohol does tend to help me! But when having sex the next day I still found I was able to last considerably longer than before.

The funny thing is that I’d come to the conclusion that talking about it would help reduce my anxiety. So when the woman I was with looked into my eyes and simply said ‘trust me, you don’t have a problem’, it was a pretty special moment.

Could I finally say that I no longer had a problem, and had beaten PE in just a couple of months?

The ongoing situation

What I’ve now come to realize is that for the natural techniques to work long-term – at least for me – I do need to stay conscious of them when I have sex.

If I get lazy and become complacent, my lasting time will slowly start to drop back down again. Especially if I’ve been single for a while and not continued working on the techniques on my own.

And if I abandon everything I’ve learned about arousal control, breathing, stopping when necessary and many other important techniques and just go for it, it’s amazing how much sooner I’ll finish during sex.

The other problem is that I’ve still got a sensitive penis, and maybe it always will be. I think because of that I still have difficulties in some circumstances – mainly when I’m with a new partner after being single for a while.

Having said that, I think most guys have trouble controlling the intense levels of arousal the first few times with someone new. So when you’ve been single for an extended period, I think it’s important to have realistic expectations of what you can do.

So in some ways, it’s probably good to have a desensitizing product as a backup plan as well.

My advice for you

If you’ve just started looking into premature ejaculation treatment, the most important thing I think you can do is to stay focused on finding the right solution for you personally. And if you do decide to give the natural techniques a go, don’t give up too soon.

As with so many things in life, accepting that you have a problem is the hardest part. After that, it might be a case of trial and error, and probably some time investment unless you’re willing to keep paying for desensitizing products.

For someone who studied Psychology and was working in mental health, I still can’t believe it took me so many years to finally face such an obviously important problem. Don’t make the same mistake!

3 years later

I originally wrote this article in 2013, and 3 years later I’m happy to say that things are even better. I finally feel like I’ve developed a solid understanding of my arousal levels and have good control during sex.

I’m now able to control myself to the extent that I would no longer say I suffer from premature ejaculation; I can usually last at least 10 minutes, and sometimes much longer.

If I don’t use a condom and feel particularly aroused, my time can still drop back down. But I’ve now become more confident in taking control of my sex life, and do all the right things to keep my arousal in check.

So my advice to you is to get started learning how to control your arousal as soon as possible. It can be done, even if physical sensitivity is an issue.

4 years later

In recent months, I’ve been experimenting a lot with the concept of satisfying my partner in other ways when we make love. We both enjoy oral sex, and so I’ve been playing around with 3 different ideas – with a lot of success.

The first is to bring her to orgasm through oral before we even have sex. This takes all the pressure off me, satisfies her and ensures I’m still full of excitement during the whole experience.

The second is to take full control and tease her for a long time, starting and stopping oral sex repeatedly and teasing her whole body. She then tends to orgasm faster when I eventually move on to penetrative sex.

And the third is to have sex normally, and if she doesn’t orgasm, simply switch to oral sex to finish her off.

All 3 ideas have improved our love life a lot, and it’s good for both of us to have that variety. She never knows what my plan is exactly, and that helps keep things fresh too.

And in the meantime, my control just gets better and better. The combination of practice, confidence and still working on this website and so keeping up with the latest ideas about premature ejaculation are probably why.

You might also like

If you’re looking for help with premature ejaculation, you’ll find a wealth of articles, reviews and tips on this site.

I’ve written a lot about my experiences, and tests of different treatment options. So I particularly recommend reading my article about choosing a premature ejaculation treatment.

And if you’d like some more options of desensitizing products, have a look at my review of delay sprays.

124 thoughts on “How I Dealt With My Premature Ejaculation Problem”

  1. Anonymous

    Hi Ethan

    Thanks for sharing your story, it really gives me hope that there is a solution for this.

    I also suffer from PE which I believe was due to over masturbation in my teens! My first few sex experiences was no problem, as all of them happened when I was blind drunk! The problem came in when I did it sober! It did not really bother me for a while, until recently!

    I have found the woman of my dreams, and we are great together. The sex however is now becoming an issue! I can never have sex continuously for more than a minute, without pulling out to stop ejaculation! But during this time, I always went to oral sex and gave my gf some amazing orgasims. After which we continue to have sex until I climax! She has now confessed to me that our sex is not really satisfying anymore because she always orgasm from oral sex and not penetration and she wants more “closeness”! This just crushed me as a man, and I have such low confidence now! So I have decided that I want to overcome this issue, but I would like to ask for your help!

    I bought the promecent spray, but the problem is that it takes 10-15 mins to take affect! How can I introduce it into the relationship, without “making an appointment” that we will have sex tonight? She is fully aware of the spray though!

    Then, is there any books to recommend that will help me? I see everyone speak about edging etc?

    I would really appreciate your help.

    Goodluck to everyone suffering from the same issue! May we all overcome this horrible issue and enjoy the time with our lived ones!

    Anonymous

    1. Hi there
      Thanks for your comment, and I’m glad you found the article helpful. Sorry to hear you’re having the same issue, and were landed with that bombshell! However, it’s good that she’s honest and it gives you an opportunity to do something about it – as you say – so you can both be as satisfied as possible. That’s better than the women who keep it to themselves for years, slowly getting more and more annoyed and then avoiding sex completely!
      So, if the promescent is working for you, that’s great. I don’t think you need to worry about making an appointment. You can just keep it at the ready, and when you do feel that sex is on the cards because there’s some foreplay happening, you can just be open about it. Put the spray on, then go back to the foreplay until the 10-15 mins is up.
      If she’s that honest with you, then I think the trick is to see the problem from a “team” perspective. Tell her that this is the best way for the spray to work, and then just try to fit it into your foreplay and sex as best as possible.
      Then in the meantime, yes, things like edging are your best shot at overcoming it naturally in the long-run. You can check out one of my recommended premature ejaculation books if you want lots of info. about these techniques and more suggestions. But also, have a look around this site as I’ve written a lot myself about the techniques you can try. I particularly recommend an article I wrote about ways you can last longer tonight. There are lots of tips there which can be put into practice right away.
      All the best
      Ethan

  2. Hi Ethan,

    I started seeing a guy (he is 29) who might have the same problem, but we haven’t talked about this yet. Basically, there is a pink elephant between me and my partner. I need to talk to him about this, but I don’t know how to start this conversation without making him feel uncomfortable. What would you suggest?

    Alexandra

    1. Hi Alexandra
      I understand your concern – it’s not an easy subject to bring up and discuss with a guy. Lots of women end up keeping quiet about it for fear of upsetting their partner, or because they raise it once and don’t get the response they hope for. I think the main thing is to be gentle about it, and try to approach it constructively – have some ideas at hand and say you want to work together to try some things to increase how long you have sex for. Try not to criticise, and choose your moment carefully – not straight after a disappointing sex session. Find a time when you’re both close, start a conversation about sex and slowly bring up the idea of trying stuff to last longer. At the end of the day, it’s a fine line between making sure you get him to understand your needs, and not attacking his pride so that he clams up. Every guy will react differently, so only you will know how to really tackle it with him. Just to emphasise again, I think it’s good to have some ideas at the ready, such as a delay spray or only being in positions where it’s easier to last, such as spoons or you on top. Avoid missionary and doggy for example. Get him to use a condom, and go in for a second round.
      If you don’t have any luck, let me know how it went and I’ll see if I can suggest anything.
      Ethan

  3. Thanks for this article! I’ve had issues with coming too fast for my whole life, and I’m at the point where I was considering a sex therapist to help me be better for my wife. I will take a look at the book and spray you suggested, even 5 minutes regularly would be awesome!

    1. Hi Dan
      You’re welcome! I’m glad you found the article useful. I think a sex therapist can be very helpful, but if you can deal with the problem yourself it’s worth giving a shot in my opinion. Unless you think your problem is psychological or emotional, in which case go for it if you have access to a therapist.
      Ethan

  4. Kris Lovelock

    I can totally identify with your story because I’d a similar one… glad to read this.

    Kris Lovelock

  5. This is the second article I have read by you and it’s truly inspiring. I am currently doing the stop-start method to improve my duration in sex. I hype myself up by literally collecting the data. The following has helped me out a lot:
    -I set a timer on my phone for 10 minutes and 30 seconds
    -I masturbate and record the time I stopped at before the “point of no return”
    -I wait a minute
    -and I resume masturbating.
    -I stop at the point of no return and record the time elapsed
    -at the end of the 10 minutes and 30 seconds, I find the average of my duration.
    I do the stop-start method every other day. Tomorrow will be my 4th day and I’ve been seeing nothing but improvements. Jumping from 36 seconds to 52 seconds in 3 days (and these are just the averages! My first interval improves every other day!).

    With my girl friend away for college, I have about 3 months to practice and improve my stamina. I have a couple questions though.
    1. Given my short durations during masturbation, would it be helpful to increase the timer to 20 minutes rather than 10 and a half minutes? Also, should I do this every day for optimal results? My thoughts on doing it everyday is that the penis is like a muscle, you need to give it time to relax. Please correct me if I’m wrong. Do I need to give my penis a break and go with the “every othe day” routine, or will doing the stop-start method daily yield better results?
    *Note* the average duration i mentioned above (36 to 52 seconds) is short for a reason, I believe. The first time i take a break is the longest time I last during masturbation, if that makes sense. For example, my first interval now lasts around 70-80 seconds. My second interval will be around 60. And it’ll slowly decrease to the low 20s (seconds) before my time is up and I allow myself to ejaculate.

    2. I was able to significantly improve my performance anxiety that was hindering my erection. Initially, I couldn’t get hard enough to even wear a condom. Now i get “hard enough” to put a condom on. I would still love some tips on how to maintain a hard erection. My gf says it’s okay if I don’t get fully hard. And I know she means it; however, I’d still love to maintain a rock hard erection to make sex easier– not to mention to increase the pleasure for both my partner and i. Speaking to her about having trouble maintaining an erection has truly helped. I’d appreciate any additional help!

    Thank you in advance,

    -Vick (Pseudonym to remain anonymous)

    1. Hi Vick
      Thanks for your comment and compliment – I’m glad you found my articles useful and inspiring!
      Well done for really getting stuck into practicing this technique – and well done for already making some improvements. I’m sure you’ll continue to increase that time over the next couple of months.
      To answer your questions:
      1. I don’t think it matters really. When doing kegels it’s important to take rests. But the start stop I think can be done every day if you like. I don’t see any harm in doing so. However, I don’t have and evidence to say which works better – every day or every other day. But from personal experience, I think the more you practise, the better you get.
      2. You might find it interesting to read an article I wrote about not getting erections with new partners. It might not totally apply to you, but still might have some useful ideas.
      Ethan

  6. Anonymous

    I am not circumcised, I’ve been looking into it lately, I have heard lots of mixed reviews on whether the decreased sensitivty increases time or not, was wondering what your thoughts on it were

      1. Having worked in the Medical Field, the biggest issue is that the procedure on an adult is a major one. It is not like a quick snip on a child. It is not open heart or anything but I would sure talk to the Doc about the pros and cons.

    1. I’m a woman so I don’t have a penis and I can’t know for sure but both uncircumcised men I’ve been with lasted long in bed. There was no problem. It’s a hard decision for you and one that can’t be undone. You may get rid of that foreskin and last longer but you may also never feel as good : / I might rather shoot myself. That may not happen though. These will be your possible outcomes: you’ll last longer but never feel as good, you’ll last longer and feel just as good or you won’t last longer as you won’t feel as good.

  7. Thanks for the article. How does one find out that they have a hypersensitive penis?

    1. Hi zmk
      You’re welcome! Hmmm that’s a good question. Perhaps there are medical definitions, but for me it was just a case of acknowledging the fact that it feels extremely sensitive to the touch. And when I had any sexual contact, sometimes it was so sensitive I would almost jump due to the sensation!
      Ethan

  8. steve juma

    Thank you very much for your inspiring story. I am a twenty year old who is experiencing pe, given that I have been masturbating for the past six years. I can hardly go for a minute and worse still I find myself ejaculating before penetration. Reading your story gives me hope that I can too fix this problem early in advance. However am worried on how do it without a patner and which method will best suit me.

    1. Hi Steve
      Thanks for your comment, and I’m pleased to hear my story was inspiring. I’m sure you’ll manage to get in under control as well with a little effort. If you don’t have a partner, my advice would be to get a realistic vagina to practice with – they make a big difference! And then to use it with basic, but effective techniques like the start and stop technique.
      Ethan

  9. Great article there. Simple lifestyle adjustment can also go a long way in curing premature ejaculation.

  10. Thanks for all of your advice and I wanna say that I’m very happy for you working yourself up to admit you have a problem. Good job to every one out there who is willing to admit it and solve the problem. I used to over masturbate at my teens and thanks to this website it helped me a lot.thanks

    1. Hi Bryce
      Thanks for your kind words, both to me and other readers. I’m glad the website was useful to you, and you’re very welcome for the advice.
      Ethan

  11. I totally relate to this man! I had the same issue for years. Just didn’t really think of it as something I should and could fix. Now I’m well on my way with some of the techniques you talk about and having good success so far. Up from 2 mins av to at least 5 most days. Spent a couple weeks on the start stop, kegels and getting to understand arousal etc and it’s been good so far. Will keep at it for sure! D

    1. Hi Donny
      Thanks for your comment – it’s great that you’ve had progress with the techniques! I wish you all the best with them and hope your stamina just keeps getting better.
      Ethan

  12. Hey man, thanks for sharing your story… I have a serious case of PE. My english is not that good, please excuse me. I have become aware of this problem when I ws a teenager. Today I am 25 and its still haunting me. I have lost girlfriends that I love because of this problem. Some of them said horrible things to me. They told me straight up that I suck in bed and those words really hurt me a lot but I didn’t blame them because I know that I suck. I dont have confidence dating because I know that Im always going to embarrass myself. I had sex with some girl 6 days ago and today she said some horrible things to, she told me that she doesnt wanna see me because I suck in bad, she told me that im not a real man. Im so hurt i just try to hide how i feel. I will start to practice to control my ejaculation. I think my pE developed as a result of over masturbating from the time when I ws a teenage to this year. I have made a promise to quit masturbation and its been 3 months since I have stopped…. Let me just leave it at that. I have so much to say but i will just stop right here.

    1. Hi Kabelo
      Thanks for your comment. I’m very sorry to hear that you’ve had these experiences. It sounds like as well as having a problem with PE, you’ve also had a problem with meeting understanding women! Even if someone isn’t happy sexually, I don’t think it’s necessary to insult someone about it. Hopefully you’ll meet someone more understanding soon.
      And while you wait to meet someone else, start practicing self-control techniques is my advice. I think it’s important to take action sooner rather than later. I also don’t think stopping masturbating will help – actually the opposite is true. Learning to masturbate slowly, understanding your arousal levels, and keeping yourself at a lower arousal level is the key to developing better stamina.
      Regards
      Ethan

  13. Joel coleman

    I agree that admitting a premature ejaculation is the hardest thing. But when open discuss with your partners is a surefire way to coping with PE. Above all, you must put a lot of effort to find the right way to fighting against PE. Thanks for sharing your inspiring story.

    1. Hi Joel
      Thanks for your comment. I’m very happy to hear you found the story inspiring. It’s also good to know that you agree with my point of view. I wish you all the best with your future love life!
      Regards
      Ethan

  14. Ethan your story is very relatable. I am with a partner, and often ejaculate within 1 minute. I have started using the edging and arousal techniques over the last few weeks and it has helped a little but slow progress, a few times lasting 5 minutes which was unthinkable before, but still finding that feeling of ejaculating creeps up at the worse times! How long did the edging and arousal techniques take for you to last over 10 minutes. And is that 10 minutes without the need to constantly stop?

    1. Hi Jon
      Thanks for your comment. It’s great that you’ve managed to last so much longer already. I think a jump from 1 to 5 minutes in just a few weeks is really good progress, so don’t give up on it. It took me a couple of months to start seeing regular lasting times of over 10 minutes. It is without constantly stopping, yes. However, I would definitely sometimes feel myself getting close and so just change positions or the type of stroke I was using. For me, a position change can make a big difference. At the end of the day, getting to the point where you can go at it hard and fast in one position for 10 minutes will take some time. But as long as you’re both enjoying the sex, changing positions and stroke every minute is ok in the beginning. Little by little you’ll find you can cope for longer in one position and not need to change things to give yourself a break. And even if you sometimes spend some time just resting inside and kissing, caressing etc, it’s fine too. The point is to avoid ejaculating in a minute and it all being over. And I think your partner will probably be very happy if the whole thing is lasting longer, even if it’s not yet at the point of being able to really go for it. Stick with it and you’ll get there!
      Regards
      Ethan

      1. Anonymous

        Thanks for the reply. I think the encouraging thing is hearing your success. I get frustrated at myself when I still come in under a minute so lots of work to do! I find the the worse part is the first few moments of penetration. If I can weather this storm then my arousal is a bit more in check but its hard! Is this something you noticed?

        1. Hello again!
          You’re very welcome. I’m glad my story is encouraging – that’s good to hear. You’re totally right in that the beginning is the most difficult part to deal with. I definitely noticed that, and to be honest if I don’t have sex for a while, I still find the beginning very difficult. For me the trick is to make sure my partner is really wet before starting. If you have to push against a tighter vagina, it makes you come much quicker. So I like to really make sure she’s warmed up with plenty or manual and/or oral and use lubricant too if that’s not working. Trust me – this will make a big difference! Another trick I’ll share with you that I find really helpful is if I find it too hard to control myself, I just pull out and go to oral sex. Sometimes my partner complains, but then loves it when the oral starts. If you make it a teasing thing of “I’m in control and you just need to lie there and enjoy it”, this can buy you a lot of time. Usually after a few minutes of oral, once you go back to sex, it’s much easier to cope with as you’ve calmed down a lot and she will be even wetter. If you want, you can go back and forth between the two and really drive her crazy – my partner both loves and hates me when I do it, but afterwards always says it was awesome. The key is to be very confident about it and refuse to cave in when she tells you to stop changing. Try it – it might work for you too.
          Regards
          Ethan

  15. Hi ,
    first of all i’m only 17 and consider it as a big problem!
    I have a girlfriend who is okay with it, cause we would go 2 times or even more.
    But i would like to “cure” it, cause i just don’t like it.
    I hoped you would give us some tricks to cure it cause i’m not ready to buy books and supplements cause i’m only at the age of seventeen … I’m not even sure this will ever be fixed.
    (sorry for bad English not my mother language)

    Lots of love Bram

    1. Hi Bram
      Thanks for your comment. It’s good that you’ve learned about the importance of going again – it’s a good way to keep both of you satisfied. I don’t think supplements will help at all, that’s why I don’t recommend any on this site. But I do recommend books because they are logical to follow and give you all the info. you need in the right order and enough detail to make sure you do things correctly. There are various tips around this website, which will help you get started. Just take a look around!
      Regards
      Ethan

  16. Andy Incognito

    Wow. This article makes me very happy and very sad. Happy bc I have spent my whole (so far) adult life dealing with it. Sad, bc to know I could have taken control a long time ago sucks. I will be looking into what all you said. As someone who went from porn star until about 20 yrs old to barely even getting penetration since I am basically at the give up stage. Now I can see there is hope. I literally wouldn’t even try to pick up girls for this reason. I have now been married for almost 10 yrs and I have become a problem. We have maybe had sex 5 times in the last 4 years. She doesn’t say it but I know why. Why get all hot and bothered for me to blow within seconds of it getting good. I very much hope I too can be successful. Have tried many things over lst year or so only to find out I was duped into buying stuff that didn’t work at all. Would be so excited after reading a few “reviews” I bought immediately only to see ACTUAL reviews after saying the product was crap. So from an extremely disappointed and nervous husband, I hope I can conquer. I love my wife and family and even though she has never said so I know it’s a problem. One that isn’t going away.

    1. Hi Andy
      Thanks for your comment and your honest words. I can fully empathize with you in return. It’s horrible indeed when you come to terms with this as a problem and realise how long it’s been going on. But it sounds like now you’re feeling in the right frame of mind to do something about it. You know, my advice would be to talk to your wife about it and work on it together. You might find that it helps reduce the stress of trying to fix it on your own. And it should also mean she’ll be more willing to work with you in trying new things to help you both out. I think if you have a good relationship and understanding, this can be a much easier problem to tackle together rather than on your own. And anyway, if you decide to try things like sprays, she’ll know about it anyway. And if you decide to try the natural techniques, it’s better if she works with you on them. Sure, there are lots of techniques you can practise alone, but also some that you do during sex. And for them to work, she needs to be willing to get involved.
      Stay positive and have faith – I’m sure with some dedication you’ll overcome it.
      All the best,
      Ethan

  17. You are right bro. i ve just started with the natural technique and ive notice the times i ejaculate has extended. Edging is one sure way to cure p e. its curable brothers. its all about practising consistently.

  18. Pingback: Ian

    1. Hi Ian

      You’re definitely not alone there! I’m glad you found my story helpful, and I hope you’ve managed to find something that helps:-)
      Ethan

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